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im attracted to my boss
Hi Im a girl who's attracted to my boss. Im 22years old. I dont know if its crazy but I dont know if he's also attracted to me. Not to mention he's married.. He keep on staring of me. But I always break thr tension coz im too shy too look back. But I always saw him staring at me. One time I told my self not to look at him. But i cant coz he keep on wawalking in front of me. He still keep on staring at me. And then ine time his wife came at work. But I dont know why he have to look at me while he's with he's wife? Is he trying to check how am I going to react? But before then we used to talk. He's approaching me. But I dont really into talk. They told me that he might thought that I shut him down. Or what thats why he's not talking that much to me anymore he just keeping staring at me like im melting.. I just wanna ask is he attracted to me also even tho he's married? Or Im just assuming coz I like him..
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Dear girl who's attracted to your boss,
Be smart! It's in your best interests to nip this in the bud because there's no chance whatsoever that anything good can ever coming from this.
If you enter into a relationship with him, the only thing you'll get is sex and only when it's convenient for him. It's really playing with fire. If his wife becomes suspicious, you'll be out on the street in a New York minute.
Don't learn the hard way that "The other woman" seldom wins and when they do, they soon realize that he's no prize.
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The possibility that your boss likes you is there I really can't say as you have not supplied enough information to give you a definitive answer. There are a whole host of other reasons he may be looking at you as well.
The biggest reason for a supervisor to look at someone is:
1)To makes sure they are working and giving a productive days work.
2) You may remind him of someone, which could be good or bad depending on how he feels about that person.
3) You must be very pretty and you may dress very nicely. Just because he is married does not mean he does not appreciate a pretty girl. He is married not dead. My wife told me the day I was married it was okay to look but I could not reorder. This may be all he is doing.
The thing is that he is married and you should not encourage him in any way. If he does try to start an affair with you then you should do everything to discourage him. Just think of how you would feel some day if you were married and some woman made a play for your husband. It is just a bad situation to be in.
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Yeah i wouldnt mess with this, the guy might like you and you might like him but he is married. So for the respect of the wife dont touch him. He can talk to you all he wants but thats it. It would be wrong to take it any further without the wifes knowledge or consent.
Youll find your own guy soon, just stop focusing on him. ; )
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There is no way to give a definate yes or no answer. Now if you had asked is there a possibility he is attracted? Then I could answer yes because in the law of averages, there will always be a certain percent chance that he is. Now why does that matter to you. He cant do anything about it. He had to exercise self control to not go after every female he sees in his life just because it's an attraction. If you were to have sex with every guy you ever had some sort of response to their looks, then it would be dozens about dozens, maybe a couple hundred or more. That's how often you'll find a man attractive. I suggest you start thinking hard about what qualitys you see, or think you see in him that you like in a guy. Over time, form a map or recipe of the perfect guy for you, by keeping a journal or list. Memorize it and stick to it. You'll want one guy who has the many different qualities of many guys. You will want to focus on the most important requirement.
Now its not a crime to stare at someone like he does...but it is rude and bad manners. Do not get in the habit of seriously pining after a man who is married. Use what you like about him put to constructive use in the journal or list I mentioned. Dont waste time hoping he is lusting after your body. Because even if he was, he shouldn't do anything to scratch that itch. Hopefully he's the kind of guy who will exercise good choices and use personal self control.
I think it may be that in fact you crave more the attention, knowing a man wants to look at you and finds you sexually appealing. Teens and young women have a need to fulfill their desires for approvals and support, attention, preferences for you, from males. That is normal in females, and often they will look for it in the men in their lives. Too often females confuse this need of theirs with a need to be sexual with the male they lke for certain reasons. Thats where you get into trouble. Do not ask him anything like if he's attracted to you. Thats asking for trouble. Assume all you want, fantasize in your mind at night if you must by leave married men and commited guys in relationships alone.
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