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How do I make it on my own?
17/f
I am a senior in high school and in march my boyfriend and I are going to get a place together. He is 23, makes 10.00 and hr. I make 8.00 an hr. The job I have (a local pizza place) well honestly sucks. The manager only make 9.00 an hour so I am pretty sure I don't have enough room to grow there. I do not want my boyfriend to be the one paying all the bills and we do not want to live paycheck-to-paycheck.I want to stay away from fast food jobs and jobs where I stand in one spot(I get dizzy) What can I do to provide an income for us?
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If you move out, you will not be able to college... On top of this, he's a grown man, and you my dear are still a minor. He WILL go to JAIL.
I'm twenty one years old, and fight with my parents constantly. It's a lot cheaper then trying to do it on your own, and you can save your money the more you stay there. Just keep an eye on what you spend your money on.
Stay at home and go to college. No man is worth giving up your entire life for.
xoxo,
dottie4
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YOu need to stay in school and go to college. Enjoy life because you will not be happy with the road you think you want to take. Believe me it is HARD out here. Even with a college degree jobs are hard to come by especially good paying ones. Focus on your education and enjoying life. If you can stay at home please do. There is so much out there for you to experience don't shut down your opportunities so soon. Go away to college and find out what life has to offer. Encourage your boyfiend to attend as well. A couple that both have their college degree will be much happier in the long ruin and life will be much easier than two people struggling just to put food on the table. While the idea of moving in and being together for ever sounds great it just doesn't work that way. Before you know it you may be pregnant stuck at home while he's out there trying to support three or more on $10 an hour. Finacial problems will easily destroy your relationship. Give you and your future a great start by focusing on education and knowing who you are before jumping into something you have no idea about.
Is everyone telling you to stay home???? There's a reason for that. We KNOW what we are talking about. You think you are depressed now. When you are broke at home alone with babies, no friends and a boyfriend you argue with everyday you will understand depressed and wish you had listened. Good luck :)
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Maybe try to find a job at school that way its nice to work right after classes. You could try to find a part time job in an office or maybe even work as a temp for a bit. Try looking for a job as an administrative assitant or maybe ask your school for some help in finding a job. Good luck!
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I hate to be the bearer of bad news but you CANNOT LEAVE HOME AND LIVE WITH THIS MAN. IF YOU DO HE IS LOOKING AT A MINIMUM OF 15 YEARS IN PRISON FOR STATUTORY RAPE.
Lets just say for the sake of argument that your parent's say go, good-by. A nosy neighbor finds out your 17 and that there is an 6 year age difference between you. That is statutory rape even if you are above the age of consent in your state, you are still a minor and there is to large an age difference between you for you two to even be together.
The other scenario that could play out here is that mom and dad don't give you permission to move out. They file a missing child report or runaway child report with the police. The police find you. You are taken into custody as a runaway child. Your boyfriend is still charged with statutory rape and other charges as well, possibly harboring or kidnapping. The 15 years in jail is now life plus 25 years or life without parole. Cross a state line together and he now faces the Federal crime of violating the Mann Act.
Don't believe me? Easy enough to to find out, all of this information can be researched on the Web. The person most in danger here is your boy friend. He is in danger now. Most boys 18 and older know this. When I was your age we all had a saying "15 minutes with her will get you ten years". Meaning if we had sex with an under age girl we faced 10 years in jail. This is still true today. Just the jail time is longer.
I question why a man of 23 is dating a girl of 17. I leave that question for another time. Right now you have to consider the danger your boy friend is in just being with you. The term is called jail bait. Until you are 18 you are jail bait and he can go to jail for a long long time if your parents or anyone else sees fit to report your romance.
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I know you don't want to hear it, but its true. You need to stay at home, where its free because of how bad the economy is.
I'm 19 and my boyfriend is 18, he lives with me and he's moving out in Feb (because thats the deadline for him living with me) his mom left him homeless. He is going to have a hard time making it, JUST HIM. He makes 9.40 an hour. I understand your depressed, but your going to be even more depressed living paycheck to paycheck and even have the possibility of having one of your bills turned off. You have to think, there is more than just being with your boyfriend too; you have gas, insurance, food, electricity, utilities, emergency's, plus furniture you'll have to pay for. (it sounds like you already know that) I'm not saying stay at home for as long as you can; March is pretty far away; but I say save up as much as you can and maybe try to move out in August instead of March that way you guys have alittle more money built up.
Now, as a college student myself; juggling college fulltime, and going to work fulltime, its really hard. But I guess you have to do what oyu have to do to make ends meet.
You may want to postpone college and go during the spring semester, so you can have more time to build up more cash.
As of your job, the economy is so bad, thats its hard to find a job that pays more than 7.25 (which is minium wage in the state I live in) to about 8.30; unless you work in a factory or something like my boyfriend. I'd just look around; going to college will also give you more options for the time being as well;
Like, I'm going for Labor and Delivery; so I work at a hospital just helping out nurses; I don't get paid much, just 9.75 an hour; but I only work 3 ours a day; 4 times a week.
So maybe going and doing something for the degree your learning for will help.
BUT UNTIL THEN, I'd browse some more. I use to work in fast food, and I hated it. Its so stressful! I told myself I'd never let my kids work in fast food. Bless your heart for that! I know it sucks!
But, I'd definitely look around; Idk where you are from, or anything so I can't give you specific places. I'd try to go somewhere where you can work up to a manager position that get paid atleast a difference of .54 cents more than the employees.
But, I wish you the best of luck! I hope you can make it through this sucky economy and do what makes you happy!
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By your income, You will be on a very tight budget.
What you and your boyfriend should do before you even think of moving in together is add up the cost for living expenses.
You have to figure the average cost for an apartment nowadays can ranger anywhere from $750.00+ You also need to figure you have to pay for food somehow so between the two of you figure $300.00 a month for food.
Now, You will need your living expenses. Do you own a car? If you do you'd have to add in the gas, insurance and repairs. If you own cell phones you add in the phone bills. Living on your own you would want cable right? Cable runs about $80.00 a month.
So in the end you already have about $1130.00 a month and I didn't even add in the cost of a car or a cell phone never mind the living accessories you will need monthly and things for your apartment. In this economy it's almost impossible to get by and even a job on $10.00 hr isn't going to get you shit. I'm not trying to burst your bubble here but you really need to think in terms of what you can afford not what you can't. I make more then your boyfriend does and I still scrap by while my partner works full time. Moving on or at least attempting to right now would stress the relationship between you and your boyfriend. I would seriously ride out the depression and consider yourself real lucky because sometimes I personally would love to trade places with people still living with their parents. If you are planning college in the fall....You are going to have a hell of a time. Forget moving out right now, Until you and your boyfriend are financially stable I wouldn't even think along those lines.
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