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Is it normal to feel slightly high after been eaten out ?
I would say yes especially if you orgasm. The endorphins from the orgasm are going to last longer than the orgasm itself so relax your normal.
Which gay church should I join?
You really need to supply more information for any of us to try and answer your question. Information on both Churches such as what you like and don't like about them would be needed to assist you in making a decision.
Hi! I'm a 13 year old girl in Year 9/9th Grade. It's coming up tovmy options now and I really want to be a Primary School teacher. I love kids and really want to give them the best starts in life.
But, the problem is, nobody wants to support me and always has to be a complete a** whenever they can about it. Not even my dad! Because he's a police officer, he thinks he's all high and mighty and below all other people. Please bear in mind that he has treated me like a trophy all my life, think of the embarrassment he would have to endure if I became a Primary School teacher! That was sarcasm by the way...
My friends all want to become doctors, vets and lawyers and always say that that is where all the failures end up. After all 'those who can't do, teach. And those who can't teach, teach at Primary.' Again, sarcasm.
But I really want to do this! I get straight A's in Year 9 and it's just over a quarter of the way through the year. I believe I can do it but everybody hates my decisions and always have to bring me down about it. It is actually starting to make me feel depressed now.
Any advice? Thanks in advance.
I'm not sure I know exactly how you feel when everyone is against your career choice. I do know my father could not fathom my choice of becoming a member of our towns volunteer fire department and later he never understood why his grandson became a Paramedic/Firefighter.
What I can do is tell you what I have told others and what I have told my son. When choosing a career chose one that will make you happy. One that will make you eager to get out of bed in the morning, not one that will just make you rich. Money doesn't buy happiness.
Being a teacher, a doctor a lawyer or even a firefighter all are honorable professions. They are all good honest jobs and all have a place in our society. It takes a special kind of person to be anyone of these people and to try and force yourself to be anyone of these people because others think you should be is wrong.
Generally I try to find away to arbitrate in a situation like this though in this case you father is wrong. I don't have a problem with him treating you as a trophy; most fathers are that way with daughters. Most fathers see their daughters as their little girls even when they are all grown up and have families of their own.
Teaching is one of the most important professions we have. Teachers mold our future by teaching our future leaders. If this is the profession you want then go for it. Talk to your guidance counselor at school and arrange for the proper course to get into a teaching college.
Please what can I use to add more weight
If you're asking how to gain more body weight there is more information needed before this question can be answered.
The most likely answer will be that you will need to see your doctor. Most people have a problem losing weight because they overeat. There is a small percentage of people who can eat like a horse and never gain a pound. This has very much to do with how they metabolize the food they eat.
If you are grossly underweight then you need to speak with your doctor and most likely a specialist who deals with the metabolism to help you gain weight. Though if your are in all other ways healthy and your doctor is not concerned then I would listen to your doctor.
At some point in your life your metabolism will slow and you will be asking for a good diet.
I'm not here to judge anyone by their response but how many parents believe in smacking their children on the butt with a belt or paddle when they're bad? Growing up I had this done to me and always wondered if it's right or not and where other people stand on this issue.
In the very technical sense if you spank your child with anything but your hand you are committing felony Child abuse in just about every state in the U.S. Spankings in general are considered Corporal punishment.
Definition of Corporal Punishment: Corporal punishment is a form of physical punishment that involves the deliberate infliction of pain as retribution for an offence, or for the purpose of disciplining or reforming a wrongdoer, or to deter attitudes or behavior deemed unacceptable. The term usually refers to methodically striking the offender with the open hand or with an implement, whether in judicial, domestic, or educational settings.
Most parents today do not resort to corporal punishment as a means of punishment or corrective action with their children. Today's parents use "Time Outs", take away toys" "Suspend privileges," or use methods other than spanking such as assigning extra chores.
When parents spank it is usually done in the heat of anger and more harm is inflicted then may be intended or even warranted for the transgression. Use of a belt or paddle will definitely inflict more harm and pain them a hand will. Saying to the child this is going to hurt me more than it does you means nothing to the child or saying I do this because I love you means even less.
You were spanked as a child and wonder if it is right or wrong? Why are you asking this question? What affect has those spanking had on you? Do you think there is a better way to raise your children and teach them to behave as well as right from wrong?
Just because this is how your parents raised you does not mean it is right? Your question says that the spankings have left some type of lasting effect on you one that makes you question the effectiveness of spankings. I can't give you the answer as to whether spankings are right or wrong, it was wrong for me, I never spanked my child. I have posed questions to you that should help you decide if spankings are right or wrong for you to use in disappointing your child(ren)
M 16
Hey,
I practice my innstruments for about 4 hrs. a day. My guitar for an hour, my bass for 2 and my key boards for an hr. Playing music is what I love to do more than anything, but I've noticed in the past month after I practice my wrist really hurt. I get like this peorcing pain in and my arms grow numb and weaker than normal. My freinds say I may need to cut back on my playing time alot. And mabey take a break. I really don't want to I love playing music more than anything in the world. Dose some one know any way to releive these symptoms. My wrists are still hurting and the last time I played was more than 3 hrs. ago.
You need to see an Orthopedic surgeon. Don't let the word surgeon scare you most all doctors two practice in Orthopedics are surgeons as these are the doctors that repair broken bones, joints and other problems with muscles that attach to limbs.
I'm suggesting going straight to the specialist and skipping the family practice doctor specifically because I am not a doctor but I suspect some type of skeletal problem that can be masked with pain pill but not fixed with physical therapy. Which is generally the direction the family practice doctors take with this type of complaint.
A Board Certified Orthopedic Surgeon is who you want to see as a Board Certified Doctor in a specialty has had specific training in this specialty. Surgery is the last option they want to use. While I'm not a doctor your complain bothers me as it is not typical of a carpal tunnel complain, at least not ones I have heard about.
My recommendation is you see a Board Certified Orthopedic Surgeon as soon as possible. Until them I would cut way back on your practice time to help[ relieve the pain you suffer. IF you do not know an orthopedic surgeon call your local hospital patient referral line for a referral and assistance in making the first appointment. Ask at that time what they recommend as an over the counter pain medication you could take until you see the doctor.
what do I do when a person u meet online and made a mistake by sending them naked pictures and thereafter I choose not to anymore and the person exposes me and then contact my other friends online and ask do they know me and send naked pictures of me to them. what should I do and how should I stop this person
You most certainly have the right to file a criminal complaint against who ever is doing this. If you happen to be under 18 they are guilty of distributing child pornography. A felony in all 50 states, most countries of the world and a federal crime as well because of the use of the internet.
It matters not whether they are an adult or a juvenile themselves they can and will be prosecuted for the distribution of child pornography. Several juveniles in several states in the past year have found this out the hard way as they are now in jail until they are 21 for doing so.
For those juveniles engaged in such action they may feel it is nothing more than a prank and being a juvenile themselves will protect them. In the eyes of the law it is not a prank and their age does not protect them.
From what you have written you may also have a charge of blackmail against this person if they said send more pictures or I will send what I have to your friends or words to that effect.
Your options here are to file a police report or to threaten to file a police report if this person does distribute your picture or to file a police report if they have distributed the picture. My advice is to tell your parents if you are under 18 and to file a police report and let the police handle it.
I am a 18 year old girl from Bangladesh. I am not a virgin.I do hav sex 3times a month. I have period bt not in time and whenever I jump and walk alot drop of blood comes out from my birth canal what should I do? Am I suffering from prolapsed uterus?
We are not doctors and cannot make a medical diagnoses. The problem you have written about and the question you ask require a doctors examination to answer. I will say this that what you have written is not normal and you should see a gynecologist or go to the nearest hospital emergency room.
Hyy...this is a girl...who was a fun loving grl..of 17 BT still survives much harder...my dad has past last year and now my mom hates me alloott I know very well that my absence and my presence dosnt make much differnce ...Im hated by evry family member BT luved by my friends BT bearing so long with my mom I m now tyrd destroyed fully so want to dei or leave or go smewhre far BT no money no courage no idea..BT want to leave fynally at NY how..where should I go what should I do...please help want to work I know much younger still want to stand on my legs if not suicide then...????
Until your 18 we really can't help you with were to go as legally parents are responsible for your health and safety until you turn 18. If you were to leave you would be considered a runaway and returned home until you turn 18.
Suicide is also not an answer it is the wrong solution to a temporary problem. What you need is professional help to fix what is wrong with your dysfunctional family and causing you to feel suicidal.
If you are felling suicidal then the quickest way to get help is to dial 911 and ask for help. All you need to tell the call taker is you are feeling suicidal and help will be sent to you.
There are a number of ways to get help for your problems. One way is to talk to a trusted teacher or your school principal. If you are unhappy at home or in a dysfunctional family you cannot do well at school. Once they know of a problem they must take action to correct it.
Another way is to call one of the hot lines I am giving you. The first is called "The Kids Help Phone" They specialize in problems relating to what kids your age face. Their number is 1-800-668-6868. The hot line is open 24/7 365 days a year.
The other is: The National Suicide Lifeline/ No matter what problems you are dealing with, they want to help you find a reason to keep living. By calling 1-800-273-TALK (8255) you’ll be connected to a skilled, trained counselor at a crisis center in your area, anytime 24/7.
should i have sex with a gay guy yes or no?
According to the information available to us you are male age around 19.
My questions to you are:
1. Do you consider yourself Gay, straight or bisexual.
2. Are you asking because you are bi-curious .
If you consider yourself straight and you're asking then you must be curious about a gay sexual relation or you think you have some type of feelings for this person.
It is okay for two people of the same sex to have a love type of relation for each other without having sex. IF you are bi-curious then having a sexual relation with someone you know and trust would be the better way to go.
I don't think it is right for us to say yes or no. What I will tell you is that there is nothing wrong with being gay. If you are gay this is something you would have known for some time almost since you became sexually aware back as being gay is how you are born not something you chose to be. Bi-curious on the other hand is it is believed a choice and not a product of genetics.
Ask yourself why you are asking this question and ask yourself how you consider your sexuality to be. When you have the answers to the two questions you will have the answer to your question.
I finally passed the preassessment test and I am optimistic I will get call for an interview. What can I expect on interview day?
Congratulations. Now when you get called for the interview try to put yourself at ease and when answering questions look at the interviewer, make eye contact. This is important especially for jobs dealing with the public.
Now when dressing for the interview. Leave your watch at home or put it in your purse. Biggest mistake people make in an interview is constantly looking at their watch. Next dress appropriately. Proper dress would be a nice pair of slacks or skirt with a blouse or polo shirt. NO flip flops or tennis shoes. A clean and polished pair of flats or low heels is appropriate. Your hair should be however you would normally wear it for work and just a touch of makeup such as lip gloss and lite eye liner.
Try to remember how you answered the questions on the assessment test for they are likely to ask them again. Wait for the interviewer to finish the question before you answer do not anticipate the question. If you're not sure what they are asking in the question ask for clarification.
One question always asked by most interviewers is where do you see yourself with us in 5 years. This question can be expected if you are applying for one of their full time positions.
For companies like Wal-Mart full time employees are the ones that are most likely going to be looked at to become department manages, assistant store managers and eventually store managers. If this is what you want then have a good answer ready.
Most important is to try and relax no one is going to bite you.
hey someone please help..i am a virgin who was fingered just the other day..when my boyfriend did that i felt so good..two hours later i started having stomach pains till now like seven hours later. am in so much pain. is it normal to have such pains? my lower stomach really hurts
The two are not related. IF you were going to feel pain from being fingered you would have felt it from the beginning or it would have built up while he was fingering you. It would not have been a pleasant experience for you if it was painful.
Two possible problems could be in play one related to being fingered the just coincidental.
1) IT is very possible you have contracted a stomach virus or eaten something that has not agreed with you. Since it is hard to judge someone else's pain we use a pain line to judge starting at 1 being little or no pain and going to 10 being the worst pain you have ever felt in your life. Based on the number you give a doctor, EMT or Paramedic can judge how much pain your in.
I usually suggest when given a score of 5 or more that the patient see their doctor or we take them patient to the emergency room to be checked out as a score of 5 is considered significant pain.
2)You haven't given your age but I am guessing you are a young teenager age 13 to 15. Your pain is real but brought on sort of self inflicted. Doctors would call it psychosomatic pain brought on over stress or worry. In your case it may be a form of remorse for allowing your boyfriend to finger you. There is no reason to be remorseful.
If the pain gets worse or does not let up soon then it is time to see a doctor.
Hi Im a girl who's attracted to my boss. Im 22years old. I dont know if its crazy but I dont know if he's also attracted to me. Not to mention he's married.. He keep on staring of me. But I always break thr tension coz im too shy too look back. But I always saw him staring at me. One time I told my self not to look at him. But i cant coz he keep on wawalking in front of me. He still keep on staring at me. And then ine time his wife came at work. But I dont know why he have to look at me while he's with he's wife? Is he trying to check how am I going to react? But before then we used to talk. He's approaching me. But I dont really into talk. They told me that he might thought that I shut him down. Or what thats why he's not talking that much to me anymore he just keeping staring at me like im melting.. I just wanna ask is he attracted to me also even tho he's married? Or Im just assuming coz I like him..
The possibility that your boss likes you is there I really can't say as you have not supplied enough information to give you a definitive answer. There are a whole host of other reasons he may be looking at you as well.
The biggest reason for a supervisor to look at someone is:
1)To makes sure they are working and giving a productive days work.
2) You may remind him of someone, which could be good or bad depending on how he feels about that person.
3) You must be very pretty and you may dress very nicely. Just because he is married does not mean he does not appreciate a pretty girl. He is married not dead. My wife told me the day I was married it was okay to look but I could not reorder. This may be all he is doing.
The thing is that he is married and you should not encourage him in any way. If he does try to start an affair with you then you should do everything to discourage him. Just think of how you would feel some day if you were married and some woman made a play for your husband. It is just a bad situation to be in.
Hey, so I'm a 13 year old girl... I recently went to the doctor about depression... I'm going to get two types of counciling, but she hasn't scheduled an appointment for me yet... I tried this thing where you wrap a hairband around your wrist and flick it, it was fine ... More of a distraction and I could control when I wanted to stop or start, I didn't like the fact that it left red marks on my arms though... Two of my friends cut (that I know of) and I thought that it would be an okay idea to experiment, so I cut my leg multiple times, not deep or long... Just a scrape to draw a little blood... I know I have problems, and I'm not going to do this again (despite the fact that I want to). The two friends that I've mentioned know about this, and promised not to tell anyone unless it got really serious. I feel terrible because I promised my mum that I would never self harm- and I feel ashamed and I don't want to burden her with any more problems (she already has enough to deal with), the depression was hard enough to tell her about... I just don't know whether I should tell someone and I'm scared and lost and I feel alone... I was stupid I know, but I don't know what to do... Please someone tell me what to do, and don't bother asking why I did this- that is confidentual... Thanks, lea wills xxx
Lea,
I suffered from depression well into my adult years and never realized it as it was I guess you could say my normal. When I was finally diagnosed and given medication I was surprised and yes even more depressed when after a few days nothing happened, I was still they way I always was. I believe this is where you are at now.
The medication takes from three to four weeks to build up in your body before you will start to feel any different. Then slowly day by day the cloud, as I call it, of depression will lift and things will actually feel different. You dill feel different you will see things differently.
The medication replaces hormones that are either missing or in insufficient quantity to allow you to control yourself from getting more than what is considered normally depressed. Everyone gets depressed from time to time. Those of us that suffer from depression get deeper into a depression and have a hard time if at all getting out of a depressive state. This is what the medication does.
The therapy is to help you understand what brings you down and to recognize what triggers your depression and how to handle it by first discovering the trigger or triggers. This means you have to very open and trusting of the therapist most likely a psychologist. This is the person who is your new best friend that you can tell your deepest secrets too knowing they will never get leave that room. Everything you say in therapy is confidential. Not even your parents can be told.
When your therapist talks to your parents it is to tell them what the need or can do to help you between therapy visits. Of course what they are told to do to help you is based on what is learned during your therapy but never is what is said in anyway communicated to your parents.
The other therapist is most likely a psychiatrist who is a medical doctor who has written the prescriptions for your medications. You visits with this doctor are what is called MED checks. A chance for the doctor to evaluate if the medicine is helping and if necessary adjust your medication. Your family doctor has most likely referred you to the psychiatrist for medication as, no you not crazy, the chemicals you're lacking which are actually hormones are secreted into your brain. This makes the psychiatrist the most qualified doctor to prescribe medication for you.
This was how I was treated. My depression is now a thing of the past and I am a much happier person. Please don't try cutting again or anything else or worse. IF you feel you need to do something tell your mom or dad. If you are feel like hurting yourself call 911 that is what they are their for.
Hang in there give the medication time to work. You will feel better soon.
24/f. My mom has been emotionally and psychologically abusing me for as long as I can remember. Because she is a narcissist, no one believes me in my family. First and foremost, I can't report emotional/psychological abuse to the police. However, it has affected me a great deal and has put my mental health in danger. She has stolen my identity, which could ideally put her bind bars for some time. But, if I did that, no one in my entire family would speak to me. My mom has BIG issues and I don't think jail is the answer. She needs to go to therapy. She needs to be forced to go to therapy. I have one family member, my cousin, who believes me. She's only 11 and she says that my mother is unstable and that she would consider the way she treats me as emotional abuse. I don't live completely at home. I have an apartment about 30 minutes away. However, I do come back home to see my grandparents, pets, and my niece and nephew. However, my mom does not stop calling me. She calls at all hours and told me that she has a tracker on my phone to see where I am. EVERYTHING is a problem for her. She is a stalker. The other day, I was at CHURCH and she said that she wanted me to leave immediately and that she was angry. Then, she made up some story saying she "KNEW" that I was with someone and just didn't want to come see her. I am not willing to speak to her until she gets therapy. However, she is dangerous, it seems. She is scary. She'll make threats like she is going to hurt herself. Pretty soon, my family will come knocking on my door dragging me out telling me that I have to come see her that I'm the wrong one for whatever I did. I want to go off the grid with the condition that my mom gets the help she needs, and my family, for the most part, gets help too. I am tired of being in such a dysfunctional circle. It has ruined my relationships, friendships, and even my jobs. These people are intense. If I don't answer, they WILL come find me. My dad is the commander of the city and he has trackers and will find me in a second. There has to be a way that I can do this legally... like literally go off the grid, be able to continue my studies online, and her to be told that she can't see me until she goes to therapy... like maybe some kind of restraining order. i don't know. Please help!
You do have a problem. As far as forcing your mother into therapy goes it is like leading a horse to water. You can do so but you can't make them drink.
If your mother is a danger to herself and others you can report her to the police. The police can remand her on a mandatory 72 hour hold for evaluation if they agree she is a danger to herself and others for a psychological evaluation. To be held longer against her will two doctors would have to agree that she is a danger to herself and others.
You say your father is "the commander of the city." This is a term I am not familiar with unless you mean he is the Police Commander, Chief or commissioner of Police. If he is one of these and he uses his office to track or stalk you he can lose his job as it is illegal to use these powers for personal use or gain. Everyone has someone they report to or who supervises them especially those in public office. All you need to do is file a complaint or if you cannot find who supervises him; call the local television station and talk to the legal line reporter. Your story about your father using his office to stalk you sounds like just the story they would want to run with. You are an adult responsible for yourself and to yourself not to your mother or father.
There are Apps that can be put on your phone to track someone with. Go to a phone store and explain what you believe is happening with your phone. Have it turned off and buy a new phone with a new number and new ESN card. Do not transfer anything from your old phone and DO NOT BE ON A PLAN WITH YOUR PARENTS. GET YOUR ON PLAN. When you are with your parents either leave your phone at home or in your car. If your parents have keys to your car get the locks changed.
It is almost impossible these days to get totally of the grid. If you are on social media you can block them from seeing you and what you write though they can find you they just cannot find out much about you. You can make a concerted effort to stay away from them but you can't keep them from coming and pounding on your door. You can move to a new apartment but eventually they will find you if you stay in the same area.
Your options here are limited. You can move to a new city. If you do, do not register to vote, tell the utility companies not to sell your name to advertisers, take out restraining orders against those that you feel may harm you. You can do all of this though in today's electronic but you cannot totally get off the grid unless you are going to live as a hermit in a cave in the mountains.
What you have to do is stand up for yourself. If mom stole your identity you have to tell her this is intolerable, you have the proof and dad cannot keep her out of jail. Use this as leverage to get her to back off. I'm not sure what the statute of limitation is for this crime though about 7 to 10 years is the norm. Meaning you have 7 to 10 years to bring charges or in your case to use this as leverage.
As for other family member they cannot drag you, an adult person, from your home if you do not want to go with them. It is at the very least Assault at most KIDNAPPING. You can file charges against them or take out a restraining order against them. In other words there are remedies for you at law regardless of your father’s standing in the community. As an adult he cannot infringe on you constitutional civil rights any more than I can. He can try to threaten you and as his daughter you might yield to those threats. Threatening you is also illegal for him for legally it is considered Assault a criminal act for which he could go to jail.
In short what I'm telling you to do is to stand up for yourself; if you need an advocate then engage a lawyer. There is remedy at law for everything you have written and your father’s position within the community cannot stop you from accessing those remedies. You do not have to go off the grid to feel safe you just have to remember you are no longer a child and you have a right to live your own life. If infringed upon by anyone including your parents use the remedies at law to protect yourself.
I hope I have helped you.
I'm sorry in advance if this is kind of long, I want to put as much detail as possible to get the right answers. My last period started november 28,2014 and ended december 5, 2014. so i was sure that i should start my period around january 5. I have the my days app. and the last few months i start my period around the last day of my last period. and it says on the app i should have started january 8. so friday january 16, 2015 i was about a week late so i took a pregnancy test and i got a faint positive and my sister saw it so i have someone else who also saw it besides just myself. so my sister and i decided that we would go get a pregnancy verification on monday. so sunday january 18, 2015 i took a second test just to be sure again and there was still a little faint positive line. so monday january 19, 2015 (today) we went to a clinic to get the verification and i took 2 tests there because i told the lady i had got two faint lines, but now the tests were showing negative. and so she gave me a test to take home so i can retake it again tomorrow or whenever. i was googling why that would happen and there was alot of people talking about a chemical pregnancy and so i am wondering if thats what i experienced. i had a miscarriage 2 years ago. but havent been pregnant or had a child since then. my other question is should i retake it in a day or should i wait another week before i take the test in case this is just me being too early. thankyou in advance for anyone who answers this. :)
The home pregnancy test are not 100% accurate. When you receive two positives you should go and have a blood test or what back in the day was called the Rabbit test. This is the only true test for pregnancy and yes even they have been known to be false which is why most GYN's will follow up with an internal Sonogram.
If on the home pregnancy test you receive two negative test this will generally mean you are not pregnant. If you miss your next period then a visit to your GYN is required.
My advice at this time is to visit your GYN for a clinical pregnancy test and an examination by your GYN.
Hi guys, I'm 20 and female and the guy is 22. This may seem silly to some of you guys and a lot of you are probably going to just answer and tell me to suck it up and talk to him but if you don't know what it's like to be shy then please don't just assume that I can bite the bullet and tell him that I like him and we live happily ever after.
Although, I should probably start at the beginning. I work at a grocery store and when I started back in June of 2012, I had this supervisor that I thought was so cute.The only talking we would ever really do is when I first began running a register, he was the one that trained me and then when he thought I was good to be on my own, he would let me run on his numbers and then we would only talk when I needed his help to override things or just answer a question/deal with a customer. He has since moved to a supervisor position still in the front end but not over the cashiers. Then has moved, yet again, to a supervisor position of another department completely. I still see him when he comes to the front to get food or drinks on his break or when I go back to my locker, I pass by him stocking things. Now, I've always thought he was cute but it was kinda one of those things that it's nice to think about but I knew that it was never going to happen because he was a friend of my brother's and I work with him and we never really talked, that kinda thing.
Well, fast forward to just last night, my brother is away in Manhattan right now, watching his favorite band in concert. He went with his girlfriend's brother, so his girlfriend was out at the bar last night with my supervisor. My brother's girlfriend and I talk, we're cool with each other but we don't text often. So, when she texted me last night and said she was at the bar, I had only assumed she needed a ride home or something. But she continued in saying that she was at the bar with my supervisor - I could tell she was pretty tipsy in how she was texting me - and she texted me and told me that she had told him how cute I thought he was and he told her that was good because he thinks I'm cute. So I texted her back and told her that she needed to tell him that he should probably talk to me more at work. She texted me back and said she told him to talk to me more because I'm shy and he told her that he is too. So he never talked to me because he didn't like me.. he never talked to me because he thinks I'm cute and he's shy around me which is exactly why I'm shy around him. And it's not even like he's just quiet at work because, like I said, he's friends with my brother and my brother had a party at his house one night and we were both there, my supervisor's band played around and we still didn't even talk that night after we were out of the work environment and he had a few drinks in him.
Which begs the question, how do two shy people get together? Like I said, we're in different departments now so it's not like he's always around to chat with, I only see him when I'm working self checkout and he gets something and walks by when he's done, we smile and I tell him to have a good night but that's about the gist of it. Again, please do not just tell me to talk to him. Especially now that we both know the other one is cute, I honestly think we'll be more weird around each other. Plus we've worked together for almost two years and barely spoke, I can't just walk right up to him now and tell him all about my life and ask about his. But I'm also not sure if he's going to try to talk to me now that he knows I think he's cute but if he doesn't, I want to get the ball rolling here but not in an outlandish way because I'm not an exuberant person, I cannot and will not just walk right up to him and do something out of my box. Can you other shy girls help me out here? I know you guys know where I'm coming from. Thanks.
I know exactly how you feel for I'm the shy guy who is even more shy around girls or I was until I met my wife. We ,like you, worked for the same company at different locations. Part of our jobs had us talking to each other over the phone many times each day. Then I had to go to her office for training and we met face to face. We introduced ourselves and that was about it.
Her lunch break was at the same time the training class was or she arranged it to be, she has never in 44 years told me. I worked at the airport and was use to getting lunch in the cafeteria and expected to be able to at least go out to a café or deli and buy a sandwich so I did not bring anything. Our lunch break was to short to allow me to go out of the building so I bought a sandwich out of the machine.
Seeing what I had bought for lunch she told me not to eat it as it was probably months old. She shared her lunch with me and told me she would bring a sandwich for me the next day. After work we went out for drinks and we have not been apart since.
There are many things you can do to break the ice with him.
1. If he is friends with your girlfriend maybe she can set you to up on a date?
2. You work in a grocery store; find out when his birthday is or when his work anniversary is. If one of the dates is close have a small cake made to celebrate it and have your lunch break with his and present him with the cake.
3. Since you know he is interested and you do know each other. Gather up your courage and invite him to dinner. I know this one is a stretch for you but it just may be worth it. The worst that can happen is that he is to shy to accept but I don't think that will happen if he is otherwise not attached.
Someone has to break the ice between you two. If you cannot find a friend or co-worker to do that for you. Then one of you has to take the bull by the horns and break the ice between you. As I told my son when he was growing up the biggest fear is the fear of the unknown. Once you know that fear is gone.
As I said I too am or was a basically shy and introverted person. Would you like to guess how I made my living? I made my living and excelled generally at the top or in the top 5 to 10 in the company as a Sales Representative for a National and International Company selling to the Wholesale Trades Industry.
It was a stretch for me at first though as I said the fear was the unknown. Once I conquered the unknown I got comfortable with what I was doing.
I'm telling you this in the spirit of a Dutch Uncle. If you don't understand the expression a Dutch Uncle is someone who is offering something to you in the same spirit a relative would but is not a relative. In other words if you were my daughter I would give you the same advice.
I am in the process of looking for a job and I would like to work at Wal-Mart but I failed the pre assessment test twice. The question involves basically your opinion so I don't understand how I keep failing. Any tips ?
We really need to know what the context of the question is. What opinion of YOURS are they asking about? Are they asking your opinion of Wal-Mart or something else?
When being asked your opinion of anything there is really no right or wrong answer just one that others may not agree with. For example what is your opinion of Wal-Mart.
My opinion of Wal-Mart is they are a huge National and International corporation operating Big Box Discount Retail Stores. They employ thousands of part-time workers for wages that are at or just above minimum wage. The stores are merchandised to appeal to the lower income population of the area the stores are located in. While the advertising may show a clean store with happy employees my local Wal-Mart is far from what is shown in the televised ad.
Now that opinion would not get me a job at Wal-Mart but it is my opinion. Whatever you do if you do not write back and put this question to us in context. Do not make something up that you feel will meet with their approval. For after the test there will be an interview and you will be asked this question again and you will not remember what you wrote on the test.
My best friends mom is super strict, like she is now making my friend pay rent and for food when she can't even get a job yet, and her mom doesn't care. It doesn't even seem like she loves her at all. She just wants her to clean the house all the time. My friend is 16, and when she tells me about all the fights she has with her mom, I never know what to say except that I'm sorry and how unfair it is. Does anyone have any ideas on how i can help her?
What strikes me as odd is your friends mother asking her to pay for rent and food. This is morally and legally wrong. By law until a child is 18 years of age a parent is responsible to supply the basic necessities of life. These include but are not limited to; a clean warm and dry place to live, food, clean and serviceable clothing and proper health and dental care. Parents are also required by law to see to it that their children attend school either public, private or are homeschooled.
Are there any exceptions to these laws. Not really, though if the family is having financial trouble and a child is 16 or over that child can have an after school job. The money that child earns is theirs though they can if they wish use their earnings to help the family with groceries or pay a utility bill.
Is there anything you can do about this to help your friend? Yes there is but first make darn sure of your facts.
1. Tell your friend to talk to a trusted teacher or the school principal about her home life. The teacher or principal when hearing about what you have written about must contact the appropriate agencies to help her.
2. You can also talk to a trusted teacher or your school principal about what your friend is telling you. Then they will talk to her and make the appropriate notifications.
3. Talk to your parents about what your friend is telling you. Having your friend clean the house is not wrong. Having her pay rent for room and board is borderline child abuse as it violates what a parent is required to do under the law. The appropriate action you and your parents can take would be to call the Police and make a police report or call Child Protective Services. CPS will visit the home and see what is going on. If they feel it is necessary they can place your friend in a Foster home or with one of her relatives.
Child abuse and what you are telling us is serious which is why you need to confirm your facts. There may be more to this then your friend is telling you. You have every right to be concerned for your friend. I suggest you follow suggestion 3 and talk with your parents. If they agree then have them call the police and let them investigate.
If there is more to this than what your friend is telling you; suggestion 3 keeps you and the school out of it. The police and CPS will not reveal who made the complaint only that they have one and need to investigate.
So I know this is kind of weird but I like to have sex with my teddy bears. I don't take off my cloth but it still feels good. But after I do it I feel guilty. How do I stop doing it. Please help me
What you are doing is called Masturbation. According to a recent survey 85% of us masturbate. If there are four people in your home of the age of puberty or older; three out of the four masturbate, statistically speaking. Yes this means you parents do as well. Most of the time it is called mutual masturbation as it is done to each other as a part of foreplay prior to intercourse.
There is nothing wrong or evil about masturbation. It is a natural way for anyone to relieve the sexual tension that comes along when we become sexually aware at the start of puberty. Most people just use their hand or a vibrator. You have chosen to use a Teddy Bear. Some might say the Teddy Bear is a Fetish. A Fetish is defined as: "the sexual arousal a person receives from a physical object, or from a specific situation. The object or situation of interest is called the fetish."
Some people think fetishes are strange or weird; they are not. Anything that has to do with sex is not strange or weird provided there is enjoyment, that those that are participating have consented and do not get hurt by doing so. That is the first rule of sex.
Using your Teddy Bears' to masturbate with is not strange or weird if you are receiving pleasure. If you are there is no reason to stop and they will do until a real life partner comes along. This is another thing about masturbation. By relieving sexual tension it allows you to put off having sex until you’re an adult as sex as we know it really is an adult activity to be participated in by two loving and consensual adults.
One last thing about masturbation; you cannot become pregnant or make someone pregnant from Masturbation. Masturbation is the safest form of sex. So enjoy yourself you are not weird or need to stop.