okay, so i am a 13/f, and i wanna get my belly button pierced.
my parents said it was okay in the begining, but then my sister 16/f, didn't get it so now they are not allowing me for a few years.
so i wanna know what i can say to them to change their minds, or things that won't happen if i do get it pierced (they are afraid something bad will happen to me)
so pretty mucht he pro's not con's of getting it pierced, anything else about it will be apreciated!
thnx a bunch!
In the united states, in most states, your not supposed to be allowed in a piercing salon until you are 16, with out without a parents permission.
If you know people who have gotten it done, then that means they did it themselves, had a friend do it, or went to a piercer who was less than professional and let an underage person in.
If you go to a place that isn't professional enough to obey the law, then you never know if they will be professional enough to do certain things such as: clean their equipment, use new needles each time, use sterilized rings, etc.
If I am wrong, and it's legal to get a piercing done at 13, then sorry.
But, in order to convince your parents, you can't just ignore the cons of getting a peircing. You need to know what they ALL are and make sure you will be able to avoid them.
For example you need to realize that your peircing may get infected. In order to avoid that you need to know how to properly clean your piercing. You also need to realize that your piercing may get pierced slightly crooked. In order to avoid that you need to research the particular piercer and make sure you get someone who is very good at what they do to pierce you.
You need to find out everything you can about peircings in order to be mature enough to get one. After you do that, your parents may realize that you can handle one.
So, go on google, and search "peircings" "body peircings" "care of body peircings" etc.
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I left my boyfriend behind when I left for university but we're still together and I want to send him something nice for valentine's day. We've been together for nearly two years although we've been friends for longer than that.
As I already mentioned I'm a student so my present budget is minimal and whatever it is needs to be posted. I'm going to make a card but I want to send something else.
My boyfriend is 18 years old, he's in a band (he's the screamer in a metalcore band), he's quite camp, he likes films (we met working together at a cinema), he likes clothes (slightly flamboyant although also indie/punk/emo style).
Any ideas? I don't want to give him something 'too' cutesy and definitely nothing cliched.
I'm not sure if this is cliche, but if you have a camera, perhaps you could send him a video of you doing whatever it is that you do around campus. Try to be creative and make a movie out of it or something.
Ok, that might be a little corny, but I'm sure he would appreciate it. If you can't give him your presence on Valentine's day, then at least you can give him a video of you on Valentine's day.
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My fish have been getting sick and dying for several weeks and we found out it was because of cross breeding, overstocking, etc. (beginner's mistakes since we did raise 150 fish from 5 starters)
Now we've got them all healthy, we've been trying to give them away to try and get down to a 2 female to 1 male ratio but its not happening fast enough. Besides many of our friends are using the platies as starter fish, and each time I choose which ones to give them, it feels like I'm choosing which ones do I want flushed down a toilet.
I was just wondering if we should just restock the tanks entirely or try giving away those fish to private fish stores? I'm unsure whether or not the fish stores will take the platies if they find out they all come from 5 parents and I don't want to get "rid" of them.
As the person under me said, don't give them to a pet store such as PetCo. They wouldn't care if all of the fish came from only 5 parents because they get all of their animals (from dogs and cats to ferrets and chinchilla's) from backyard breeders and puppy mills. To give an example of how badly they take care of their animals: The last time I went into PetCo to look at their fish I saw at least 5 dead fish in half of the tanks. One tank had dead fish that had clearly been decomposing for weeks. I told a worker that there were dead fish all through their tanks and the only reply I got was "yeah, it's probably about time to do a dead fish run" I understand that fish die, but they could at least get rid of the dead ones on a daily basis to make things look nicer and to keep the alive fish healthier.
Anyway, don't bring them to a Pet store unless your sure that their animals are taken care of. But, if you do know of a good pet store, or if you can find one, then it would probably be advisable to see if they want to take the fish.
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ok a month ago i broke up with my boyfriend, and so he was really sad, but i wanted to move on with my life.
So then just a couple of days ago i asked him," hey are you pissed at me or mad or something?
and so he's all like " y" and im like " because after we broke up you said we could be friends, and now you not talking to me at all and your friends are still acting like jerks to me" so then he's like " we'll since you dumped me why should i talk to you and do you like calling my friends jerks"
ok His friends are complete jerks to me..and i never meant to hurt him badly, i still want to be friends, he is just not talking it.
I'm sure he isn't really trying to be a jerk. He's probably acting like this because he was hurt when you broke up with him, and he still is. But, that doesn't give him the right to treat you the way he seems to be treating you. He is being immature (gee, a teenage boy being immature, never would have thought that would happen) Don't let his immaturity bring you down. Try to ignore it until he is ready to grow up a little more and be friends again.
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Ok I have this friend who just got married back in september of 2005. Now before she got married her husband was very sweet and all this and after they got married he was for a little while. However, the other day the went on a trip and she started joking with him because he was joking with her. Well he got mad about something she said and backhanded her in the face. I mean He acts as if there is something he needs to tell her or something like that, but he is scared to lose her and so he's being hateful about it. If any of you guys know why he is doing this I would love to know, before my friend loses her life and her unborn childs life!
Whether he is angry about something that is bugging him or not, there is absolutly no reason for him to abuse her in any way. Your friend needs to find someone she can depend on and get out of the relationship. Perhaps family members or a good friend (like yourself). If she has someone she can depend on who cares about her, then this will be much easier on her. But, I would seriously suggest that she get out of this situation. It is not up to her to find out what's wrong with him, it's up to him to fix what's bothering him and to NEVER take it out on her, especially when it comes to abuse.
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I have two cats that are a little over a year old. a while ago one of cats have started peeing and pooing right outside the litter box. (they are indoor cats).
my question is, can you train a cat to go in the litter box even though they are over a year old? And if you can. How do you train them. I got my cats after they had been trained by another lady.
thanks for the help.
There are a couple of reasons why this may have suddenly started to happen.
First reason, is that the litter box may be too dirty. A cat doesn't want to have to dig through it's old shit in order to bury it's new shit, so he won't use the litter box. My advice is to clean out all of the clumps in the box every day and get two litter boxes so that the cats don't have to share.
Second reason is that the cat may be too large for the litter box. It sounds like he might be trying to poo in the box, but he's too big, therefore his bum hangs over while he squats in the box. Get a larger litter box if you think this may be the problem.
Third reason is that there may be some sort of medical problem, and if that's the case, then you may want to get him to the vet to get him checked out.
It sounds like it's mostly likely a case of a small litter box with a big cat. Get a bigger box, and keep it cleaned out, and hopefully your problem will go away. If not, then ask a veterinarian what they think.
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pleaseeeee help!!!! ok so i have this dog named anne. and shes a grown dog and everything, but then we got another dog, but she's a puppy. her name's holly. ok so we got her when she was like 6 weeks old, and now she's about 4 months old. she's a shi-tzu, and we're trying to potty train her and everything, and we started when we got her, but then i think she was too small then. but now she's big enough to be potty trained, and we potty trained her to go on a potty training mat, and she does it ther, but whenever we put the actual litter box there, she's big enough to get in it and everything, but she just wont go to the bathroom there, she just goes everywher. also, she and anne eats the stuff we put in the litter box, because its not the sandy stuff, but its like little sticks in there and they keep eating it. which kind do you think we should get so they won't eat it anymore, and how do we potty train holly to go in her litter box, instead of her mat from now on? and also, how long do you think it'll take to potty train her? PLEASE HELP!!! I RATE HIGH FOR GOOD ANSWERS!!!
Don't use the litter that the dogs eat. For now, just put the training mat in the litter box and put Holly in it every once in a while, or every time you think she's about to go to the bathroom. Do the same things that you did back when you were training her to use the matt alone, except now it's the matt along with the litter box.
When she starts to get the hang of going inside the box, on top of the matt, then start to add a small amount of litter over the matt, Keep adding more litter until you can just have litter without a training matt underneath it.
I will add, that next time you get a dog, it's not advisable to house train them using a training matt. Simply because of problems like this. If you use a matt, and then plan to switch the dog to going outside, or going in a litter box, then you'll run into many problems when it comes to getting the dog to switch where and what it goes to the bathroom on. Just a thought to think about in the future.
As for which litter to use... ask your veterinarian. If you call them, they may be able to give you some advice on what litters are less appealing to your dog, and what you can further to do keep your dog away from eating the litter.
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I have a great girlfriend, one I've been going out for nearly three years now. We have never really fought or argued or been mad at each other or anything. We both have problems here and there with school and home, but small ones with each other. I do need advice on that though...See, my teacher once told me two years ago that most if not all guys will hear a girl tell her problem and then go to try and solve it, when really the girl just wanted him to listen and hear her out. Is that true? Sometimes I find myself doing that, even after thinking about what my teacher said. So my question is...does being a listener and just talking about a problem count just as much as trying to come up with a solution. For these kinds of problems I mean things like: yeah my friends did this to me; I'm not sure what to do about this sport; I feel a certain way when ___; etc. It does seem that half the time she tells me something, I right away try to come up with a solution or tell her what to do about it. It usually ends up falling right back in my face, or making her feel upset. Would you (girls) appreciate it more if the guy that was there...helped out with a solution, just listened to you about it and talked to you about it, or a little of each. Thanks, I would really appreciate it.
If your girlfriend doesn't ask you for advice, then it's best to just listen. That's hard for everyone to do, not just guys. Most times when someone goes to you to talk, then really just need to vent. Many times they already know what to do or what they should have done, but they need to vent and get their problems off of their chest.
Often times, if you tell her what she should have done, or what she should do, she might get mad at you for "telling her what to do" or "pointing out the obvious" We are all guilty of getting mad at someone for trying to help us because it made us feel like that person didn't think we were smart, or good enough to do the right thing in the first place. Either that, or she just doesn't want someone to tell her what to do.
Either way, you know that trying to fix her problems usually falls back in your face, so, simply stop trying to fix her problems and let her figure it out on her own.
When she comes to you, try as hard as you can to JUST listen. It might be hard at first, but soon, it will get easier and you'll be able to quench your "I'll fix all your problems" qualities sooner or later
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I'm 34 yrs old with 2 children aged 12 & 9. My marriage is extremely rocky. Sometimes I dream of a happy life but it just seems so far out of reach. My husband is not physically abusive but mentally I am suffering from his constant downputting of me. The kids can feel the friction in the house and that just makes me feel even worse. My main problem is that I have been suffering from anxiety related problems and I don't feel strong enough to cope on my own. How do I know if I am emotionally strong enough to get out of this bad situation.
If you have to deal with someone putting you down constantly, then you may never FEEL like your strong enough. When someone is constantly making you feel like your not good enough, it's not too hard to start to believe it. But, that doesn't mean that your not good enough or strong enough to go out on your own.
I'm only 22, with no kids, and I can't exactly put myself in your shoes. But, when I was growing up my mother went through the same thing, and I had to watch her suffer. Not to mention all of the suffering that me and my siblings went through because of it.
My mother didn't think she was strong enough, she thought she was staying with this guy to have a better life for her children. But, your children see the abuse, they always do.
When my mother finally got out of the situation, she depended heavily on her family members and friends. You need to find someone who you can depend on who will treat you with respect. Go to family, parents, kids, siblings, and friends who you know and trust.
The only thing you can be sure of is that you will never get the opportunity to feel strong again as long as your husband is allowed to abuse you mentally.
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please help me i was sexualy abused when i was younger by my grandad and i hate him for it but i cant stay mad at him i still talk to him and everthing and then all the memories all come back to me i know i am not to blame but i just want to know why he done this to me but i am scared to ask him because he will not admit it and i want to be mad at him but i am the kind of person who forgives people no matter what they have done what can i do please help me.
It's fine that you forgive this person for doing what he did, but it's advisable that you do not try to socialize with him. As you've already seen, it does not make you feel good. After being abused, you shouldn't do anything that will make you feel worse. Forgiving someone is completely differnt than being a friend with someone. You need to do what you can to stay away from this person for your own sanity.
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Here's my deal. Im 16/F. Not and never been sexually active. Ive had an irregular period for about two years, but i'm not on it right now.
Today in the afternoon, the area around my vagina started to burn and itch. I get irritation real bad when i shave, which i did last night, so that could possibly be the explanation. When i got home i looked to see if everything was okay, and i had all this white stuff all over, but i dont think it was live candida yeast or whatever its called, it just looked like little peices of toilet paper, but, wet? That could be it too right?? Okay so then i realized it wasnt some sort of irritation from shaving becuase my inner lips (which unfortanetly are noticably larger than my outer lips) were red and burning as well as my vagina, i can say. Also ive been on minocycline for a couple of weeks, its an antibiotic. I heard using yogourt helps so i put some on to smooth the burning. Umm so if this is a yeast infection, what do i do if i really really dont want to tell anyone? Any home remedies?
Thanks so much it hurts alot.
It's never a good idea to use home remedies like yogurt, that can sometimes make things worse. What you have SOUNDS like a yeast infection to me. But I'm not a licensed doctor and can't diagnose you. It sounds like you've never had a yeast infection, so it's really not a good idea to buy any medicine for it before you see a doctor. It could be something else (there are other non-std things it could be) and putting stuff in your vagina could make your condition worse if you don't really have the condition that your trying to cure. You don't have to tell anyone. I know it can be embarrassing, but I'm sure your mother has been through this at least once in her life. Having a yeast infection doesn't mean you did anything wrong, or that you don't clean yourself properly, it's just one of those many "perks" of being a woman.
Anyway, you don't HAVE to tell anyone, but you should see a doctor. If your embarrassed about telling your doctor things about your body, then that is something your going to have to get over eventually because your doctor will need to know all kinds of embarrassing things about you in order to make you better throughout your entire life.
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when you ask questions and you see 1 answer that is totally dif. from the others do you automatically think its wrong and rate it low without looking into it more?
ex: so person asked if fruit made you fat? and i said it did.. that is exactly what my doctor told me because it does contain alot of calories and really isnt good if you have weight problems.. yes its better than candy but there are still better things
but anyways. everyone else said no. and really they are wrong.. you gain weight from eating basically anything.. and not even investigating my answer i was rated a 1..
how do react when you see that 1 answer that is dif?
know i know that some yes are really obviously wrong
but seriously how do you know if those other like 10 people are right or not?
Did you explain your reasoning or just tell this person "yes, friut is fattening" If you simply said that fruit is fattening without explaining anything, I can understand why this person might have thought that you were just trying to be mean. But, if you explained why fruit is fattening, then the person rated you wrongly.
There are a number of reasons why people give bad ratings when the answer does not deserve a bad rating. One reason could be that the person giving the rating simply assumed that the answer was wrong because they didn't take the time to look into it themselves. This is probalby the case with your bad rating.
But, to answer your first question, no, I do not give a bad rating to an answer that is different from the rest just because it's different. In many cases, when I've asked a question on this site, the anser that was different was the only answer that made sense.
If you think you were really really wronged and you want to do something about it, you should be able to send in an abuse report to see if the rating can't be changed or the person who rating you wrongly can't be told that they did wrong.
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I worked for two company already. I am jobless now. I always feel not happy when my boss assign many tasks for me to do; they just talk about work, but never talk about salary.
My friends tell me that just do what the boss assign. It is not the time to think about salary yet.
I can not stand with it!
I really need advices!
Ratha
You have to do the work before you can get a raise. A friend once pointed out that people often expect raises too much now. Instead of working hard to get a raise, they think that they deserve the raise no matter what.
See, you have to be happy with the work you get, or pretend to be happy with it and do the best job you can in order to get a raise.
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is the alcohal used in perfumes the same as liqour
Usually when a question goes to my e-mail, and brings me back to this website, I come to answer it and am refreshed with the thought put into the question asked. That isn't the case with this question.
When a question like "is the alcohal used in perfumes the same as liqour" (which doesn't even ask for advice) is being asked and gets many answers on the main question page, it makes me happy that I don't have time to come to this website anymore.
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Are boxers a good dog to have as a family pet? I want one, but I have 2 little ones at home (2years & 6 Mo.) would a boxer be a wise decision?
Boxer's are not particularly aggressive dogs.
But, they are very excitable dogs with a lot of energy.
Like any dog, you need to train it from the beginning. I used to have a rottweiler, who was excellant around my young neice, but we had the experience with dogs enough to know to train him well.
You should also start from the beginning by teaching your kids the proper ways to behave around the dog. Such as, DON'T LET THEM PULL HIS TAIL. Someone mentioned that you wouldn't want the dog to bite if your two year old was to pull the dogs tail. And that is true, but you wouldn't want your child to think it's ok to pull a dogs tail, even if it was a golden retriever or lab. Golden retrievers and labs can bite too.
One of the main causes of dog bites is because most children aren't taught how to behave around dogs.
So, boxers are excellant dogs, if you don't mind the really excitable playfullness that their known for. They also do have powerful front paws, they're called boxers because they normall "box" with their front paws. It's really cute and funny to see them do it to the rocks or playtoys, but you need to teach them not to do it to people.
I'd recomend getting one just as much as I would recomend getting a golden retriever, just as long as you teach the dog, and your kids how to behave around each other.
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Well my boyfriend and I have been going out for awhile and i think he wants to kiss me becuase he always leans in and i pull back because i really dont want to kiss yet cuz i think its to early. I already had my first kiss and it sucked becuase i didnt even know that guy. And i want this one to be special. And my boyfriend doesnt know i have kiss someone and he hasnt kissed any one so. My friend thinks he will get mad because i already kissed someone. Should i not like make a big deal about it? I mean its not that big a deal that i kiss someone and he hasnt he should get over it. Its not like the kisses that i got a big deal they didnt mean anything to me and his will because we are really close. So should i tell him that i kissed someone before but not when i was with him and that they didnt mean anything or just forget it? Well i know its going to come out that i did kiss someone because it almost did like 4 times but i stopped it.
Sorry this was long
THANKS for your help
ill rate high for good answers
If you don't feel comfortable telling him about what you have done in the past, then you don't have to. And he should not care about it. Like you have said, it's not a big deal.
If you don't want to tell him that you've already been kissed, then don't. But, you should probably explain to him that you want to wait to kiss because you want it to be special. That way, he won't just think that you don't like him when you pull away.
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Alright, here is the deal.
I am moving on the 26th of this month. It was a spurr of the moment thing, which I know it's the wisest thing becuase you should have time to save up and plan. But this is just how things have to be.
I have informed my current employer that I will be moving. I haven't given him a date becuase I'm not sure when exactly I want to quit. The 19th marks the end of the new pay period. I'm scheduled to work three days after that, I'm not sure if it's worth it to work and go through the hassle of trying to get my check that will only be a little over 100.00. Opinions?
I also just got a job with blockbuster too, I haven't started yet - I got the job before I knew I was even moving. I know it's only worth it to get a second job if I'm really hard up for cash, which I'm not but extra pocket money would be nice. Should I take the second job?
That's pretty much a question for you. It depends on your situation and whether or not you need the extra $100. If it was me, I would probably do it. All you really need to do is have your employer send you the check to your new address and three extra days of work won't be that hard.
About the blockbuster job, are you asking if you should take the job and then move a couple weeks and quit. Is blockbuster hiring you knowing that your moving on the 26th? It doesn't seem like they would hire you for only a few weeks.
If you want the money, and need the money, then take it, but I would tell them that your going to be moving... I guess it's the nice thing to do.
It's all about what's more important to you. The money or the extra free time and lack of hassle of getting your checks.
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I've missed you.
doing school and work. I wake up for class around 7 in the morning and usually don't get out of work until 7 at night. Plus, since I've been staying at my mothers house, I don't have my computer hooked up to the internet so I only get online when I'm using my mom's computer or a school computer. Every time I sign into msn your never online.
It's hard to believe that I'm still a moderator.
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so i do about 50 cruches each night and in the morning when i wake up my stomach seems flatter but throughout the day it gets bigger again.. it gets so annyoing.. it still gets bigger even if i do 100 crunches each night.. whats wrong?
Honestly, If your healthy, eat healthy, exercise, and take care of your body, then it's completely normal to have a tiny bulge in your stomach. That's body fat, everyone has it and your body needs it to take you where you need to go throughout the day.
To me, it sounds like your stomach seems flatter to you in the mornings because your stomach is full. It is NORMAL for your stomach to seem slightly bigger when you eat.
Of course, if you continue to do crunches, your stomach will get tighter and more toned. It can't happen over night. If your not satisfied with your stomach right now, all you really have to do is continue to do stomach exercises. Stay healthy, eat healthy, don't over-exercise or under eat and you'll be fine.
No one is happy with their body, trying for perfection could get you in trouble with over-exercising and under eating.
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My face skin is really dry and the dry skin starts to like fall off. I think its very nasty. Is there anyway i can get my face skin not to be dry?
I had this problem as a teenager, and still do in the winter time.
I use baby oil. It really helps to keep your skin moisturized everywhere. When you use it on your face, you have to be careful so that it doesn't clog your pores.
Here's what I do:
Take a small bit on the palms of your hand.
Rub it in your hands.
Then, dab your hands over the dry areas of your face.
If it is too glisteny and greasy, then take a towel, and dab it over the greasy areas to take off some of the baby oil.
That's always worked good for me.
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