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its really hard to say no when guys ask me to do sexual stuff because I LIKE doing sexual stuff with guys... but I don't want to be called a slut?
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When guys ask me to do stuff its hard for me to say no. I really enjoy fooling around and it feels really good. I dont want to be a "slut" but I really do enjoy it. How do you enjoy pleasure without being seen as a slut?
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If you want to feel really good but not be seen as a slut,don't do stuff with every boy that you meet. Often, if you're in a steady relationship,people don't talk as much. Or, just pleasure yourself by youreself. That's about it.
Like the person below me said, people will always have something to say. As a generally blank statement, if you're young enough to ask this question,you're too young to be fooling around. Trust me. But over all, make sure you're being safe and safe and safe! You hear me? No fooling around today should not change the course of the rest of your life.
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; no matter what, people will always have something bad to say about you. what ever you are comfortable with, because at the end of the day - you are living for yourself. you are not living to please anyone. when it comes down to it - you are going to do whatever makes you happy. so in all honesty, you cannot ask someone for advice for this .. you can ask someone for their opinion. so do what you feel you want to ; just don't care what people say. Like, if in the moment you like what you are doing, don't be all sad or whatever when people talk about it. keep your business confidential and just do not lie about your doings. like you don't have to brag about it, but just stay truthful. be careful baby girl and do not get caught up with the wrong guy. if anything, just have that one guy you like doing sexual stuff with. do not expose yourself to multiple people. those are your goodies ; it shouldn't be an old lock where everyone has the key too. you got to make it hard for guys to get it. make them work ; they don't like when things are all easy.
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If you like it, if you feel comfortable, if you feel safe, if you know your partner has no STDs or STIs, if you trust your partner, if you're properly protected, and, most importantly, if YOU WANT to, I say go for it. Now for how people view you: the reality of the matter is that people are judgmental and critical of things they have no business judging or criticizing, and if you have many partners people will most likely see that as "slutty." Is there one or two guys you like in particular? If yes, stick with them. If no, that's fine. Do what you want as long as YOU FEEL COMFORTABLE and NOT PRESSURED into doing anything you don't want. Just make sure you're being safe! :)
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Not doing it with multiple guys. Pick you out a couple of guys and do things with only them.
I wouldn't even recommend that either; but its the only way I can think of that won't make you seem like a big slut;
People are going to percieve you the way they want too;
Personally, I don't see why people would enjoy fooling around with a lot of different guys; I think its kind of nasty, but everyone has different opionions. It's also degrading.
But hey, its your life.
Just be aware of STD's, pregnancy, and your future.
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