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Feeling Disconnected


Question Posted Monday May 19 2008, 6:57 pm

Lately, I've been feeling disconnected from everything and everyone. Like from my friends, family, church, school, and even God. I don't understand what's going on but I just don't feel close to anything anymore.
I've had a rough year full of fights with friends, nonstop arguments with my parents, and just overwhelming stress. Now, I don't feel anything. I just feel numb and disconnected.
When I look around at my classmates and even my extended family, it makes me feel so lonely. They all seem so close with each other and they always have each others' backs. And I don't have that. I'm not part of their friendship or closeness.
My family (intermediate that is) moved around a lot because my dad was in the military. He just recently retired. So, the earlier parts of my childhood, I didn't get the chance to feel close to my extended family because I always lived on the other side of the country from them. But now, I just feel so jealous and left out at family reunions, which is just really really sad.
Same thing goes sorta for my friends. When I first moved here, there was a brief period where I felt close to my friends. But then, all that changed during these random fights we've had this year. Now, I'm totally lost and feel so alone.
And in my church, I used to be the one everybody knew of because of my music. I'd always get asked to perform during the services, but now I don't. I've been replaced and I don't understand =[

I just want to feel close again. I want to feel needed and just...connected again. But I feel as if that's not even possible anymore. Like it's too late or something.


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Rinachan answered Tuesday May 20 2008, 3:58 pm:
You are a growing girl. Life is going to change and you won't know why.

You are most likely suffering from depression, too.

Why not talk to a profession and ask them these questions? If you feel that is what you need, talk to your parents. I have had problems feeling connected too. You may need medication because of something that's not right in your brain, like a chemical imbalance, causing you to have these problems.

Try seeking professional help! This doesn't look like something that will just go away. So see someone that can physically do something.


I hope that you get help!

-rina

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GilbertMar answered Tuesday May 20 2008, 5:02 am:
"When I find myself in times of trouble, mother Mary comes to me, speaking words of wisdom, let it be."

You know, I have never been a real big Beatles fan, but they had their moments of wisdom. You really don't think he really meant that Mary really came to him do you? Do you think that maybe he was speaking metaphorically? I do, I think he was trying to say that sometimes when we are down, really down, it is there that we find our biggest most profound truths and I would ask you if that is what you seek?

Loneliness, doubt, fear, alienation are they cries for help? Or is it our innate need to look inwards and contemplate our own self worth. When others no longer help us, we retreat within ourselves looking for answers from our spirit, when we don't know that, that is what we are doing, it scares us and those around us. Don't be afraid to find yourself and your spirit, you will return a better person for it.

I envy you your journey, be well.

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laynemayhem answered Monday May 19 2008, 9:18 pm:
you might be going through depression. its normal with teenagers. you might go talk to your parents into getting you a counselor to go see a few times a month. they could help. for now, just try to fit in. talk to your friends. offer to play in church. pray every morning and night for God's help and support and He'll help you. praying works wonders, true story. and be more talkative at family gatherings and stuff. in time this may disappear, but for now, just be strong.

take care of yourself. :)

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