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How do I get over the fear of singinging in front of people?
I get so embarressed when my family talks to people about how I can sing I found out my mom listens to me sing while I'm in my room she said she sits by my door and listens to me sing and I know this because I overheard her telling some people about this at church I love to sing I wish I could get up and song in front of anyone my family always tells me I sound like Christina Aguilera but I really don't know if there just saying that because there my family and I love Christina Aguilera or if there telling the truth this guy told me this once god blessed me with the talent to sing he said I shouldn't waste it and he also told what would Jesus want you to do my fear is I won't sound good and people will make fun of me I can't even sing in front of my mom or dad the only 3 people I can sing in front of are my 2 older sisters and my little brother I the being having a voice and not be able to sing can some please help get over this fear.
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I've had that same problem, trust me, I was freaky nervous. I was never able to have the courage to sing or act. So, one time my Friend(12/M) and I (13/F) wanted to join the Talent Show. I was pshyched about everything, until it was time for auditioning. My friend told me I sounded really really good and that I'll be fine, but I coudn't so we blew off the Show. My Friend and I walked home after the Show and I came home hummning to one of the songs I heard. Out of nowhere I came into my room with my bedroom door wide open and started singing. I was so lost in the moment that I didn't care who was passing by the hall. Then, the next day my neighbor was talking about me at school on how I was talented. Not even a week EVERYBODY at my school found out I could sing I was freaking out. Then, drama came I signed up, when my drama teacher saw me she suddenly said, "let's do a musical." I was the first person to get up from my chair to yell out, "NO!" it was embarassing. I was scared to act too, but I turned out to be a great actor and got the lead. Since then, at school all my friends would listen to me sing at the basketball court and they would join me. It made it better making new friends, try and come out of your shell and just try. Experience is always the first step. Break down the wall, and take risks. It's whatt I did, and I felt much better about it. I hope you do too.
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I used to have the same problem. My mom's the same way too! Gotta be a mom thing, haha.
Singing is very vulnerable and open. You're expressing your emotions in such a beautiful way for everyone to inevitably judge, so it can often times be extremely intimidating! So it's very normal to feel nervous or scared when singing in front of others. Especially friends/family, or your church! Those are people you know and love, so you really don't want to let them down or be embarrassed.
Unfortunately, there's no magical potion I can give you to dissolve your fear. But there is something you can get to help dull it, and that's experience. See, when I was thirteen and in my middle school's choir, my friends said I had a beautiful voice. I wasn't quite sure I believed them. Anywho, whenever our teacher would give us opportunities for little solos in some songs, my friends would always look at me and try to force me to audition for them. I was waaaaay too terrified, and could never muster up any courage to try, so I never did. Until one time, I finally just didn't think, and raised my hand. I auditioned for a tiny solo in front of the whole class. And it was awful. I was sweating like there was no tomorrow, shaking like a leaf, and my voice sounded TERRIBLE, I was soooo nervous! I of course didn't get the solo. But, I was surprised and proud of myself for finally taking that first step! ... It was awful but hey, I finally broke down that wall and heck, decided to go for it. I was embarrassed, but my choir teacher and friends were proud. It was worth it.
Freshman year of high school, I signed up for the drama/speech class. I was scared and wanted to back out, but I wound up doing it anyway. It paid off soooo much. And I found out I was a pretty good actor! After a while, I hardly got nervous at all. I would just let loose, and have fun with the acting exercises. Then, I auditioned for one of the main parts of a play, and I got it. I did choir through out high school. Senior year was the best. I auditioned for both the play and the musical. I got a lead in the play, and a big part in the musical.
My point is, that first step is SO hard. Trying out for a tiny part or solo, it can be extremely overwhelming. But it's sooo worth it, because after that it just gets easier and easier. Sure, I can still get very nervous. But that's normal, and it can help keep you on edge for your performances! :D Whenever we had to present a project in front of a class, my friends would always get so nervous and would get all freaked out. But it would be a piece of cake for me! Before I would be freaking out along with 'em. The choir and the drama/speech class not only helped in my being able to sing in public, but it also gave my overall confidence a boost too! It'll help so much in the future, with job interviews, interacting with co-workers and making friends, and just make you happier with yourself overall.
So if you're not in choir, join it. If your school has a theater or drama class, do it. Try out for your school's musicals and plays, even if they're just tiny parts! Or help out with your church's worship. Every little thing helps. Each thing you do can add to your confidence. After a while, you'll see how far you'll have come!
I wish you the best of luck in your future endeavors. Just take that first step, and after that just keep on trying. You'll be so happy you did.
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