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Hi, this is Kate and Kayla.
This column is here to help you with your boy,girl, and anything else problems. Get advice from teens like you that have been there. We are pretty good at giving advice! Hope we helped!
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--always smile...
even if it's a sad smile
cuz wats even sadder
than a sad smile is
not smilin at all :)

Part of bein a champ is actin like a champ You have to learn how to win and not run away when u lose


I'm twisted cuz one side of me is tellin me to move on on the other side I wanna break down and cry!


Crushes only crush you,
Falling only hurts you,
Hearts will only break you,
If there is no love to save you.


Many people will walk in
and out of your life,
but only true friends will leave
footprints in your heart.

Love is strong yet delicate.
It can be broken.
To truly love is to understand this.
To be in love is to respect this.

There's always that one person who will always have your heart.

advice

Ok I would really love to go to the warped tour this summer. But we are going on vacation when the tour is coming to where I live. But they are going to be in Orlando when we are there on vacation. I asked if I could go when we were down there and my parents said no becuase it is our famliy vacation. Now we go to orlando every year and do the same thing when we are there. I dont see why We cant take one day and my sister and I can go to the warped tour. How do I convice my parents to let me go?

Just tell them that you and your sister just want to have some fun. Explain to them that it is only going to be for (however many hours) and this is only one summer...you go there every year! Just be calm and reasonable. If this doesn't work, write me back.
~oxkatekaylaxo

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hey people..lol..how do you let a guy know that you like him and that you want to go out with him..without saying "i like you"???

DeeMocha

Flirt,flirt flirt! Lol. Let him know you are interested and be really nice 2 him! Hope I helped!
Oxkatekaylaxo

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Ok. I'm overweight and i want to lose about 30 to 40 lbs over the summer. I've tried adkins but it isnt workin. I was wondering if there are any diets i can do to help out while exercising (because just that isnt workin either). If you have any ideas i would appriciate them. Thanks.

Well, I wouldn't do a diet. I would just try to set limits for myself. Try to eat less junk food and cut down on portions. Only eat when you are hungry or it is a meal (no snacking because you are sad, depressed, etc) DO EAT! It has been proven that if you don't eat you are apt to gain more weight once you start eating again. Also, try to take daily jogs. This will make you slimer and healthier. Hopee I helped!
~oxkatekaylaxo

PS:Remember-you have to have confidence in yourself!

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Ok, everyone and I mean EVERYONE says my b/f is bi. I don't really feel 'comfertable' going out with a bi person. My friends and other people like never shut up about it and it's really annoying. What should I do??

TALK TO YOUR BOYFRIEND. Tell him you deserve to know if he is bi. If you don't feel comfortable even if he swears he isn't bi, then just be his good friend. Hope I helped!
~oxkatekaylaxo

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Ok, yes I'm the same person that's been writing the rumor questions. My boyfriend isn't coming to school the last few days and I can't get ahold of him on the phone, so I decided I wanted this advice now. Today me and my best friend were walking around the school and we started talking to one of my boyfriend's friends. My friend had her cell phone and said that I should call my b/f. And his friend said, "he's half gay." And we asked how he knew. And he said "cause he told us." Do you think this is reason to believe he is bi? And if it is what should I do? I mean as long as he loves me it doesn't really matter much, but still...it's wierd!

Well, it depends on who that friend is. Are they someone trustworthy? Do they lie alot or like to joke around? Most guys like to joke and might want you to fall for it. Don't assume anything until you to your boyfriend. Tell him you don't care, you'll love him anyways but you have a right to know. Hope I helped!
~oxkatekaylaxo

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Ok well me and this boy fucked on satday alright its monday and last night i started getting bumps and oucer thingys in my mouth we made out too well i guess you'd no that. But today i was talking to my bestest friend ed and i showed him and it spread all over the inside of my lip well you no right infront of your bottom teeth. He said its herpies. Is it? It was the first time we both had sex and i no hes kissed at least one other girl other then me this week or 2. And if this is herpies how can i get it to go away with out seeing the doctor?


*-*Plz help ill rate 5*-*

SEE A DOCTOR. Ask your Boyfriend if he has an STD. It could be herpes or Sylia

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My bf and I are 8 weeks into our relationship, things are good I guess except... I kinda feel like something's wrong.. Even though it shouldn't be :( I guess the best way to put this is, ever since we started going out nothings changed! We're still like friends...just who now make out and spend weekends together. And it's abit uncomfortable for me.. for some reason... don't get me wrong I like my guy alot but it feels strange because I still see him as one of my friends I guess... like the first time he started kissing me I pulled away because it felt weird and he mistook it that I wasn't comfortable with kissing lol... he told me he'd lay off until I was more ready! He doesn't know how I feel, I guess I'm afraid to say it.. it sounds like the start of a breakup afterall! And well.. I'm not exactly feeling a spark for him either, I find his personality cute, even adorable! but he isn't exactly attractive looking to me, I know that's mean to say.. but I just don't feel any spark there.. this kinda bothers me I guess.. but I still like him! I am messed up? What do you think I should do? I'm going to try and talk to him about it when I see him but what sort of things should I say? I really dont wanna hurt his feelings with what I say, do you think this will end in a break up?? :(
Please help! i'm 16

Well, I would start off with trying to tell him how you feel. From the way you put it I would guess that you two were meant to be really, really good good friend-but that's it. If you don't fell comfortable around him it is pretty safe to say you don't really like him "like that". Just ask yourself what you would tell someone else to do. Hope I helped!
~oxkatekaylaxo

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this isnt exactly about sex, but i think it may have something to do with it.

i have a lump on the very top inside of my thigh, underneath, yeah. well its not always there, but every now and then it just kinda shows up. usually for about 4 days or so. but this time its been there for about a week. could this be something wrong, or maybe just a gland. and if it has n e thing to do with it, i am not a virgin. please help, im freaking out! thanks soo much.

See a genocolygist-it could be an STD. That is really the only safe thign to do. If it is not an STD (or if it is a certain kind) you may be able to get medication for it to make it go away .
~oxkatekaylaxo

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ok, I'm supposed to ask this really hutt guy out tomorrow and i dunno how!! All my friends are like "write a note, tell him directly" but im too scared to give him the note because he'll show it to other people and im waaaaayy to shy to ask him directly. so how should i ask him out? and trust me, i need to ask him out tomorrow. i really wanna be his girlfriend!!!! hellllllppp!!

i rate 5's for good answers.

I know EXACTLY the situation you are in! It has happened to me a few times. Well, the first time I asked a guy out I wrote him this note thing (one of those that say push on the front and then they open it and there are two choices) and i said do you like kate (yes and the other was no) then on the next part it said will you go out with her (yes or no) and so then I told him how i felt. HOWEVER he was a really good friend of mine and this may be too corny to do if they are not a close friend. Maybe talk to him online , but the only thing about that is that someone else may be using his SN. Your best bet would be a note or having a friend of either yours or his ask him for you. If you are friends with one of his friends it might be a good idea to have them ask him for you and help to persuade him to go out with you. Hope i helped!
~oxkatekaylaxo

Ps. tell me how it turns out!

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this girl that i am friends with but hate at the same time (jane) likes one of my close guy friends (peter) and he likes her. she has a tendency to lead guys on and then break their hearts just because she likes to feeling of being wanted. my other guy friend (owen) also likes her and she has told him that she does like him. he was one of the guys that she has led on. now she is thinking that she should go out with owen because she feels bad for him. she told peter that she is going to ask someone out but it isn't him. now here's where i come in. peter told me that him and jane like each other and what she said to him. jane told me that she is thinking about going out with owen when she doesn't like him. i told owen that she is planning on asking him out because i dont want her to break his heart. and i also told peter (before i knew he liked her) that i can't stand her. i am in a huge mess. what do i do?

Well, if Owen doesn't still like Jane then have Owen tell her that he doesn't think it would be right of them to go out when she likes Peter and Peter likes her (making sure that he tells her that he knows about her and Peter first). Tell Peter he would be better off without her(if that is how you feel) but let him make the real decision. About telling Peter you didn't like Jane-who cares? Not everbody likes everybody else. It human nature. If he is your good friend than he should accept it. Just try to stay away from the two of them and hang out with Peter alone if they decide to go out. Hope I helped!
~oxkatekaylaxo

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hey finals are coming up soon and i'm not a very big study person for tests quizzes etc.... i was wondering what i could do to study like study techniques or tips or even ideas ~*~ much appericated thanks ~*~

Try studying with a friend- you know, have them come over and break out the books. It should help you remeber things better if your having some fun. Hope I helped!
~oxkatrekaylaxo

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i told my friend i fancy this boy and now she flirts with him all the time. but only scince i told her i did fancy him. shes having a party and is inviting him and me and says she going to set her best friend up with him and then says whats wrong like she doesn't know. i really hate her when she is like this please help me...

Maybe your friend has short term memory loss? J/K. She might have forgotten or thought you were joking or something like that. (I don't know your friend, so I can't really say) why would she set him up with your friend if she fancies him? Just wondering. Are you sure she isn't just a natural flirt? Maybe she is afraid if you get a boyfriend that she will be left out?
Just tell her how you feel. Hopefully she will understand. Hope I helped!
~oxkatekaylaxo

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hey well i am having a problem. okay i dated this guy for four months and i really fell in love with him. at first it was great he was sweet but then we started having problemslike arguing and we would just fuss all the time well that was about last semester of school. this is our second semester anyways his name was andrew and i found out that he had some problems like mental. and i kept breaking up and going back with him on and off. well we broke up feb. 2 of this year and i then started dating this other guy for almost three months. i fell in love with him and he was the second person i ever loved, but andrew was the first. when andrew found out about me and jeremy he started making threats to him and saying all this stuff. well then i finally told andrew to stop and let me live my life. okay me and jeremy have been broke up for a month and a few days. i then have dated this guy michael whom i with now, well i dont care to much for him like everybody thinks. then today andrew's Best Friend who has grown up together came up to me and told me about andrew wanting me back i thought i was for sure over him but when he told me that all these feelings have come back and i am so confused on what to do. my friends say call him and see if he changed and the question is should i call him? and see if it is true? or should i write him well i am writing him now well plz help nikki

Wow. I am sorry you are in such a tough spot. DO what ever you think is best for YOU. Your friends can sometimes know you better than you know yourself (my friends have proven that) but the major decision is up to you. If you still like him, then give him a chance. If you do decide to go out with andrew again, break up with michael and give it a little bit of time. That way you can smooth things over between you and michael while you decide what you want to do about Andrew. Hope I helped!
~oxkatekaylaxo

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Culinary Question =D

I had this salt at a restaurant, and it wasn't sea salt and it wasn't regular table salt. The salt particles were kind of big for salt, and some were in tiny thin chunks. Is there a name for this salt - it has an excellent taste and I'd like to track it down.

I am not quite sure. Is it the pretzel kind(?)
If you can't find out, ask someone who works @ the resturaunt!
~oxkatekaylaxo

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female 16... (the guy is 16 also)
The guy i like is really shy about girls, hes never had a gf before, and we are really good friends. ive liked him a long time, and i figured it was just time to tell him. I guess he really had no clue.. yesterday i talk to him alone after school, and said you know i like you and he was silent scuffing his feet and half smiling and he said THANK YOU.. tell me what is that suppose to mean? thank yOU!? and then he said wow this really caught me off guard i i.. and his friend walked by and siad lets go, i need a ride home, so hes said well i guess ill talk to you later and left...do you think maybe he jsut didnt know what to say, usually he'd say oh well lets jsut be friend or somthing like that but he said thank you, and its such a neutral comment... plus most people i know think he likes me.. so do you think maybe he was jsut caught off guard and didnt know what to say or what?

Well, thanks is a very neutral comment, but it is probably a good thing. It most likely means that he is flattered by what you told him. Hopefully your "friend" (wink, wink) will tell you,soon,what that meant. I would say just realize that this could be good or bad. Don't get your hopes up, but at the same time, don't think that it is a definate no. PLease write back and tell me how it turns out! Thank you for asking!!!
~oxkatekaylaxo

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Hey guys....What are some websites I can go to for my Advice column? I want to have a cool background for it. THanks I will rate high!

You should go to www.soup-faeire.com. They have a lot of cool backgrounds and cursors! I hope i helped!
~oxkatekaylaxo

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i'm auditioning for drill team officer, possibly head sergent and i need to choreograph to two songs. i need a song for a jazz routine and a prop routine (where u have a chair, ladder, cane, or some other prop incorperated into your dance) and i need help thinking of songs. i want the jazz routine to be very poppy and bouncy. kinda like cierra 1 2 step, but i don't want to use that song. but for the prop routine i still don't know what i want. suggestions for it are open. i rate high. i just want ideas and song titles, thanks for the oppinions.

For the prop routine I think you should definately try for an old some or something classy, you know what I mean? For the jazz I think you are on the right track. Just listen to a bunch of songs you had in mind and find the ones you can connect with. Hope I helped!
~oxkatekaylaxo

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i'm in 8th grade and we have a field trip to islands of adventure (universal) we have the money to go but my parents dont think it will be safe.my teacher who planned it is one of the most responsible people i know and she called to convince my dad but he just simply told her 'no' and wouldnt let her explain.i cant get them to listen to me!what should i say so they'll let me go?!

Try telling them that they should trust you by now. They have to learn to let go once in awhile. Tell them that you will call them every hour or so (if you have a cell) That should convince them. Hope I helped!
~oxkatekaylaxo

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This probably sounds really gay. But im OBSESSED with the computer. I mean im on AIM from 7 in the morning during school and until 930 - 10 @ night. I waste practically my whole day on it when i dont have school or something. I just want to get away from it and do something else but i can't! i

I know whatchya mean. Just tell yourself you have better things to do. Try to cut down on the time. MAybe take up an activity. I make this wicked cool bracelets and it takes up alot of my tmie but it is a good hobby. Try something like that. You can get the string @ Ac Moore and Jo Anne Fabrics.
~oxkatekaylaxo

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My uncle (and cousins) are feeling great depression. A few months ago my aunt died. Since then many things have been going downhill from there. He forgets to pick up my cousins from various acivities and hasn't been feeding them for the past few days. My older cousins (from my aunt's first marrige) have taken taken the the ones closer to my age to their apartment for a few days (I am not sure if they are back home yet). My dad went down there for the weekend to help things out but I'm not sure how much of a difference this will make. This is because I found out today my uncle has lost his job. This means it is even harder for him to surrport his kids. We were inviting the children to spend the summer up here (we still are) but now we are woried they are going to move up here. It is not that we don't want them here is is that it is hard to move your whole live to a new state a such an age they are.

Now my question is what can I do to help? Is there any advice I could have my parents give to my uncle (it would be weird taking advice from his niece)? Intelligent answers only. If y@ typ3 lyk th!$ don't answer. THank you.

Wow. They are really in a tough spot. Just tell your cousins that everything will be okay. Give them someone they can confide in. I think that it is great what your dad is trying to do for them. Just do what you think is right. Hope it turns out all right!
~oxkatekaylaxo

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