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I sent a naked picture, now how do i stop harrassment?
Hi guys, i'm in a bit of a rut. I used to be friends with this one guy and one day in the spring time he got mad at me for a reason i do not remember, but his friend told me that if i sent him a nude picture he would get this guy to speak to me. so after two hours of him trying to convince me to i finally i did. i am not proud of it. but now that it is almost winter the picture got posted on facebook. (From my old friend, not his friend) He keeps calling me from blocked restricted numbers and just whistles in the phone. A few months ago he called and whistled and than said some very inappropriate thing to me. And a few weeks ago someone randomly pulled up to my house at about 3 in the morning and started screaming things out the window. my brother had fallen asleep in his car and woke up to it and chased after them a little till he lost them. than the following week or next week they came at about midnight and i ran down the stairs opened the door and when they saw me they took off. now i dont know if that was him or not, but it all seems to be ironic than. This guy is a literal lunatic and i am scared of him coming to my house to hurt me or my family. i keep the doors locked but i feel like i keep kearing things so i keep checking the house because it wouldnt surprise me if he found a way in. i am 16 years old, and is 20 or 21. Can someone tell me how to tell my parents without me getting in tons of trouble if possible to avoid. and what i can do in the mean time to feel safe? ANY advice is helpful! absolutely anything! whether its comforting, or advising me to do something. should i get the police involved? PLEASE HELP! it will be very appreciated!
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You are in a very difficult situation understandably! First thing I would say to you is, never send naked pictures to anyone you are not comfortable with or don't trust, even then it can be tricky if you and the person break up because then they have those pictures on their phone etc.
Secondly, this guy sounds like a lot of trouble.The fact that he is going to your house and harassing you like that is unacceptable. I'm assuming the picture has been removed from Facebook and you have reported him for abuse? This guy is also a lot older than you and is probably taking advantage of the fact that you are younger and less experienced in these things. You have to tell him that if he doesn't stop harrassing you, you're going to go to the police and show him you're being serious. If he continues to harrass you in this manner then you have to tell your parents because he sounds crazy and you don't know what he might do. If you have your parents support in this then they can help you to combat it, you need some adult help that can talk to the school or to the police. I know you are probably scared to tell them but really you have to tell them because you can't sort this situation alone.
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Definitely contact Facebook about it. The picture being sent to him electronically by you is illegal because of your age as is him posting it on there. He must be pretty dumb because it can land him in jail.
Next, you need to tell your parents as well as school admin that you made a huge mistake and that you sent this to him and that he's now harassing you by phone and showing up on and in front of your home.
They will call the police and let them handle him. You MUST do this as you cannot keep such an icky and harmful secret. He cannot get away with it. Your family will be fine and you will be protected by them and the police for sure. He is intimidating you because he knows he has a big time problem and will have the law against him the moment the truth comes out. Don't let him intimidate you. The truth has to come out. Be brave and stop him by telling any adult who will listen.
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I can't add much to what the others have said other than this: Contact Facebook and advise them that the picture of you represents child pornography as you are only 16. Tell them where it is on facebook, whose account and they will remove it. You do not or should not have to tell them how he came in possession of the photo. Pornography in general is not allowed on facebook and child-pornography is certainly not allowed.
They may also close his account and anyone else's account who may re-post the picture. Ask them to retain the records as you intend to inform your parents and they will most likely seek police action against this man as he is an adult. The police may want to subpoena those records. (You may want your parents to make this call)
As the others have said you need to inform your parents. Why a man of 20 or 21 would be friends with a 16 year old is questionable at best. Then to have his friend have you send him a nude picture of yourself does nothing but send up all types of alarm bells for me.
As you have found out you did a very stupid thing. You never ever let anything out of your control that can come back and hurt you like this. Will the police charge you with distribution? I doubt it, others have made this same stupid mistake. They will most likely attempt to scare the living daylights out of you and they should so you will definitely remember this.
Tell your parents what happened and what is happening. This man is harassing you and your family. This alone is a formal police charge. The fact that you feel he can or could hurt you and your family is called ASSAULT, another charge.
He may think he is having fun or he may be a real danger to you and your family, you don't know his reasoning. The only way to stop him and insure your safety is to have your parents file charges against him. He can be charged and most likely convicted of the following charges.
In receipt of child pornography
Distribution of child pornography, his posting to face book.
Sexual Harassment
Harassment
Assault
Each state has different sentencing guidelines for these charges. Where I live he would be looking at 25 years to life on the child pornography alone, depending if they find more in his possession, plus a minimum of 3 to 5 years on each of the other charges. He could also face federal charges on the distribution charge as facebook has distribution crossing state lines.
This is the real life consequences of what started out as a peace offering and ends up as harassment. He may think he is having fun. He won't have fun in prison that is for certain.
TELL YOUR PARENTS; TODAY.
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You need to get the police involved
Added onto what the others already said you are a minor and he could be charged with PORNOGRAPHY.
Sending nude photo's under the age of 18 is against the law. Everyone who has the picture can be charged with being in possession of child pornography.
I'm sure you already know that you've learned a valuable lesson from this one.
You HAVE to tell your parents, Take the fall for what you've done and let them handle this prick. Maybe he finds it's hilarious in his twisted way but he sure as hell won't be laughing when he's being bars.
By all means you must let your parents know what is going on, This situation has already got way out of hand now I encourage you to speak before it turns violent.
For the future don't ever do something like this again.
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Yes, you should get the police involved.
He is sexually harassing (and generally harassing), you a minor.
That's not just bullying, or rude, that's a full fledged criminal act.
Just bite the bullet and tell your parents. Maybe write them a letter, if you feel it's too difficult to explain in person.
You are better off in trouble with them then in danger from him.
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You absolutely should get the police and your parents involved. Parents first, then police.
This guy is in possession of child pornography. Yup. And now he's harassing you? Trust me when I say that your parents will be more worried about your safety and your emotional health than they will be about what you've done wrong. They may be upset with you in the beginning, but it's all in the name of parental love and worry.
Your parents will be able to help you deal with this. It's what they're there for.
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