Hi
When guys ask me to do stuff its hard for me to say no. I really enjoy fooling around and it feels really good. I dont want to be a "slut" but I really do enjoy it. How do you enjoy pleasure without being seen as a slut?
If you like it, if you feel comfortable, if you feel safe, if you know your partner has no STDs or STIs, if you trust your partner, if you're properly protected, and, most importantly, if YOU WANT to, I say go for it. Now for how people view you: the reality of the matter is that people are judgmental and critical of things they have no business judging or criticizing, and if you have many partners people will most likely see that as "slutty." Is there one or two guys you like in particular? If yes, stick with them. If no, that's fine. Do what you want as long as YOU FEEL COMFORTABLE and NOT PRESSURED into doing anything you don't want. Just make sure you're being safe! :)
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Everytime we hang out my boyfriend gets a boner. Ive already given him head and used my hand. He texted me and asked me if i have any other ways of taking care of his boner then just using my mouth and hand are there any other ways besides those two and sex? What should i tell him?
There isn't really another way to take care of it. Oral, hand, vaginal intercourse and anal intercourse are the most common. You could try using your words...maybe he could climax from just hearing you talk. Or he could just think of something that's a total turnoff to him (his gross English teacher in a bra) and just get rid of it himself ;)
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Umm, i have decided to start using tampons, I`m not too sure on how to insert it properly i know how to and where it goes but where should my hands be?
What angle or place should it be aiming towards?
How hard do you push it to make it go in properly?
How easy should it be to make it slide in?
PLEASE ANSWER THIS. I NEED HELP!
Get in a position with easy access to your vaginal opening (sitting on the toilet, squatting, standing with one leg up...) Hold the tampon in one hand with your pointer finger on the top of the applicator and your other four fingers at the grip. Using your opposite hand, hold open your labia (vagina lips). Place the tampon at your opening and insert. You want to be angling horizontal, like towards your back or tailbone. Do not angle it upwards! You'll have to experiment a little with how far up to push it, it's different for every woman. Once it's in, you should not be able to feel the tampon itself. You might feel the string or your vagina might be a little sore if you're not used to sticking things up there, but you should not feel the actual tampon. If it's poking at you or is uncomfortable in any way, remove it and try again. It will take a few tries to get the hang of. But good choice...pads are gross! :)
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I was close friends with this guy, and we took the 1st step to be BF/GF. It went fine, after a month went by he suddenly became very agressivly mean. He called me a pathetic little loser and dumped me.It Hurt me So bad I couldnt eat or sleep or basically function for days. 2 weeks later I started talking to an old male aquaintence...and he asked me out. My new ex hadnt known about the date, and wanted to start a friend relationship. This aquaintence wants me to be his girlfriend, I dont know whom i love more though. My ex is a jerk, but i care about him. and my aquaintence is very nice and respects me. Also I still feel like i'm a cheater when i hang out with him, even though im single?
I completely agree with nascarfan, this guy is a loser and doesn't deserve you. I do think how he acted qualifies as abuse, and you shouldn't be with someone who treats you like you mean nothing. He doesn't deserve your friendship or your love. I know getting over him is going to be hard, especially because you were really close friends first, but you will eventually.
This new acquaintance really seems to be a good guy. He seems to be going out of his way to get to know you, and that's always a good sign. I would give him a chance, but do go slow. You need time to get over your ex-boyfriend. Again, I agree with the user below me. He is your EX and you need to realize that. You are not cheating on him! HE broke up with YOU! This guy is a jerk and doesn't deserve you. Just give yourself a little more time, you'll get over him soon. :)
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I'm a girl & 18. My boyfriend and I was on the sofa and we was kissing. I never let him touch me down below (i have strong views)and he kept moving my hands to his private area. He's done this before and Ive said to him I dont want to do anything yet as im not ready. Yesterday in the cinema he pushed my hand under his trousers but above his boxers. Today he did the same but tried it under his boxers and said to me to touch it for 5 seconds. ofc i said no and then he got it out and was saying to me dont you like it, dont you like me, dont you want me and told me to hold it and i just really like him so much like in all other aspects of our realtionship he treats me so well and hes the best boyfriend ive ever had and so i did because i felt almost bad for not wanting to and so this lead to him telling me to give him a hand job. Idk what to think i really like or even love my boyfriend but my best friend says its not right... advice?
I completely, totally agree 100% with your best friend. What he's doing, how he's pressuring you to do things that you explicitly stated you are not ready for and do not want to do, is not right. If you are not ready, you are not ready. YOU KNOW YOU BEST. There is no reason he has the right to do what he's doing and say the things he's saying. It seems to me that he's saying the things he is to guilt you in to performing sexually, and it looks like it's working. This is not fair. It's pressure, and it's just plain wrong. I personally would classify this under sexual harassment. Talk to him, and if he isn't willing to recognize that you aren't ready, than you shouldn't be with him. I suggest giving him a chance to apologize and change his actions, but if he doesn't change, drop him. Because this could possibly escalate to more serious things and him forcing you to do even more that you do not want to. It doesn't matter how much you love him, if he doesn't respect you and your boundaries, HE IS NOT WORTH IT.
That's my advice. Good luck :)
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I'm not sure if I put my question in the correct category, but it seems as good a place as any. I am at University, in my third year studying Englis Literature and Sociology. I am struggling with how I feel-I usually get ok grades, sometimes outstanding ones, but I worry all the time that my work isn't good enough, and I never think that I am doing/have done enough. I wish I could work harder, but I can't seem to make myself. I waste time stressing when I could be studying. I also have a lot of low self esteem related stuff-I feel pretty dingy about myself, and that other people must be laughing at me, and think that I'm boring and stupid.
The sad thing is that reading this, you'd probably guess that I was in my late teens or very early twenties, but you'd be wrong: I'm 28. This is my second shot at University after I dropped out first time 'round, so actually my performance is a vast improvement on my previous. But I just worry all the time that I am unemployable, and that when I finish (if I even finish) I'll just be left with a pretty bit of paper and nothing much else. I am not a member of any kind of extracurricular activity or anything like that: I am too shy and awkward. I actually hate turning up to classes because I feel so awkward, but I know that has to be overcome. Does anyone have any wisdom/advice/good thoughts?
Being insecure is, in my opinion, one of the hardest things we have to deal with. It's ever-present and affects all aspects of what you do. Here's the thing: you can overcome it. It's totally doable. I don't know you at all, but just from reading this I can tell you have more self-esteem than you let yourself believe. You get good grades and you're able to recognize that. You are trying school AGAIN. What stands out to me about this is not the fact that you dropped out at first, it's the fact that you're brave enough to go back. As for the fact that you're 28, it does not matter. Self esteem issues aren't usually the type that one grows out of with age, hell, my grandmother's best friend is really insecure!
I would suggest talking to someone. Going to a counselor or a therapist can be very helpful. I think based on the fact that you said you're grades and such are being affected because of this, it's gotten to a point where solving this by yourself is going to be very hard. There is nothing wrong with seeking help, in fact, it's admirable.
Good luck :)
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I meet this guy a month ago. he is very nice and very outgoing. the past few days he started changing, he tells em im going to call you but he never does, i invited him to a party but he never went. he decided to go with his friends somewhere else. i wrote to him telling him how i dint wanted to see him again because he is a lier. he told me he wanted to see me tonight to talk things out but guess what? he never called me to hang out and talk. I came to a point where i cant handle this anymore. I was catching feelings for him but i guess that's going to start fading. Im so dissapointed tho :( I don't know what to do. what will you do in this situation? (by the way he is a taxy driver)
So in my opinion, this guy isn't going to change in the near future. I don't know him but I'm getting the sense that he's one of those type of guys that talks to a bunch of girls at once and calls them all "babe" and such but isn't really looking for something serious and the reality in that is no matter how great you are, it's really hard to change a guy like that. Especially if he's still young and if you've only known him for a short period of time. I think that you were right in saying that he's a liar and you didn't want to see him again. If he is so unreliable that you can't even trust he's going to call you back when he says he will, how in the world are you going to be able to trust him when he says he won't cheat on you or with something more than a phone call? You can't.
I say drop him. You've only known him for about a month so it's not like some long-term relationship where you guys are in love and now he's suddenly changing, THIS IS WHO HE IS. And I know it sounds wonderful in your head to say "Oh, I'm going to be THAT girl that the player falls for and now he's suddenly in love and trustworthy..." I've had my fair share of fantasies like that and trust me when I say they ain't gonna work out the way you want, honey. He's not worth it. I get that it's disappointing, it's always great to meet a guy that seems awesome! But once you get under the surface, under all the charm and smiles and winning you over, and you realize he's actually an asshole, then it's time to say goodbye. I say you're too good for him and you don't deserve to be played. Go find a great guy who actually deserves you and will treat you right! I know sometimes it might seem like those guys don't exist, but they do. Patience is the key. Oh, that and weeding out all the losers. Trust your instinct, and I know your instinct says leave him. It'll end up being the right choice, letting him string you along and then hurt you is totally avoidable. Good luck!! :)
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:,(((( me and my bf my first bf broke up on wensday and yesterday he already has a gf
i have never cried this much in my life
he was my first kiss, first bf,, first relationship
everything
he didn't know english so i learned spanish soo hard just for him
whyyyyyy what did i do wrong :,(((((( i'm starting to cry again :,(
i did sooooo much for him, i was a good gf i did soo much but what did he do nothing, even while we were dating he made me miserable and he changed soo much we broke up 4 days before our 1 month.... we didn\'t even make it to a month whyyyyyy what did i do wrong why does god hate me why does my bf hate me why do they all wanna see me crying and in pain
:\'(((((((((((((((((((((
but i dont understand wht i did wrong
the part that makes me hurt the most is
he already has a gf
he was my first everything...
igave him my firstkiss
i hate first love
i wanna find the old me
i use to always smile, never cry, just happy with my friends, but he changed me and he changed alot.. he took away my old me, my smile, my happiness and only left me tears
my friends were goin to cuss him out yesterday and she went upp to his house and he was home and he didnt open then 30 later he came out to hang out w my other friends
:\'(((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((
and then i found out he has gf
the lst string of love i have for him is all gone
now its all hate
a guy that treats me like this, how can i possibly still love him
what is wrong w me
all my friends r calling me stupid cause i still love him after everything he has did to me, the day we broke up i ran in front of 3 cars
and they honked
and the 4th one was goin soo fast and didnt stop
my friend knew i was goin to do something stupid and chased after me, if it wasnt for her, i wouldnt be alive right now. why couldnt she just left me be, i could be in heaven right now, all the pain would be much less and i could forever
i loved a guy for 7 yrs and i rejected all 64 guys that aske dme out b4 jose and jsoe is the 65
a guy that can make me forget about the guy i love for 7 yrs
isnt easy
me and jose hung out everyday
since we dated
till night
i would walk home alone
everyday
and ride his bus
i did everything
to show how much i love him and to be a good gf
i woke up at 5 in the morning
walk 40 min to get ot his house
and go to heritage and just to watch him play soccer
then the coached liked me and wanted me to be the manerage. what did i do wrong???was i a bad girlfriend 15, female
Ok I think you need to take a step back and listen to yourself. Reread the question you just posted. How does reading that make you feel? Is that your true self? Are you really so obsessed with this guy that you're deteriorating into a whiny girl who doesn't see when something good happens to her? I'm not trying to be mean, but I want you to realize how you sound. YOU ARE YOUR OWN PERSON. You do NOT define yourself by your boyfriend.
"i did sooooo much for him, i was a good gf i did soo much but what did he do nothing, even while we were dating he made me miserable"
If this statement is in fact accurate, than I think you have your answer. Why are you so miserable over a guy who's a total jerk?? I understand what it's like to be in love at 15, I really do. But the reality of this is that if he made you miserable while you were together YOU SHOULD NOT HAVE BEEN TOGETHER. You should not let someone else make you miserable and then try to CHANGE yourself to make them more satisfied with you. That is screwed up on many levels.
And then the fact that he now has a girlfriend only a few days after you two broke up proves that he's not worth it! You can't trust him anymore, so why spend the time wallowing in self pity. Go out there and find yourself another guy, girl! A guy WHO ACTUALLY DESERVES YOU.
End this pathetic infatuation and obsession, it doesn't make people feel sorry for you it makes them judge you for not being strong. YOU ARE STRONG. YOU DESERVE BETTER. Don't let him see how this is hurting you, you are your own person. Women are strong. Listen to your friends. They are your support system. And stop stalking him.
You'll get through this.
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so i'm a sophomore in high school. and i like a junior. i'ved liked this guy for 4 years. and he's known ever since i was in 7th grade and he was in 8th grade. him and all his friends stare at me all the time. but the only thing is, he's the hottest guy in the school and mad popular. i think i'm in love with him. is it possible to love someone you've never talked to before? i just don't know. do you think he might secretly like me? because when its just me and him in the hall i feel the tension and he constantly stares at me. and in school whenever i go to the bathroom he's always in the hall also. is it fate that brings us together? help please.
I know what it's like to like someone for such a long time, believe me. It's hard. But here's the thing. You really don't know the guy at all. He could be the guy you've always dreamed him to be or he could be a total jerk. You really won't know until you actually spend time with him.
Being an attractive girl (this is not to sound conceited, just necessary), I have had my fair share of guys stare at me. When a guy stares at you, it means he finds you attractive. Especially if you catch him staring more than once. Now, ideally, you would have all the confidence in the world and just go straight up to him and ask him out, but I know from experience that that's A LOT harder than it sounds, especially with a really popular guy. So here's my advice: when you catch him staring, don't break eye contact. Don't look down and blush. Stare back! Smile a little! "Eye flirt" with him so he'll get the hint. When you pass him in the halls, give him a little smile and "hey." Hopefully that will give him the confidence he needs to ask you out. Unless you do it first which could be totally hot. Guys love confident girls.
As for the question as to whether you're in love with him, I am unable to definitively say yes or no. Only you can say that for yourself, but I will say that I do not believe in real love at first sight or from a distance. I would call what you describe more of an "infatuation." I believe that love comes gradually: first you are physically attracted to a person, then you get to know them and like their personality and from there love will (or will not, depending) come.
Also, don't let yourself fall into the "oh he's so hot and popular and funny" trap and rely on him. Be your own woman! Do what you want! Don't let the other girls he's dated define how you act around him. I know this sounds cheesy, but if he doesn't like the real you HE DOESN'T DESERVE YOU. Make him laugh, be yourself, THAT'S how you start lasting relationships. Good luck! :)
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