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need to lose weight
Im 23 and over weight. I was 145 thru all of high school and as soon as i got pregnant with my first son my weight went thru the ceiling. I didnt try and lose weight after his birth due to being a "single" parent and not having any time, energy or help. i got married and had another baby and now im looking to lose some pounds. My husband is VERY into thick chicks but im uncomfortable with my body. I used to think I was sexy as hell but now its hard for me to even get undressed to shower let alone have sex with my husband. I have tried starvation diets, atkins, slim fast, weight watchers. i cant stick to diets i just cant do it. I have two small sons which makes it almost impossible to exercise. Someone help me find a balance to lose at least 20 pounds. I have to feel sexy again my sex life is gone, im unhappy and i need help. I eat as healthy as possible. Im so unhappy and depressed with myself altogether that i eat because im bored, upset, angry. I eat just to eat and i cant stop. SOMEONE HELP ME PLEASE!
btw i do not to be critisized or mocked. If you plan to lecture me or talk shit dont even bother. im looking for real advice!!!!!!!!!
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You have basically told us that you cant stick to diets and you can't exercise. Of course you won't be losing weight! Unfortunately for ALL of us who are unhappy when we look in the mirror and see a little more than we have hoped, we don't get it by "wanting" it. We get there be DOING. You CAN do this! It's not about rigid diets and running a million miles, it's about a healthy lifestyle! Here is my advice:
-Shop for healthy foods. It will be a lot harder to eat junk food when it isn't in the house! Don't be confused, this is not "all natural" or "organic". Look for things low in calorie, low in fat, high in vitamins, and whole grains. Switch to bread with 100% Whole Grain as the first ingredient, eat cereal and oatmeal for breakfast instead of pastries or baked goods. Add more vegetables, and eat lean meats. Boy, there is a lot there, isn't there? It can be overwhelming. Start with one food change. Like drinking 8 cups of water a day, or eating vegetables or fruit two times a day at least.
TRY not to restrict yourself too much. Ultimatums like NO SUGAR, NO JUNK FOOD, NO SODA- those are so restricting. You can't live your whole life that way! This isn't just a diet to lose weight. This is a life style change. Keep your favorite snack around, a nice drink, allow yourself SOME chocolate. The key is about self control.
-Exercise is a challenge for so many people! I admire you sacrificing your body to bring two little ones into the world. Now is the time to enjoy the lives of these kids. What better memory to give them than playing with their mother? Try to walk them to the park once a week. Instead of sitting on the bench while they play, chase them, tickle them, push them on the swing- they will love it and YOU will be burning calories!
Pick a distance or time and try to get that in every day. For example, maybe .5 miles a day. Check the mailbox, walk to get the newspaper, park further from the grocery store. If you set a small goal, it will be attainable and encourage you.
I try to follow the [Link](Mouse over link to see full location) workouts. The woman is adorable and she shows you how to do all the moves- Even for beginners! After you put the kids to bed, try doing even a little of this workout. The more you put into it, the more you get out.
-Last but not least, be careful what you say to yourself. Your husband may find skinny women attractive, but have you not ever thought Leo DiCaprio was a hottie or Brad Pitt's bod totally rockin? What counts is that he looks at you and still sees the beautiful woman he married. Of course he wants you to be healthy, but no matter what, you turn him on. Sometimes the thing that makes us women feel the sexiest is looking into the eyes of the ones who love us the most and seeing what they see. Your man loves you, and he loves your body! And plus, getting intimate burns some calories ;) Please remember that you are WONDERFUL. This is about making you healthier and happier. Make changes inside and out, and you will be DYING to take those clothes off again :)
Good luck!
arianne :)
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Losing weight comes down to burning more calories than you take in.
This doesn't mean that you can't work a donut into your meal plan. Depriving yourself of favorite foods can lead to over-eating, so I would work on creating a calorie deficit. Try to eat 500 calories less than the level you maintain at.
Edit: Counting calories is easy. Promise! :) On any packaged food you eat, you will see a a nutrition label on the back. Look for the number of calories and add that to your daily total.
If you are eating something without a nutrition label, such as an apple, just google how many calories it is and you will find an answer right away.
Try to eat about 1500 calories and maybe 1600 if you are doing a little exercise.
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