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I am in my 50s and am having trouble finding someone to date.
I'm in my 50's and have not meet a man. Would like to have a relationship. Most men at this appear to look much older than me. I work in a public place, see lots of people and I feel I'm friendly. What am I doing wrong, not to meet someone to date?
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The first hurdle is just to appear accessible. Be friendly to guys you like, smile a lot, give those men compliments, take an interest in them.
The next issue is, what kind of man do you want? That means that you will have to insinuate yourself into situations where those kind of men are available.
Finally, how do you look? Are you in decent physical shape? If you have a lot of cellulite that is a major turn off. It's okay to be a little heavy if you carry your weight well. Do you dress like an old lady? That is also a major turn off.
The good thing about women of your age (and I'm in the same age group but am not interested in being in a relationship right now) is that you are done with child birth, have a better sense of who you are and you know what works in bed. So just put yourself out there and see what happens.
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I'm somewhat older than you depending where in your 50's you are. If I was looking to date I think I would use the same advice I give the younger people who write us looking for similar advise, just updated to be age appropriate.
At our age we have developed strong likes and dislikes in what we enjoy doing and not doing. Sit down and make a list of those things you enjoy doing. You want to make sure it is an all inclusive list starting with A and going to Z.
For example I really enjoys cooking and dining out. By dining out I don't mean those cookie cutter restaurants. I prefer to seek out not only the elegant restaurants but the neighborhood gems. Then when I find a meal I enjoy I like to try and duplicate it at home. This is something that would be on my list.
After the list is completed I would then start looking for groups and clubs in my area, using search engines and publications found at the library, to find groups with my interests.
One such group in my area is a progressive Dine-Around club. Each month a menu is picked then different members are chosen to prepare a different course to be served at their home. It is a lot of fun and is open to both singles and couples.
Finding a common ground is the hardest part of dating. By taking my suggestion you already have a common ground in the basic tenet of the group, which gives you a method to hold a conversation with. Where there is common ground to communicate you can be yourself and at ease. This makes it easier for someone to get to know the real you.
My advise is to make the list as I have suggest. Find a group or two of your more higher interested things on your list and join those groups first. I believe in doing this you will meet both men and women in which to build a social life and the dating life you desire.
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You need to flirt more and be more confident in yourself.
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You're doing nothing wrong. The most important thing to do is be yourself. Also, learn relationship body language. Things such as playing with jewlerry, or a necklace really appeal to men.
Alternativley you could try a dating site. There all people exactly in your position, so it's not such a big thing. Here are some good ones:
www.ukmaturedating.com
www.50plus-club.co.uk
www.fiftyplusdates.co.uk
www.fiftysingles.co.uk
Don't give in,you'll find someone very soon if youkeep at it! Good luck :)
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