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my best friends boyfriend dont like me, i dont like him
okay, my bestfriend and her boyfriend have been on and off relationship for 4 years. i honestly dont like him because of some things hes done to her in the past and some things he does that changes who she is. i can tell he doesnt like me, but he doesnt like any of her friends. all his friends are jerks and what not, but my friend continues to date him.
i have 2 questions, 1. how am i to support her when hes done things to hurt her in the past.. she hates that i dont like him, even though i try to hide it and say i do. 2. even though its already happening, how can i keep us from growing apart because she doesnt like how im not extatic about her dating this guy
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ehhh, tough situation but ive been there... only i was the girlfriend haha.. i think what you really should do is just be honest with the both of them. somehow, tell her that youre her best friend, and you dont want to see her hurt, and you dont approve of how her boyfriend treats her, but its not your relationship, so you would rather just not be friendly with the guy, and tell her you hope she understands why you dont want anything to do with him.. let her know that you will be there for her if she needs to talk about the relationship, or if he hurts her, you will be there for her... that is how you can be supportive.. and let him know the same thing.. tell him no hard feelings, but truth me told, you dont like him or approve of the way he treats her, and that's why you dont want to be around him.
to be honest, i know this is a tough situation for you, and she's your best friend.. but theres really nothing you can do about them dating, you know? its her life.. you dont necessarily have to be supportive to her in the sense that shes dating him (by acting like youre happy theyre together) but be supportive for her if he hurts her(like i said). try not to talk about it, so you dnt push her friendship away, like i said, theres nothing you can do about it, so dont keep telling her how much you hate him.. that is what will ultimately break your friendship up, because she will become annoyed.
and try to make plans with her without her boyfriend being around once in a while, so that you do get some friendship alone time, that will keep you two from breaking your friendship up..
hope i helped :)
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The last thing you want to do is let a guy get in between you as friends. Although he might be a jerk, she might not see it. Have you told her how you specifically feel about him? If not, then do so. If you have, and she still wants to date him, well then unfortunately there's not really all that much you can do. You can't force her to break it off with him; she's her own person. I advise you NOT to make her choose between the boyfriend and you. That can be a heart breaking decision for her to make, and that could make her angry as well. If she wants to date him, then that's her choice. Be supportive in their relationship if you can, and if you can't then make time for you and her to hang out WITHOUT him. If you want to still be her friend, then you can surely get past this little thing. Also, I have a feeling he might not be around much longer. High school and middle school relationships rarely last long, although some people marry their high school sweet hearts, it’s unlikely. They will eventually break up, and all will be well. I hope I helped!
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