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I meet this guy a month ago. he is very nice and very outgoing. the past few days he started changing, he tells em im going to call you but he never does, i invited him to a party but he never went. he decided to go with his friends somewhere else. i wrote to him telling him how i dint wanted to see him again because he is a lier. he told me he wanted to see me tonight to talk things out but guess what? he never called me to hang out and talk. I came to a point where i cant handle this anymore. I was catching feelings for him but i guess that's going to start fading. Im so dissapointed tho :( I don't know what to do. what will you do in this situation? (by the way he is a taxy driver)
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hey. I am in the same situation. So while I am helping you, in a way i'll be helping myself too :)
here's my story:
I met a guy through some mutual friends. we really got along and after 2 or 3 weeks I started to fall for him. We had a thing going on for about a month and a half, until he started changing. He wouldn't text me back, he didn't want to hang out as much, and it just seemed like something was always wrong with him. I was so upset that I convinced myself to fall out of love with him and move on. So that is what I did. It was a tough journey for me.. and it still is. I still think about him all the time and wonder "what if". Him and I are starting to get back into touch. we're talking every now and then. Actually, we have plans tonight to see a movie. Everytime we made plans to hang out, he's bailed and done something else. So I'll see tonight if he sticks with this plan. If not, then I'm calling it quits because I don't want to keep waiting for something if it might not even happen.
So here's my advice to you. I know its tough but you really should find a way to move on from him. Life is only so short.. so make the most of it. One of the biggest things i hate is wasting time. Nobody should ever have to waste time for someone else's sake. He isn't doing anything for you, he's not calling you back, not wanting to hang out, he's not even staying true to his words... so why should you put all the effort and time into something that he won't even do himself?
Try doing other hobbies and activities to get your mind off of things. I started photography which takes up a lot of my time. its really fun, I enjoy it, It makes me happy, and takes my mind off him and the stress. I also hang out with friends more and I make a lot of new friends whenever I can. After a while, he will soon be out of your mind. Its hard, but its possible.
Just keep your head held high and know that NOBODY should make you feel this way. you don't deserve it. Do what makes you happy, and then let the rest happen by itself :)
good luck and inbox me if you need more hep!
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So in my opinion, this guy isn't going to change in the near future. I don't know him but I'm getting the sense that he's one of those type of guys that talks to a bunch of girls at once and calls them all "babe" and such but isn't really looking for something serious and the reality in that is no matter how great you are, it's really hard to change a guy like that. Especially if he's still young and if you've only known him for a short period of time. I think that you were right in saying that he's a liar and you didn't want to see him again. If he is so unreliable that you can't even trust he's going to call you back when he says he will, how in the world are you going to be able to trust him when he says he won't cheat on you or with something more than a phone call? You can't.
I say drop him. You've only known him for about a month so it's not like some long-term relationship where you guys are in love and now he's suddenly changing, THIS IS WHO HE IS. And I know it sounds wonderful in your head to say "Oh, I'm going to be THAT girl that the player falls for and now he's suddenly in love and trustworthy..." I've had my fair share of fantasies like that and trust me when I say they ain't gonna work out the way you want, honey. He's not worth it. I get that it's disappointing, it's always great to meet a guy that seems awesome! But once you get under the surface, under all the charm and smiles and winning you over, and you realize he's actually an asshole, then it's time to say goodbye. I say you're too good for him and you don't deserve to be played. Go find a great guy who actually deserves you and will treat you right! I know sometimes it might seem like those guys don't exist, but they do. Patience is the key. Oh, that and weeding out all the losers. Trust your instinct, and I know your instinct says leave him. It'll end up being the right choice, letting him string you along and then hurt you is totally avoidable. Good luck!! :)
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This happens to so many amazing young women- I will just give you a few of my thoughts. Women tend to be very caring, loving, nurturing creatures. When we meet a man who is fun, happy, and cute, we start to want to spend more time with him, and start to care for him. It's part of our nature! Attraction is a wonderful thing.
Something to keep in mind is that attraction is also different for guys than girls, and of course, different for every person. You have only known him a month! He sounds like a fun guy, but one that might not feel the same way you do YET. Maybe he isn't very interested, or maybe it just takes him time to get to the same level of emotion that you are.
Now keep a few things in mind.
-Not every guy is "the one". There are certainly some great, charismatic guys who aren't interested in developing relationships yet. They make great friends, but maybe not the best boyfriends!
-He might wish you well. Just because he has sort of blown you off, that doesn't mean he doesn't like you. He could be nervous about seeing you, or feel awkward talking about emotions with you. You can't force him to do things with you, but you can try your best to make him feel welcome and comfortable by just befriending him.
-All that said, every woman deserves a man who will take time to do the things she enjoys- Like going to parties or social gatherings- and also take the time to make her feel appreciated. You certainly deserve a listening ear and a shoulder to cry on when you are sad.
In any case, men usually aren't as open to real relationships and emotions as women are. Try not to be disappointed, but be understanding. Get to know him, try new things that he enjoys, become his friend, and then maybe he will be ready for a relationship.
Best of luck to you!
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