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:.Hey x3My name is Emily and blah blah blah.
:.I have a lot of personal, family, and friend issues of my own so a lot of times, I can probably relate to you a lot of times if you have personal, family, and/or friend issues.
:.I can offer a lot of information, help, and advice on family and friend relationships, love lives, depression, stretching/flexibility, weight loss, violin, being organized, dog training, forensics (public speaking), keeping up with school/extracurricular activities, eating disorders, writing (stories and poems), and probably a lot of other random stuff like what to drink when you eat something spicy and why.
:.Although I can help a lot of you guys on the above subjects, I don't tend to take my own advice so it can become quite an awkward/ironic/contradicting situation for me or make myself sound like a complete and utter hypocrite.
:.Hannah Whitall Smith once said, "The true secret of giving advice is, after you have honestly given it, to be perfectly indifferent whether it is taken or not, and never persist in trying to set people right." I agree 100% of it. Advice is advice and it is given when asked for. I give it and I leave it at that. It's up to the questioner/advice seeker to take it.
:.That point leads onto my philosophies in advice giving:
1. Advice is given when asked and no time else, unless your friend is about to irritate a black bear, then you should definitely advice your friend to back away and run for his or her life.
2. Advice is not critical, not judgmental, and definitely not biased. Advice is advice and should remain neutral.
3. Advice is to help, not to get 5s on every answer. As a result, my advice ends up being quite blunt and frank with a hint of rambling mixed in.
If you have general questions on the topics I can be a lot of help in (as listed above), most likely, they will be in my FORUM
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:.If you want to ask me a question directly...
a)if it is not urgent and can wait a week or so, inbox me.
b)if it is an urgent question such as "I'm being eaten by a shark! What do I do???" first of all, I'm quite amazed that you can type while being eaten and second of all, e-mail me at cancel.life@gmail.com. I will answer you by midnight of that day (or if it's 11:55PM, probably by 3PM the following day).
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im 20 ilbs over weight. whats the best diet for me to eat everday. like the fastest way to loose this weight? i meen i have school soo i was thinking
breakfast- rice crispys with skim milk.
lunch-ramen noodles & a banana. [i have school]
dinner-baked fish. [not fattning]
run for 10 mins everyday?
200 crunches?
for 2 snacks during the day.. maybe gronoliaa bars?THANKS
You need to know that when you suddenly cut down on your serving proportions and expand on the exercise, it may just be hurting you then helping you.
the fastest ways to lose wieght isn't all that healthy
you need to work on it slowly
eat a healthy breakfast (like what you listed) eat a small healthy snack b/w breakfast and lunch/lunch and dinner like an apple (and at school, just munch on some slices of apples or something like that)or just some carrots or veggies
it will help you from over eating
eat slowly--it takes 20min for your brain to process the food in your body and to know that you're full
idk where you live but where i live, there is a program on 7-8 am in the mornings and it's great workout
walk/jog for 30min everyday or 15min of jumproping
if you commit to healthy eating, exercising 5days a week for 3 weeks, you will see great results
do pilates because walking alone won't lose weight that fast
for crunches, start with 10 and slowly work your way up instead of setting and unreachable goal like 200 a day
Well, i really like this guy alot.. and he says i think i like you but im not sure, how can i get him to like me more withoutbeing to pushy so he backs off, oh yea he is also 2 years older then me he asked me on a date so im thinking he wants to be round me more too but i dont kno how to tlak to him without pushin that we should be toghter. if that makes since
-i dont kno wut to do
Well, it might be confusing for him. Does he like you as a friend or a girlfriend?
Everyone struggles with this question from time to time and they don't want to say right away that they like someone aas a gf/bf because they don't want to give false hope. Also, if you go out and find out that you'd rather remain friends, it's gonna be awkward and maybe he doesnt want to lose a friendship he values a lot.
You definately dont want to push him because it may just push him away.
Just plan some fun activities. Go to the mall or the movies with other friends and not just him. Have a sleepover (if your parents don't mind) with him and other friends.
Don't spend every minute you guys are together just by yourselves. Half 1/3 of those times with friends too.
a few days ago i had to have everything on my computer erased including all 600 of my songs on my itunes library. ive been wondering tho..is it possible to add new songs to the library and update my ipod without the songs on my ipod being taken away? make sure u are absolutely positve if u say yes...i DO NOT want to risk losing songs on my ipod. if not...any other ideas to help me? thanks so much
It's impossible to keep the songs on your ipod that isn't on your itunes.
why don't you put the songs on your ipod back onto your itunes with the new songs you've added? either that or buy a new ipod...which isn't too much of a plan...
I want to keep more things to myself. I complain about everything all the time, and I always talk about people, good or bad. I hate it, how do I learn not to tell people everything, like when to stop? thanks!
Take a few moments to yourself before you open your mouth and spill everything out.
Think about what you will say is going to affect you or other positivly or negatively.
If you complain to much, you may start to bore people. When you think you're losing slight attention of one person, just stop. Turn to another topic and make sure it won't hurt you or others.
my older sister whos goin into 9th grade is trouble. she dos fine in classes but socially no. shes hanging out with the "dangerous" crowd and she wont listen to me or open up to me. im worried about her. im worried she might do something stupid or do somethig that will harm her maybe for the rest of her life without realizing it.. how should i approach her?
Sit down with her. Not on IM, phone, email, but just face to face. No interrupting, take turns talking. No yelling, shouting, etc. Just remain in the calmest voice.
Tell her that you think and other people think that the crowd she hangs around is dangerous and infamous.
She may get mad because my parents do the same thing to me saying the way I dress, act, is rude and such (I'm emo but ppl say I'm punk. Whatever. Screw labels)
It may be because she doesn't want to be by herself starting high school or is afraid of getting left out. She might be afraid that she might get picked on (she may feel security in hanging out with the "dangerous" crowd)
Ask her what she sees in that group and why she's hanging out with them.
She might defend the group and listen to her and don't interrupt her.
Ask her "What if I was to be in the group." Ask her what she'll do if someone gets [seriously] injured or get's in [major] trouble because of the group. What will she do?
If she won't listen at all, tell your concerns to your parents. Your sister may hate you for a while but it may do good in the future [better safe than sorry, right?]
I hope she finds a better group of friends and that it all works out =] good luck
I need a guy. How can I get one? Im in 8th grade and havent had a b/f.!
First, you don't need a guy. Don't be one of those girls who needs a guy by her side 24/7
If you have guy friends you're close with, lay off them . You don't want to lose your valuable friendship with them.
Look for guys who are your type and that shares the same interest with you.
If you really want a bf, you make the move and don't wait forever for your crush[s] to make it.
My stomach isn't flabby...but its too soft for my liking. does doing crunches really help tighten up your abdomen?
if so, how many should i do a day?
Yes. It works the muscles in your stomach.
When you do crunches, make sure that your feet are flat against the floor and come up all the way up without gripping anything to lift you up.
When you start out, start with 10 a day. After a week, or if you think you're ready, advance by 5. Each time you think you're ready, add 5 to what you already do. Don't overwork yourself and go up too fast
i forgot my aim password and then i click forgot password and it says it sent it 2 my email but the password for my email was the same so idk it. is there ne way 2 like hack back into my sn?
go to the FAQ section or when you signed up up for that email, did you give them an alternative email address?
if you look around AIM.com, you should be able to find a page that gives you access to write down your problem to give to one of the admin.
if that fails, get a new email and aim =/
i know that it's sucky but i hope everything works out =X
i got a perm 5 days ago and i hate it. it's horrible. Are there any good updos or something that is really cute if you have curly hair? i've always liked my perms before but i hate this one. I cannot buy a straightening kit and i dont want to fry my hair by blowdrying or straightening it everyday. HELP!!!! (i have scrunched it with gel too it still looks bad)
first, never use gels or hair sprays from your local stores. they can damage your hair in a second.
try putting it into ponytails or braid it =]
put it into a messy bun or put it into a french braid.
If these don't work for you, go to the salon and see what the hair stylist can do for you. =]
Ok, I'm 14/f, and you know normal teenagers are usually fighting with their parents and stuff over stupid things.. well, that's the case with me. I dont know, but I seem to lose my temper easily. It's not always me, I mean I'll say something back to my parents that ticks them off until the point where I get so angry that I.. well I've scratched my mom before. And not that long ago I got in a fight with my dad and hit him. It's not like I intentionally want to hurt them that way, I just can't control it. And I feel like now it's gotten out of hand. I'll tell you exactly what happened with my dad before.. My family was watching tv in my family room, and I was thirsty so i went to go get something to eat and some jello lol. Well there's this little stool kinda table thing that I used as a table. It was off to the side so I used my feet to drag it over to the couch since my hands were full. It got caught on the rug and my dad, i dunno what he said exactly but he made a remark about it and I was like, "What am I supposed to do? my hands are full" And he was like.. well.. blahblahblah, I don't even remember what he said, all I remember is I ended up hitting him, and then he flipped out and took the jello and drink away and yelled at me and threatened that I didn't have to get a new cell phone, etc. See how stupid it is? But I really can't control this. Idk what I should do. I really want this $88 hair straightener, and my mom said if I was good during the vacation we are going on next week then I could get it. But I'm gonna be with my mom dad and brother in a hotel room for like 4 nights, and I have a feeling I'm just gonna get mad at them for the stupidest thing and end up ruining the chances of getting that straightener. How can I control my anger? I feel really badly about everything now, I really don't mean it.. I'm just.. i dunno, everythings changing. Sorry this was so long.. please help.. thank you
Okay, seems like you have a bad temper. What you need to do is breathe in and out. Take deep ones. Count to 10..maybe even up to 60 slowly. Before you say anything or do anything to the people you're angry at, go into a room (possibly your room) and scream into the pillow.
If you're still not satisfied, write it all down. Cry it out. Think about it form your parent's/ sibling's point of view and then go out when youare CALM. And always apologize and say that you're having problems controlling your anger when situations go out of control
14/f. Me and my friend are hosting a small party in the wash/dry field next to her house this friday. It won't be many people, just maybe 10-15. We will only be at the field for 2 hours (about) and I needed to know some good games for the party. No corny games... kissing games are good though and stuff related to that. I know we will be playing 'spin the bottle', 'truth or dare', and 'suck and blow'. Also any other stuff we could do at the party. After we leave the wash at 9pm-ish, we are going to her house to night-swim and go in the spa. I RATE!!
You def. need music so stock up on those CDs!!
Okay, have fun taking tons of pictures and make sure it has flash.
Why don't you do prank calling..that's always fun. Bother the radio stations =P
PLay flashlight tag or tackle football or some soccer.
Dance to music or play poker =]
Have fun =]
okay. im 14... i dont see how people geet fat... i mean theres alot a big people in this world always complaining about their weight..&& ive never been fat before..im like really skinny...and i eat alot...when i see that im gaining a few pounds i cut down a little..&& it helps me keep my figure...alot of people even think im anorexic but im not..trust me.....what i dont get is why is it a really big person all like look at me im fat..i dont fit in&& low self exsteem and stuff...when really they can control that fat of theirs...unless someones making you eat alot...if you really want to be skinny...work for it you fat cows...just kidding...just saying...if you really want to be skinny WORK...and if you think you dont fit in cause you're different(fat )..you are different..cause you take up more space so get over it seriously..im tired of listening to them fat people...most people who are fat are fat because theyre 'GREEDY'
get over it..or do something about it..WORK..
My question really is: why are there so many fat people in this world??? cant you learn how to cut down..you GREEDY people...why cant a fat person just stop eatting so much..and WORK..come on people!! if you are one who eats alot..it helps to cut down by eatting less..dont even look at the food that is saying"eat me!!!"...so please help me understand thanks...
You have to know that it can be hereditary (big bones)
And what you are saying is harsh.
They can be fat from having diabetes, scoleosis, and some people just have slow metabolism.They could be eating from stress (a lot of people do this)from a loss in the family or getting fired etc.
You my dear have high metabolism. It's not as easy for people to lose weight just like that.
Big people give up on their appearences and just let nature take it's course on them. Don't you think they wish they want to be super skinny like those unrealistic models? They do and you have to understand that cutting down on food and exercising is a difficult thing to them. It's the same thing as us asking you to get fat.
Just understand that they wish they were as thin. They try and exercise and eat healthy but it may be extremely hard for them. Also they might have different reasons for being big. You need to be more sensitive and more open minded as to why they might be big.
i am so new to this period stuff, i have had mine for 3 months now and pads are becoming a hastle. i don't have a mom any more, so how do i put a tampon in??? i would really like your help on this information, and i don't want to talk to anyone where i live. Thxs
sit or put one foot up on the seat and have the tampon with the plastic cap still on go in downward toward the floor.
It will probably take you a few tries to get used to putting it in smoothly so don't give up
what are some things you can do with the kids you are babysiting? i mostly babysit a 6 year old boy, a 3 year old girl, and a little todler. what are some ideas for fun? thanks
I babysit for a 2yr old girl and a 4 yr old boy. The boy just usually goes to play with his toys in the play room and the girl follows everything he does.
They will argue alot so make sure the games you play with them will be fair and gives equal attention to both of them
Try playing tag or hide and seek. Play sword fights with the boy and pretend you'll be rescueing the girl (princess)
Playdough usually keeps the kids I babysit for occupied.
Be creative and have fun with the stuff they have. You don't have to provide and carry around extra items they probably won't use.
ok this is the forth time i have givin head to my bf....i have done it be for. he kind of gets ontop of me and then i do it...i iside his shirt.....like the 2nd time i did it my neack realy started to hurt can some of u help and tell me 2 make it stop and why its happening?and when he comes of course i swallow it but it tasted different......and when hese cumming inside my mouth i almost feel like im bout to throw up.but when im done or w/e i say that was good or whatever but he likes me doing it and i want to make him happy so what could i do?thanxz
~trisha~
I'm not sure you should be swallowing. In fact I don't think you should even be giving oral.
Honey, you're not obligated to giviing him orals. It seems like that's the only way to make him happy and personally, I only find him as a way too horny bf who doesn't give s... but sexual stuff.
You can get multiple STDs and have a high high risk of getting pregnant.
Don't say that won't happen to me because a lot of people with STDs and that are teenage moms/unmarried moms say that. And look at them now. You have as much chance as anyone else to get syphilis, HIV, etc. and to have a baby
Abortion? Do you know how painful and how damagin that is to your mind?
If you want to make him happy find something else in his interest other than oral, sex, etc. Sex isn't everything to a relationship.
alright...i just moved && i want to meet the neighbors around the neighborhood...but i dont know how to meet them....do i just go up to their door and say i just moved next door...or what??....my mom says just walk the block && youll meet sumone new...ive tryed that, it doesnt work..cause nobody is ever out side so please help...cause i want to make new friends...thanks
Melody 14/f
Go to the pool and meet new people. When school starts you'll probably ride the bus with your neighbors.
If you can't wait till school starts or dont have a pool in your neighborhood, have your family throw a BBQ party and invite the neighbors and their families.
It's a great fun way to meet people and [I hope] the food is delicious =]
I told my mom what you said about me and my sister fighting. She said that it was an ok idea and we (her and me not my sister)could talk but that the fighting was mostly my fault! I told her that I tried to ignore her (my sister) and she said that I start it (when i don't my sister always slaps/hits/puches/calls names/is a meanie (:D) and then i try to stop her and i loose my cool and hit her back, and I get in the trouble and all she gets in is a 'stop' when i get a 'dont do that again. You are older then her. Don't let her get to you' And my older sister keeps us going. How to i get them to listen without getting in trouble????
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Okay, apparently your mom isn't looking at this from both views. It is true that younger siblings get away with almost everything and the older one's get all the blame.
So you have a younger sister and an older sister and you're in the middle, right?
I would set up a video camera and bring it around with you everywhere but that's a hassel...
Your sister seems to have a lot of rage inside and I personally don't know why or what's causing it to build up.
Since ignoring her doesn't work, try and block her punches. Dodge them if you can and get a hold of her arms.
Sit her down and firmly say to her in a calm tone that if she keeps on acting like that she'll have to face consequences later on in life and she needs to fix those behaviors before she gets someone seriously injured. And go to your room/or send her out of your room and lock the door.
And tell your mom (if you want) that if she doesn't start to give your sister consequences for her actions, you're gonna go to the school counselor for help. And that she's going to have to stop treating your sister like a princess because she's old enough to know what she did wrong. Tell her to stop believing that you are the one who starts it when your sister is and if she can't believe that, then...well I got nothing for this.
But tell that to your mom if you want calmly and nicely and try and not get her mad. Just keep your cool and show her that you're the mature one who doesn't start these violent quarrels.
And thanks for the compliment and you're welcome. I'm always here to give anyone advice about almost everything =]
What are the best excersizes for your inner and outer thighs without equipment of any kind? I'd like to get in the best shape possible before Halloween. Thanks!
I'm pretty sure these work out the thighs:
STand in the 2nd positions (ballet) -[legs open, feet turned out and knees bend) squat up and down slowly using your thigh muscles
Stand up straight with you feet and legs together. bend at the waist and left knee slighty. have your left foot stand on tip toessquat up and down 10 times. then switch legs and do the same thing.
My friend and I were talking the other day and the subject of food and weight came up. She says one way she looses weightand keeps it off and still gets to 'taste' whatever she wants is by chewing up the food and then spitting it out. Now, she doesnt do this for everything, just like chocolate and candy ect. Not like apples and everything healthy...but I was wondering if this really works, or does the fatty stuff still get in your body. Thanks.
That is a disgusting habit and she shouldn't be doing nor getting you to get into doing it.
The one best way to loose weight is to eat healthy and exercise no chew, spit, chew, spit.
That is the most digusting thing I have hear and you shouldnt do it
If god loves every one then why dose it seem that being gay is wrong. im a big gay rights person and i dont understand how in most religions its like one of the bigest sins
Because God is atheist. That's what my friend says anyway. I know that being a homoesexual or a transvestite always rouses up big debates and arguments.
I don't see what's wrong with being a homosexual or a transvestite. Love and marriage isn't about race, gender, age, or sexuality. It's just pure love.
I agree with you that being gay, lesbian, or bisexual is NOT a sin.
I think the people who thinks those ridiculous thoughts and is against homosexuals are the sin to this world.