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friendship or relationship? breakup? :(
My bf and I are 8 weeks into our relationship, things are good I guess except... I kinda feel like something's wrong.. Even though it shouldn't be :( I guess the best way to put this is, ever since we started going out nothings changed! We're still like friends...just who now make out and spend weekends together. And it's abit uncomfortable for me.. for some reason... don't get me wrong I like my guy alot but it feels strange because I still see him as one of my friends I guess... like the first time he started kissing me I pulled away because it felt weird and he mistook it that I wasn't comfortable with kissing lol... he told me he'd lay off until I was more ready! He doesn't know how I feel, I guess I'm afraid to say it.. it sounds like the start of a breakup afterall! And well.. I'm not exactly feeling a spark for him either, I find his personality cute, even adorable! but he isn't exactly attractive looking to me, I know that's mean to say.. but I just don't feel any spark there.. this kinda bothers me I guess.. but I still like him! I am messed up? What do you think I should do? I'm going to try and talk to him about it when I see him but what sort of things should I say? I really dont wanna hurt his feelings with what I say, do you think this will end in a break up?? :(
Please help! i'm 16
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Well you should definintely tell him how you feel. No matter what keep your chin up and hope for the best. If you really don't feel a spark than tell him you just want to be friends but make sure he knows that your not just saying that.
Hope I helped
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Okay... First of all let me assure you that this is PERFECTLY normal. Actually, I had the same problem, I liked my best friend and then when we dated, it just wasn't what I thought. My realization was that I just knew that he was like close to me and we could talk about everything together, so I figured that maybe something besides friendship was there, but there wasn't anything. When I went to break it off with him, he understood completely. I just told him that I wasn't feeling him as much as I thought I would and that maybe I just thought something should be there because we were so close but nothing was there. Tell him that you dont' want to ruin your friendship by forcing a relationship out of it. I hope that I helped you... Sahara
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I think that you should explain to him that you don't really think it's too comfortable between you two, and then see what he feels about it? Ask him if it's been comfortable for him...tell him that you like him and everything, you're just not ready to date him. If you guys still are friends then you can tell him you can hang out as friends and see if anything gets easier from there. A lot of times it's easier to get to know someone in that way when there's not the obligation. I hope that I helped some....if you have any more questions...don't hesitate to ask.
~Morgan
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Inevitably in guy/girl _friend_ relationships, one of you will want more. In this case, it may be him. If you are suck good friends then talking about this issue frankly should not hurt the friendship. This doesn't have to end in a break up but it almost sounds like you want it to. No spark? Then what is there? Frienship? He may even be feeling the same way. If you want to break up, or even just see how he feels, then explain that you tried the dating thing with him but that you feel that there may not be the sparek there. You guys may just be really good friends (which is ok). If it comes to a break up basically say exactly what you think. Are you too good of friends? Brother and sister? . He may want to continue dating but if you are starightforward he'll get it. Explain that you still want to be friends, in fact that is more or less the resason you are breaking up. Remind him that he is still a great guy and the girl for him is out there, and that you will always be there (as his really good _friend_ ).
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Well, I would start off with trying to tell him how you feel. From the way you put it I would guess that you two were meant to be really, really good good friend-but that's it. If you don't fell comfortable around him it is pretty safe to say you don't really like him "like that". Just ask yourself what you would tell someone else to do. Hope I helped!
~oxkatekaylaxo
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hey! okay i understand how you feel about this. tell him i mean if he's a very close friend of yours then i'm sure everything will be okay. let him know that you dont think things are working out because you see him as a friend and since you guys been going out it's been wierd for you but if it's okay you guys can be very close friends and still be able to be there for eachother. as long as you let him know so he doesnt feel stupid or nothing then i'm sure it will work out because nothings more upsetting then to loose a relationship without knowing whats going on. and i believe it's not a breakup..just you rather be friends kinda thing. i hope everything works out! hope i helped Take Care =) x3 SweetStar.
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