I have a love/hate relationship with Advicenators. I've been off and on this website for the past seven years. I was most formerly Killerface.
I'm a white girl. I've been in a relationship with a black male for almost two years. We're happy. We're odd. We're cute.
I know a little about a lot, so just ask.
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My mom won't let me get contacts and I am 13 years old. What should I do? (link)
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Get a job and buy your own?
You could also try to understand better why she's against them or compile a list of why you want them and what you'll do to get them cause that'd be helpful. Other than that....pretty much nothing.
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My mother lost MY own phone, and now she is saying I can't have another one! What do I do? (link)
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Uh yeah,I'm gonna have to agree with the person below me. Get a job and buy your own.
You could also look for your old phone, that'd be helpful. Other than that....pretty much nothing.
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Hello, I am 18 and a babysitter. I babysit a little 2 year old for a couple who is 22 and 23. I watch him from the time the mom leaves for work at around 10:00 am to when the dad gets home from work which is around 5:30. My parents have to drop me off and pick me up because we only have 2 cars and they take one to work and my brother takes one to work. So, when the dad gets home, I hang out until one of my parents comes for me. We talk sometimes but I realized it's real awkward. Like, when we talk, we don't look each other in the eyes but when we do, he smiles a lot. He asks me about my life and seems genuinely interested when I talk about it. I'm moving into college soon and he asks me questions about that and that he'll miss me when I stop babysitting. Sometimes his son will want something and I'll go to help him and his dad will go to help him, too and we'll both look at each other and smile at each other that we both jumped to help him at the same time. Sometimes his son will do something funny and I'll chuckle and he'll look at me for a few seconds, then smile and then look at his son and tell him he's silly. I don't know what I'm trying to get at, he's 22 and married, he can't be interested in me but I can't figure out why our encounters are so awkward. Please tell me what you think and what I should do. Thanks. (link)
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I personally don't think he's interested.
But even if he was it doesn't change anything. You shouldn't have an interest in breaking up a marriage (right? That's just a guess-most people aren't into that) and he's married and seemingly happy.
Let it go,do nothing but watch his little one and get paid for it. (Much better gig than being that kid's step mom.)
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What happens if too much manstupation is done for long years?
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Masturbation? Your private bits fall off.
Lolnojustkidding.
Nothing happens. Seriously, nothing happens but an orgasm unless you get obsessive about it and it starts interrupting your life.
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I'm 12 years old I wish I could have a better life artsy girl can you talk to me please
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It looks like you're trying to single out one Advicer in particular- it might be helpful to search for their column and message them personally.
In the meantime, suicide isn't the answer. It's never, ever, ever the answer. Want to know why? Because when you commit suicide you don't give yourself a chance to have a better life. That makes suicide like the ultimate roadblock to you actually getting what you want- so you either want a better life or you want to kill yourself, because logically you can't have both.
I hate to be blunt,honey, but you're not even technically old enough for the user agreement for this website, and you've got a hell of a lot more life to live past 12. I promise promise promise you that it gets better- so much better- the older you get.
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I am turning 18 in 2 days and i want to sleep over at my boyfriends house. I don't know how to tell my parents about this they are extremely strict. All we are going to do is watch a series on tv all night. What do i tell my parents? (link)
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It may be too late for this (you may have already done it,I mean) but if you think your parents would be uncomfortable with it, why not invite a couple of your friends over to a mutual house so it's less of a "I'm sleeping over -winkwink-" kind of thing.
Also, as long as you're living under your parents roof, you've got to abide by their rules to a certain extent. If you're not ready to pay your own way,then just suck it up and wait to 'get wild' when you move out.
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while i was over at my guy friend's house we were talking about fingering. we started kissing but then he stop and was like your turn. what was he talking about and how do i get him to do it next time. Ive never been finger before. (link)
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This boy wants some action of the sexual nature but that's a mighty lame way of requesting in. You're obviously young and it may take some time for this to click, but you deserve better than a, "eh,let's do it I guess." For your first sexual experience-all women do, heck, guys do too.
It'll feel good- at least if it's done right- but if it's not, stop! Sex isn't something that should be rushed at all at all at all.
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Ok so i need some advice on this. I have been bleeding for a whole month first like a period and then light. I went to the doctors when i was 5 weeks they couldnt see anything in the uterus and my hcg levels were 200 then i went in when i was 6 weeks they still could not see anything and the levels dropped to 159. The doctor thinks because they didnt see anything in the uterus yet that it can be ectopic but they have no proof of the ectopic pregnancy they said that the tube looks clean and so does the uterus. I don't want to get a methotrexate shot if they do not have any proof of me having an ectopic pregnancy. They believe it can be to small to see it. My question is do you believe i have ectopic pregnancy or is there a chance for me to still be pregnant and just not show anything till 10 weeks? is there anyone that had a successfull pregnancy and had something like this happen to them? Thank you so much this would help a lot because i am worrying way to much :( (link)
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This is something you should be discussing with your doctor. Voice your concerns,opinions,and fears with him or her. He knows your body and specifics a lot better than a bunch of people (most who definitely haven't got an MD attached to their name) on the internet. Seriously, you're giving the internet too much credit to fix your problems. Call your doctor.
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1) Bronx Academy of Health Careers
2) Pace High school
3) Health Opportunities High school
4) Hostos-Lincoln Academy of science
5) School of the Future High school
And If you go to any Of these schools please tell me bout it .thxs :) (link)
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Uh, where are any of these located? Minus the one that actually says Bronx in the title,this is not really useful information. Are you trying to get in one of these schools, I assume? You'd do a lot better to do a google search for these schools and read those reviews or go to greatschools.com because they've usually got the most up to date info.
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Nuva ring has made my vagina extra dry so dry that it hurts to use any body wash down there and its very hard to get wet and sex hurts. I have no stds or infections or anything of the sort. My friend said she also had this problem. What is wrong and should i change my birth control? (link)
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Um,should you change your birth control? Would you like to not have awful side effects and have lady bits that aren't easily irritated? It's totally up to you,but I like the way mine work without the chaff,so I'd change.
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I was wondering if clorox Bleach works for bleaching your hair or lighting it can anyone tell me I saw a post and someone says it works does it do a good job? (link)
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God no, don't do that, you'll fry your hair and create a gigantic mess. Get it done professionally if you need it done so badly.
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About a month ago i hooked up with a co worker (we are both married with children) and have been traveling extensively with him so the sex has continued. However, he has been flirting extensively with another co worker (which I happen to be her supervisor). He said he was doing it to protect our relationship so no one would suspect anything. Well i found out that he actually spent the night with her last night. I feel completely blindsided, hurt, and jealous. How do I approach talking to him because i don't feel like I have a right to feel that way. (link)
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Unfortunately,I have to agree with the person below me. You're very right, you don't have a right to feel that well. I'll give you a piece of advice someone once gave me.
"If you marry a man that cheats on his wife, you've just married a man that cheats on his wife. "
This means that you should pull up your big girl panties, break off the extramarital relationship,and work on the relationship with your spouse. If you don't want to be with him, don't be with him, but dong drag a bunch of extra people into this mess.
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i got to an accident with a tree and i have learner's permit with insurance but no one got hurt so my question is are we going to get help from insurance company if we don't have license? but we do have insurance policy (link)
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If you have insurance on your car (which is required BY LAW in some states) then after you pay your deductible then your insurance will kick and pay for the rest of the damage from your accident, but chances are your rates WILL sky rocket. If you don't have insurance, you're out of luck.
Other than that,I don't know who you are so I don't have the fainest clue of whether or not you have insurance.
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I think Im anerexiant. I havent eaten anything for a week but not because I dont want to gain weight. Its because I am so depressed and just cant eat. I have thrown up stomach acid every 3 or 4 hours the week I havent eaten. What should I do? I want to eat but everytime I try, I gag and throw up again. Im 13/f. Thanx for any advice . (link)
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The term is anorexic, not..however you attempted it. It sounds like you're going through some stuff. Anorexia is the fear of gaining weight and having a distorted body image, to put it plainly. It sounds like you don't have either one of those. You're not not eating on purpose. To fix the problem with your eating,you should probably first address why you are so depressed. Everyone goes through highs and lows in their lifetime- that's perfectly natural, but it becomes a problem when it becomes extreme.
Like, for instance, after my first love broke up with me at sixteen, I dropped 20 pounds in a month because I was so sad,it acted like an appetite suppressant. You need to figure out why it is you're so depressed,then put whatever that issue is into a little mental box and learn to function again.
If you want more info on anorexia though, just look it up on wikipedia or webmd.com. both sites are quite helpful.
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well i go to a mostly black school and I'm black and asian, I have friends but some kids (mostly girls)like 10 or 11 of them make fun of me cause of my eyes
Well when I was going to the girls Gym locker room,they were were all like "look its that asian girl!" and started laughing. People always make fun of my eyes, they say my eyes are too squinty and narrow and etc. Why do people do that? :[ (link)
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Jealousy, or ignorance, or just being stupid. When they say something like that, reply with something equally obnoxious. Like, "oh,look at you,you're so observant. How ever did you figure out that I'm part asian? So clever."
There's nothing wrong with you,whatever race or mixture of races you are. Don't worry about it,these people will grow out of their stupidity, hopefully.
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~Female;
Could I get pregnant from sucking a mans dick? (link)
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Absolutely not.
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Me and my boyfriend broke up..we have been on and off for two years.. we got into a big fight.. should i go back out with him?? he wants me back but i dont know??? Help
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We're going to need a boat load of more information about this to answer accurately...
But the simple answer is, if he isn't emotionally or physically abusive, if he doesn't cheat or mistreat you, if you still enjoy being around him,or if you see a future with him then YES. Sure, why not? Maybe it'll work.
If not, then don't waste your time.
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Oh god where to start. Well Im 13/f and I currently have a boyfriend, he's my first ever. He is also 13 and he has had 1 girlfriend before me. He is amazing, so super sweet and always knows the right things to say. He is cute, funny, nice, sweet, and everything anyone could ever wish for in a guy. He is also pretty cheesy, but it compliments me so i dont care. We have been dating since November.
We had this one conversation on facebook about fishing and I told him I've kissed a fish for good luck before. Me and him havent kissed yet only hugged and he said "Im not kissing you then :P) and I was like ok.. and then the other day I was making KD and I was Skypeing with him while I was making it. I told him I was a bad cook and I burnt my self 5 times. Then he said, since he wants to become a chef, "Its ok, I'll cook". Im kinda confused though cause he says it like we are going to get married in the future. :/ Im 13 though! I still have so much more of my life left and he also asks alot, "Would you ever break up with me" and I always say "No" because I love him and I dont want to end things with him but all relationships come to an end. So I dont know but I think he plans on marrying me, :S Help!
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You're 13. Chances are you'll have ten more boyfriends before you get married. You'll be fine. The aveage woman has 28 first kisses before she marries, which is a lot for some women, but that's just to say that in reality he probably realizes this deep down.
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Ok so i was on my iphone. My parent put a passcode on it so only she can get in. I was on safari(google) and i was looking at stories. I accidentally clicked on one and saw the rating was M. So when i was going to go back. My i phone shut off. If she starts the phone then she'll see the last thing it was on! The Story! I can't tell her it was an accident, but i can't get into my iphone. the reason i can't tell her is because she wouldn't believe me even if it was an accident, then she'd tell my whole family and yell at me. I don't know what to do and i feel really depressed can someone please help!?!?!? (link)
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Try taking the battery out of your iphone? I can't remember if you can do that with iphones,since I had a droid, but if you could that'd clear it out. Also, why on earth is your mother able to lock you out of your own phone? You need to get on top of that to see if you can't figure out the password.
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everytime I try to get him to go somewhere with me he makes up an excuse.. but he always hangs out with his friends.. today he's going lazer tagging with this girl I cant stand but I asked him to hang out with me instead and he said he cant.. he's to busy... how am I supposed to hang out with him if he wont even try to hang out with me??? :/ (link)
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To risk sounding like Snoop Dogg, drop it like it's hot. This, of course, depends on how long you've been together. I'm not saying instantly break up with him,but I'm saying give him an ultimatum. Boys hate ultimatums. Tell him that if he's interested in being your boyfriend and getting to know you on a romantic level,he has to spend time with you. If he doesn't want to do any part of that,he can bounce. Boys aren't complicated,they say what they mean. He might try to say it in a way to not offend you as badly,but they really don't play as many games as you think.
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