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turning 18 wanting to sleepover at boyfriends house
I am turning 18 in 2 days and i want to sleep over at my boyfriends house. I don't know how to tell my parents about this they are extremely strict. All we are going to do is watch a series on tv all night. What do i tell my parents?
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You are now a legal adult. Your love/sex life is none of your parents' business.
At some point, your parents have to cut the cord and allow you to be your own person. If you've acted in a trustworthy way in the past they have no reason to give you any guff about what you do after becoming a legal adult.
And listen, if you two want to do the wild thing all night, go for it. Just be responsible about it. Or if you don't want to do it, that's cool, too. Just do what makes you happy.
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Your parents should have stopped controlling you at 15. theres no reason you need to explain anything
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Hello! Sit your parents down and explain the situation. Prove to them that you're a mature 18-year-old. This means no screaming, slamming doors, or whining if they don't give you the answer you want. To be honest, they probably won't say 'yes' the first time you ask. But if you're polite and mature, they'll begin to understand that you can be trusted. All it takes is a little patience and a little maturity on your part. Oh, and one more thing: If they end up saying 'no' all together, don't sneak out! You can get back at them in their old age and when they need someone to take care of them...just kidding! Sneaking out will just get you back to square one.
Good Luck!
RosiePosie12321
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The first two adviser pretty much said it all. You are 18 , legally an adult and no longer the responsibility of your parents. Which also means you have all the autonomy that any other adult might have. Then comes that little known rule that parents throw in when you reach this age. which goes like this, "As long as you live under our roof you live by our rules." Frankly their is no age limit on this rule.
If you're still dependant on your parents for things like college expenses, food, clothing and everything else. Then you pretty much have to live by their rules. Now that doesn't mean they should still be treating you like a 12 year old. You are legally an adult and they need to allow you certain privileges that go along with being that age. Just what those privileges are can be negotiated. I don't think you will win sleep over rights with your boyfriend so aim a bit lower.
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It may be too late for this (you may have already done it,I mean) but if you think your parents would be uncomfortable with it, why not invite a couple of your friends over to a mutual house so it's less of a "I'm sleeping over -winkwink-" kind of thing.
Also, as long as you're living under your parents roof, you've got to abide by their rules to a certain extent. If you're not ready to pay your own way,then just suck it up and wait to 'get wild' when you move out.
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If your 18 it's your life. Tell them in a mature and kind way that you are going over to your buoy friends house to sleep over, if your 18 you have the option of doing whatever. If they still won't let you don't push. It, because also that your 18 now you don't have to live under there roof. They could kick you out if they are that strict. Bye :)
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