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Why does he act immature and disrespectful?
Hello everyone,I love my boyfriend(well i just broke up with him yesterday) very much and i believe he loves me too.
I fight fair i don't say hurtful things,if i am the one at fault i apologize but i have never not even one said anything disrespectful to my boyfriend.Because i believe in respecting others and let them hold their dignity. My boyfriend on the other hand, he says mean things and does disrespectful things.For example he will answer me " what is it you wanted to say yesterday that was so important you cant repeat it now?" (If i ask him why i called him several times but he didnt pick up the day before), or "stop right there you are so annoying me right now,you can be mad all you want i dont care" or we having an important conversation on the phone,he puts me on hold five minutes later he texts me saying "call you right back" then like an hour later he tells me" my friends kidnapped me,i am out at the pub with them,what are you up too" ,which i find very disrespectful,if it was just a nonsense convo then yes but something important its wrong.The next day he says if he knew it was going to get me sad he wouldn't have done it.what i don't understand is , how he cant see that his kind of behaviour is just wrong before handy?I know its unfair for me to be putting things together but things have been happening like this a lot lately.Like girls posting pictures of him holding them on his lap on facebook and tagging him, or pretending to be sleeping on the couch with them,or him going to the movies with another girl and dinner without me knowing and yet i always make him know what am up too and make sure he is comfortable with it. At first he would say that he doesn't see anything wrong in what he does then he would come to me apologizing but how can someone not thing that taking pics with other girls on those kind of positions is plain wrong?I don't blame the girls i blame him,he should have refused ,or movies and dinner with another girl without their girlfriend being aware of it? the last fight we had, he posted my pic on his facebook for few hours on my birthday then took it off,i was upset that he did that since so far i've had 3 pictures of him and each has stayed for at least a week as my profile,thats when he said that i was too annoying and he did it to make it happy, that i was ungrateful,that i should be happy he put it there in the first place and i could get mad all i want he wouldn't care.But i have had his pictures for past year and it was his first time to have my picture. I am not saying he cant have female friends because thats just wrong i do have more male friends than female myself but i know where to draw the line and i guess he doesn't. I told him before that i dont like how he talks to me, and yesterday i repeated it again for the 3rd time and i asked him if i deserve to be talked to the way he did then he answered not everday but you got me mad i had the right to talk to you that way. Then i told him we were done,that i was ending the relationship,he just said " okay". Do you think that i overreacted?Ps we are attending different colleges right now.
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Ah, another case of a girl who loves bad boys. You did well breaking up with him, but if you're capable of looking at this rationally, why do you love someone who belittles and ignores you? You let him get away with being an asshat for a long time and so he thought you were a doormat and you might still, in fact, be one.
Look, if you really want concrete advice and aren't just using us as an avenue by which to vent, then you need to examine your standards for what constitutes a relationship. Moreover, at the outset of the relationship you need to tell your significant other what you expect out of it so that both of you will know the terms of engagement and, most importantly, be willing to enforce those terms by walking if things aren't up to standard. Tell them you expect adult behavior and the moment he goes teenage baboon on you you're gone.
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DO NOT TAKE HIM BACK!
Seriously! I don't even know why your still with this fool! He doesn't love you. He doesn't konw the next thing to love. He doesn't care about you, or what you feel; or what you say. That is messed up. You seem like an amazing girlfriend, and you deserve so much better! Most girls would get pissed at pictures of their boyfriends with other chicks, especially with a girl on his lap or even laying beside him *AND YOU DIDN'T KNOW ABOUT IT!*
He is a waste of time! Let go of this loser, and find you someone who will treat you the way your suppose to be treated! He said "ok" because he doesn't really care. I know it hurts, and it sucks; but trust me girl, it's for the best. You've done put too much time and effort into this fool, that you could have put into someone who deserves what you have to give.
You need a man who knows what he has when he has it; not someone who isn't content with you and is constantly hanging out with other girls without informing you. It's just wrong, and once again, you don't deserve that. Your a strong person, you let go of him; and I'm proud of you. I'm sure it was really hard, but you had to do what you had to do.
Just remember what you deserve, not what you want; ok?
Good Luck!
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Dump him. Now.
This boy is emotionally manipulative, on the road to emotionally abusive.
He doesn't take ownership of his own reactions or behavoir. His mistakes will always be 'your fault' in some way. You can't reason with that, you only escape it.
He might love you, but he has proven beyond the shadow of a doubt that he cannot behave lovingly towards you.
It's a good thing - a great thing really - that you can see that what he is doing is completely wrong. You probably do have your own faults and struggles - but whatever your faults - they don't mean you deserve the shit he doles out.
End the relationship. It doesn't matter why he does it, or if he knows that he is doing it or not. You can't allow this to be done to you anymore. End the relationship and make peace with not knowing why he is this particular kind of fucked up.
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The guy is a waste of time, You know it too.
Read what you posted: :Like girls posting pictures of him holding them on his lap on facebook and tagging him, or pretending to be sleeping on the couch with them,or him going to the movies with another girl and dinner without me knowing: Without you knowing??? That right there is sketchy.
That is not normal behavior for someone who is in a relationship. It sounds to me he took you for granted and didn't value your relationship. How do you know he wasn't cheating? Seriously, When two people are in a relationship it's about respect and boundaries! The guy should of known it would of bothered you but he went and did it anyway. You were clearly dating a child.
If you want a man and someone who is serious then I would find someone else who is more in your league.
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