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ok so i have this guy i like and i want to tell him i like him and i want it to be me to tell him not anyone else and once somone else told him and i said it was just a rumor but i still want to tell him and i have already told the girl who is dating him i like him and she is my best friend so she hasnt told anyone and she isnt mad and i also want help the guy i like is saying i am using blank (his girlfriend) as a decoy untill somone prettyer comes what should i do about all of this!?
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I am another who isn't quite sure what you are asking or sure about the situation.
If you talked to his current girlfriend telling her that you liked him and want to date him and she's okay with that situation, then why is she dating him at all? Dating must not be something she does to become serious about the person, and shows she doesnt really care about him at all. So if she's willing to leave him, then that leaves him single again for you to ask him out, so if this is the case, I dont see what the problem is. Whether the girl is your friend or not is not the issue. It's about whether he is available to date or not.
When you say you want to help the guy, I am not sure what it is you want to help him with so can't give advice on that.
And it sounds like you're saying someone is accusing you of using someone as a decoy. A decoy is used to lure your prey to you, as in hunting. In relationships, that sounds like a bad situation. Perhaps decoy isn't the word you were looking for. If I change it to the guy using current girlfriend as a place filler until some girl he finds prettier comes along, then he is not the kind of guy you should even consider getting together with at all, because :
1. Either he is a dishonest person, leading the other girl on to believe he is interested in her looks and her personality
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2. His interests in girls right now at his age are somewhat shallow, or shall we say skin deep. Guys at his age are going to want to see how far they can go to explore sex. Girls crave attention, and want a guy to love them for who they are inside, while guys don't care to get to know the girl inside.
3. He wants a girl to fill the girlfriend spot more as a status symbol, to make him popular, because he craves the attention, and it's all about him, how she can be the perfect girlfriend to meet his needs and wants, not about how he can be the perfect boyfriend for her.
Or he may be a combination of all 3.
If I've misunderstood what you are trying to say, let me know and I'll try to help give better advice.
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DON'T. Take this from a guy, when girls do that kind of stuff it just messes with our heads. We start thinking all this weird shit about "do I like her now?" And "what about the other girl?" And we go fucking crazy. At least wait until after his relationship is over with the other girl. I you tell him now, it will basically fuck up his brain and with rumors right now, don't even risk it. I guarantee you just to play it safe for now, stay away until EVERYTHING blows over. Trust me, I know this stuff about guys, I am one after all :)
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I don't really understand what's going on, but it sounds like you're trying to steal someone's boyfriend and that's bad. You shouldn't do it.
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