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Is the song " A dream is a wish your heart makes" a good song choice for auditioning for a musical? I'm having trouble finding a great song. I'm a high alto, so any suggestions would be awesome!

It's tough to say, considering everyoooone knows that song. Make one little mistake and everybody would know. It certainly is a simple, beautiful song, and good for your range! It just depends on whether or not you're willing to fill in Cinderella's big shoes, no pun intended (xD).

If you wanna go a different route, I have some suggestions. I too am an alto. :D Otherwise, it's a good song, and I wish you the best of luck!

Here's some other great songs. You can look these up on Youtube (I'd give you the links, but I'm not sure if we're allowed to give links in our answers >

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I get so embarressed when my family talks to people about how I can sing I found out my mom listens to me sing while I'm in my room she said she sits by my door and listens to me sing and I know this because I overheard her telling some people about this at church I love to sing I wish I could get up and song in front of anyone my family always tells me I sound like Christina Aguilera but I really don't know if there just saying that because there my family and I love Christina Aguilera or if there telling the truth this guy told me this once god blessed me with the talent to sing he said I shouldn't waste it and he also told what would Jesus want you to do my fear is I won't sound good and people will make fun of me I can't even sing in front of my mom or dad the only 3 people I can sing in front of are my 2 older sisters and my little brother I the being having a voice and not be able to sing can some please help get over this fear.

I used to have the same problem. My mom's the same way too! Gotta be a mom thing, haha.

Singing is very vulnerable and open. You're expressing your emotions in such a beautiful way for everyone to inevitably judge, so it can often times be extremely intimidating! So it's very normal to feel nervous or scared when singing in front of others. Especially friends/family, or your church! Those are people you know and love, so you really don't want to let them down or be embarrassed.

Unfortunately, there's no magical potion I can give you to dissolve your fear. But there is something you can get to help dull it, and that's experience. See, when I was thirteen and in my middle school's choir, my friends said I had a beautiful voice. I wasn't quite sure I believed them. Anywho, whenever our teacher would give us opportunities for little solos in some songs, my friends would always look at me and try to force me to audition for them. I was waaaaay too terrified, and could never muster up any courage to try, so I never did. Until one time, I finally just didn't think, and raised my hand. I auditioned for a tiny solo in front of the whole class. And it was awful. I was sweating like there was no tomorrow, shaking like a leaf, and my voice sounded TERRIBLE, I was soooo nervous! I of course didn't get the solo. But, I was surprised and proud of myself for finally taking that first step! ... It was awful but hey, I finally broke down that wall and heck, decided to go for it. I was embarrassed, but my choir teacher and friends were proud. It was worth it.

Freshman year of high school, I signed up for the drama/speech class. I was scared and wanted to back out, but I wound up doing it anyway. It paid off soooo much. And I found out I was a pretty good actor! After a while, I hardly got nervous at all. I would just let loose, and have fun with the acting exercises. Then, I auditioned for one of the main parts of a play, and I got it. I did choir through out high school. Senior year was the best. I auditioned for both the play and the musical. I got a lead in the play, and a big part in the musical.

My point is, that first step is SO hard. Trying out for a tiny part or solo, it can be extremely overwhelming. But it's sooo worth it, because after that it just gets easier and easier. Sure, I can still get very nervous. But that's normal, and it can help keep you on edge for your performances! :D Whenever we had to present a project in front of a class, my friends would always get so nervous and would get all freaked out. But it would be a piece of cake for me! Before I would be freaking out along with 'em. The choir and the drama/speech class not only helped in my being able to sing in public, but it also gave my overall confidence a boost too! It'll help so much in the future, with job interviews, interacting with co-workers and making friends, and just make you happier with yourself overall.

So if you're not in choir, join it. If your school has a theater or drama class, do it. Try out for your school's musicals and plays, even if they're just tiny parts! Or help out with your church's worship. Every little thing helps. Each thing you do can add to your confidence. After a while, you'll see how far you'll have come!

I wish you the best of luck in your future endeavors. Just take that first step, and after that just keep on trying. You'll be so happy you did.

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okay, my bestfriend and her boyfriend have been on and off relationship for 4 years. i honestly dont like him because of some things hes done to her in the past and some things he does that changes who she is. i can tell he doesnt like me, but he doesnt like any of her friends. all his friends are jerks and what not, but my friend continues to date him.
i have 2 questions, 1. how am i to support her when hes done things to hurt her in the past.. she hates that i dont like him, even though i try to hide it and say i do. 2. even though its already happening, how can i keep us from growing apart because she doesnt like how im not extatic about her dating this guy

The last thing you want to do is let a guy get in between you as friends. Although he might be a jerk, she might not see it. Have you told her how you specifically feel about him? If not, then do so. If you have, and she still wants to date him, well then unfortunately there's not really all that much you can do. You can't force her to break it off with him; she's her own person. I advise you NOT to make her choose between the boyfriend and you. That can be a heart breaking decision for her to make, and that could make her angry as well. If she wants to date him, then that's her choice. Be supportive in their relationship if you can, and if you can't then make time for you and her to hang out WITHOUT him. If you want to still be her friend, then you can surely get past this little thing. Also, I have a feeling he might not be around much longer. High school and middle school relationships rarely last long, although some people marry their high school sweet hearts, it’s unlikely. They will eventually break up, and all will be well. I hope I helped!

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Is Robert Pattinson and Kristen Stewart going out in real life?

Just for reference, Robert Pattinson is Edward Cullen and Kristen Stewart is Bella Swan in the Twilight movie (based on a novel by Stephenie Meyer). I assume both of these people are going to be playing the same roles in the new movie coming out called New Moon (a sequel to Twilight).

Well it is possible, but in my opinion unlikely. It seems to me they're just friends. Or, not even friends. They could be letting this spread around for more viewers on the Twilight movies. And also, look how they pinned the whole "They're in a relationship!" thing on Zach Efron and Vanessa Hudgens. That wasn't true, and it eventually passed. May be this will in due time. BUT, that's just one person’s opinion. Hope I helped, or at least made some sense. (XD)

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okay, i am 15/f. my bffl is a girl too (same age). we r both strait so dont go thinkin sumthin like "ohhh, maybe she likes you".we have been bffl ever since the beginning of the school year. lately i have been getting close with these other two girls, but we are all friends. she keeps on getting jelous saying she thinks she is going to be replaced. i have told her like over a million times that she is not gonna b replaced and we will always be bffl! well... now it is starting to get annoying. i am tired of her feeliing jelous and me always having to tell her we will always be best friends. please someone help me? tell me wat to do! i cant tell her im tired of it because she is the kind of girl who will feel hurt and then get mad and act like she didnt care in the firt place! help please!!

Hah, I remember those times. I used to do what your friend does ALL the time. I would get super jealous because I thought maybe they didn't want to be my friend anymore, or they were getting a new best friend. I eventually got over that phase, but I found that the reason I got so jealous was because I didn't want to lose my best friend, AGAIN. I had gone through it before, and if that friend would hang out with anyone else, or I wouldn't get invited to a party, I would be devastated and say, "I thought you were my best friend! You won't pay attention to me anymore~!" and I wound constantly get on their back about it. What normally calmed me down was when they PROMISED that they weren't doing that, and that you are their best friend. Point is, I got over it, and so will your friend. Unforchanitly, you might have to deal with it until she calms down, and matures up. (Not accusing your friend of being immature or anything.) My friends dealt with it by assuring me over and OVER, that they would never replace me. You have to let her know that a lot, if you don't want her calling you crying on the phone saying "You don't like me anymore!" Like I did. I wish you the best of luck, and hope you get through this. Hope I helped a little!

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I just found out, that my BESTFRIEND is bi.
I mean, i thought she was for the longest time, and i did ask her, but she got super mad at me and said no. But, she told this girl she was hot/cute and she was embarrassed because she told her. And then she asked her if she would kiss her. But i dont know. I mean, i kinda want to forget about it. But when i see her, it reminds me again. I dont want to ask her, again though. But then i do. I mean, what should i say to her?

First of all, not that I'm accusing you of anything, let me tell you just because someone is bi-sexual, does NOT mean they are any less of a person. Your friend is still the same person, you two just have different "interests" if you know what I mean. What you should do is tell her straight up, "If you are bi, I don't care, and I'll always still be your friend. So you can tell me if you want." She might think that you will think of her differently if she tells you the truth. If you tell her that, maybe it will change her mind and she will tell you. IF that's the case, anyway. Now what I mean by that is, she might not actually be bi, and might be telling you the truth. You see when some girls get to a certain age; they will start to get "curious". So, maybe she's experimenting with herself, and wants the girl to kiss her so she can know if she's bi or not. Also, I had a friend who would get mad if you asked her that as well. She would yell, and deny it strongly, even though you knew she had just kissed a girl or something. Well, then she started dating girls, so it was pretty obvious. It turned out, she was SO scared that we would end up hating her if they found out, or people would be grossed out. When she found out we didn’t care, she told us eventually. She was "experimenting" for a while, and it turned out she was. My other friend experimented as well, and then it turned out she wasn't. The experimental phase can have very different results, depending on the person. So, there are lots of things you could do. So to sum it up, you could tell her you don’t care, or she could not even be bi anyways, so you’d have nothing to worry about. Hope I helped a bit. :) Good luck!

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Hey, I've never had a boyfriend before (just to get that out there), but I HAVE been asked out by a lot of boys.
Here's the thing though--I have this really weird issue with getting mad at the boys who ask me out! It's usually if I'm talking to them, like, alone (usually over the internet) and they ask me out, I begin nicely and say "I'm sorry, that's really sweet, but I just don't really like you like that." and then it allll goes downhill from there. I usually start accusing them of playing ZAP (a game that forces people to ask certain people out) or I get creeped out and I refuse to speak to them, or I just plain get mad if they say one little thing wrong (ie. "I can't believe I was scared to do that", I would say "what, am I not good enough for you to ask out?").

It always makes me feel really really bad because I know boys are scared out of their minds to ask girls out, but I just can't help it! Please, can someone tell me how to NOT get mad? Or how to react at least? THANKS!!

I have that problem with getting mad at them for asking me out too. I recently found that for me, it is a problem with myself. When boys ask me out, I think, "Who could like ME? I'm ugly and stupid. They must've been dared to do it! They're just trying to embarrass me!", Etc, etc. Maybe you have my problem, maybe you don't. If you have my problem, all you have to do is think positively about yourself. Think "I'm beautiful, and they like me for me." Act more confident in yourself, and maybe this problem will go away. I really hoped I helped, and good luck. Remember, you are pretty, and boys like you for you.

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f/ 15Okay so My boyfriend and i have been together for almost six months. He is seventeen. I am the first girl he has EVER had feelings for. like at all. I do care about him, dont get me wrong.BUtttt Theres this guy, Whos nineteen. And hes suchhh a sweetheart. He doesnt want me for sex, and we flirt all the time I really like him. I dont want to break up with my boyfriend, but i also really like the other guy. I am so confused because i really like them both. help me please?

Well, I think you should just stick with your man. I mean, this older guy is four years older than you. You guys would have a lot of differences. Plus, you’re almost fresh into high school, whether you’re a freshman or sophomore, and he's old enough to get into college. I know this is probably the last thing you want to hear, but I think it would be smart to just not date the older guy. I hope I helped, and good luck!

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Theres this guy that i've been crushing on since november. I'm a freshman and he's a junior. I always see him staring at me. During lunch especially. And also, during lunch, I sometimes see his friends turn around and look at me. One time on the lunch line, one of his friends look me straight in the eye with this sort of intese look and looked then away. And his friends are always being funny and making jokes when I see them. But I think they might always be like that. 3 of his friends shout and say random things to me too. lol
And when I see him look at me during lunch he looks for the longest time haha. And in the halls he looks at me too but i cant tell how long because i always look down. I see him a lot in the halls so maybe he just thinks i'm stalking him and thinks i'm weird. Is he interested in me? and why hasn't he talked to me?
Is it just my imagination? because i'm not really that pretty. I'm 14, 5'4" and 165lbs. I dont have terrible skin, but its not that great either. Is it just wishfull thinking?

Hmm... Well, truth be told we have almost the same exact problem! I am fourteen, 5'4, and I like a funny junior. But it is a little different, because I am a nerd at my school and I have no chance.


Anyways, this guy is a junior. He'll be graduating in about a year and a half, then chances are, you'll never see him again after he leaves. Then, you would have regretted not taking that chance. You'd think, "What would have happened if I had the guts to ask him?" If this guy were smart, he'd say yes, because you sound like a pretty cool person to me. You sound pretty, and smart. This guy has to be looking at you for a reason. It’s either coincidently each time he looked at you, you had a booger in your nose and was staring at it, (I severely doubt that), or he may be interested. Might as well take a chance before it’s too late. This is what you should do. You should wait for about a week or two and see if he asks you first. If he never asks you, take a chance and ask him. I know asking guys out is scary, but the worst he could do is say no. Also, throw tiny hints at him. Smile when he is looking at you, you know that kind of thing. Also, make sure that he doesn’t have a girl friend. I hope I helped! Good luck.

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I deleted my myspace because they wouldn't accept my complainant. So, don't try to find me on myspace. I might make a new myspace, though, in a week or so. Oh and are you FOR SURE going to our b-day party at Yatesies(AKA Chelsea Yates)? THANX! U can question me to talk to me!

Is this izzy? HI! XD Sorry, no im not sure. You deleted your myspace? why?

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im going to my friends house and i just got my period.. if i put a tampon in right before i go in the pool will anything happen? and then i just have to change it when we get out? how long can i stay in the pool with it in?

By anything you mean blood in the pool than no nothing will hapen. Nothing will happen to your body either. Tampons stop blood better and are meant for sports like tennis and swimming and basketball and stuff like that. Yes you change it when you get out. You can stay in around 3 to 4 hrs but too much and blood will come out. I hope I helped and if not please let me know. Good luck!

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I got my dog, Angel, spayed and I picked her up from the vet today. Does anyone have any tips on how to care for her and how to get her to stop licking her stitches? THANK YOU!

Your dog should really get a cone on her head. she may not like it, but if she starts licking it too much, the fur might not grow back in some areas, so be cautious. If a cone doesnt work, scold your dog every time she licks it and when she doesnt lick them praise her. Another thing you could do is ask your vet for advice. Sometimes though, dog sylivia helps heal there wounds so you might want to ask your vet specificly what to do. I hope I helped a little and if I didnt, please let me know! Good luck!

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My dog has been acting really strange. Normally, she does things like this:
-sleeps on my bed, or in the living room
-plays with the toys on her bed
-barks at animals that walk by from either the front room window or the sliding glass door that looks out over the backyard [& we live on a corner]
-plays with you when you call her
-runs around outside when my dad goes out there

But lately she's been acting like this:
-not barking when she sees other animals
-laying under the computer desk when I sit here
-just basically laying around
-when I tell her to jump up on me, like I'm standing & pat my thighs, she just sits & looks at me
-when I call her up onto my bed, she just lays next to it like she's scared
-lays in the grass when we let her outside without the chain on [we have no fence]

I don't know why she's acting so bored, timid, & such. The only major difference in our lives is that my dad, who usually runs with her every couple days, got surgery & can't for a while. But I've tried taking her on walks every day or every other day to make sure she gets exercise/fresh air.

Is this just normal or is there something to be checked out?

It depends on how old your dog is. When dogs are around 1-4 years old, they usually jump and play and have fun. But when they start calming down and dont play fetch anymore and arent that fun, its just like with old people. You probably wouldnt see an old man running arouund playing tag or somthing would you? Same thing with dogs. All dogs eventually get to old and mature for that stuff.

Now if your dog is pretty young and strong, you might want to get that checked out just in case. And even if it is because your dog is a little old, you still might want to get that checked just to be safe. I hope I helped a little andif not, Please let me know. Good luck!

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I love my dogs alot, but i want more. My best friend is selling a couple and i asked for her to save one for me. Well, my mom says no, we need money. I'm trying to raise money, but it's too hard with summer school. My dad says the only way we're getting another dog is if we kill our current dogs. I got scared and said no. All I want is just one mroe tiny puppy. One of my current dogs is 7 half way through his life. My other one is only 4. She's not too nice, but anyway, I really want this puppy, but don't know how to get my mom to say yes! HELP!

Izzy you want another dog? You already have 2 dogs and a hampster and your mom and dad already have to pay for those. But another dog will cost more than you think. There are tons of shots for it to take and if it gets sick, a vets visit is at least 200.00! theres food too. you have two big dogs already with large appitites and another dog means way more dog food! And if you get 3 dogs, you have to pay A LOT of attention to all those dogs! Dogs can be jelous of each other and fight and can be a burden. I would just stick to two dogs because if cobys half way through his life, you might want to give him as much attention as possible then he might live a more longer and happier life! Trust me izzy. You dont want 3 dogs and your parents just dont have the money right now. It would be best for only 2 dogs.

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my name is Rachel and iam 18 years old and i just got a new puppy and i named her cuddles but cuddles crys all the time and she follows me everywhere and it's begining to got on my nerves and also i was wanted to know how to house train
a puppy?

When I got a new puppy mine did the same exact thing. At night in her cage she would whine and whine and squeal. And she folowed everyone around every where. The reason for the cage thing is that shes not used to it. Shes probably never experinced it and was terrified. Second puppys want to be with there owners and they cant do that in a cage. so they naruraly are uncomfortable and they whine. third they might be wondering where you are and they are worried about you. Just like babys, puppys cry at night. and just like babys, puppys will eventually mature and be able to handle a cage. They do get over it. Trust me.

They folow you around because one they are curious. two because they love you. Just like the cage thing, they do get over that and eventually get more independent than that.

What we did with our dog about the potty training thing is we asked our local vet and they gave us great tips. When they do it right, make sure yo give them a reward for doing it, other wise they just forget! And when you want to train them, its best that yo do it yourself instead of paying somone to do it. I know it wasnt the best advice, but i hoped i helped a little. Good luck!

-Rachel

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Okay, my parents work 9-5 pretty much every day, me and my to brothers go to school but were getting out on summer vacation. I have a part-time job for the summer and my brothers are going away for the summer...My dog is home all the time by her self and we can't put her on her leash because all she does is bark, my mom has been hounding my for a year pretty much the entire time that we've had her. she always says that she's going to get rid of her but this time she is serious she had people over to look at the dog and everything, she gave me the a choice whether to get rid over her or not. I know it would be the best thing to get rid of her but I honestly don't think I can. I have no idea what i should do please help

Ok. What I would do is hire a doggy sitter, or give her to a person who lives not so far away and who will let you visit her. If those dont work you might just have to give her away period. Dogs get lonley very easliy and need a lot of attention,and if you cant give that to her than she will be miserable. You dont want her to be miserable do you? Do the right thing and get rid of her. She will be happier and you might get to visit her. I know it's hard, but its right for her and you.

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Dylana was a friend os mine. She was nosy, but than she made Rachel, my other friend mad at me. Now, Dylana is always making me mad. On purpose! I don't know what to do! Somebody give me advice as soon as possible! PLEASE!

I am nnot mad at u izzy. and tell dylana to stop asking those questions and plz make up! im sickof the drama.

_ps im NOT mad!

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Ok, a couple of days ago I'm IMing my friend and I tell her to hang on I had to use the restroom. Well, when I come back and start talking to her again, she asks what I was doing. I said, "just going to the bathroom." She said, "yea, i know but what were you doing?" I got mad because I knew what she meant by that. I got really mad when she asked, "Did you start your period?" She's always asking me, what're you doing this weekend? What did you do last night? Who do you like? And WAY too many personal questions not even my parents know. I told her to stop asking, but she said, "No, I have every right to know what's happening to you." I need advice on what do do. She won't leave me alone about personal stuff! And why would I tell her if she's going to tell everybody else. She always promises not to tell and goes ahead and says it anyway. HELP!

hey izzy! its me rach! ok well she should back off and you have to tell her that! she does not have the right to know everything thats going on. tell her to back off and if you want to tell her somthing, just be cautious. it sounds to me that you cant trust her. and tell her to back off and give you privacy. and if she says no again, dont be her friend. i dont want a freind who does that.

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