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I need to pick between 2 guys
I have dated one guys for 5 years now an he has cheated on me 17 times. I moved out from his house an now i live with someone i really get along with. Everytime i try to break up with the other guy he begs me not to do it that he will change. Please i need so advice on how to tell him i dnt want him no more
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Tell him that you're tired of being cheated on and no matter what he says, he doesn a completely different thing. If he says he's going to change, tell him about the 17 times he's told you that, and the 17 times he's screwed you over.
Believe you, you deserve much better than this. Tell him it's over, it's done - he is done! Don't worry about his feelings or how sorry he acts, think of all the times, seventeen to be exact, that he's hurt your feelings repeatedely. Obviously, he doesn't care about your feelings, so you shouldn't care about his either.
Bottom line: My friend, trust me on this one, kick him to the curb - you'll be A WHOLE LOT better off!
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wow...
17 times.
girl wat are you still doin with him
you musst be desperate =/
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tell him that everytime he says he will change he ends up cheating on you again. say that you don't want to be in a relationship with someone who isn't faithful to you. he will need to prove to you that he's serious.
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Wait, I have a question. Are you cheating on him? If you are just pick one guy your really like and stick with him. Nobody deserves to be cheated on.
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sweetie wake up, 17 times?
you're so much better than that.
tell him its over, you don't deserve to get hurt.
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Look at him and say "You cheated on me 17 times." See what he says. If he tries to defend it, slap him in the face and walk away. Then file a restraining order. I think he'll get the picture.
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Just tell him you slept with someone else. That tends to make boyfriends want to break up. :-P (Yes I'm kidding.)
Tell him straight up that it's over. Ignore his phone calls, emails, everything until he leaves you alone. It might also get him to leave you alone if you start dating other guys.
I'm glad you realize this guy is a piece of dirt.
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break up with HIM!!!!!! hes gonna do it again hes said the same thing 16 timez!
havnt you ever heard the quote
sorry dosent ever matter people never change!
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its obvious on what you have to do. break up with the other guy. he has cheated on you and people don't change if they did then you would be a happier person correct? he does not have a say in weather or not if you guys can break up. its time to move on and start being happy again.
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I'm sorry but he will never change. He clearly doesnt treat you right and doesn't respect you. He is only trying to control you, and he does so by telling you he will change. He isn't going to change so tell him flat out that you are tired of not being treated right. If you tell him in person it might be a good idea to have a friend wait in your car just in case, and once you says its over, just walk away don't listen to him beg and plead because you know he will never change. Good Luck
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The plain and simple truth is almost always the best thing to say in situations like this.
Tell him you're sick of his bullshit, and that you don't believe that he'll change, and you don't believe that "this time will be different". Tell him, plain and simple, that you don't want him anymore. Don't take no for an answer.
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Why should you tell him? Personally I wouldn't say crap and just go about my life. If he ask, why you are not talking to him or whatever, just stand there with a stupid look on your face and say, "duh." No, really that's what I would do. He doesn't deserve a reason. He's not worth your time.
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okay honey, he's not gonna change. you obviously aren't enough for him. or he's just a dick. which is kinda what it sounds like. if he's cheated on you 17 times.. get the hell out of that relationship. you'll be so much happier. cut yourself off from him completely. he's not a good guy. don't let him ruin your chances with the person you really get along with.
xoxo jobrolover3725
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Hello there,
Seventeen times is WAY TOO MUCH! SNAP OUT OF IT !!!!!! You told him that you were going to break up with him and he said he'd change. obviously that didn't work. Time to take action. Leave and don't look back. Don't give him an explanation just leave. (frankly he should already know the reason you broke up with him) You don't owe him a thing. I think he lost his right to an explanation after the second time he cheated on you. I'm all for having sympathy for people but you're just hurting yourself.
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Your best bet would just be honest to him and tell him you dont think that he will change cause he hasnt. If he cheated on you 17 times he doesnt want to be with you i am sory but its true.
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I would say that a guy who cheated on ME would be pushing his luck with 3. It doesn't matter how you say, but the fact that you actually do it. If he begs you not to..why can't he go and be with one of the poeple he cheated on you with? Your much to good for him and honestly, why would you want a guy like this in your life? You need to flat out say that this isn't going to work and when he says i can change say the truth, BULLSH*T! haha! but make it very clear that hes a player and that he can't use you. Tell him 17 times is more than enough times to break your heart. lie it down hard...he'll get the idea
-E
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17? Please tell me that's a typo.
I wouldn't stay with a guy if he cheated on me once- I wouldn't have given him the chance to make it to seventeen. This guy will always, always (and yes, ALWAYS) be a cheater. If he can stay committed to one girl after five years of being with her, what do you think the rest of your life will be like?
You're too forgiving. Have some self respect. Even if you don't get with the other person you live with, don't be with the cheater. No one deserves to be with a cheater or a player.
How do you tell him you don't want him anymore?
"We're breaking up. I deserve better than you." should suffice.
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17 times? What the hell are you still doing with him? "Once a cheater always a cheater" as the saying goes, so you forgave him once, OK thats possible, but 17 times? What are you getting from this guy thats worth that much emotional pain? It probably something really good, did he buy you a car or something? Do you think he has something that no other guy does? Because I guarantee you there are plenty of guys out there that probably have it too, and will not cheat on you 17 times, or even once. You need to kick him to the curb, and you need to kick him where it hurts. Or, if you really are getting something out of it that is making you happy then go ahead, keep letting him treat you like crap.
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Okay, umm dump the one that cheated on you. A he cheated on you 17 times and 2 he is a player....
i am telling you, stop listening to the dummy and do what you want to..only what you want!! he doesnt matter. Just ignore him, dump him and ignore him
-hayley
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You know when I read stuff like this it reminds me to continue talking to my children about morals ,values and self respect. You will get so much advice from us and no matter what we tell you, you will make the decision that you see best fit as you have done all this time.Unbelievable 17 times he does what he wants but it's not about what he wants its about what you demand. You are in charge of YOU and no one else.You have to start not worrying about relationships and get yourself on the right track to learn and to know you.
A person should never be treated wrongfully.But like they say people only are going to do to you what you allow them to do.
Good Luck,
Val
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SEVENTEEN TIMES? He's lucky you forgave him the first time.
END IT.
It doesn't matter how - even a phone call or a txt in this situation would be acceptable and I don't normally condone them.
Just tell it how it is. "I'm sorry, I don't want to be in a relationship any more"
If he asks why, say you don't feel the same.
Done.
..and DO NOT let his emotions get the better of you.
He definitely does not deserve you.
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oh dear 17 times! thats one cheat for every year i have been born ..... you dont need to pick between two guys you need to dumb one and get your self a healthy lifes stlye ! just becouse someone begs you to do it dose not mean they will change in 17 cheats hes got you wraped around his fingers and that is very unhealthy .... if your sure in your heart your tied of this you need to get your family invold tell them whats going on and your need help ... when you have family involed men are lesslikly to attempt to hurt you . another thing is you need to practice being alble to look the man in the eye and speek ferm and clear . you have to be able to speek with not room for interuptions. he has to know you whant nothing to do with him and as long as you dont have any bills or children you can already be packed and ready to go . and tecnicaly if you have moved out of the bad mans home all you have to do is stop adressing him and cut off all contact with him . the good mans home dose not belong to the bad man and if you feel thretened you feel free to call the cops and explain to them you want nothing to do with the bad man and they will nicely escort him off the good mans porch . and if that bad man refuses to let you go please get a restraining order becouse your confort ,safty and future are at stake .... remember to be independent , strong and ferm becouse a man who has you in th palm of the hand will think he can play you for ever
good luck God bless you
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Keep it as simple as possible. Tell him it's over, you've found someone else, beat it- scram.
Walk away. (Or hang up if you happen to be on the phone.)
Don't give him a chance to start begging like the dog that he is.
ygs-30/f
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This guy cheated on you 17 times and you're still partially with him?
Get his sorry butt out of your life! Nobody deserves to be treated that way.
Call him up, refuse to let him speak, and tell him that you have more respect for yourself than he ever will. He has had 17 chances. The first one was to not break your heart. He then cheated. You gave him another chance to not break your heart, he cheated again. That's two strikes... and in the game of love, you don't get a third - especially for a cheater.
Stick with the guy who treats you right. Why would you want anything less than the best?
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Simple answer:
Call him, don't let him speak and tell him right off that it's over and there's nothing he can do about it. He can't date you for 5 years and cheat on you 17 times!!! He needs to see the error of his ways and you need to put your foot down. If he hasn't changed after everytime you've tried to break up, then he won't ever change. Somebody can't change just like that after what they've done. It takes a hell of a lot of time and he needs to know that.
This guy hasn't just broken one heart, but 18 hearts (yours and the other 17)!!!! That cannot continue and you need to tell him that. There's nothing stopping you from breaking up with him. Only his pleas for forgiveness: did he change after the last 17 times? No.
Go and call him now. Not text becasue that doesn't really do anything. Talking to him directly does.
Good luck with the future,
triquetra
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5 years. 17 times.
Look him dead in the eye and ask why the hell you should stay with someone who doesn't respect you, himself, and has had more than enough chances.
And make it abundantly clear that you can do much better than him.
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Just do it. Tell him it's over and walk away. He has no right to guilt trip you or make you feel bad after cheating on you 17 times. Refuse to answer his calls/messages/whatever to make it perfectly clear that you are serious this time. Eventually he should get the message. If he continues to harass you, you should consider getting the police involved.
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Ok so if you take him back again, he's controlling you. He knows that you're easily taken advantage of and he wants to keep that power. Don't give him that satisfaction! No matter how hard it is or how convincing he is...break up with him!!! If he cheated ONCE...just MAYBE i'd understand if you took him back---you must really be in love then.
but 17 times? IT'S NOT WORTH IT! you deserve better. dumppppp him for good and don't ever talk to him again.
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Tell him he's had 17 chances to change and he's wasted all of them.
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theres no real advise anyone can give you... except me = ]
ok now remember all of the horrible things he has ever done and even after you took him back and just think about how it will happpen again and again until you finally break up with him.
if that doesn't work then try bringing a trustworthy friend who can keep you in check when your giving in. orrrr do it over the phone so you can hang up when he gives you the i'm so sorry i will really change this time bullshark that every guy pulls.
hope i helped.
♥Zoey
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You really don't need someone else to advise you on this, you know your answer already.
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Personally, the guy who cheated on me 17 times, i'd DUMP his sorry ass!
What an ass, begging you not to break up. DUMP HIM.
or, whatever you FEEL to be that you love. it's all about you, i can't decide who you love more. only you can.
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