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Should i be mad???
Me and my boyfriend have been dating for a very long time. we went to our first dance tonight and it was kinda rough. we danced once and he told me he wanted to go see his friends and i was fine with that. Almost all his friends are guys so i didn't really worry and i went with my friends. i hadn't really seen him for like an hour but then i saw him dancing with a girl he used to date. they weren't quite grinding but it wasn't really innocent. theeir hands were clasped and their bodies were touching. then he went up to my very good friend and did the same thing with her. when they were done i ran up to her and asked her what that was about and she said he told her i was fine with it (which i was not). then he saw i was mad and came up to me. i told him that it bugged me and we ended up screaming at eachother. now hes mad at me for not trusting him. Am i overreacting, or am i right to be mad at him? i kinda feel now like it was my fault, but i don't know. Any ideas?
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Should you be mad/upset? Yes! Do you have the right to be mad/upset? Yes! there isnt anything wrong with you feeling this way, imagine you dont react what will his limits and boundaries be? Im not trying to start trouble or anything but seems to me like he really isnt into you. I went through this with a past relationship and i had a long talk and ended the relationship. When a couple begins to scream and yell its way past respect. I always say here that respect is incredibly important if you respect him you will never grind someone else NEVER and he will do the same...put it this way would you ever ask him if you could have sex with one of his friend? how would he feel? would he say yeah its cool or would he be like NO so if you respond hey why are you being jealous its only sex! would he have the right to be upset? I think he would. I think you should let your friend know that it wasnt cool to have danced with him never be afraid to speak your mind ....of course there are ways of knowing how to express them. I do think it was not your fault so there was no reason to say im sorry. Its not about trust in this case its about knowing what you should and should not do again the example i used maybe a really strong one but see it this way he needs to accpet that he is in a relationship true he isnt married but then if hes not going to respect you then whats he doing dating you? if he wants to be single then fine give him his freedom and brake it off and forget about him in my opinion he is not going to chamge and hes still gots a lot of GROWING UP! Love has no age right?? or so thats what they say but that doesnt give you are him the right in disrespecting each other if thats the case split and find someone who has the same mentality and feelings. You are young and im sure extremley intellegent and best of all beautiful dont feel bad he isnt the first and only guy. I know theres a guy out there that will never think in ever doing anything that to you. True you are still a child but everone has feelings...even a child. Hes not a man cause a real man wont go and do that to his Queen. I hope this helps if it doesnt let me know before low grading me
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Aw, I am sorry you have to deal with this! Boyfriends can be so dumb at times! I have to be honest, I can't tell you whether or not you are allowed to be mad, I can only say that I would be upset.
Being boyfriend and girlfriend is a commitment, one that you and him should definately discuss. In the way he was dancing, he was showing sexual interest in other girls, regardless of whether he was kidding or not. You need to talk with him and tell him that you feel this is inappropriate. Don't let him convince you that you are feeling insecure or childlike. You were acting mature in the way that you actually care about your relationship with him.
My advice to you, is to get together with your boyfriend and talk it out. If he begins to yell, do not yell back. Keep your tone very relaxed. Tell him that you love him, and you show that love through your commitment to him. You can ask him to do the same. If he doesn't wish to do this, you need to consider the boundries od your relationship. Should you be going steady at all if he isnt willing to commit to you?
You sound like a very caring girl, and I hope for your sake that this all works out!
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