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I'm 13/f and I have never kissed a guy before.
Well I really want to kiss my boyfriend within the next 2 days before school is over and I'm pretty sure he is planning on kissing me at one of the end of the year parties. I know I should just go with my instinct but I seriously am really nervous because I don't know how to kiss him. Any tips, or how-to's are welcome. I'll rate.
THANX

If he is going to kiss you...Great! But you don't want to rush it. If you try to force something that's not there right then at that time, then it's not as natural. Kissing is a very natural thing. Don't be nervous. I think the nerves might be overcome with a little bit of excitment too. That's probably all it is. If he starts leaning in, you're just going to be thinking "ok here we go" and then batta-boom it's done. Good luck...oh and P.S. Most everyone's first kiss is akward so don't worry if that happens to you ;)

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mo

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okay so my bf..is amazing! but all my friends.(boys and girls) are going 2 the movies this friday..my friends have told me that he was gona put his arm around me and give me a hug(possibly kiss) after..so i was wondering on some good adviice..thanks soo mucH!
Xxxxxx Ooooooo

If you like him then I don't see where you need advice. Just take it and enjoy the hug (and yes possible kiss ;*) Just make sure that you don't get too "hot and heavy" in front of your friends ;) it's tacky!!!....Well good luck and have fun girl!

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mo

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There is this guy (let's call him Bob) and he's really really cute. I just met Bob a few months ago but he's very sweet and whenever I'm with him I get goosebumps and butterflies in my stomach (majorly) I don't know if I should go up to him and tell Bob I really like him or not. And he also dated one of my friends but they broke up, and I don't want her to be mad at me if I date him. What should I do?

Well is your friend one of your really good and close friends? If so then you don't want to risk the relationship that you have with your friend for a guy. Guys come and go, but it's hard to find a good friend that you connect with and you can have fun with. If the friend is just an aquantence then I think it's ok to pursue this "bob". Just ask Bob to "hang out or go to a movie" one weekend, then he'll get a feel for things and maybe he'll take it from there. If not, then there isn't any shame in asking a guy out. Times have changed my friend.

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Help! I like this boy a lot and he thought we broke up and so he asked this other girl out who he said was annoying and i think it was just to make me jealous but whatever. This other girl said stuff behind my back to my friend. She now wants to talk to me and i don't know what to do? I really like the guy but i don't know how. I have tried ignoring him and stuff but it just doesn't work. What to do????????
I rate high!!!!

~fellow advicenator

OK first off, I don't think that you need this guy. I mean, seriously, how do you get confused on whether or not you're broken up with someone. I don't know if you left some details out, but that's pretty major. Second, go ahead and talk to this girl, I think that if you don't...it's going to look like you're afraid to talk to her, or you have something to hide from her. But you really don't need this guy, if he cared for you the way he should, he would pull the other girl off you a little bit (if that makes any sense) but I think that you should move on, and get another cutie out there. Some guys! ugh! lol...Well I hope that I helped some, and If you have any more questions, don't hesiate to ask...I prob could help you some more if you gave me a few more details (and I don't mind listening)....Good luck....
~Morgan

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sori thins is long. well i went out with this guy (lets call him james) n we were really close but we broke up. well its been about 3 months an suddenly he started txtin me and sed that he misses me and that he still loves me. well thats the thing i really love the guy. i know hes not good news and that i shouldnt but i cant help it. but then today i txt him because i was bored and he said that it wasnt him that had been txtin me it was his cousin. well i didnt know what to think. but then i hear that a rumour is going around school that im going out with a friend of mine from a different school(lets call him chris). James didnt like him when we were going out because he always felt theatened by him. i dont know why i think its because chris is really rich and james thought i like him for his money. anyway i got told that james knew about this so has he just said it wasnt him because of the rumour? i dont want to go out with james i just wantto know whats going on! please help!

Well if you don't want to go out with James...I really don't see where the big problem is. I mean i know that you're confused, and believe me...I am too lol...but still I mean that's all up to James. It seems like he has a little bit of a jealousy problem that he needs to get over. I think that you should just sit back....relax...and let the whole thing blow over. That's what you have to do sometimes, and it works out for the best. Hope I helped somewhat...I know it wasn't too much help so I'm sry about that....Good Luck to ya~
~Morgan

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well i found out that this guy likes me and ive liked him for ages but he never knew that. well anyway weve been txtin each other and chatting a lot and he know that im interested b/c i told him i liked him when he sais he liked me. well this was like a month ago and nothing happened. he hasn't asked me out or anything. we were going to meet up to go to the cinema but he sed he couldnt go at the last minute b/c he was grounded. so is he interested or not? i just feel like hes messing me around and i really dont want that but i dont want to give up on him if he is just shy (which i hear he is) so is there hope or not?
please help

I think that it's too early in the game to give up hope so soon. I mean chances are that he was actually grounded. Things like that happen. I would say if he kept doing it, then you might want to get suspicious. Just talk to him, (it's going to be weird but it works)...ask him if there's a chance that you guys could start going out, tell him that you really want to hang out sometime. Some guys are so scared of rejection that they don't want to ruin the risk of "being turned down". They don't want their ego's to be ruined lol. Ya know? So just tell him straight forward that you were hoping you guys could be more than ppl who know they like one another. I'm sure that things will work out. Good luck, and if you have any more questions don't hesitate to ask
~Morgan

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I was in art class when my "friend" came up to me and tugged my braid 'affectionately', but it hurt me and I ended up screaming almost at the top of my lungs "JESUS!" I felt bad after that because almost the whole class was staring at me, and my friend was ticked that I had screamed because she had done that to me before, but I think it's childish now and I refuse to let her. I feel really bad because you really shouldn't scream that in ANY class for that matter, because it might offend some people. I think I might have offended some people, but I was really embarrassed because I screamed so loud and I was dead quiet and my face was red. I don't know what to do. What should I do?

Hey~ Take it from someone who has done almost the exact same thing....Just tell your friend that you were startled and you didn't mean to offend her or anyone else in your class. People make mistakes, I mean you didn't purposly try to offend anyone. When something hurts/startles you, there's not much time to think about your reaction. Actually, there's no time at all...It's no biggie...just explain that to her....hope things go well...and if you have any more questions, don't hesitate to ask...
~Morgan

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Hey this is (Hailey!) Ok, my 3 friends and I got in a fight, and its been 3 days since we haevnt been friends, and i mean, we were best friends to tha bone! And they are out having fun while I am sitting at home a mess because i miss them. They haven't even called me or talked to me. They don't even care about me. I don't want to lose them, but it looks like they DO want to lose me. What should I do? Because I know most of you will probably say "they arent worth it," or "make new friends" but i love them to death and i dont want to just let this go. And I mean, i've already tried to solve it, i've tried everything. THEY HATE ME. OMG Help please. I cant take this much longer. :'-(

It seems to me like they just need a little bit of space from you. This is not a bad thing, and it's VERY normal. You just get tired of people in a while. You don't even have to do anything wrong. Call them up and say that you've been missing getting to do things with them, and maybe you guys can hang out "sometime soon"....by saying that...it lets them know that you do want to hang out with them, but you're not overly obsessive. And don't let them know that you're bored with nothing to do. It's going to make you look desperate. I hope this helps some, and I'm sure that things will be back to normal soon. Like I said this kinda stuff happens all the time....Good luck...don't hesitate to ask any more questions .
~Morgan

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so here it is...
I flirt alot ! but only with guys i know well... not with this guy i like.. i dont flirt with him... but i flirt with likes guys who flirt back so i think they think that i like them.. but i dont... how do i stop flirting with ther other guys and flirt with the guy i like ?

Ps when i try to even talk to the guy i get really red and cant think of anything to say...
thanks

Flirting is definatly a hard thing. It's hard to help who you flirt with and who you don't. I mean you can control it, don't get me wrong but still. So I think that you should first worry about how to flirt with the guy that you like instead of how not to flirt. So, when you're talking to the guy you like, let's call him "Jim", just come up with common conversation. I mean you could call Jim and ask him if he wanted to go the the movies with you sometime, that way he'll know that you're thinking about him. There you could talk about, school, anything you have planned in the near future (trips), talk about what he likes to do, if it's a sport ask him some questions about htat. Don't focus the whole conversation on you because you're going to come off as conseaded. And if you do end up going to the movies...there's less talking to do, as if you went bowling or something.....Well I hope that I helped a little bit and if you have any more questions, don't hesitate to ask...good luck
~Morgan

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Ok, yes I'm the same person that's been writing the rumor questions. My boyfriend isn't coming to school the last few days and I can't get ahold of him on the phone, so I decided I wanted this advice now. Today me and my best friend were walking around the school and we started talking to one of my boyfriend's friends. My friend had her cell phone and said that I should call my b/f. And his friend said, "he's half gay." And we asked how he knew. And he said "cause he told us." Do you think this is reason to believe he is bi? And if it is what should I do? I mean as long as he loves me it doesn't really matter much, but still...it's wierd!

This is a tough situation. But it pretty much all depends on whether or not you love him for who he is and not what other people think about him. He could be bi or he could not. Most of the time the friends just say that for the heck of it and it's not true. Guys can be so immature. But you have decide whether or not you can handle it, if he is. I mean personally, I couldn't. I am a strong Christian and believe that you should like a person of the opposite sex only, but that's just my own personal opinion. So, I mean you can always just talk to him. You have to trust him enough. Just call him and say, "Ya know I've heard some things, and I wanted to hear them from you to know if they were true or not".....See how that goes. I'm sure it will work out....If you have any more questions, don't hesitate to ask...Good luck
~Morgan

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My boy friend's best friend is my ex...and he is always over there and I get so mad because duering school he was always at hme on weekends and stuff so that we could spend time together...I mean just us...and now he is always over there nd when I won't to do somenthing with him or when he asked me to do soemntihg his little friend (my ex) has to come along!Uggghh! It makes me so mad! What do i do about it?

Well yeah I can see where you're problem is. lol...Have you talked to your boyfriend about it? I mean he might think that you're ok with it. Ask your bf if he's fine with "ben" tagging along everywhere...If he is...then tell him that you're not too comfortable with it. If he's not ok, than ask him to talk to "ben" and see if just the two of them can have some good ol male bonding time away from when you're trying to hang out with your bf. That's going to be the easiest way. I don't think that I would talk to your ex about it, just because the fact that he IS your ex, if you see what I'm saying....But if you have any more questions don't hesitate to ask....Good luck
~Morgan

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Okay, so I'm bedridden for a while. I certainly don't enjoy readering, but I figure it will pass the time.. so I'm not just stuck laying there like a useless moron. I like those cheesy little romance plots and all that sensitive bologna, so if ANYONE can think of something I might enjoy, I would DEFINITELY appreciate your recommendation!!

"Mackenzie"

Hey...Well it would help if I knew how old you were...but if you're a teen..i would highly suggest
~American Girl by: Meg Cabot
~A Walk to Remember: Nichlous Sparks
~I know what you did last summer:
~Tuesdays with Morrie: Albom
~5 People you meet in heaven: Albom

Hope this helped some

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ok me n this guy are best friends but i really like him and he knows it....one time we were talking and i told him i still liked him and he said he was afraid of loosing the friendship we have so we hadnt talked about it for a while but now its summer and we always said we would go out during summer...but a while back i got fed up with waiting on him and dicided to just be his friend but inside i knew i will never be able to not love him like more then a friend ...so anyway i was almost over him and i went to camp for a week and right when i got home he called and was like i really missed you love you ...and tonight we were going to do somthing but i couldnt so he went over to another firnds house but he promised he wouldnt do anything with anyother girls ... does this mean he likes me ?? i hopw i made sence lol
thanks and ill rate=D

Yeah, I think that he likes you, but I would also watch out bc he seems to be a little bit on the "wishy-washy" side of things. I mean one week he doesn't want to date you, he wants to just be friends, and then next he loves you. So just pay attention to that.

But I do think that you should give things a chance, it seems like you two would be a great couple. Just talk to him about it, where you both stand in the situation. And if he's still afraid of ruining the friendship, tell him that if you two are as good of friends as you seem ,then you'll be able to pull through anything and still come out with a strong friendship in the end.

Take it from me, I've been dating my best guy friend for 8 months now, and things are great. It's so easy to rely on him. So I hope that things go good for you, and If you have any more questions don't hesitate to ask...this is one thing that I do have a whole lot of experience in (dating ur friend)....hope i helped....good luck
~Morgan

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I feel like im going to be so left out this summer. I want to go to the pool so badly but I'm afraid no one will want to go with me. I dont have many people on my street that are my age, so yeah..And Im just afraid and I dont want to have anyone over and I feel like people can invite me but I cant invite them. I dont know why. My birthday was a few weeks ago and i wanna have a party, but it has to be GOOD. I dunno what kind to have and stuff, just me switching schools to a kinda school thats not so social, and me already being way shy and stuff hasnt helped.

Hey~ You don't need to worry about calling your friends and asking them if they want to do something? It's hard to keep in touch with people in the summer. But summer is also a great opportunity to meet some new people. Go ahead and go up to the pool by yourself, see if there is anyone there that's close to your age, then start a conversation with them. "Nice day to be at the pool....So do you come up here a lot?"...things like that, and then introduce yourself and see what happens. Sometimes that's the best way to meet your next best friend.....If you have any more questions, don't hesitate to ask. Good luck
~Morgan

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My bf and I are 8 weeks into our relationship, things are good I guess except... I kinda feel like something's wrong.. Even though it shouldn't be :( I guess the best way to put this is, ever since we started going out nothings changed! We're still like friends...just who now make out and spend weekends together. And it's abit uncomfortable for me.. for some reason... don't get me wrong I like my guy alot but it feels strange because I still see him as one of my friends I guess... like the first time he started kissing me I pulled away because it felt weird and he mistook it that I wasn't comfortable with kissing lol... he told me he'd lay off until I was more ready! He doesn't know how I feel, I guess I'm afraid to say it.. it sounds like the start of a breakup afterall! And well.. I'm not exactly feeling a spark for him either, I find his personality cute, even adorable! but he isn't exactly attractive looking to me, I know that's mean to say.. but I just don't feel any spark there.. this kinda bothers me I guess.. but I still like him! I am messed up? What do you think I should do? I'm going to try and talk to him about it when I see him but what sort of things should I say? I really dont wanna hurt his feelings with what I say, do you think this will end in a break up?? :(
Please help! i'm 16

I think that you should explain to him that you don't really think it's too comfortable between you two, and then see what he feels about it? Ask him if it's been comfortable for him...tell him that you like him and everything, you're just not ready to date him. If you guys still are friends then you can tell him you can hang out as friends and see if anything gets easier from there. A lot of times it's easier to get to know someone in that way when there's not the obligation. I hope that I helped some....if you have any more questions...don't hesitate to ask.
~Morgan

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Ok theres this guy i like. We hung out this one weekend with one of my friends and like 2 of his friends and he was there. Well the whole night he acted like..he liked me..he was directing everything towards me and all his friends think that he likes me. Well i go over to my friends house all the time..and we always invite him over to do something or just go out and do something and hes always.."gone somewhere". Either his mom wont let him or hes really gone. Well his friends always jokes around that he lieks me and i was wondering. Do you think he doesnt wanna hang out because of me?

I don't think that it's nessacarily about you. I think that you should talk to him one time...that you know you can catch him, and you guess can talk a little bit, then while you're on the phone...say something like "hey do you want to go see a movie on Sat?"....if he says he's busy...say something jokingly like..."o ok i see how it is..u don't want to do anything with me...."....see what his response is...if it's nothing than he's prob just not into you as much as you're into him...if he is into and wants to do something than he'll more likely say something like "well i can't go sat but I can go on fri"....I hope I helped...good luck...don't hesitate to ask me any more questions...please rate..thanks....
~Morgan

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I am 16 i went out with this boy from school we used to be like bestfriend he used to tell me he had no feelings then i realised he had no feelings for me because he liked another girl.we went out for a year and during that time his bestfriend was always trying to break us up finally he managed to break us up.He used to always try and kiss me at the same time as i was with my bf he tryed everything to break us up and finally with his lies he broke us up and me and my x bf remained friends but the friendship is not as gd as it was before.I grew to like this boy because i new he cared for me anyway.Now it turns out he has a gf and everyone says i should try and break them up.But i am not like that i don't know what to do.He told me he wanted to go out with me before he went out with this girl but i turned him down.so what i am asking is what to do now?

I think that if he really, truly, cared about you like he said he does, then he wouldn't be dating the other girl. I think that you should move on, i know that it's hard. But you definatly don't want to break them up, remember how bad it felt when the guy broke you and your boyfriend up. I think that if he could go out with that other girl, when he apparently liked you, you don't need him anyways. I hope that I helped. Good luck, and if you have anymore questions please feel free to ask. Don't hesitate...and please rate if you have time
~Morgan

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ok this guy ive knowen for 2 years and were really good friedns like well talk about anything but i think im starting to like him and hes starting to like me to should i just keep flirting with him they way i have been like as friends or should i try to take it up a level
thanx

Hey...well if you really want something, then you could kick it up a notch, but not too much. You don't want to come across as pushy. I mean he obviously likes you for who you are when you're with him, so be that person in a little bit of a more "flirty" way. That's great that you're friends with him first because it makes the relationship go easier. Hope you have fun at the party, and honey, get your groove on!! Hope things go well...good luck..if you have any more questions let me know...don't hesitate.
~Morgan

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Me and my bff(girls and both 14) are sexual, but my friend is so worried about what everyone else will say. My family kids around and calls us lovers and stuff and their just jokin'. She takes it way over the top. She feels that we don't feel like bff anymore. She doesn't even wanna consider us being together, but wants to cover up the real deal and sugar code it by naming how we desire each other in a inoccent and "straight" name. I want to try more things with her like fingering, food activies and all that good stuff. I read that other girls are more comfortable then us. I just believe if you wanna get physical making out won't cut it.We had a serious conversation before and i said that when i look at other girls i feel nothing for them, but i make a very big exceptional when i'm with my bff. What do i tell her for us to actually be together and feel comfortable about what we do. Can anyone tell us what we could above the belt like kissing nevking, ect. Plz any suggestions say now!! Help me plz i rate high!!

First off, I think that you need to think about what you're doing. Some girls are very vaunerable at your age. Stop for a second and consider if she's the only girl that you feel this way for...maybe it's not meant to be. I mean you could be "straight". Your friend is probably just scared. You have to see things from her point of view too. Make sure that you know what you're doing before anything too serious happens. I know that from a guy who loves you more than you could imagine, Jesus, that he would want what's best for you and that path isn't always the most obvious or easy one for that matter. Just think about what you're doing....and if this is the path that you want to take...than just do what's comfortable and don't rush into things.

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I posted yesterday about a guy that I have liked for a long time. I didnt know what to do and im still not sure. He knows I like him.. He Likes another girl but they are not really together. I have like dhim for 2 years now. My bestfriend who is really good with stuff like this said I should just try to let go. If something happens it will happen itself.. But I have liked him to long, And I know that when ever I talk to him I will like him again, and I talk to him every day.

So me and my bestfriend have been talking. and She said I just need to let go. But I said I just needed to find out one thing. If he ever did like me. Ever through out the whole time he has known me. I will say that I dont want an I Dont know. That I need a yes or a no answer. That I dont care. just tell me the trueth.. I will be ok.. and that after we can be friends and Ill let go.. but that I just need to know..

Does this sound to weird of me.. Should I do it differently.. What do I do? Should I even do this? Can you pleaseee help me? anyone..

-please.. Maddie

I think that your friend is right. No matter how hard it is to give up someone sometimes it's for the best. I mean you could be waiting for him forever and not realize that the greatest guy is right in front of you. Sometimes it's easier to just go on and try to forget about it. It'll take some time, but I think that's what you need to do. Go this wkend, rent chick fliks, and eat a pint of ice cream...that always helps! ;) lol....If you have any more questions...don't hesitate to ask....Hope things go good for you
~Morgan

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