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Okay, I'm 16 & a female. I'm also bisexual & my boyfriend can't accept the fact that I'm bi. He says he wishes I liked ONLY guys & stuff like that. Then he says that he hates gays, lesbians, bisexuals & it hurts. But then my bigsissy ( well that's what I call her ) can't stand the fact that I'm bisexual either. Like when I told her, she said you spent the night over my house & we slept in the same bed together, you could've touched me. Like I mean really? I'm not attracted to every female/male I see, so that doesn't mean I'll touch them. It just hurts, plus when I hang with both of them, they high 5 each other for disliking me being bisexual. "/ what should I do? (link)
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sounds like they need to grow up. you can't force tollerance. the more you put up with it and don't make a huge deal out of their rudeness the more it'll die down. it's like in elementary school where the more you get upset the more youg et bullied.
you need you love YOURSELF for who you are. if your bf really can't handle the way you are maybe you need to handle it head on.
lucie
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What should a 15 year old girl eat who is very active and has a bad diet? (link)
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a young girl like yourself shouldn't be worried about bad diets.
common sense can tell you that eating a smaller portioned home cooked meal is better than mcdonalds.
stay away from snacks with any monosaturated, polysaturated fats or anything like that.
also, considering you're very active, eating carbs like in pastas would be good for you since you burn a lot of energy exercizing.
once again, you're way too young to be worrying about your diet. continued concern can lead you to worse mental habits and such.
just use your judgement.
hope i helped,
lucie
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what are some ways to move on?I had a really rough break up about a week ago and he went from saying he wanted to marry me someday to not wanting to be with me at all in like 2 days.Then he kept changing his mind about wanting to be with me or not and finally he decided he wanted to be with me and changed his mind AGAIN so now we are just friends.how do i move on from him?!?!i miss him so much... (link)
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in my experience, there are 2 factors to getting over someone:
first off, it takes time. time will naturally make anything less important as new priorites surface in your life. however, i do realize just waiting around is difficult which brings me to my second factor. getting over someone is sadly easy if you move on to someone new. being distracted is a greeeat way to forget that loser. so get yourself out there. getting attention from other guys will feel good :)
btw, if this guy is having any doubts, he isn't worth your affection. he's obviously a capricious guy in relationships which isn't healthy.
and don't ever let him know how much he hurt you.
hope this helped, i have a lot of experience in getting over people who have hurt you.
lucie
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so i was just wondering.
if i guy is dating a girl for a long time (8 months) and its the longest he has ever had (others were a month & didnt mean anything), will that guy tend to run away from his emotions?
and if so, will that guy ever realize that he is running from his emotions and just face it or will he just act like nothing happened?
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guys tend to get more comfortable with their emotions when they're dating someone for a long time. however, it's difficult to answer this question on the bases of not knowing the guy and the situation. just because he is a guy doesn't mean that all of them have the same tendencies. considering every person is different, i would suggest asking people who know him or talkign to him yourself.
hope this helped,
lucie
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15/f
I know close to nothing about photography but I really want a digital slr camera this year. I'm sick of the point-and-shoot cameras with their shutter lag & crap pictures. I want a great camera that will take close up portraits and wide angle. I'm really not sure what kind of beginner dslr camera I should get. I'm on a tight budget, I want this camera to only cost around 650 dollars or less. I've heard the d40 is a great beginner camera but it's from like 2007! I want an updated dslr with enough megapixels! Please help me. (link)
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weeeelll.. if you're not familiar with photography, i wouldn't get an slr. not only are they super complicated, but they're not a beginner camera. i can't say much on the dslr or anything. but it's not going to be worth the money in the end. if you love photography, you can get a legit camera for 300. slr's are for some hardcore stuff that professionals handle. i've had a lot of friends want slr's but just mess up by getting one in the end.
i know this isn't exactly what you wanted to know. it's still really important to not waste your money.
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i been with my man for 3 yrs. i love him still i think, but there is so much pain in our relationship no matter what i do i end up crying every day. i don't have any friends any more any rarly talk to my family.i don't no where to turn it scares me because my hole life i've never had any thing good, i loose it. i don't no if i'm happy any more, i dont know if i even still know myself. Everything i do is for him, why do i do so much with nothing but pain in return. He won't let me leave him and even if i did i always go right back. Why? I just want to be happy with my life again, I don't want to cry any more. But i don't have any one to turn to any more i lost everything and one for him, and i don't think i ca get them back. why do i stay when every time at the end i am alone with nothing. Every time it gets worse but i still love him and go back. what can i do (link)
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personally, i think it'd be really smart to let go of him for good. get back in touch with family and friends. because in the end.. they're what really matter. the easiest way to get over someone is to find someone new. distract yourself. if all your relationship manages to do is make you upset, then it's unhealthy. honestly, it's not worth it. if you truly love him, maybe you just need a break. but make sure you keep friends a family close. it's very smart to have something to fall back on.
hope this helped.. somewhat. just do what makes you happy.
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This might sound like such a stupid question, but I actually don't know the answer to it. My friends often say to me "I don't know if he likes me" and I can always tell if a guy likes them, but never if they like me!
There's a guy I know and he has told me he likes me, his friends have also said he likes me... But I still don't believe it. We've kissed so many times, but that doesn't really mean anything! (link)
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Btw, don't take christina's advice xD
I mean, don't ask him out.
That's the perfect test of whether he likes you.
Plus, guys love being guys. Meaning, they love being strong and dominant. And to them, that's asking a girl out. Don't let them overpower you buuut jus saying, I wouldn't ask a guy out.
If he really likes you, he'll ask you out with him without a doubt. (:
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for a girl thats 5'4 5'5 how much should she weigh? kilos and pounds?
13 years old.
whats a good weight? (link)
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probably about 100-120
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okay well iwant 2 dye my hair. i did it like a month ago wanting it 2 get blonder but my hair is natuarally dirty blonde so it came out a liter dirty blonde with a lil red tint when in the lite. like stpawberry blonde. but im not sure what color iwant now. ihave a medium-lite complexion and a roundish-Vish face. what color should i dye it? i was thinking blonde on top and dark under but idk... (link)
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Well if you want it lighter then you might just have to bleach it, then dye it the color you want.
You should buy your developer and color seperately; it's more professional, it'll come out better and the color will stay longer
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186 pounds, 5'8". I'm not obese, but I'm very overweight. What's the fastest, healthiest way to lose weight? PLEASE! (link)
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Start by cutting back on what/how much you eat and do some exercise. Remember to have three meals a day but don't eat a crapload. Try to set a time where you stop eating and start eating, like "7:00 AM to 9 PM." Don't eat unhealthy snacks. Drink a lot. And remember not to weigh yourself everyday. When you do that you tend to become obsessive. Try weighing yourself every week.
While you can help it, don't start an eating disorder.
Hope this helped.. somewhat.
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I Am thirteen years old and im trying to lose weight i already lost around 35 pounds and now i am 56 kilos & im tall. but the thing is i work out on my treadmille everyday for around 50-60 minutes and i sweat and get tired like crazy and i eat 3 times a day i get dizzy ALOT and i dont have alot of energy throughout the day and i know it isnt good for me my mom is tellin me that im takin it way to serious and so does everyone else which is kind of true my mom tells me that i should eat whatever i want but in small portions for example if she makes a cake i should take some not alot of it but some so i dont starve myself my question is when i workout arent i supposed to get more active and be more energetic? maybe its lack of food, i dont know really. (link)
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You're 13! To work out so much everyday... even if you eat plenty then no matter what it's going to wear you out. Your body is still growing and while it does need exercise and proper eating, I think that you may be overdoing it. I suggest you work out a bit less and eat what you should every day.
All of this could be related to daily schedule, sleep, and such but from what I've got to work off of, this is the best advice I can give you.
Hope I helped a bit 8)
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I am 24 years old and am currently at a point in my life where I don't think I can be friends with my life-long friend of 19 years.
I have stood by him, even though it was hard, despite all the terrible decisions he's made with his life. He has 2 DWI's, lost his car, lost his band because of his drinking, lost many friends, slept with a friends girlfriend whom he is currently still with. He faces jail time, and could quite possibly lose his job. Needless to say, he's almost lost everything.
The other night my girlfriend and I went out with them, trying to put things behind us. Well, he decided to just disappear and abandon his girlfriend there. She was understandably upset and we took her to his house, where her car was. In the end, he was extremely angry that we helped her, and accused me of telling her lies and badmouthing him. Also saying I'm trying to "get between them."
In a nutshell, 3 people have one account of the evening, and he has his. It's completely wrong. He's desperate, possessive, and not fun to be around anymore. He doesn't want help, and gets defensive claiming people should mind their own business, etc, despite being his best friend.
It only got worse... He actually blindsided me for helping her, punching me in the nose from behind me. It became a physical confrontation and was obviously a act of complete desperation since he claimed we were making the situation worse and were trying to "make him look bad."
I've tried helping but he isn't receptive. I'm not perfect either, and make plenty of mistakes, but every time we hang out it feels like a gamble. I'm tired of it. Is it selfish of me to move on with my life? (link)
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In most friendships that are rocky, I suggest to do what you can to help it. However..
He may be your very close friend but if he's physically and mentally hurting you, then you have to put yourself before him. You've put up with enough of him and you shouldn't let him drag you down. Give him the number of a clinic and walk away.
Hope this helps, it really all depends on what you chose yourself.
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For the past few months i have been having really clogged ears and whenever i run i hear this popping sound inside my head and if i open my mouth wide or move my jaw side to side it pops. i looked these symptoms up on google and TMJ came up. Does anyone know what this could be? 14/f (link)
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Yeah, that's pretty much tmj. i have it too. really sucks :P there's a medication i take right before i sleep. it's called flexeral. basically it relaxes your muscles. see a doctor and ask him about it! it reallllly helps me, and well yeah.
good luck!
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I think my mom is depressed and I think she is bipolar. Im being really serious.
Im 16/f and I dont know what to do.
My 23 year old sister also says the same, I dont know what to do, I want to tell my mom to get on some medication but if I tell her, or if my sister tells her, she goes crazy, and she will flip out.
The smallest things will make her so mad.
I dont know what to do.
Please reply. (link)
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Talk to your school counselor. If you're scared of your mom then you have to tell someone who CAN tell her. or can at least help you. Funneh... i'm having the same problem with my mom and answering this question helped me myself!! haha thanks (:
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I have dated one guys for 5 years now an he has cheated on me 17 times. I moved out from his house an now i live with someone i really get along with. Everytime i try to break up with the other guy he begs me not to do it that he will change. Please i need so advice on how to tell him i dnt want him no more (link)
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Personally, the guy who cheated on me 17 times, i'd DUMP his sorry ass!
What an ass, begging you not to break up. DUMP HIM.
or, whatever you FEEL to be that you love. it's all about you, i can't decide who you love more. only you can.
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Okay... today is my last day at school.
so, my friend and I decide to do cheeks with this guy...
[you know, each get one side and kiss his cheek].
well, we did, an idk if that was actually my first kiss.
he like my friend more... and she has kissed him on the cheek twicce...
this is my first time doing any of that. [no im not ugly]
and, well i just need to know if it counts as being a first kiss.
please help!
ps; my bf doesnt know about it... becuase he left early... but i wanted to kiss him on the lips... maybe i will get a chance when we go back for grades on friday..
love...
Kaila (link)
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Hunny, this isn't your first kiss unless YOU think so. i can't judge whether or not it was.
for me, it would be me and him kissing eachother, for sure. it might be way different for you.
I would like to know what happens on friday!
i hope you don't get hurt, no matter what. (:
byee~
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Lately, I've been feeling disconnected from everything and everyone. Like from my friends, family, church, school, and even God. I don't understand what's going on but I just don't feel close to anything anymore.
I've had a rough year full of fights with friends, nonstop arguments with my parents, and just overwhelming stress. Now, I don't feel anything. I just feel numb and disconnected.
When I look around at my classmates and even my extended family, it makes me feel so lonely. They all seem so close with each other and they always have each others' backs. And I don't have that. I'm not part of their friendship or closeness.
My family (intermediate that is) moved around a lot because my dad was in the military. He just recently retired. So, the earlier parts of my childhood, I didn't get the chance to feel close to my extended family because I always lived on the other side of the country from them. But now, I just feel so jealous and left out at family reunions, which is just really really sad.
Same thing goes sorta for my friends. When I first moved here, there was a brief period where I felt close to my friends. But then, all that changed during these random fights we've had this year. Now, I'm totally lost and feel so alone.
And in my church, I used to be the one everybody knew of because of my music. I'd always get asked to perform during the services, but now I don't. I've been replaced and I don't understand =[
I just want to feel close again. I want to feel needed and just...connected again. But I feel as if that's not even possible anymore. Like it's too late or something. (link)
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You are a growing girl. Life is going to change and you won't know why.
You are most likely suffering from depression, too.
Why not talk to a profession and ask them these questions? If you feel that is what you need, talk to your parents. I have had problems feeling connected too. You may need medication because of something that's not right in your brain, like a chemical imbalance, causing you to have these problems.
Try seeking professional help! This doesn't look like something that will just go away. So see someone that can physically do something.
I hope that you get help!
-rina
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I guess this comes under meantal health...
Ok well i used to be a cutter last year.
Bad i started about 3 years ago and stopd lasted year.
The thing is ive got so depressed lately all i want to do is harm...
I just want to get a knife and go deep.
To be honest im waiting for someone to cut me by accident or whatever. (if you get what i mean)
Im not a type of person that takes the wrong road twice so i really dont want to go back to it.
ANd im full of advice for everyone... except me.
I just want that red liquid to emerge from my skin.
To trinkle down my wrist.
To feel the stingy numbing pain....
Please point me in the right direction
Vikki (link)
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you are what is called a masochist; someone who enjoys pain. therapy and good friends can help biggo.
if you have trouble with that, then ask your guardians if you can see a pyschiotrist. they're people who prescribe medications for people. it's most likely the fact that you are depressed and want a way to get rid of your sadness by distracting yourself. you may just need to find something else to do when you feel that way. something that makes you happy and that you like to do.
one thing is for certain: it is NOT okay to hurt yourself. i don't know your personal situation, but remember that you are not the only one in pain in this world and there are people who would love to have your body/life. be grateful for what you DO have and cherish it!
i hope you get help. i hate to see you hurt yourself ):
take care~
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I'm 14, 15 in January and my mom and dad divorced when I was 5 and my mom has had this boyfriend since I was 7 and my dad is an alcholic and just in 7th grade he was told he had a week to live becuz the alcohol was killing his liver and so I went to see him for the last time he was alive so he didnt die but he lived until this summer and on August 29th 2007 he was found in his apartment dead! I went to the funer a and I cried when I found out he died and at the funeral but Im not sure I miss him too much but when I think of him I have to make myself cry but I want to cry so i dont feel bad but I do miss him a lot!! I never really saw him tho when he was alive so I didnt know him that well other then the fact that I lived with him for 5 years of my life! I am not sure how to feel and act plzzz help come over this!! sometimes people treat me like shit and it makes me think if only they knew what I was facing!? (link)
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I know how you feel. I used to live with my mom and one night she desided to kill herself in the room next to me.
what a suprise i woke up to.
i haven't cried one tear but i miss her terribley.
it's just the different ways people deal with death.
know what's funny?
my mom's birthday is august 29th.
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how are girls diagnosed for ADD? i read somewhere that they are not as physically active.. but i dunno. any help on this? (link)
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the person above me was wrong.
not everyone has add.
ADD is something that some people are born with. it basically means you have a hard time focusing
ADHD means you have a hard time focusing because you're very hyper.
You are professionally diagnosed with ADD by getting a neuroesych test. they are very expensive. like 2 grand. with good health insurance that can go down.
girls and boys are one in the same with add. it makes no difference.
some cases are mild enough so that you can control it. if not, you can go on some medication that would really help. like adderall, stretera, or methelyn.
Just because you're not physically active doesn't mean you have add.
but if you're so annoying that no one wants to date you then that might change it XD
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