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Ex issues: We have a lot of chemistry and i don't see why we're not friends.
Okay, so i started to think about my ex and the good times we had because honestly we have a lot of chemistry and i don't see why we're not friends. So i started to talk to him and when i first started to talk to me he was asking me advice about his girlfriend. He kept throwing things in my face like, "Shes the only girl that i loved." "Shes the only girl i was faithful too." The worst thing he said was "I had sex with her last week." I mean that's personal? Why is he telling me. Out of all people, why me? I have a feeling hes trying to make me jealous. I don't know im kind of confused. I need someone else point of view on this. Ridiculous.
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If it's so ridiculous then why are you taking it to heart to the degree that you ask about it on this site?
The guy is playing a passive-aggressive mind game with you. So your best bet is to just cut him off.
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He might be trying to make you jealous however he might just be trying to make it clear he has moved on and is not available. It's also possible he is just talking to you as a friend and trying to get some advice. I do find 'the only girl I have been faithful to' a very unpleasant thing to say! My advice is this: have a good long honest think - are you really over this guy and do you just want to be friends? By your reaction to him talking about his girlfriend and using words like 'chemistry' I would say you still have feelings for him and are missing having him in your life as a boyfriend. If this is the case it's not going to be good for you to have him as a friend at the moment - it will not help you move on. Getting over break ups and moving on can be very hard, we have all been there. Sometimes it's possible to stay friends with an ex and sometimes it just isn't and when that's the case you just have to accept it is for the best and have a clean break. Based on what you say my feeling is put him behind you, stop trying to be friends and move on - but that is your decision to make. Ashok
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Well, my read on this isn't quite so harsh.
I think he is probably just trying to make sure you know he isn't available. That he is committed to his girlfriend. He might be trying to make you jealous, or he might just be trying to warn you off.
Either way, I agree with others this much: You aren’t as compatible as friends as you think if he is going to behave this way, and you are going to react this way.
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This is a sign you guys shouldn't be friends to begin with. If you were ready to be friends with him, the things he was saying to you wouldn't bother you. You'd be able to listen, and give him advice regardless of the things he says. Obviously you cannot do that. I understand you'd rather have him in your life as a friend, than nothing at all; and I know how hard it is to listen to someone you once care about say things like what he said. It kind of makes you wonder, "what about me"
He is trying to make you jealous; I honestly think this guy and your plans of being friends with him is a waste of time. You don't deserve someone like him in your life. He's better out of it, than in your life causing you pain and confusion.
I agree with Zane. Let him go completely. You deserve so much better!
Good Luck!
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You aren't seeing the bigger picture, Why the hell would you want to be his friend? The guy sounds like an arrogant ass who doesn't even deserve your friendship.
Lets face it he isn't trying to get your advice. The guy's actions are immature, rude and hurtful maybe those are his intentions? Sounds like it. Really your best bet is to just forget about him and move on. Stop trying to remain his friend in fact I encourage you to just cut contact with him. As long as you have someone like that in your life he is going to continue to drag you down. He move on and you should too as he isn't worth your time.
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