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2 guy Confusion
I was close friends with this guy, and we took the 1st step to be BF/GF. It went fine, after a month went by he suddenly became very agressivly mean. He called me a pathetic little loser and dumped me.It Hurt me So bad I couldnt eat or sleep or basically function for days. 2 weeks later I started talking to an old male aquaintence...and he asked me out. My new ex hadnt known about the date, and wanted to start a friend relationship. This aquaintence wants me to be his girlfriend, I dont know whom i love more though. My ex is a jerk, but i care about him. and my aquaintence is very nice and respects me. Also I still feel like i'm a cheater when i hang out with him, even though im single?
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Yep, you love the bad boys. See, it is women like you who create a rationale for guys to act like dickheads toward your gender, especially as you seem ready to punt on the nice guy as soon as Mr. Bad Guy decides he wants to use you again.
So this will sound rough, but here goes: if you like bad boys you have less than zero right to complain how they treat you. Yeah, nice guys aren't as unpredictable and "alpha" as bad boys and there isn't as much about them you can change, but you'll have a more mature and emotionally balanced relationship with the nice guy than the bad boy.
What you are doing is the equivalent of finding it more exciting to play with sticks of unstable dynamite rather than safe and sane fireworks and then you act surprised when the dynamite blows you to smithereens. Bad boys do what bad boys do. If you sign up with one then you get whatever it is they want to dish out. Either change your view of what is desirable in men or stop whining and deal with it.
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I completely agree with nascarfan, this guy is a loser and doesn't deserve you. I do think how he acted qualifies as abuse, and you shouldn't be with someone who treats you like you mean nothing. He doesn't deserve your friendship or your love. I know getting over him is going to be hard, especially because you were really close friends first, but you will eventually.
This new acquaintance really seems to be a good guy. He seems to be going out of his way to get to know you, and that's always a good sign. I would give him a chance, but do go slow. You need time to get over your ex-boyfriend. Again, I agree with the user below me. He is your EX and you need to realize that. You are not cheating on him! HE broke up with YOU! This guy is a jerk and doesn't deserve you. Just give yourself a little more time, you'll get over him soon. :)
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You really shouldn't go back to your ex. I wouldn't even be friends with him. He doesn't deserve you. In a way he kind of abused you, verbally. No one deserves to be put down the way he put you down; even though it happens to the best of us. You have to take a stand for yourself and forget what you want, and remember what you deserve.
This new guy, as you say, respects you and is nice; you need to stick with him. You shouldn't feel like your cheated, because quite frankly, you are SINGLE. You are not committed to anyone; that being said, do what you wanna with who you want, and DONT worry about your ex. He is your ex for a reason; and taht reason is because HE DIDN'T KNOW WHAT HE HAD WHEN HE HAD YOU.
I also believe the reason why you feel like your cheating is because you haven't got use to the fact that you and your ex aren't together. You haven't really gave yourself time to heal from the bad experience you went through with him.
You'll need a little longer than just 2 weeks, sweetheart.
So give it a couple more weeks, and go slow with this new guy. That will give you time to get rid of those other feelings for your ex, and actually build REAL feelings for this total sweetheart!
Good Luck!
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