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Ok, I already got all his other presents, and I'm trying to figure out some stock stuffers! He's 18; and he doesn't like any type of candy.
I already got him a shaving kit, and a cologne kit, so I can't stick those in there, becauase they are already wrapped up.
I'm just in a tough spot. I am clueless.
I got him a toothbrush, 3 lottery tickets, and some gloves since he works outside, but I need a few more ideas.
ANYTHING WOULD BE HELPFULL!
Thanks! (link)
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These things are great! Growing up my parents were always awesome at thinking of stocking stuffers. I know this is kind of silly- but we would also get some basics- examples would be a pack of plain hanes shirts, maybe some socks, cute pair of boxers ;) haha idk, just some basic things he will use, but will also take up a fair amount of space in the stocking.
You sound like such a good girlfriend, being so thoughtful. I wish the both of you a Merry Christmas, and good luck!
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17/f
I am a Christian. I have been all of my life.
Some people tell me that Christian's do not get depressed because they have found God's love. I know where they are coming from, but I feel myself fighting depression. I always feel alone.I keep having bad thoughts. I feel like my family will never understand what I am going through, I try telling them but then they feel bad because I am just acting negative and am not being thankful for the life that them and God has provided for me. We don't really have the money right now for conseling. I am not 100% sure what my question is,i guess i have a few. 1.) does anyone know free conseolors online?or free chat where you can instant messageanyone? 2.) are there any websites where I can havea chrsitian penpal? 3.) does it get any better (link)
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I am so glad you wrote.
I myself have been Christian all my life. for the first 17 years I have been a bubbly little thing, absolutely loving life and all I have been given.
Two years ago, I went through depression. It turned out to be caused by my lack of Vitamin D, which I found out by a doctor, but through that experience I learned how real depression is. It's not just about "sucking it up" or "trying a more positive outlook", this is hard, serious stuff. Though things make you happy, nothing could shine a light through the depressing I felt was just getting absorbed in everything I am. I have always been blessed with really strong faith, but I felt even the joy he typically brought into my life was over-shadowed.
The only thing I had was hope. I had so much faith that someday I could get better. Even though I didn't know when or how, I had hope that it would. That hope served as my light during those dark times. That is what made the hard days a little better.
Like I have already mentioned, depression is serious and I was lucky enough to be able to find the problem and fix it medically. I never tried depression medication, so I don't have much advice in that field. Of course, I would suggest you meet with a pediatrician or something to help you. Some times we have to take advantage of the blessings of western medicine!
Just one final note, just go ahead and double check that you are getting the proper vitamins (not just vitamin d). Vit-D is essential in neurological function and most people in the more northern regions of the world where there is less sun don't get enough. Please know that this is a real medical issue, you aren't a bad person, and it WILL get better.
Sending you lots of love right now!!!
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I meet this guy a month ago. he is very nice and very outgoing. the past few days he started changing, he tells em im going to call you but he never does, i invited him to a party but he never went. he decided to go with his friends somewhere else. i wrote to him telling him how i dint wanted to see him again because he is a lier. he told me he wanted to see me tonight to talk things out but guess what? he never called me to hang out and talk. I came to a point where i cant handle this anymore. I was catching feelings for him but i guess that's going to start fading. Im so dissapointed tho :( I don't know what to do. what will you do in this situation? (by the way he is a taxy driver) (link)
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This happens to so many amazing young women- I will just give you a few of my thoughts. Women tend to be very caring, loving, nurturing creatures. When we meet a man who is fun, happy, and cute, we start to want to spend more time with him, and start to care for him. It's part of our nature! Attraction is a wonderful thing.
Something to keep in mind is that attraction is also different for guys than girls, and of course, different for every person. You have only known him a month! He sounds like a fun guy, but one that might not feel the same way you do YET. Maybe he isn't very interested, or maybe it just takes him time to get to the same level of emotion that you are.
Now keep a few things in mind.
-Not every guy is "the one". There are certainly some great, charismatic guys who aren't interested in developing relationships yet. They make great friends, but maybe not the best boyfriends!
-He might wish you well. Just because he has sort of blown you off, that doesn't mean he doesn't like you. He could be nervous about seeing you, or feel awkward talking about emotions with you. You can't force him to do things with you, but you can try your best to make him feel welcome and comfortable by just befriending him.
-All that said, every woman deserves a man who will take time to do the things she enjoys- Like going to parties or social gatherings- and also take the time to make her feel appreciated. You certainly deserve a listening ear and a shoulder to cry on when you are sad.
In any case, men usually aren't as open to real relationships and emotions as women are. Try not to be disappointed, but be understanding. Get to know him, try new things that he enjoys, become his friend, and then maybe he will be ready for a relationship.
Best of luck to you!
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Ok, I been with my boyfriend basically for 4 years. we broke up because he went to the Dominican republic and cheated on me with someone else. we were off for 1 yrs and 2 months then When he came back he apologized and now we're back together. I still believe we have 4 years even though we weren't together the 4 full years. my boyfriend is 18 and so am I. There is this guy he is 23, I meat him 3 weeks ago, he is cute, and nice to be around with. He likes me and last night we ended up kissing. I really don't know what to do. I'm sure if i tell my boyfriend he's going to break up with me. there is no doubt about that. But I also like the other guy. I'm so confused right now. I know that i have to stay with only one but i don't know with which one :( can someone bare with me here and try to help me out. I will really appreciate it. thanks in advanced (link)
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This happens so frequently as we grow up, and as a matter of fact, at one time I even felt I had to choose between two guys!
I was talking with one of my older friends who was already married and everything, and she said "if you have to choose between them, neither one will be THE one".
That being said- people change over time. You also need to get to know people before you actually fall in love and whatever- but the idea is that if you are really doubting your relationship with your boyfriend, he probably isn't the right one!
The best thing I have ever done is fall in love with my best friend, who looks at me everyday like I am the best thing he has ever had. Please don't settle for less than the best!
Best Wishes!
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A few years ago my parents split after 20+ years of dating/marrige because my mom cheated on my dad. I stayed with my dad because I refuse to meet the other guy let alone live with him, I'll also always have some sort of hatred for her for breaking up the family. But that's beside the point.
Anyway, it seems like this year, I've started to worry about my dad's health/life a lot more than I dd before. It may be because I'm the only woman in the house now and I've sort of taken my mothers place when it comes to making sure he's eating enough, etc.
Every single time my dad leaves the house, I'm terrified. I'm terrified he's going to get into a car accident and die. He's been in a motorcyle accident once but then just left him with a broken collarbone. If he wasn't wearing a helment, however, he would have died.
Anyway, it seeems like the world tries to shove this fear in my face and make it worse. Practically every time he goes out, about 10/20 minutes later a police car/ambulance will go speeding down the highway with lights/siren on in the direction he was heading to. And I can't help but think the worst.
Also, when I text him any questions or things I have to tell him and he doesn't answer for a few hours, I think the worst.
This constant fear is really stressful. I'm sure a part of it drives from the fact that if anything were to happen to him, I would be forced to live my my mother and the other man which I absolutely refuse to. But being underage (17) I would be forced to.
How can I stop this worrying? I understand that there's always a possibly of something happening. But how can I stop the thought from taking over my mind? (link)
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This is a very gentle-hearted question you ask here. First of all, I applaud you for your love and kindness you have already shown to your Dad. I am sure he loves you and appreciates you very much.
Now, to deal with your problem. First off, you should know that it is normal to worry about the ones we care so strongly about. In the past few years, you have grown to care for him in ways you never felt you had to before. The more you care for him, the more you will worry. There is nothing wrong with that.
Now, much like any other muscle, fear is one that gets strengthened the more we use it. The more we indulge in it, the more scared we become. When your Dad walks out the door, your heart starts racing and increases adrenalin. Suddenly, you notice the sirens and lights. Just like how when you were 14 and babysitting, every little noise scares you way bad or something. Most of it is in your head, increased by the amount of adrenalin which makes you more aware of these things.
That's all well and good, but now, let's help calm your troubled heart! Literally, we want to start with your heart. When your Dad leaves, or when other anxious thoughts come up, slowly breathe, focus on the air moving through your longs. Calm your heart. If you like to do yoga, read, run, etc, now would be a great time! Release your stress! Try to do this any time you feel those creeping thoughts. Not only will this give you an outlet for stress, but it will also lower your adrenalin, and make you far less startled from the world around you.
Other than that, sounds like you should have a talk with your dad. Try not to worry him at all, just tell him that you really care about him and you get nervous when he is out! He probably feels the exact same way about you and can give you pointers. Maybe, you can even work out a routine of text messages or phone calls so you feel less stressed about not hearing for them. At least you will know when he is free to talk.
Lastly, don't forget to always tell your dad how much you love him! He sounds like a wonderful man, and he deserves all the love you show him! So say "I love you" a little more and squeeze those hugs just a little tighter. Time will never stop, so enjoy the present as much as possible!
Best wishes! Please feel free to contact me if you have any further questions!
ariannekp :)
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I love the last link, but that's just me! :)
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How do you say this bands name, Attila? (link)
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I would say it "Uhh-Til-uh", some people say it "AT-ILL-UH" :)
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Hi,
21/M
My room is pretty small, and I don't have money for gym membership, so I was thinking of just keeping dumbbells and weights in my room.
But is it possible to work our your whole body with just dumbbells? I just don't have space for a weight bench or a barbell.
Thanks in advance. (link)
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Hello! What a great idea to workout in your room. Gym memberships can be expensive! There are certainly some weights you can do to exercise your whole body. I will try to explain a few, and you can ask me for further explanation if needed. Kay? Kay :)
Arms: This is pretty obvious when it comes to dumbbells. You probably know what to do. Bicep curls, Arm hangs, tricep curls...if you have further questions, try googling! Here is a site with some basics --> http://www.menshealth.com/fitness/arm-exercises/
Abs: Try doing situps holding your arms straight above your head holding weights. These will get you KILLER abs! Remember, if you want really defined muscles, work until exhaustion. Instead of doing many sets in a lower weight, beef up the weight to the point where you can only do 8-10 reps comfortably. Another exercise for your core- Try bicycles (on your back pumping your legs) and alternate bringing the dumbbell up to each knee. This is a good workout without the weights, but with it, it will make it that much harder. One last core exercise, V-SITS. Okay, these can be pretty killer at the beginning, but worth it in the end! Here is a vid to help you with those v-sits http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MzV6G47VL10 (I know it's a girl in the video, but I promise, toned abs are hot on anyone! :P)
Legs: Okay, here is the hard part. Dumbbells aren't going to do much. BUT they can certainly do some!First, get in a squat position with both hands on the dumbbell. Make sure when you hold the weight that it is vertical, with your hands making C's facing each other. Now, bring that puppy all the way over your head to be behind your back, still vertical like your spine. Now, do your squats just like normal. Feel the burn!
Another leg exercise- do lunges (alternating with each leg in front) with weights in both hands down at your sides. Lastly, try to run a bit outside. I know this isn't very fun, but it will strengthen your legs and also serve as a good cardio workout!
Parting words: There is tons you can do at home. Pushups are by far the greatest exercise known to man. They literally work almost every muscle in your body. Follow the 100 pushups program for great arms, abs, and booty! http://hundredpushups.com/
Also, you might want to invest in a pullup bar for your door. Not too expensive and they are LOADS of fun to show off with :P
Good luck on your workouts! Lemme know if you have more questions!
Arianne, 19f
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Hi, my boyfriend and I were dry humping on last weekend friday or saturdaay I don't remember. I was laying down on his bed on my stomack and I had all my clothes oon. And he had his clothes on . So I wore leggings and he had his pants on so he came on top of me. After he came he got up and I saw a big moist part on his pants se he was wet. So now I'm worry can spperm pass through leggings? Its because I didn't wear jeans can sperm pass through leggings?? And he changed himself but he was wet and that spottt soo can u guys please give me some right information ?? Btw I gave him a handjob a week befor that and he was lying down on his bed and he came under his shirt so he didn't get up but his put his dick under his shirt and after we went wash our hands but. Also because my hand got tired I used my feet but I washed my feet too so any risk in that ?? Right information please (link)
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To answer your original question- No. It is extremely unlikely to get pregnant with clothes on. Leggings are thin, but for it to go through his clothes and yours would be quite a feat! However, you do have to be cautious because it is always possible when fluid is involved.
You two seem like you are very close, and what a wonderful thing it is to trust someone with your body. If you plan on continuing this intimacy, I might suggest going on the pill. Unlike other birth control options, the pill doesn't interfere with anything physically and it can give you peace of mind!
I am sure the other commenter didn't mean to offend you, but just wanted to suggest an option to help ease your worried mind!
Hope I helped!
arianne
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i am an 18 year old girl and am experiencing sharp pains in my breasts what could be the cause of this? (link)
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Okay, you are not alone. There is never anything wrong with going to a doctor for these things, but I think it is very likely that it is just kind of normal. I say "kind of" because it won't (and shouldnt) last forever. But it does happen to many girls around your age.
Even if you believe you are fully developed, your body is still changing and nerves are changing too. Sometimes as you grow up, weird little pains happen. Try not to be too alarmed. Here is a website that had some great details and maybe that will help :)
http://breastcancer.about.com/od/Breast-Pain/a/Sharp-Pain-In-Breast.htm
Of course the worry whenever women say they have some pain in their breast is that it is breast cancer, but this is not often the case. It is more typical that you may need to eat more vitamins or you are just going through a growth spurt.
Best wishes!
Arianne
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Im 23 and over weight. I was 145 thru all of high school and as soon as i got pregnant with my first son my weight went thru the ceiling. I didnt try and lose weight after his birth due to being a "single" parent and not having any time, energy or help. i got married and had another baby and now im looking to lose some pounds. My husband is VERY into thick chicks but im uncomfortable with my body. I used to think I was sexy as hell but now its hard for me to even get undressed to shower let alone have sex with my husband. I have tried starvation diets, atkins, slim fast, weight watchers. i cant stick to diets i just cant do it. I have two small sons which makes it almost impossible to exercise. Someone help me find a balance to lose at least 20 pounds. I have to feel sexy again my sex life is gone, im unhappy and i need help. I eat as healthy as possible. Im so unhappy and depressed with myself altogether that i eat because im bored, upset, angry. I eat just to eat and i cant stop. SOMEONE HELP ME PLEASE!
btw i do not to be critisized or mocked. If you plan to lecture me or talk shit dont even bother. im looking for real advice!!!!!!!!! (link)
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You have basically told us that you cant stick to diets and you can't exercise. Of course you won't be losing weight! Unfortunately for ALL of us who are unhappy when we look in the mirror and see a little more than we have hoped, we don't get it by "wanting" it. We get there be DOING. You CAN do this! It's not about rigid diets and running a million miles, it's about a healthy lifestyle! Here is my advice:
-Shop for healthy foods. It will be a lot harder to eat junk food when it isn't in the house! Don't be confused, this is not "all natural" or "organic". Look for things low in calorie, low in fat, high in vitamins, and whole grains. Switch to bread with 100% Whole Grain as the first ingredient, eat cereal and oatmeal for breakfast instead of pastries or baked goods. Add more vegetables, and eat lean meats. Boy, there is a lot there, isn't there? It can be overwhelming. Start with one food change. Like drinking 8 cups of water a day, or eating vegetables or fruit two times a day at least.
TRY not to restrict yourself too much. Ultimatums like NO SUGAR, NO JUNK FOOD, NO SODA- those are so restricting. You can't live your whole life that way! This isn't just a diet to lose weight. This is a life style change. Keep your favorite snack around, a nice drink, allow yourself SOME chocolate. The key is about self control.
-Exercise is a challenge for so many people! I admire you sacrificing your body to bring two little ones into the world. Now is the time to enjoy the lives of these kids. What better memory to give them than playing with their mother? Try to walk them to the park once a week. Instead of sitting on the bench while they play, chase them, tickle them, push them on the swing- they will love it and YOU will be burning calories!
Pick a distance or time and try to get that in every day. For example, maybe .5 miles a day. Check the mailbox, walk to get the newspaper, park further from the grocery store. If you set a small goal, it will be attainable and encourage you.
I try to follow the http://www.bodyrock.tv/ workouts. The woman is adorable and she shows you how to do all the moves- Even for beginners! After you put the kids to bed, try doing even a little of this workout. The more you put into it, the more you get out.
-Last but not least, be careful what you say to yourself. Your husband may find skinny women attractive, but have you not ever thought Leo DiCaprio was a hottie or Brad Pitt's bod totally rockin? What counts is that he looks at you and still sees the beautiful woman he married. Of course he wants you to be healthy, but no matter what, you turn him on. Sometimes the thing that makes us women feel the sexiest is looking into the eyes of the ones who love us the most and seeing what they see. Your man loves you, and he loves your body! And plus, getting intimate burns some calories ;) Please remember that you are WONDERFUL. This is about making you healthier and happier. Make changes inside and out, and you will be DYING to take those clothes off again :)
Good luck!
arianne :)
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I'm wanting buy my boyfriend some presents for Christmas this year. But he's so hard to shop for! I was thinking I could buy some but maybe make a few too? I need some ideas though! Anything will be appreciated. Thanks! (link)
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What great ideas! My boyfriend is hard to shop for too so I can definitely relate. Here are things I have done!
Make a blanket- Sounds hard, but it's really not! If you just buy two fitted sheets (or a sheet set and cut the elastic off) you can sew them together with batting in between for a nice warm blanket! Sheets come in so many different colors and patters, you are destined to find one for your man! You will be able to make something nice for him, and he will think of you every time he snuggles up!
(if you want more blanket instructions ask in my advice column and I will let you know :)
Make him a yummy treat- You know those little comments he makes about a warm pan of brownies or those chocolate chip cookies? Why not make a batch just for him! When he sees that plate of deliciousness, whisper in his ear that they are just for him and she shouldn't share ;) He will love knowing you remembered what food he loves!
Date night- How often does your man take the bill at dinner, pay for the popcorn, or rent a great movie just for you? Help him out by giving him a date night present! Print out cute "I O U" movie tickets and stick them in a card that says that you want to take him out! Has he been wanting to do something manly like go see a football game or play laser tag? Be brave and foot the bill (and be a good sport too!)
One final word of advice: You obviously care a lot about him, and this probably wont be a short term relationship. Sit him down, give him a little massage or a few kisses and tell him how much you love him. THEN tell him that you really wanna get him something special for the holidays and ask him what he wants. You don't have to be a mind reader! It may be hard for the first little bit, but believe me, once he gets used to opening up and telling you what he wants, he will do it all the time and it will be really fun to choose what special things to do for him.
Happy Gifting!
arianne :)
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What do is the meaning of the lyrics, "We wake up in the breakdown of the things we never thought we could be," in the song Here is Gone by the Goo Goo Dolls? My interpretation is that it means one day we wake up and realize we've becoming everything we said or thought we never would.
But I need to know if that's the correct interpretation? (link)
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Again, there aren't really wrong answers, but here is mine:
"We wake up in the breakdown of things"
First, what are the things? The answer comes next "we never thought we could be" Hence, "We wake up in the break down of [what] we never thought we could be.
Next, what does "wake up" mean? I prefer to think of it as "coming to a realization. So now, this is what we have "We [come to a realization] in the breakdown of [what] we never thought we could be"
So think for a moment, these people were living their lives happily. Becoming the wonderful things they never thought they could achieve, but possibly they weren't taking full advantage of the blessings they have. They only come to realize how wonderful everything in their life was until after it is "breaking down" or falling apart.
Sorry that was a little long!
ariannekp :)
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I'm 17 & very slim: a size 0 in pants. However, as for my bra size, I'm a 32DD. I'm pretty lopsided but I wanted to know what kind of basic tees I can wear that won't make my boobs look too.. huge. I usually wear t-shirts w/ sleeves that are v-neck but I always have to wear a tank top underneath because my bras are a bit too small & I'm afraid too much cleavage will show.
any advice? (link)
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Layering is a great idea to give you the coverage you need! T-shirts are extremely generic and will draw attention to what you believe to be disproportional. They will either seem too baggy on your waist, or too tight on your bust.
I would really recommend you look for flowy, empire waisted, or natural waisted shirts.When you wear a shirt with a higher waist, it will float away from the hips creating more of an hour glass shape. Be careful that the waists are not to high. The waist line should always fall below the bust, and should not creep up on your chest when you raise your arms (that means it's too small). Because you are large busted, you may have trouble finding empire waisted shirts that work, so also look for flowy shirts with a tie at your natural waist.
Most importantly, remember that the best way to look beautiful is to FEEL beautiful. Every body is unique, and you should embrace yours! Find a shirt that makes you feel pretty. And don't hesitate to get some cute bras and panties too, that always helps me! ;)
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Does anyone know of any commercial or ads that show women selling a product using their body? Like they look sexy or whatever in order to sell a product. It could be a beer commercial/ad too. Thanks! (link)
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Any ads for dieting, mostly nutrasystem, women are always shown in bkikins. Also, Bowflex has a lot of commercials saying if you want this "stone hard, sexy core" you need to buy their product.
Another one that I found REALLY sexual was Carls Jr. Commercials. This Target Women video points this out. The host is pretty funny too!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x4HzlRQDIes
hope I helped!
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Hi... I am kind of upset so my writing might send of some type of emotional vibe...despite that i just want to say that I do think I a rational despite all this...
I had arranged with my parents to leave the house for the night so that I can invite a few friends over for a fright night movie marathon. I invited about 15 people over. It was a last minute thing and I kind of arranged this last night... Anyway so 3 declined because they were really scared and couldn't deal with it. my best friend said she couldn't cause she had to finish "homework" . the rest never answered. and one just said she wasn't coming. point blank and very blunt. My best friend really really upset me cause that afternoon she basically ordered me to take her to the mall to get "necessary stuff for tomorrow's homework night" (something she arranged and I have to buy the cake even though it's her place.. usually i wouldn't mind but some how when there is buying i always end up paying most of the time... she doesn't even offer unless she wants to claim it later... again i never mind in exchange for her trustworthy and loyalty... friends give and take) needless to say the trip's purpose ended up being her ride so she could go shopping for a few stuff and to see what stuff she need when sale happens. I got really upset because we didn't even get anything for tomorrow... she was too busy going into the stores she wanted so i ended up going with my other friend who happened to be there to prove a point. she didn't care, and was basically implying that i should go and she'll find me when she's done... so i ended up going with this girl and bought a few things. on the way out she was like oh that was productive i just gave her a look and said nah it's all unnecessary stuff really in hopes she'd get it, but all she said was what do you mean you went shopping didn't you you have bags. I just ignored her.
earlier that day (when i asked her if she went online to check the event and whether she was coming and she said no) i suggested that she go study then and come to my house later that night instead of going out now and studying tomorrow she came up with some lame excuse about why she couldn't or how night was the best time to study. when she wants something she enforces it. if she wants to come over she'll come up with a stupid plan why she's coming (usually implying that i'm the benefactor, like she's got food or we should study together -and we never do) even music its never what i want it is always what she wants... but now that i look back she never does anything i want. I am usually fine cause i am indecisive anyway but when there is a thing i want she always ditches and is blunt about it. I feel so bad because i never used to notice it. Gullible i guess... but i am really hurt. of 15 friends (all of whom know I would be there for them no matter what!) none of them show up? What should I do? I want to be assertive but I don't know how to... I am always nice cause I don't know how to be assertive without being rude. i am tired of people just using me... and i guess i know that i'll never be as giving anymore or let in someone close since deep down everyone is selfish (not because of this time but due to the fact that reoccurs over and over and over!) how do i just cut these people slowly without severing all ties completely to avoid drama.. honestly i gave up on people being selfless.. i just don't know how to control my emotions about this... i feel so stupid. (link)
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Okay hun, first thing, relax a little.
This party was on short notice, a lot of kids either made plans, were busy, or didn't want to come. You can't take this too seriously. If it was extremely important and you really needed them, you would know what they would come. Movie nights aren't so much an emergency...
Next, don't be upset at your best friend because she didn't want to come. it's true, sometimes friends are lame and they hook up with other friends and seem to ignore you, but they are your friend because you bond on some level. Be so immature that you ruin a friendship because you feel like you never hang out, because friend ships are so much more than that.
Having said that though, its okay to say you don't want to do things with her too. If you want to go to the store, go for it, but if you dont, tell her you don't really want to. There is nothing wrong with being blunt about your likes and dislikes, a true friend would understand this and appreciate this at times too.
I suggest you plan another movie night for next month. Let everyone know in advance so they can plan around it. Rent a movie that people will enjoy, and you can even get treats with your bff before the party.
I hope you get feeling a little happier! Friendships can be difficult but they are very rewarding too! You care very deeply for all these people, and that is very kind of you.
Happy partying!
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me and my boyfriend are in a long distance relationship at the momemt. becuase of some things.
lately all we have been doing is arguing and im so tired of it.
he works alll the time and its annoying haha.
but the past couple of days he hasnt been talking to me as much. and the other day i said something. and i was like ok well whatever just text me another day since you havent had time for me in the past two days. and he was like ok you just pissed me off bye.
and i didnt mean to make him mad. i was just kinda upset and didnt really think about what i was saying and all i was doing is being honest and telling him how i felt. and that whole day he didnt talk to me. and the day after that he wouldnt call or text me back.
but i was at school and he texted me saying chill the *uck out you made me mad sorry. and i told him a bunch of times im sorry and he still didnt text me back after that so at night i was like are you gonna call me tonight or no? and he said he will. so that made me happy. but of course he didnt call me. so this morning when i woke up for school i was like thanks for calling. and he never texted me back. so later today i was like ok whatever since you havent even tried to talked to me that past week. im done.
and he texted me back saying yesteday was my little brothers birthday so after i got off work i got him a movie and we both fell asleep watching it. but ok were done. bye
and i texted him abck saying i dont really wanna be done im just kinda upset. and he was like you already said it. bye.
and hasnt texted me back since.
i dont know what to do! and sorry this was so long. and probably confusing.
but can someone help me.
it takes two people for a relationship to work out and i feel like im the only one working in it. and it sucks. (link)
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Sounds like you two definately need to talk. You two both seem to be blaming eachother for the difficulties you are facing in your relationship, and you are forgetting to take responisbility for your own thoughts and ideas.
I suggest you call him and tell him why you were upset, tell him that you wished you didn't fight all the time, and that you really do still love him, and you shouldnt have been so immature to say that you were done without really talking about it first. Ask him how he is feeling, if he really does want to break up, or if he was just angry too.
Long distance relationships are hard and they involve a lot of trust. Don't limit yourself by having a relationship with someone who doesn't care the way they should about you. Sometimes breaking up is the right thing to do. Even though the love you feel for him probably wont go away, the devotion you feel towards him seems like its already gone. I hope that you will have the courage and patience to go through with this process, whether you get back together or not.
Best of luck to you!
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im dating this guy and have been since august. I really like him hes a very nice person.his birthday is coming up in mid november and i have no idea what to get him.i could do something for him like take him out to dinner but id want to do something hed never have thought of or buy him something hed never have thought id get him.i know hes learning spanish at the moment i could get him a spanish book but dont think thats very special.umm maybe if i tell you abit about him.hes into travelling.He has a weird taste in music wich i really dont agree with much.umm he likes to have a good laugh.so maybe a present that might make him laugh?any ideas at all?be as creative as possible pleaseeee!P.s hes turning 25 so nothing that a 14year old might like lol
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I think a cute thing to do would be to decorate his car! Go for a theme, maybe if you think he would find it funny, make it super girly! pink boas on the seats and pink feathers and sparkles on the ground. A steering wheel cover- You know, glizt it up! Then, you can put tickets to a football game, or gift card to a nice resturant and a card on the driver's seat.
He will definately never forget it!
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well he's awesome to me. but not so much to other people.
he's kinda rude and inconsiderate and makes fun of people.
he also has a really low self esteem.
he always calls himself mean and ugly and that noone likes him.
this could be though because he doesnt have a dad and his mom hardly does anything.
what are ways for me to help him out?
and to show him that he doesnt have to be so mean. he has a choice, because he always says he cant change that hes mean because that's just who he is. please help!
thank you!
i dont know what to do! (link)
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The best thing you can do for him, is to love him and be an example to him. Help him with homework, invite him to parties- things like that. Also, show him how to act with other people through your own relationships. When you are walking down the hall, try to be extra pleasent to others. If he sees that you are happy and have friends, he may want to try to do the same.
Teenage years are hard because people are trying to figure out who they are. If he treats you kindly, don't worry about what other people will say if he is your friend. He seems to need someone that will be kind and caring to him.
Good Luck!
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Me and my boyfriend have been dating for a very long time. we went to our first dance tonight and it was kinda rough. we danced once and he told me he wanted to go see his friends and i was fine with that. Almost all his friends are guys so i didn't really worry and i went with my friends. i hadn't really seen him for like an hour but then i saw him dancing with a girl he used to date. they weren't quite grinding but it wasn't really innocent. theeir hands were clasped and their bodies were touching. then he went up to my very good friend and did the same thing with her. when they were done i ran up to her and asked her what that was about and she said he told her i was fine with it (which i was not). then he saw i was mad and came up to me. i told him that it bugged me and we ended up screaming at eachother. now hes mad at me for not trusting him. Am i overreacting, or am i right to be mad at him? i kinda feel now like it was my fault, but i don't know. Any ideas? (link)
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Aw, I am sorry you have to deal with this! Boyfriends can be so dumb at times! I have to be honest, I can't tell you whether or not you are allowed to be mad, I can only say that I would be upset.
Being boyfriend and girlfriend is a commitment, one that you and him should definately discuss. In the way he was dancing, he was showing sexual interest in other girls, regardless of whether he was kidding or not. You need to talk with him and tell him that you feel this is inappropriate. Don't let him convince you that you are feeling insecure or childlike. You were acting mature in the way that you actually care about your relationship with him.
My advice to you, is to get together with your boyfriend and talk it out. If he begins to yell, do not yell back. Keep your tone very relaxed. Tell him that you love him, and you show that love through your commitment to him. You can ask him to do the same. If he doesn't wish to do this, you need to consider the boundries od your relationship. Should you be going steady at all if he isnt willing to commit to you?
You sound like a very caring girl, and I hope for your sake that this all works out!
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