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I just found out,
I just found out, that my BESTFRIEND is bi.
I mean, i thought she was for the longest time, and i did ask her, but she got super mad at me and said no. But, she told this girl she was hot/cute and she was embarrassed because she told her. And then she asked her if she would kiss her. But i dont know. I mean, i kinda want to forget about it. But when i see her, it reminds me again. I dont want to ask her, again though. But then i do. I mean, what should i say to her?
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i dont think you should pressure her any more about this because she might get angry or defensive. i know a lot of people that are gay/bisexual and it was really hard for them to come out to their friends because they thought they would not be accepted. just let your friend know that you will still be best friends no matter waht. and you will accept her for who she is and not whether she likes girls or boys. let her know that she can trust you with anything. she will come to you with her secret when she is ready =) if you really want to ask her, which is understandable haha, then MAKE SURE she knows you arent going to judge her.
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well if your BEST FRIEND is bi, shes still your best friend. girls arent like guys, they dont get horny by seein naked or in a bathin suit or anythin.
im bisexual myself, and i had a really hard time tellin my best friends over other people and it really hurt because i thought they wouldnt accept me. be a good friend and tell her you accept her no matter what because thats what she really needs.
shes probably just experimentin, but if she starts to go farther and actually LIKING girls for personality and dating, then shes most definitely bi. but dont worry about it.
when you ask her just be like 'look, you can tell me whatever you need to. im here for you no matter what sexuality you are but id like to know, because youre my bestfriend and were supposed to tell each other these things. so, are you bi?'
message me if you need anymore help
x sweeethoney
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First of all, not that I'm accusing you of anything, let me tell you just because someone is bi-sexual, does NOT mean they are any less of a person. Your friend is still the same person, you two just have different "interests" if you know what I mean. What you should do is tell her straight up, "If you are bi, I don't care, and I'll always still be your friend. So you can tell me if you want." She might think that you will think of her differently if she tells you the truth. If you tell her that, maybe it will change her mind and she will tell you. IF that's the case, anyway. Now what I mean by that is, she might not actually be bi, and might be telling you the truth. You see when some girls get to a certain age; they will start to get "curious". So, maybe she's experimenting with herself, and wants the girl to kiss her so she can know if she's bi or not. Also, I had a friend who would get mad if you asked her that as well. She would yell, and deny it strongly, even though you knew she had just kissed a girl or something. Well, then she started dating girls, so it was pretty obvious. It turned out, she was SO scared that we would end up hating her if they found out, or people would be grossed out. When she found out we didn’t care, she told us eventually. She was "experimenting" for a while, and it turned out she was. My other friend experimented as well, and then it turned out she wasn't. The experimental phase can have very different results, depending on the person. So, there are lots of things you could do. So to sum it up, you could tell her you don’t care, or she could not even be bi anyways, so you’d have nothing to worry about. Hope I helped a bit. :) Good luck!
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you are going to have to tell your friend that this other girl is going around saying these things. Even if you decide you don't want to hang around her anymore, you at least should let her know the rumors are going around. Before you talk to her, take some time to figure out how you really feel about this situation. You don't want to be wishy-washy and be OK with it one minute and then against it the next.
Don't take it personal that your friend hasn't felt ready to share it with you, yet. She probably hasn't even really wanted to admit it herself.
If you really love your friend through Hell and high water than the best thing you can do for her is to be accepting. There are going to be so many times in your life when you have to deal with false backstabbing friends, and if she is a true friend to you it really doesn't matter who she is attracted to.
I think the best way to approach it is to tell her what you have heard and approach it like you are OK with the whole thing (that is, if you are OK with the whole thing) but you don't like the fact that she is picking the wrong girls to hit on. Obviously this girl that she did hit on told other people behind her back.
Tell your friend that you can't understand all of the confusion she must be going through, but if she wants, you're willing to lend an ear.
If you really just want to forget about it, the best thing to do is to tell our friend that you are having a difficult time processing all of this information and you just need time.
Do you think she would stand by you if you were the one with the issue? If she would you should give it a try. You are going to have to deal with homosexuality at some point in your life. Her feelings are nothing personal against you, and she is probably beating herself up about it alot more than you ever could. It is hard, because you think back over all of those conversations you had about members of the opposite sex-was she just lying to you this whole time? How about all of those intimate moments you had where your mind was in one place and now you are wondering where her mind was. Was she taking all of that stuff way differently than you?
No matter what-even if you decide you don't want to talk to her about it or be her friend anymore, don't feed in to the gossip. If you hear people talking about her just stay out of it.
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Maybe she isn't comfotable with her sexuality just yet. Do not ask her if she is bi. Just let her know regardless of what her sexuality is you love and support her 100%. When she is ready and if she wants you to know she'll tell you.
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