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Advice on affair: The guy I am having an affair with is having another affair on me with another woman?
About a month ago i hooked up with a co worker (we are both married with children) and have been traveling extensively with him so the sex has continued. However, he has been flirting extensively with another co worker (which I happen to be her supervisor). He said he was doing it to protect our relationship so no one would suspect anything. Well i found out that he actually spent the night with her last night. I feel completely blindsided, hurt, and jealous. How do I approach talking to him because i don't feel like I have a right to feel that way.
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You could try and overcome your jealousy by picking up a book called "Ethical slut". Its about having multiple relationships ethically.
The book has great advice on jealousy, to help you.
Because he is attracted to someone else, doesnt mean he is any less attracted to you.
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Have you ever heard the expression never shit where you eat. The reason for this expression is exactly the reason you find yourself in know. A married with children women, having an affair with a married with children man who is not only cheating on her but telling her he is doing so to protect her. Now if you believe him I have some very wet land in Florida I would like to sell you.
My advise is to pull up you panties and only take them off for the man you married. Do not hold the affair your subordinate is having with this man against her as this would be sexual harassment against you.
Having an extramarital relationship is never the right thing to do. Having one with a co-worker is always wrong even if if both of you are single having an affair with a co-worker is counter productive.
If your home life is bad either seek marital counseling or a divorce lawyer. Staying married for the benefit of the children always hurts the children. You would be surprised what the children are capable of seeing and understanding even when you attempt to hide things from them.
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Unfortunately,I have to agree with the person below me. You're very right, you don't have a right to feel that well. I'll give you a piece of advice someone once gave me.
"If you marry a man that cheats on his wife, you've just married a man that cheats on his wife. "
This means that you should pull up your big girl panties, break off the extramarital relationship,and work on the relationship with your spouse. If you don't want to be with him, don't be with him, but dong drag a bunch of extra people into this mess.
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You're right, you don't have a right to feel that way.
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