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Once I have anal sex and it didn't slipper to my vagina, am I still a virgin? (Stressed) (link)
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yes, your ass is not virgin tho.
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I've been in a relationship with a girl from overseas for almost two years. I'm a 26 y/o guy, and she's 24. She came with me here about a year and a half ago. I treat her well, romance her, buy her roses, bake her cakes, take her out when I have time, tell her that she's beautiful, help her look for work, and a lot with English.
Last year she started acting funny and talking about a guy, and I found out she cheated on me by looking at her phone, and reading her emails (Not saying this was right, just that I did it). I confronted her, but I never really felt she thought what she did was wrong. I promised not to look at her stuff again.
For the half year since then she's been using her phone a ton, and hiding it from me. Lately she has been getting calls and messages from the guy she cheated with on me again, so often that even though she doesn't want me to know, it's inevitable that I would see at some point. She gets pissed off over trivial things, she's stuck to her phone 24/7, we hardly ever have sex anymore, and sometimes I don't feel like she even wants to be here.
So I gave her time, and everything just felt kind of wrong. I broke my promise and checked up on her. She's still cheating on me, and things never really stopped. She tells me she's faithful, nothing has happened, and she loves me, but I know she's lying.
Recently she got offered her dream job in my country, and the contract process is happening fairly quickly. She's staying here on a Partner visa with me, and we live together. If I break up with her, she either has to leave within a month, or become illegal. Apart from that, it will obviously make my life more hellish for that month than it already is living with a person who you know is lying to you with a straight face, while making out with another guy. I know that she is planning to stay with me for the two years it will take for her to gain permanent residence, and then leave me for the guy she is cheating on me with.
In my country, you can only ever sponsor two people to be partners, and if your first partner is granted PR, the length your second one has to wait grows to 5 years, rather than just 2.
I don't know how to handle breaking up with her, and what to say to who, when. I don't want to be taken advantage of, or have my name smeared by this. Breaking up with her before she gets PR will pretty much destroy her whole life as she knows it. She quit her job to come here with me, which is kind of a black spot on her employment history in her home country. I feel angry and upset about what she has done to our relationship, but I'm still battling feelings of love for her, and I don't want to see her broken. I wish everything I know about what's happened could be a lie, but I know it's not, so I have to deal with it.
To complicate things, accepting the job involves costly medical and security checks for her, and may mean we consider moving. I'm at university, and I only just found this out, right before the exam period. I really don't want to think about this before exams, and I definitely don't want to break up with her just before my first exam, so I am putting it off, but I feel so guilty for "supporting" her through the process of getting checks and references for this job that I know will be difficult if not impossible for her to keep.
What would you do?
What should I tell her? The truth? Or that I've fallen out of love, but don't know why? Or that one of her friends told me the truth?
How do I deal with the stress of living together with this oblivious lying girl who tells me she loves me?
What should I do to handle the resistance that I'm likely to have to breaking up with her? She won't want to break up with me, because she wants PR.
Can you tell me some steps and the order in which I might do them?
Any other general advice about the situation that I haven't asked a specific question about is more than welcome.
Thanks in advance.
-Troubled (link)
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get the hell out of this dead end relationshit. It will NEVER get better you are wasting your time. Break up with her, kick her out and don't look back. She is an ungrateful lying bitch\ whore with no remorse and does NOT love you. You can find someone else, you have wasted enough time, I know it hurts but sometimes you just have to do what's best. You would be doing yourself a favor in the long run. And any real woman would have appreciated all those wonderful things you did. Please don't change except for getting rid of the ho.
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I am 12 yr old girl and want to no wen I should be allowed to do things. First I'm responsible , get good grades, and reasonable. I
Makeup: I have acne so I want to conceal and start putting some on in a yr or two. My mom thinks 15/16
Babysitting / tutu ring: I wanna do it now to prove I'm responsible but my mom thinks 13
Dating: I think dances should be ok in high school and to start real dates jr yr with approval of the boy . Mom thinks 17.
Alone: I want to go shopping and movies with a friend or by myself. With friends I think now and I'll call my mom every hour. Alone I think high school. Mom thinks 15
Shaving legs : I think now . Don't wanna ask mim.
Am I being unreasonable? Is she? What is a good middle ground for a good girl like me? Can u help me convince to that middle ground? Thx (link)
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just always do what your mom says. You sound like a very good person, you are on the right track. But your mom tells you things for a reason, she is wise and has been where you are. She knows the world and how it works. Please just do as she says and I promise you will one day look back and see she was right, and she is.
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I feel really good when I laugh and I love laughing. The problem is that I find almost nothing funny. A lot of people laugh when other people get hurt which is what most "funny videos" on youtube are about. And I honestly don't think they're funny ._. I also don't like most "funny" movies. Can anyone give me some ideas what I can watch? The only person I can think of that makes me laugh is ellen degeneres ._. (link)
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start with watching monty python and the holy grail, then watch some old saturday nght live and mad tv skits, then watch all the hangover movies, smoke weed too that helps.
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So my boyfriend & I recently discovered we both had chlyamdia. I got it cured. But my boyfriend on the other hand, hasn't yet. He went but they sent him somewhere else, anyways we were messing around we been using condoms since we found out but I was messing around & I was teasing him & didn't think anything of it but I just licked the top of his dick (the head) & just remembered you can get chlymadia through oral. I didn't think about it, but it was literally just a lick. Not a suck or anything. One lick! Lol he didn't cum or anything. Is there a chance I have a chlymadia? Please answer asap! (link)
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I don't think you do. But I will tell you this, I feel sorry for your boyfriend. They will have to stick a metal rod in the hole of his penis that opends up and scrapes the walls of his protate. Good luck. Also how did you both get chlamydia, who cheated and didn't use a condom, you're lucky you didn't get herpes or aids
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I married a man whose wife committed suicide and so did her mother, acohol posioning. My husband has a temper and acts like a hot shot immature teen ager and toes into fits, screams, gets in his car and takes off for few hours or days. He thinks he is the only one right and he turns everything that is said. He is an acoholic, and smokes continually. You can't communicate with him at all. He refuses to discuss any situation. I am tired of all this. His family told me after I married him that I should watch myself. I have tried suicide because I am so depressed. He was in debt over $200,000 when I married him but didn't tell me. I am at the verge of trying suicide again and I see a therapist and I don't see any hope. I am not afraid of committing suicide to get out of thismess. And he has a son that he practically gave all the equity in it to him. The son owed us $40,000 (had 5 years to save it) on `1/1/2014. His son doesn't call us, not even on my husbands' birthday, xmas, father's day. They have no communication. They are both mean, and don't communicate. I can't take thisman's split personality. I am ready to quit. I see this going no where and I feel like his mother at times. He doesn't shower except for maybe 2x a week. He stinks like smoke and he lies to me. He puts me down in public and I have lost most of my self esteem. I have a MA and he uses that against me at times, because he did not go to college. I have never used it against him. I hate my life. And I am tired of living. (link)
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First of all, please please please don't ever even CONSIDER suicide as an option. You have so many options right now I know you can't see it right now, but I have been where you are several times. I tried suicide and survived, by the grace of God. There is no hope if you kill yourself. This is Your life, lets not forget, you deserve to be here and be happy just like anyone else. Your situation is not hopeless and without solution. Here is what you do first, stop worrying about any of his money. Forget that it is just pointless, start making a plan to get as far as F* away from him. He's nothing but a train wreck and he will take you down with him. By the way, I know you love yourself and know that you know you deserve better because otherwise you wouldn't have reached out for help. Sweetie you're going to have to be strong and walk away from this. What do you have to lose? If you were planning on dying every single day from this day forward is a gift. You have to get away from him
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Hey everyone, 23/f here.
Okay, so I'm trying to be open to all suggestions as far as treating/managing/dealing with this is concerned. I've been against medicating myself for this, as I'm already on a bunch of meds for other stuff, but I'm starting to struggle more.
I have undiagnosed and untreated general anxiety disorder, and PTSD. It's starting to get in the way of my job. My coworkers are therapists and other wonderful people, so they understand when I ask them to stay five feet away from me at all times, but I shouldn't have to. I don't want them to feel like I'm pushing them away - they're like a second family to me.
I've always kind of had some anxiety, nothing too bad, but it's gotten much worse since a traumatic event about six months ago. I've been having trouble being in even small crowds, and I'm getting, like, no sleep. I'll go to bed at 12 and waking up at 4:00, unable to go back to bed. :(
My friend triggered an attack by accident today. I started crying and shaking and had to step away for a second, at work. It's ridiculous.
Has anyone dealt with or had any success in managing their anxiety? Any tips, tricks, techniques, or miracle-drugs? Any good ideas?
Help :( (link)
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start taking omega-3 every day. i am cured and i still cant believe it
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I'm in my 50's and have not meet a man. Would like to have a relationship. Most men at this appear to look much older than me. I work in a public place, see lots of people and I feel I'm friendly. What am I doing wrong, not to meet someone to date? (link)
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You need to flirt more and be more confident in yourself.
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im 19/f
i met this guy and he is great. we hit it off quickly. we got alot in common and we like eachother. but i put myself in a bad situation. while we were talking he started going out with his ex who cheated on him 3 times before and lives 2 hrs away. but he comes over and we hang out and go places and we have even had sex. my feelings for him are soo deep and i cry knowing he isnt mine. but he says he is in a bad spot and to give it time. i dont know how much longer i can take this. please help! and ive even met his daughter and he kissed me in front of her which was a surprise. what does this all mean?
thank anyone who answers this (link)
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he wants his cake and eat it too. he will break your heart, get away from him NOW
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I am 13 and I think I have started my period, I had it for a couple of days and then it stopped, it has been a month and I havnt had it again, have I started or not??? (link)
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You will prob start full on in the next month or two. What you had is called spotting. It must be coming really soon. It starts out like that. So be careful, make sure you always keep tampons or pads with you at all times. Beware of wearing white!
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can i have sex
? i am nine years old.
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No. You are still a child. Too young
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im 20/f and i've never been on a date, not even one. however there's this friend who i would like to go on a date with. we're not that close but he's really friendly when we see each other. I don't wanna go on a date because i like him. i just wanna go on a real date for once. is it okay for a girl to ask for a date, or should i just be implying it? and how should i do that? im also reaaaaaaallly reaaaaaaally bad at flirting! plz help! (link)
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Just tell him youve never been on a date before. He will prob say, really, well i'll take you out then!
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how can i grow a bigger butt (link)
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Eat alot of soul food. Mac n cheese, pork chops, chitlins, collard greens. But its not healthy. Why you want a big butt. Also donuts work. They always go straight to my thighs and butt. Dont get fat
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what should me and my friend do? (link)
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go get icecream
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My man is in prison and he wants to know how I feel about being commuted to two men? I know he wants to make sure im taken care of physically but how would you respond if you were asked this question? (link)
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Do you love him? If so dont cheat wait on him if your not sure go ahead and move on. Its simple
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do you have to wear a condom if you want to be given head at the age of 14? (link)
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Yes, you can get herpes from oral sex. You are too young for this stuff anyway. You need to grow up first
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My name is Madison and I am 13. I have lots of bestfriends but recently I became bestfriends with a girl called Kayla. We have become soo close that we are basically sisters.
Recently, at my house, a couple of boys and girls (including us 2) played an extreme truth or dare in my pool. Now that I think of it, some of the dares that me and Kayla did were very inappropriate.
For example, we open mouth kissed, she squeezed my boobs, I licked her lower tummy. Everyone else was doing extreme dares like that though so I wasn't worried about our relationship.
About a week ago when I slept at her house we were on skype to a randomer and he told us to kiss. She open mouth kissed me while squeezing my boobs. After the skype convo we were just watching a movie and then we stared into eachother's eyes. Suddenly, she kissed me. I didn't pull away or anything coz I kinda liked it (I don't fancy her though). After that it was just a normal sleepover.
Where do you think our relationship is coz I don't want this to ruin our friendship. (link)
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You two sound very confused. I think you are heading down a dark path. Turn around now before it is too late. Yes, maybe you liked it but its only going to cause you hurt and confusion later. Be a nice respectable young lady. One with self respect and morals. Truth or dare is a fun game that I have played before but I always feel guilty later. And i recommend you dont do it anymore
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OK, so me and my boyfriend have been going out for a little over a month now and i thought that i liked him but now i realize that i don't really like him, i am still in love with my past boyfriend and this is really hard i don't know what to do at all with the boyfriend that i have now??? And i think that my past boyfriend still likes me also so i am stuck between the to and did i mention that my mom and my boyfriend now's mom work together and are really close!! PLEASE HELP!!!!
I am 13 years old
and well duh i am a female. (link)
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You should tell your mom everything you just said right here. She will help you. Make her understand you still love your ex and you feel it is not right to string this other guy along cause hes prob really nice huh? You will prob break his heart but its better than stringing him along and living a lie.
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My boyfriends parents are divorcing and I want to give him a kiss and hug him and tell him its all going to be alright. But we havent kissed yet. We have been dating for four years, How should I go about doing this? (link)
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HAVEN'T KISSED IN 4 YEARS OF DATING?!! What is up with that? Maybe just give him a little kiss, come on. Kissing is not a sin
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I broke up with my boyfriend yesterday. I just didn't feel happy anymore. He barely made time for me like he did when we first started dating. He ignored all my calls and texts, and I just felt so doubtful that he liked me. I couldn't take it anymore. He just changed. He was so sweet and caring and loving and funny, everything to me. I kept pushing my doubts aside, fighting with myself not to break it off. And finally, I did. He didn't make any attempts to talk about what was the problem, because he's lazy. He had the time to, he just wouldn't pick up the phone. He always made up excuses as to why we couldn't hang out. His bike tire was broken. He had to do yard work. He didn't feel good. All those excuses. And when I could give him a ride somewhere, he still made excuses. I really fell for him pretty fast. I thought he did too. But I guess it was all just a lie.
so now I regret my decision. Mainly because I didn't give him another chance to try and fix things. I miss him like crazy. But he won't get back with me. He has this thing where he has rules for relationships. And getting back with someone isn't one of those rules. He's rejecting me when I promised him I'd fix whatever was breaking us apart. He said he had feelings for me but they just dwindled over time. I'm so crushed he didn't tell me. He says he's sorry and when I tell him to prove it, he's like: bye. I don't even think he ever did like me. I thought we had an amazing thing going. I shouldn't be so depressed. Yesterday was my sixteenth birthday, and even though I had so much fun, that feeling of emptiness was there. And now it's Easter. I've slept the pain away but I know it will return. He's just turned into a jerk. He's turned into a selfish arrogant jerk that thinks he's too good for me. If he really liked me, he'd give me another chance. I just want him back. I miss him so much. And I know he won't take me back. But I still long for him... (link)
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I know the emptiness inside you are feeling and it is the worst felling in the world just about. I don't think you should shed one more tear for him. If he really loved you he would have treated you right. He is not worth a single one of your tears. He had someone truly special and he let you go, that is his fault not yours. But now you have to move on and live your life and look in the mirror and remind yourself how special you are and wonderful. Build your self-esteem back up because I know its probably at an all time low. Get out of this rut it is only hurting you mentally and physically and keeping you from being you. You will probably have this kind of thing happen to you again in life. I have had it several times, I'm 32. But I just remind myself how awesome I am and how they just werent good enough for me. I just recently broke up with my boyfriend and it really hurts but you know everybody has their problems and issues and he was just really insecure and always thought I was out cheating on him. I just couldn't take it anymore. You never know whats going on in their head. But you know if its wrong, then you just pick yourself up by the coattails and MOVE ON. There will always be someone else right around the corner for you. You will see.
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