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Best friend or not?
Okay so this is going to be long sorry. So my best friend, lets call her Mindy, and I joined basketball cheering together with my other friend Nikki and Mindy's friend Maggi. So the first day of practice there was a girl missing and the couch asked Maggi what the girl looked like and then Maggi statrted talking shit about the girl. So then the girl found out and the next day at school she comfronted Maggi, then teachters got involved makeing it a bigger deal the it was. So that day at practice Maggi goes to the couch and tells her what happened and then she started making a list of people it could have been. Well on that list was my friend Nikki and Maggi started talking shit about her too, thus proving that she talks shit. Well the next day my friend Mindy started being distent with me and not talking to me and when i would talk to her she would give me one word answers. So later that day I found out that Maggi had told Mindy that I was the one to tell what she said. There were 10 other girls that heard it ! So at lunch we brought up the subject (me, mindy,& Nikki)and Mindy straight out defended Maggi instead of me her best friend and she still wasn't talking to me so I didnt talk to her either. Then two days later she sends me a message asking why I was mad and I said I wasn't and that she stopped talking to me so then she said sorry and we went back to talking. But the problem is she is still distent with me and its pissing me off and when Maggi is around she completely ignorce me. Everyone says that she treats me like shit and that shes never there for me which is partly true. What do i do i'm going to her varsity dinner with her on Wensday and I don't want us to be like that. Should I keep trying or just give up on my best friend since 4th grade? she 16 and im 15
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I'd give it up. She isn't a real bestfriend. Best Friend's don't believe other people over their "best friend". If she ignores you around this Maggi chick, than I wouldn't want a part in her friendship. You need a good, real friend; not just a part time friend. I think the only reason why she apologised to you is because she didn't want the akawardness in class and/or the fued between you too.
If anything, I'd slowly let myself drift apart from her, and what not. That doesn't mean that you should be mean to her, or sink to her and Maggi's level, but simply be the bigger person and just realize that you don't need what these girls, ESPECIALLY YOUR BESTFRIEND, are doing to you.
As of the Varsity Dinner situation, I'd be the bigger person, and just be nice. Just do what you have to do to get through it in a calm, cool, collected manner. If your so called "best friend" notices you acting differently, than you need to tell her,
" Look, here lately, after that big deal between Maggi blaming me for telling on all those girls; you've been treating me differently. You ignore me when Maggi's around, and when she isn't, its not like how it was before. I don't want to fight with you, and I don't want to end on bad terms; I just simply realized I don't need what you have to offer as my best friend; and I'm better off like this."
That way, things in class won't be akaward for you guys; instead of being bestfriend, you guys will be acquaintances (sp)
Good Luck!
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