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Dragonflymagic
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We've been friends for two months before we got together
When we got together, we were separated after two weeks
We are now 5000 miles apart
We always talk and text
We get to see each other only once a year
We love each other so much
Do you think it'll last? (link)
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Yes. Honestly I'm doing the same with my girlfriend, Azzy. We've been together for a few months. We haven't talked in a few months because of her phone being taken away and so I miss her more and more every day. I like to leave little jokes and stuff in our chats though, so when she sees then, she'll be happy :) I love her so much, and I promise you your love will last to, you just have to be patient :)
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Personally, I have been very miserable all of my life. I have suffered from OCD as long as I can remember. I moved from New York to Florida when I was five years old. It was very traumatic for me. I have tried to commit suicide, but I just ended up in a mental institution. I do see a psychiatrist, but she does not help me. In fact, I only see her for the medication. I am absolutely miserable right now, especially with my job. I decided that I will no longer give any types of hints about suicide because I don't want to end up in a mental institution again. That did nothing to help me. I am going through preparations (getting my house ready, cleaning, trying to pay off bills). (link)
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Just breathe
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Hello,
My boyfriend and I are 17 and 18 years old. We started a long distance relationship a little over six months ago. Back then, I was still a virgin and he knew that. However, a few months ago I cheated on him and lost my virginity to a guy I honestly had no feelings for. I was completely aware of what I was doing and I did it because I really just wanted to get it over with. I made sure there were no feelings attached. Now, the guy still chases after me, but I want no business with him, or any other guy rather than my boyfriend. I love him to death and really have no trouble remaining faithful. I realized it wasn't worth it and he's truly the only guy I ever want to be with. However, I know that he'll want to break up with me and his heart will be completely shattered if he knows. He keeps talking about how magical he wants my first time to be once we finally see each other again. And I believe it will be magical because it'll be with him. I don't want to lose him, but I do think he needs to know. I also don't think it's any conversation to have via phone/text/video. A close friend told me not to say anything '"cause there's no point". I know if we were in the same time zone it'd be easier to confess and try to win his trust back, but I have a serious disadvantage by not being able to daily demonstrate my true feelings towards him. I've thought of telling him in the far future, once we're living together, but I don't know how he'll feel about it after such a long time...
Also, I'm actually kind of glad I did it only because it was extremely painful, and he wasn't the one who caused that terrible experience. The guy was gentle, so it would've been bad either way. Should I tell him when we finally meet again? If so, should I do it as soon as possible, or do I give it some time? If I do choose to tell him, I know I probably shouldn't have sex with him until he's known, but I'm terribly scared of ruining the possibility of a future with him.
I'd appreciate any thoughts and advice,
Thank you. (link)
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Look, this is coming from a guy here. You need to wait till you see him to tell him, cause telling him by text or even phone call will hurt him, bad. Listen, although us guys don't talk about it much, we get really hurt when stuff like this happens, so bad we can't even let it out of our system. I know you're good at heart, I can tell by how honest you are, but trust me, if he loves you as much, he'll learn to accept what you've done, and move past the situation. What I'm trying to say here is, at least Skype him when you tell him, and make sure you tell him soon, because waiting will just be adding more trouble to him, you, AND your relationship. He'll understand eventually. And listen, he will get hurt when you tell him this, even the slightest bit, there's just no way around that, but he will get better, and if he's that good of a guy, he'll love you no matter what. Hope this helps.
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For the past 4 months, I've been attracted to a guy and it seems like it's correspondent. I mean, I pretty much always catch him looking in my direction and I've caught him staring at me loads of times. He acts different around me and I'm not sure if it's because I piss him off or because he has a crush on me back. Could somebody possibly answer this. Another thing I want to mention about the glances is that yesterday I was in a room and he was in a room within that room and my friend said he probably just went there to observe me because she caught him staring at me and they made eye contact. I want to start talking to him because he's like my type: funny, incredibly smart, nice and you know, he has a nice face. The next time I make eye contact I'll try to smile at him but I'm not sure if that'll be enough. I really, really feel that it's going to work out between us (and my gut is like almost always right) but I don't know how if we barely talk. Can somebody give me some advice?? (link)
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OK, GOOD NEWS! He definitely likes you, a lot if he keeps staring at you the way he does. This is advice from a guy btw so I know this stuff XD. If you smile, it'll only make him like you more. Here's some tips! 1. Wink,smile,swirl and twist your hair a lot, this drives guys crazy for girls. 2. Don't wear buns! Ponytails are fine, but guys really love long hair. Honestly I'd die for a girl who has hair like rapunzel XD. Just keep it down sometimes. Also wavy hair is AMAZING. 3. Talk to him! Look don't try to ignore him to get your attention. Ok yes... It works, but what's the point if you're to shy to talk to him! 4. Be who you are! A lot of girls act different than who they are, but it kinda turns guys off. Just be yourself like be weird and spontaneous! That makes you stand out and definitely makes him want you even more! Hope this helps! :)
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Okay, so I like this guy in my friend group and I have for a long time now. We talk all the time, we text pretty often. He also asks to skype me. We used to skype like in a group, but the other night he asked if I wanted to skype. We skyped for like 2 and a half hours, then I had to go to bed and he texted me after we got off skype. I don't know what this means, like does he just enjoy talking to me as friends or does he like me as something more?
Oh, by the way I am 15, almost 16 year old girl. (link)
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Trust me, I'm a guy. He definitely likes you! if he keeps this up, you have to keep up the flirts if you like him too. Here are some pointers 1. text him with emoticons: guys love it when girls use emoticons on their texts, otherwise we think you are bothered or too serious and it really frustrates us. 2. keep your hair down: I don't know if you have long hair or not, but if you do, let it flow down. Guys go CRAZY for long hair, especially with makeup, we love that too haha, don't keep your hair up in like a bob or a ponytail or something like that for too long around him. 3. Don't go too forward in: guys realy like girls, but get freaked ut when girls go to quickly with "liking" people and stuff like that. It messes with our head a lot and just creates drama. 4. cuddle, poke, FLIRT: guys LOVE it when girls like nudge, poke, or cuddle up next to them. It makes us feel like... it's just hard to explain haha. It's just a REALLY awesome feeling inside us. I hope I helped :)
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should i have sex with a gay guy yes or no? (link)
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sure I mean, if you like him, but why would a gay guy want sex with a girl?
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This guy likes me and keeps talking to me and I want to make sure I'm not accidently flirting with him. Can you tell what not to do? Thanks
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I'm a guy. Just don't talk to him for a bit, flirt with other guys around him, and definitely don't let your hair down. Trust me, although we never really tell girls this, we love long hair. I would like die for a girl who had hair like Rapunzel. just keep it up in a bob or something so he doesn't notice and don't wear too much makeup either. As guys, we notice a lot of makeup on girls, and again, we love it haha. just use those steps to get him out of your hair :)
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well i have this one best friend who doesnt like my other best friend and i dont like my on best friend sometimes but i act like i dont like one best friend when i am around another and vise versa so i need help what should i do i mean it i need help! (link)
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Play it safe :) let them talk it out before anything else goes wrong. Trust me, this will work :)
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ok so i have this guy i like and i want to tell him i like him and i want it to be me to tell him not anyone else and once somone else told him and i said it was just a rumor but i still want to tell him and i have already told the girl who is dating him i like him and she is my best friend so she hasnt told anyone and she isnt mad and i also want help the guy i like is saying i am using blank (his girlfriend) as a decoy untill somone prettyer comes what should i do about all of this!? (link)
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DON'T. Take this from a guy, when girls do that kind of stuff it just messes with our heads. We start thinking all this weird shit about "do I like her now?" And "what about the other girl?" And we go fucking crazy. At least wait until after his relationship is over with the other girl. I you tell him now, it will basically fuck up his brain and with rumors right now, don't even risk it. I guarantee you just to play it safe for now, stay away until EVERYTHING blows over. Trust me, I know this stuff about guys, I am one after all :)
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