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i broke it off and now i regret it.
I broke up with my boyfriend yesterday. I just didn't feel happy anymore. He barely made time for me like he did when we first started dating. He ignored all my calls and texts, and I just felt so doubtful that he liked me. I couldn't take it anymore. He just changed. He was so sweet and caring and loving and funny, everything to me. I kept pushing my doubts aside, fighting with myself not to break it off. And finally, I did. He didn't make any attempts to talk about what was the problem, because he's lazy. He had the time to, he just wouldn't pick up the phone. He always made up excuses as to why we couldn't hang out. His bike tire was broken. He had to do yard work. He didn't feel good. All those excuses. And when I could give him a ride somewhere, he still made excuses. I really fell for him pretty fast. I thought he did too. But I guess it was all just a lie.
so now I regret my decision. Mainly because I didn't give him another chance to try and fix things. I miss him like crazy. But he won't get back with me. He has this thing where he has rules for relationships. And getting back with someone isn't one of those rules. He's rejecting me when I promised him I'd fix whatever was breaking us apart. He said he had feelings for me but they just dwindled over time. I'm so crushed he didn't tell me. He says he's sorry and when I tell him to prove it, he's like: bye. I don't even think he ever did like me. I thought we had an amazing thing going. I shouldn't be so depressed. Yesterday was my sixteenth birthday, and even though I had so much fun, that feeling of emptiness was there. And now it's Easter. I've slept the pain away but I know it will return. He's just turned into a jerk. He's turned into a selfish arrogant jerk that thinks he's too good for me. If he really liked me, he'd give me another chance. I just want him back. I miss him so much. And I know he won't take me back. But I still long for him...
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I know the emptiness inside you are feeling and it is the worst felling in the world just about. I don't think you should shed one more tear for him. If he really loved you he would have treated you right. He is not worth a single one of your tears. He had someone truly special and he let you go, that is his fault not yours. But now you have to move on and live your life and look in the mirror and remind yourself how special you are and wonderful. Build your self-esteem back up because I know its probably at an all time low. Get out of this rut it is only hurting you mentally and physically and keeping you from being you. You will probably have this kind of thing happen to you again in life. I have had it several times, I'm 32. But I just remind myself how awesome I am and how they just werent good enough for me. I just recently broke up with my boyfriend and it really hurts but you know everybody has their problems and issues and he was just really insecure and always thought I was out cheating on him. I just couldn't take it anymore. You never know whats going on in their head. But you know if its wrong, then you just pick yourself up by the coattails and MOVE ON. There will always be someone else right around the corner for you. You will see.
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To put it bluntly, your relationship didn't sound like a relationship at all. You spent the first half of this question explaining how much it sucked and how he didn't treat you right.
Ending it was the right thing to do. You do NOT want to keep hanging in there becoming more and more unhappy in a dead relationship.
Sure, it was good at first - but all relationships start well. People change.
Go out, see your friends, have some fun. and find a decent boy who treats you how you want to be treated.
It's not the end of the world. Cheer up!
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It's ok to miss him. I regretted it after I broke up with my last boyfriend. But don't try to get back with him anymore. Soon you'll be over him and you'll be liking someone else, hopefully someway way better who would treat you right.
You don't want to be with a guy who can't even make time for you. You just weren't happy, remember that.
You might miss the old times and how great it was in the beginning but people change and there isn't really anything you can do about it.
Show him you that you are too good for him. He isn't too good for you but you know you're better.
Just give it time and you'll be fine.
Good luck!
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I think that your ex changed maybe because of the people he was hanging out with. Usually when a guy gets new friends or hang out with different people they tend to change their character pretty fast. Maybe he made up excuses because his parents did not allow him to see you. I think that whatever it was, in the begging he loved you, but he changed pretty fast according to what you said.
I am sorry to say this (please don't take it the wrong way, I only want to help) that you don't really miss him. I think you miss the old him, the one that used to make you laugh. But I think that it will be hard to get that back. No offense to any one but guys are pretty hard to change. I think that you miss having someone around.
You should defiantly not regret dumping him. He was really mean to you and you are way to good for him. If he is lazy and cannot go out with his girlfriend, I don't think he is worth dating. You might feel empty and sad because you don't feel like you used to before. Before he was around to say he loved you and now all you have is your friends. But don't worry, you dumped him yesterday. It takes pretty long to get over a guy. Like a week or two. But take my advice, you are way to good for him, you deserve a guy that is nice to you all the time and that has time for you.
Think about it: If you had not dumped him, you would have been more heart broken because of his excuses and him not having time for you. Thrust me honey, you did the correct thing. Don't feel sorry, there are plenty of other guys out there lucky enough to go out with a girl like you.
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