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I am straight to the point, My advice is given based on my opinions of what YOU write. I may not always tell you what you want to hear but I am not here to sugar coat shit.
I am honest, I am blunt, At times an asshole but one thing I can promise, I'll never lie.
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ok so i dont like my friend Alexis but i told her i liked her so she wouldnt get mad what should i do
We can dislike someone but that doesn't mean we need to show it. If you dislike this girl then you could try avoiding her as much as possible but if she talks to you then don't be rude. Showing respect to someone is the respectful thing to do as she is human and has feelings just like everyone else. If you don't care for her then show her in a nice way that you aren't interested in doing things with her or be honest with her. I personally respect people more who are honest about how they feel rather then beating around the bush.
You could let her know that you feel you two need to talk. Here is a drop line if you are clueless on what to say. "I have something I have been wanting to get off my chest but lately I've been feeling that we are drifting apart and I don't fee we have the same values so I think it's best we go our separate ways"
This isn't the nicest way to drop the bomb on someone as there really is no nice way to tell someone you dislike them. This way however is not as harsh as just telling someone to fuck off and have a nice day! If you feel you need to let her know you aren't interested in being her friend then try to keep her feelings into consideration and be as gentle as possible about it.
During your first year of h.s. do u hang out with new friends or friends from ur grammar school cause idont have many friends from my grammar school and im worried that i wont have nayone to hang out with if i dont make friends ritee away?
Sometimes making friends the first year of school can be difficult. If you are interested in things you could try joining an after school club, sport. That gives you the opportunity to connect with people who share similar interest. Sometimes when you meet someone who has the same interest generally their friends have something in common with them so friends of friends is always a great way to meet new people too.
what is a chicken head?
(not like a chickens head) but the slang term?
Certainly isn't a pleasant thing to be called. Rather rude and insulting..
A female who likes giving head, bobbing up and down like a chicken
Im a wild girl, but when it comes to makin the 'first moves' i get kinda shy. My boyfriend isnt that experienced so he's not really into making the first move either. So heres the problem: How can we get stuff one if were both like that bc its not like i dont want to make the first move its just more so that i dont want to get rejected or anything. Like im sure that he wouldnt or anything but still. Plus i HATE it when girls throw themselves on guys and that is how i would feel if i did that. So i guess that i just dont want to come off as that kinda person. Please give me advice!
Be casual about it, If you think he's into you then you could drop him hints that you want to be asked out. smile, flirt, compliment but don't over do it. Guys like a women who is confident in themselves and don't come on too strong. If you two talk then maybe when the time is right and things seem to be going over well you could say something like "Maybe we could go out sometime?" Boom, Ya got yourself a first date but maybe you could say "I was thinking...I know a really nice restaurant" There you just dropped another hint without coming off too strong and being awkward about it. If he doesn't get it then, Then I would probably just tell him you like him. Be cool about it and remember the confidence is important.
Okay so I just recently started college and I never had any problems with vaginal odors until then. I wear yoga pants basically every day without underwear. There is always residue in my pants and an EXTREMELY strong smell. Sometimes it smells like pee, so I started wiping extremely throughly, but I still smell really bad. I don't know what to do because if my legs are ever spread apart I can smell it. I'm worried about my boyfriend going down on me because I hate how it smells, but he doesn't really notice I guess. I HATE how it smells. It's making me so self conscious. I bought some feminine wash hoping to help, but it's done absolutely nothing.
What can I do?
You must wear underwear, We sweat down there. Not wearing underwear will allow yourself to smell worse because you have no protection as you are exposed.
If you wear thongs or lace, Skip it
Lace is known to attract odor, Try using 100% cotton
Also, If the smell is so strong that you are noticing it when you have pants on then you should see a doctor. Vagina are supposed to have a more natural scent anything of strong odor needs to be addressed to a OBGYN as you could have an infection.
Read this:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bacterial_vaginosis
This is common in some women, It can easily be treated. We cannot give you a diagnosis as we aren't doctor but I found the information pretty interesting.
Until you see a doctor I would try switching soaps. If you are using scented try using a natural soap and see if you notice a difference but in the meantime wear underwear that may help so it's not as strong.
I think im pregnant with a person that ive been seeing for a year. He has been married to someone else for 11 1/2 out of 12 months.. Does he have the right to know or can I just not tell him and get rid of it?
This is entirely up too you
I'm going to be blunt
As a married man there is a possibility that he may not want to take responsibility for the child, The man is married and if his wife ever found out there would be hell to pay on his end.
Married men and affairs just don't mix
Hello.
My name is Armine, I`m 23.I am from Armenia.
It is my third month that I am working at an office where I have met a guy who is more than just a colleague for me....Some of my friends have noticed that he likes me too.He is texting to me nearly every day, sometimes calling,He was always saying that doesnt have a girlfriend, but recently he accepted the existance of his girlfriend, as she had sent him an open letter, which i had read...Some of our colleages had told me too about his girlfriend..I deleted him from the list of my penfriends, because I could feel the jealousy of his girlfriend who had blocked my site.But he got very angry and said that he wants to be my penfriend inspite of his girlfriends jealousy...Now I am so disappointed and dont understand why he had covered the fact of hvaing a girlfriend and why doesnt take into consideration his girlfrends point of view? And at lastdoes it worth to continue my contact with him???
I am really confused and need your advice...
Looking forward to Your answer...
The guy is lying too you.
If a man is willing to cheat on his girlfriend and hide the relationship then why would you even want to be involved yet alone remain contact with him?
Not only would he be cheating but he doesn't even have the balls to be respectful and honest about it.
He is crappy being in a relationship then I am sure he is crappy being out of one. Meaning, You don't need his friendship. Find someone who is available and will treat you with respect that you deserve.
Hi guys, i'm in a bit of a rut. I used to be friends with this one guy and one day in the spring time he got mad at me for a reason i do not remember, but his friend told me that if i sent him a nude picture he would get this guy to speak to me. so after two hours of him trying to convince me to i finally i did. i am not proud of it. but now that it is almost winter the picture got posted on facebook. (From my old friend, not his friend) He keeps calling me from blocked restricted numbers and just whistles in the phone. A few months ago he called and whistled and than said some very inappropriate thing to me. And a few weeks ago someone randomly pulled up to my house at about 3 in the morning and started screaming things out the window. my brother had fallen asleep in his car and woke up to it and chased after them a little till he lost them. than the following week or next week they came at about midnight and i ran down the stairs opened the door and when they saw me they took off. now i dont know if that was him or not, but it all seems to be ironic than. This guy is a literal lunatic and i am scared of him coming to my house to hurt me or my family. i keep the doors locked but i feel like i keep kearing things so i keep checking the house because it wouldnt surprise me if he found a way in. i am 16 years old, and is 20 or 21. Can someone tell me how to tell my parents without me getting in tons of trouble if possible to avoid. and what i can do in the mean time to feel safe? ANY advice is helpful! absolutely anything! whether its comforting, or advising me to do something. should i get the police involved? PLEASE HELP! it will be very appreciated!
You need to get the police involved
Added onto what the others already said you are a minor and he could be charged with PORNOGRAPHY.
Sending nude photo's under the age of 18 is against the law. Everyone who has the picture can be charged with being in possession of child pornography.
I'm sure you already know that you've learned a valuable lesson from this one.
You HAVE to tell your parents, Take the fall for what you've done and let them handle this prick. Maybe he finds it's hilarious in his twisted way but he sure as hell won't be laughing when he's being bars.
By all means you must let your parents know what is going on, This situation has already got way out of hand now I encourage you to speak before it turns violent.
For the future don't ever do something like this again.
I need healthy food ideas for breakfast lunch dinner. especially lunch. stuff that is simple and easy. please and ty
Breakfast
Whole wheat English muffin, Orange, Banana, Low fat yogurt with granola and cinnamon. (Cinnamon spice is known to help get a fuller feeling) Grapes, Special K cereal is good, Whole wheat bread. If you use peanut butter try to use the all natural brand.
Lunch
Salad ( Use low fat dressing and don't use too much) Chicken, Tuna, Fish (All high on fiber) You could grab whole wheat pita bread add in the chicken with lettuce and tomato if you like mayo use low fat or mustard may be even better. Apple, Orange.
Dinner
Whole wheat pasta with tomato sauce, Stir fry (Veggies + Chicken) You could roast a chicken breast there are lots of ways to prepare it I'm sure you could find awesome recipes on google. Fish
Eating healthy is also about portion size too. Make sure you don't overeat but maintain a healthy diet. Some say if you use your opposite hand while eating you will find you eat slower and less. ;)
My boyfriend and I have been going out for about a year and a half now and all of a sudden he's been asking me to send him naked pictures of myself. I hate my body and I'm extremely insecure, so I just don't feel comfortable doing it. So I told him that but he just gets mad and keeps asking, and now he's starting to use it against me. Should I send him the pictures to just shut him up? Or what?
Do you realize that sending nude photos by phone, computer or anything of matter while under age is illegal? They just passed a law in my state recently that anyone underage sending pictures can be charged with pornography! It's even traceable if deleted too. The saying is true "never send or say anything you do not want seen or repeated"
Even the person you think you can trust the most are not even worth the risk, If you show your body you can bet anything that the picture will be seen by someone else.
Do not do it, Stop letting you boyfriend try and pressure you and talk you into doing something stupid like that. Real boyfriends don't pressure someone into doing something and most of all they respect you! Apparently this guy doesn't respect you and just wants to try and get one thing out of you so you can give yourself an ultimatum you can be a doormat and a possible booty call or you can walk and hold your head high with self respect.
21 female. Nick 19. This may be kind of long but I will really appreciate any help! :)
Me and Nick have been together for about 4 months. He is the nicest guy I've ever been with I really couldn't ask for a better guy. We've known each other for a long time but just started dating months ago. He pays for me when we go to dinner or get anything to eat. I'll be like "Nooo!" And take out my wallet because I feel bad that he pays for me. But he won't take my money he makes me put my wallet away.
Well last weekend we were going on a double date with my brother and his wife. Nick called his mom for something and she asked what we were doing that night and Nick said going to dinner and his mom asked if he was paying for me and Nick was like well yeah. And she said well do you always pay for her? And he said yeah. And she was like does she ever pay for you? And he said no but she said that she was going to take me to dinner soon. Then she said ..well that's not right and she said it kind of in a mean tone. And she was on speaker phone so I heard everything. Nick was pretty quiet and his mom was like is she right there? And he said yeah, and I walked away. It was so uncomfortable and I was kind of offended.
That night when we were at dinner I took out my wallet again and he said no, put that away and I insisted I at least pay for the tip then and he wasn't even going to let me do that but I forced him to let me.
And just a couple nights before this happened we were talking and I even said I hate that you pay for me I feel bad! And he said no I want to pay for you babe and I said well I'm taking you out some time then! :)
It just bugs me that his mom would say that about me acting like I'm taking advantage of him or something saying "well that's not right, she should pay for you" I couldn't stop thinking about it all night and I was really quiet. Nick could tell something was wrong and he kept asking me if I was mad at him. Finally I said, I know your mom doesn't like me. And he said she likes you babe, you wanna know why she likes you? Because she sees how happy you make me. And I said well it didn't really sound like she liked me too much on the phone and he said well I don't think she said anything bad, what part didn't you like? Obviously he was sticking up for his mom and didn't think anything she said was offensive. I just let it go. But now whenever I see her next I am going to feel really uncomfortable around her. Would you be a little offended if you were me? I don't know what to do!
Plus, he told me way back that he wanted to pay for me & take care of me because I am doing school full time and can't work that much and he is working full time right now before he goes back to school so he knows I don't have a lot of money right now. But it's not like I say, you have to pay for me! No, I'm not like that at all.
Sure he insisted on paying that is a man's ego talking but the relationship SHOULD be 50/50. If he always pays I can almost promise you that sooner or later it will get tiring, Trust me I did it for 5 years and after awhile it got old even after all the times I insisted to pay.
You two need to come up with a plan, You either pay half or you take turns each time you go out. That is the fair thing to do and the right thing to do as well.
Likely, His mother doesn't like the fact that her son is always paying for you. In most peoples eyes that really isn't right. Relationships are about team work and yes even financially it should be about the teamwork. For the sake of your relationship talk about it together and come to an agreement. You want to give a good impression to his family.....Then you need to communicate with your boyfriend. If my son was paying for everything for his girlfriend I would be a little bothered too.
hello, what makes a straight boyfriend go to a gay pub with his gay mate? why does a straight men go to gay pub or club? does straight men go to gay club, EVER? is it NORMAL or should i be warned? thanks.
If this was a gay strip club, Then I might tell you to be concerned but this is just a pub.
Your boyfriend may just be tagging along with his friend. Maybe he doesn't see the big deal of going? A pub is not a strip club, They don't have any dancers, bouncers or strippers. Just relax, Remember you are his girlfriend and he is with you. A pub is just a pub and he may just be going because of his friend. As long as he doesn't go to clubs then I wouldn't worry about it.
I'm a girl & 18. My boyfriend and I was on the sofa and we was kissing. I never let him touch me down below (i have strong views)and he kept moving my hands to his private area. He's done this before and Ive said to him I dont want to do anything yet as im not ready. Yesterday in the cinema he pushed my hand under his trousers but above his boxers. Today he did the same but tried it under his boxers and said to me to touch it for 5 seconds. ofc i said no and then he got it out and was saying to me dont you like it, dont you like me, dont you want me and told me to hold it and i just really like him so much like in all other aspects of our realtionship he treats me so well and hes the best boyfriend ive ever had and so i did because i felt almost bad for not wanting to and so this lead to him telling me to give him a hand job. Idk what to think i really like or even love my boyfriend but my best friend says its not right... advice?
The guy is manipulating you to get what he wants, If someone really was truly into you they would RESPECT you. This guy might seem like the dream guy but reality is he is manipulating and he isn't taking no for an answer. Dump him
Your best friend is looking out for you and she is right, The guy is trying to use you. Dump him and find yourself a guy who will respect you and wait until you are ready without talking you otherwise.
17/f
I am a senior in high school and in march my boyfriend and I are going to get a place together. He is 23, makes 10.00 and hr. I make 8.00 an hr. The job I have (a local pizza place) well honestly sucks. The manager only make 9.00 an hour so I am pretty sure I don't have enough room to grow there. I do not want my boyfriend to be the one paying all the bills and we do not want to live paycheck-to-paycheck.I want to stay away from fast food jobs and jobs where I stand in one spot(I get dizzy) What can I do to provide an income for us?
By your income, You will be on a very tight budget.
What you and your boyfriend should do before you even think of moving in together is add up the cost for living expenses.
You have to figure the average cost for an apartment nowadays can ranger anywhere from $750.00+ You also need to figure you have to pay for food somehow so between the two of you figure $300.00 a month for food.
Now, You will need your living expenses. Do you own a car? If you do you'd have to add in the gas, insurance and repairs. If you own cell phones you add in the phone bills. Living on your own you would want cable right? Cable runs about $80.00 a month.
So in the end you already have about $1130.00 a month and I didn't even add in the cost of a car or a cell phone never mind the living accessories you will need monthly and things for your apartment. In this economy it's almost impossible to get by and even a job on $10.00 hr isn't going to get you shit. I'm not trying to burst your bubble here but you really need to think in terms of what you can afford not what you can't. I make more then your boyfriend does and I still scrap by while my partner works full time. Moving on or at least attempting to right now would stress the relationship between you and your boyfriend. I would seriously ride out the depression and consider yourself real lucky because sometimes I personally would love to trade places with people still living with their parents. If you are planning college in the fall....You are going to have a hell of a time. Forget moving out right now, Until you and your boyfriend are financially stable I wouldn't even think along those lines.
17/f
Lately, my poop has been weird. I feel gross talking about it but at this point, I want to know what's up. Basically, I'll poop once, and I know that I have more and I try to poop again, but it won't come out and I feel like it is still up there. I wipe a LOT to make sure it's clean, but then all day I can just feel like something is up there. I don't know what's wrong! I poop when I wake up, usually, and even then I've been having this problem. I pooped a few times in school, and I had the same problem. It's starting to get extremely annoying. What could it be? Help! I used to poop only once, and it all came out and I would wipe and feel great. But now I feel like it's not all coming out and I don't feel light and good when I poop.
You sound constipated and that happens.
What you should do is try and take a stool softener, Make sure you are getting plenty of fiber in your diet. Fish, Chicken, Tuna and eat plenty of vegetables.
If you don't have regular bowel movements then I would see a doctor as body waste can be toxic to your body.
See a doctor
Okay, so i started to think about my ex and the good times we had because honestly we have a lot of chemistry and i don't see why we're not friends. So i started to talk to him and when i first started to talk to me he was asking me advice about his girlfriend. He kept throwing things in my face like, "Shes the only girl that i loved." "Shes the only girl i was faithful too." The worst thing he said was "I had sex with her last week." I mean that's personal? Why is he telling me. Out of all people, why me? I have a feeling hes trying to make me jealous. I don't know im kind of confused. I need someone else point of view on this. Ridiculous.
You aren't seeing the bigger picture, Why the hell would you want to be his friend? The guy sounds like an arrogant ass who doesn't even deserve your friendship.
Lets face it he isn't trying to get your advice. The guy's actions are immature, rude and hurtful maybe those are his intentions? Sounds like it. Really your best bet is to just forget about him and move on. Stop trying to remain his friend in fact I encourage you to just cut contact with him. As long as you have someone like that in your life he is going to continue to drag you down. He move on and you should too as he isn't worth your time.
Hello everyone,I love my boyfriend(well i just broke up with him yesterday) very much and i believe he loves me too.
I fight fair i don't say hurtful things,if i am the one at fault i apologize but i have never not even one said anything disrespectful to my boyfriend.Because i believe in respecting others and let them hold their dignity. My boyfriend on the other hand, he says mean things and does disrespectful things.For example he will answer me " what is it you wanted to say yesterday that was so important you cant repeat it now?" (If i ask him why i called him several times but he didnt pick up the day before), or "stop right there you are so annoying me right now,you can be mad all you want i dont care" or we having an important conversation on the phone,he puts me on hold five minutes later he texts me saying "call you right back" then like an hour later he tells me" my friends kidnapped me,i am out at the pub with them,what are you up too" ,which i find very disrespectful,if it was just a nonsense convo then yes but something important its wrong.The next day he says if he knew it was going to get me sad he wouldn't have done it.what i don't understand is , how he cant see that his kind of behaviour is just wrong before handy?I know its unfair for me to be putting things together but things have been happening like this a lot lately.Like girls posting pictures of him holding them on his lap on facebook and tagging him, or pretending to be sleeping on the couch with them,or him going to the movies with another girl and dinner without me knowing and yet i always make him know what am up too and make sure he is comfortable with it. At first he would say that he doesn't see anything wrong in what he does then he would come to me apologizing but how can someone not thing that taking pics with other girls on those kind of positions is plain wrong?I don't blame the girls i blame him,he should have refused ,or movies and dinner with another girl without their girlfriend being aware of it? the last fight we had, he posted my pic on his facebook for few hours on my birthday then took it off,i was upset that he did that since so far i've had 3 pictures of him and each has stayed for at least a week as my profile,thats when he said that i was too annoying and he did it to make it happy, that i was ungrateful,that i should be happy he put it there in the first place and i could get mad all i want he wouldn't care.But i have had his pictures for past year and it was his first time to have my picture. I am not saying he cant have female friends because thats just wrong i do have more male friends than female myself but i know where to draw the line and i guess he doesn't. I told him before that i dont like how he talks to me, and yesterday i repeated it again for the 3rd time and i asked him if i deserve to be talked to the way he did then he answered not everday but you got me mad i had the right to talk to you that way. Then i told him we were done,that i was ending the relationship,he just said " okay". Do you think that i overreacted?Ps we are attending different colleges right now.
The guy is a waste of time, You know it too.
Read what you posted: :Like girls posting pictures of him holding them on his lap on facebook and tagging him, or pretending to be sleeping on the couch with them,or him going to the movies with another girl and dinner without me knowing: Without you knowing??? That right there is sketchy.
That is not normal behavior for someone who is in a relationship. It sounds to me he took you for granted and didn't value your relationship. How do you know he wasn't cheating? Seriously, When two people are in a relationship it's about respect and boundaries! The guy should of known it would of bothered you but he went and did it anyway. You were clearly dating a child.
If you want a man and someone who is serious then I would find someone else who is more in your league.
i am with a very very good guy. perfect in most peoples eyes. For me there is alot missing. emotionally we dont connect for. for him everything is perfect. i dont feel he is the one. but every adult ( i am 22 he is 28) in my life is teling me u can learn to fall in love. is it true? should i stay with him just cause he is a good guy and we have a 1 year old together? am i crazy for feeling that it just isnt enough?
Do you love him? Are you happy?
These are the main questions you need to ask yourself, If you don't feel like you love this person then you should move on. I honestly don't believe one can "learn" to fall in love especially seeing your baby is already a year old and you've had plenty of time to seek out how you feel. If you stay in a relationship that you don't feel is right for you then you will drag and become overwhelmed in time. You aren't entitled to stay in a relationship for the sake of your baby, Your job is to do what is best for you too and take care of your child not sacrifice your happiness. If you feel you should move on, Then do so.
Normally I'm not a country music fan. But I heard a song and was so shocked that the lyrics were exactly how I was feeling! I'm starting to like country more and more.. But I'm not familiar with country songs or artists. Can a few people recommend songs or artists for me?
I'm mainly looking for songs about love (moving on, finding someone new, or waiting for someone) or about happy things like doing the things that make you smile or just partying and having a blast. But I'm up for anything really :) thanks!!!
Here are a few really good ones:
Brian Adams - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hq2KgzKETBw
Celine Dion - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9BHoj8uFdr8
Well those are two pretty good songs if you are into country but I'll list a couple artist that I know of. I really personally don't listen to country music..
Taylor Swift
Garth Brooks
Martina McBride
Shania Twain
Reba Mcentire
Toby Keith
Trace Atkins
Lee Brice
Faith Hill
Leann Rimes
so my fiance paul is in a band and he said i cant go to any of his shows cuz of this girl emily. apparently paul reminds emily of her ex and seeing him happy with another girl will male emily sad. but paul said emily is gay ans she is married to a women but i found her bra on his floor. what do i do? i love paul so much and i dont want to lose him but i dont know if he is cheating
Put the clues together, He is obviously cheating on you.
You are his fiance wouldn't you think that if you meant so much to him that he would want you there?
You found this girls bra on the floor the obvious is right under your nose. Other than the fact that this guy Paul came up with a bogus lie on why he didn't want you there. The guy is cheating on you and yes, He is lying about it. Dump him and get over it