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How to not lead a guy on
This guy likes me and keeps talking to me and I want to make sure I'm not accidently flirting with him. Can you tell what not to do? Thanks
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As a guy who has felt led on before, let me tell you one simple thing. A lot of us guys see things in a different way than girls and as such a lot of us have a hard time reading signals you may or may not be giving.
It is not uncommon for a guy to think a girl is into him when she really is just being nice or enjoying his company as a friend.
This being the case, in my opinion, the best policy is to be direct.
Let me be clear. That doesn't mean you have to be mean about it. Just let him down gently.
And if you are worried about hurting his feelings, trust me, we'd rather be told early on than find out later, that's always harder for everyone.
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More to the point is why you are concerned about leading him on...is it that he's into you but you are not interested in him as a romantic prospect, just a friend. Or perhaps you are not even interested in him as a friend? What would you do if some girl kept talking to you and wanting to be girlfriends? Do you keep talking to her and act like you like her equally well as a person? Even if you don't? That is what I would call leading someone on. Making them think you feel one way when you feel the other because you don't have enough backbone to speak up. Flirting doesn't happen accidently if you don't like the person. It can happen subconsciously, your emotions are stored with the subconscious mind which will control your body language, facial expressions. I would not dress or make yourself look any different than usual as that has less to do with innocent flirting and more to do with serious seducing if you choose to wear something sexy and as one person mentioned, wearing the hair down.
If you are picking up by intuition that he is seriously into you and you aren't in return, then let him know up front that he seem to be a nice guy but you aren't feeling any chemistry with him either for friendship or anything more and that should take care of it.
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I'm a guy. Just don't talk to him for a bit, flirt with other guys around him, and definitely don't let your hair down. Trust me, although we never really tell girls this, we love long hair. I would like die for a girl who had hair like Rapunzel. just keep it up in a bob or something so he doesn't notice and don't wear too much makeup either. As guys, we notice a lot of makeup on girls, and again, we love it haha. just use those steps to get him out of your hair :)
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