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Is it possible to love someone you've never talked to before?
so i'm a sophomore in high school. and i like a junior. i'ved liked this guy for 4 years. and he's known ever since i was in 7th grade and he was in 8th grade. him and all his friends stare at me all the time. but the only thing is, he's the hottest guy in the school and mad popular. i think i'm in love with him. is it possible to love someone you've never talked to before? i just don't know. do you think he might secretly like me? because when its just me and him in the hall i feel the tension and he constantly stares at me. and in school whenever i go to the bathroom he's always in the hall also. is it fate that brings us together? help please.
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Only you can tell if it's love.
I am a firm believer in fate. I believe things happen for a reason and there are people who come in and out of your life. I'm not sure if he likes you he would be the only one to answer that. If you really want to find out why don't you talk to him and get to know him a little bit. You should really find out what he's like as a person before you find out if he likes you or not. Good luck!
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I know what it's like to like someone for such a long time, believe me. It's hard. But here's the thing. You really don't know the guy at all. He could be the guy you've always dreamed him to be or he could be a total jerk. You really won't know until you actually spend time with him.
Being an attractive girl (this is not to sound conceited, just necessary), I have had my fair share of guys stare at me. When a guy stares at you, it means he finds you attractive. Especially if you catch him staring more than once. Now, ideally, you would have all the confidence in the world and just go straight up to him and ask him out, but I know from experience that that's A LOT harder than it sounds, especially with a really popular guy. So here's my advice: when you catch him staring, don't break eye contact. Don't look down and blush. Stare back! Smile a little! "Eye flirt" with him so he'll get the hint. When you pass him in the halls, give him a little smile and "hey." Hopefully that will give him the confidence he needs to ask you out. Unless you do it first which could be totally hot. Guys love confident girls.
As for the question as to whether you're in love with him, I am unable to definitively say yes or no. Only you can say that for yourself, but I will say that I do not believe in real love at first sight or from a distance. I would call what you describe more of an "infatuation." I believe that love comes gradually: first you are physically attracted to a person, then you get to know them and like their personality and from there love will (or will not, depending) come.
Also, don't let yourself fall into the "oh he's so hot and popular and funny" trap and rely on him. Be your own woman! Do what you want! Don't let the other girls he's dated define how you act around him. I know this sounds cheesy, but if he doesn't like the real you HE DOESN'T DESERVE YOU. Make him laugh, be yourself, THAT'S how you start lasting relationships. Good luck! :)
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First, he is interested in you. He thinks you're attractive. So you can end the drama right now and go up to him and ask him out. By doing this you will learn what guys suffer through when they ask you out. This will be a good experience for you, even if you get rebuffed.
Now is it possible to fall in love with someone you've never met? People do it all the time. Look at all the girls who are in love with Justin Bieber, for example, almost none of which have gotten within a hundred miles of him.
What happens is that you get sucked in by the looks or perhaps even the persona the individual exudes and since you don't know them you can project all kinds of feelings and assumptions on them. This is one thing, for example, that drives internet dating.
Anyway, life is short. So go ask him out. If he says no it will make it easier for your heart to move on at least.
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No. This is not love, and it's not fate.
It's fantasy.
And this is fine and normal. It *could* even turn into a real loving relationship someday, but if that is what you want, you'll need to step it up, because right now it's just a fantasy in your head.
Give yourself a swift kick in the ass and start talking to him. Don't sit around and wait for 'fate' to do the hard work.
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