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Last Update: August 17, 2012
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About a month ago i hooked up with a co worker (we are both married with children) and have been traveling extensively with him so the sex has continued. However, he has been flirting extensively with another co worker (which I happen to be her supervisor). He said he was doing it to protect our relationship so no one would suspect anything. Well i found out that he actually spent the night with her last night. I feel completely blindsided, hurt, and jealous. How do I approach talking to him because i don't feel like I have a right to feel that way. (link)
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You could try and overcome your jealousy by picking up a book called "Ethical slut". Its about having multiple relationships ethically.
The book has great advice on jealousy, to help you.
Because he is attracted to someone else, doesnt mean he is any less attracted to you.
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I've been married to my beautiful wife for 3 years now. I told her I'd do anything in the world to make her happy and to please her. About a week ago she confessed to me that she wants to experiment with other men. She wants to actually have sex with another man to see what it's like since she has only been with one other man before our marriage. I can't really overcome this and it makes me feel like a bad husband. I told her I'd have to think about a lot of things first. She said that it's the only way she'll be completely happy in this marriage. What do I do? I feel like if I say yes then I am degrading myself and this marriage, but if I say no then I'm holding her back from what will truly make her happiest in this world. (link)
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Im wondering what happened here.
Id like to propose a different solution. Take a look at "polyamory" . There are many people living a lifestyle with multiple partners. They believe that if you are attracted to someone, it doesnt HAVE to mean you no longer love your spouse, or your 1st partner.
It seems to me she is honest, and she approached you with this request, because SHE LOVES YOU AND STILL WANTS THE RELATIONSHIP WITH YOU!
Society and Western culture seem to dictate that you should get all your needs met by one person. Thats impractical, and its not working out for many couples.
Id also recommend a book "ethical slut" which will help you honour your wife's (reasonable in my view) request, without screwing up your relationship.
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