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how come they can't accept me for who i am?
Okay, I'm 16 & a female. I'm also bisexual & my boyfriend can't accept the fact that I'm bi. He says he wishes I liked ONLY guys & stuff like that. Then he says that he hates gays, lesbians, bisexuals & it hurts. But then my bigsissy ( well that's what I call her ) can't stand the fact that I'm bisexual either. Like when I told her, she said you spent the night over my house & we slept in the same bed together, you could've touched me. Like I mean really? I'm not attracted to every female/male I see, so that doesn't mean I'll touch them. It just hurts, plus when I hang with both of them, they high 5 each other for disliking me being bisexual. "/ what should I do?
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I know this is really cliche, but if they are true friends, they wouldnt treat you like this, or make you upset.
Tell them honestly how you feel. You need to stand up for yourself, or else its just going to keep happening, and its going to make you even more hurt. Speak up, it can't hurt.
Theres no shame in being a bisexual, lesbian, or gay. We are all human beings, and need to be treated that way. I'm sorry to hear your friends arent treating you the way you deserve. Talk to them. Don't hint. Just come right out and say it.
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Tell them that if they are truly friends, they wouldnt care what your sexual orientation is. I may be wrong but Im thinking that you might not say very much to them about this. You need to be firm and serious and say to both of them "Look im sick and tired of you two acting this way. Either grow up and accept me for who I am, or leave me the hell alone because Im not dealing with it anymore. As I said, if they are really friends (or a good boyfriend) they will cut it out. If not, move on and find better people to occupy your time because theyre just not worth it.
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I agree with the below. Being bisexual (or any sexual orientation) is not a temporary thing. Which means your relationship with this dick definitely is.
I'm guessing bigsissy is a friend. Bring it up. Tell her that you are what you are and she can stop bringing it up as a negative or you won't be spending much time around her anymore. And get a sleeping bag so you can hang out on the floor if you spend the night.
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Unfortunately, not everyone understands different orientations but there own. They are being very immature, and un supportive of you. It's not like you being bi that you have to be with a girl and boy at the same time, so try to make your boyfriend understand that. And as for your sister, you need to let her know just how you feel about her being rude about it. In all honesty, if I was in your situation i'd kick the boyfriend to the curb, but its your decision and your life. Good Luck, hope I helped.
-Brina
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sounds like they need to grow up. you can't force tollerance. the more you put up with it and don't make a huge deal out of their rudeness the more it'll die down. it's like in elementary school where the more you get upset the more youg et bullied.
you need you love YOURSELF for who you are. if your bf really can't handle the way you are maybe you need to handle it head on.
lucie
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