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Hey Everyone :) I'm Kate and a level 2 mod on here. I've had this account since July 2004, so I've been on here since I was 13! Wow ... crazy for me to think how long ago that was. I will admit I don't check in as often as I once did, but being away at college, being in a sorority, and having a job when I'm not at school is very time consuming. I still try to help out as much as possible, and if you send me a question I WILL answer it. This site helped me a LOT when I was in high school and had a lot of questions, and I'm here to help anyone who needs it :) Feel free to write in my forum or send me a question any time!

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what do you get if you mix a apple with snapple

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ummm........ snapplyapply...

I'm not really sure, let me know the real answer if and when you find it.

Im only 15 years old but i need a job this summer. Do you know any jobs that will hire at 15 other than publix

Do you have a Chick-Fil_A near you? They either hire at 14 or 15. Gas stations hire as young as 14 too.

I am constantly insulted by my sister. Before, she would make fun of me, which I would just shrug off, but lately, its been getting to a point where I just feel like there is no point to anything. I cant even cry when she says things to me, I just shut down, and let her go on and on.

Like tonight, I walked into the living room, and she began to swear at me. She said that I am a psycho, and that she cannot wait for me to leave for school (college in the fall) because I am worthless. I have not even said anything to her at all at this point, I really don't know what I did.

What I really dont understand is how she will talk to me one night insultingly, and then the next day she wants me to go shopping with her.

I really dont understand it-if anyone has any advice I would really appreciate it

Even though it's not the nicest thing, that's exactly how me and my sister are.
We're fighting, making fun of each other, and just biatching, then 2-3 hours later I run upstairs and ask her to go to a movie as if it never happened.
I guess it's not the smartest thing in the world, but a lot of sisters are like that. When I say stuff rudely to anyone for that matter I don't mean it the way it comes out. Either someone is bugging me and I just want them to leave me the heck alone but they won't, I get the worst attitude.
For instance one of my favorite teachers, last semester I gave her so much crap, and once I got my facts straight, and we're all good now, well I felt bad. But though a lot of people say it's harsh, it is normal sister behavior.

I mean you shouldn't sit there and take it, you should walk away and just ignore it. I mean my sister takes some of the stuff I say waaaaaaaaay to seriously. Life if she's being a brat I say something like "shut up you stupid whore" and she'll take it like I mean the actual meaning when I just mean shut up and leave me alone. Then she completely flips and does the whole "how am I a whore if I've never had sex" and so on.
I mean it's not the 80's, half the words that were considered bad aren't really as bad anymore.
I mean yeah you shouldn't take it and I don't want to tell you to do the same thing, so just ignore her and walk away, when she needs a favor (like a ride somewhere or something) tell her no and that she doesn't deserve it.

I am a student and find things to remember difficult while studying as i think i have very less confidence in myself . Please help of what do i do ? I constantly feel that i wont remember studied things in my exams. What do i do?

Today was my last day of school (finally a sophmore, yes!)
But anyway, I had 2 exams to take today. For my math exam, well our teacher taught us songs to remember the formulas by. And I had remembered them though I never actually sang them when the class did.
I got to a problem on my exam and I was stuck on it, then I remebered the song for that particular problem, and it got easy.
Last year we had to memorize a poem in my history class if we even messed up on one word we got a 0. We could try saying it everyday, but only once a day, up until the last day of school until we got it. (Flanders Fields wes the poem)
I turned it into a song to remember it by, and it only took me 2-3 times to get it perfect.

So really if you try and turn something into a poem or song it's a lot easier to remember.

Hope this helps. Good luck.

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ive really been struggling with throwing up my food...like i feel as if its a habit now..but i still have control too...weird i know..anyway, my question is: what am i supposed to do? i want to stop but i cant!
-frustrated

p.s.
seeing a "professional" is outta the question!

Well I can't help as much because when I had an eating disorder (anorexia) I saw a proffesinal. But I also had to go to my schools guidance councilor once a week. I would suggest that, but for me the last day is tomorrow, and I don't know when you get out of school, it all depends where you live. But if you still have a month to go (like if you lived in NY) then that's my best suggestion.
Do your parents know? If not you DEFINITLEY need to tell them. What about friends that you trust that might be able to help? That's definitley a HUGE thing to tell your friends, I mean I was embarassed when all my friends found out about me. You can always call teen talk, I don't know the number by heart, but it's on my column.

Here's a site that might be helpful, I used one of the other links for when I cut my wrists and stuff. http://groups.msn.com/CutItOut/eatingdisorders.msnw
Try it and see if it helps you at all.
But you know you have bulimia right...? That's what it's called when you throw up forcibly.
Eventually you won't be able to control yourself, it's going to get completely out of hand, so if your parents don't already know you need to inform them so you can get help. It may not be the easiest thing to do, but it's a necesity (sp?)
I hope I helped, if you ever just want to talk, feel free to e-mail or drop one in the inbox, I can help best I can. (Maniac_Munchkin@yahoo.com or Bull_Dawg_Babii@yahoo.com)

I really want to get my fake nails taken off. Does anyone know how you can remove them other than chipping them off and going to the nail place (not an option as of this moment)?

Well when I used to wear them they would come off all the time in the water like when I was swimming. But those were like wal-mart bought nails that I put on myself.
Usually if you soak your hands in warm water it'll make them much looser and hopefully easier to remove. If not, ask someone at a nail place or that uses fake nails all the time how they get them off.

is it safe to have sex while your on your period?

Technically it's never safe to have sex.
A condom (if it doesn't break) will keep you safe against STD's, but NOTHIN keeps you 100% safe agains pregnancy.
Just make sure the guy has 1 condom on, and be on birth control.
The more methods you use, the better off you'll be. But NOTHING in life is 100% all the time.
Good luck and be safe.

what can happen if you consume more then 4 advil at a time? i jusy had 5 advil at a time, can i puke or what, i need an answer asap

Well you probably OD'd.
You shouldn't EVER take pills without reading the back of the bottle to see how much you should be consuming. If you start to feel sick, or even if you don't you should really consult a pharmasist, or a doctor, or even a poisen control.
If you have any epicac (have no idea how it's spelt) you might want to take it. It'll make you throw up for a LONG time, and it's (as far as I know) only used if you swallowed a poisenous substance so you don't like die, but it might be handy.
I'd ask a parent, or call the number on the bottle telling them what you did and asking them what you should do about it.

Can you be in love with someone, and not be physically attracted to them?

If you're really truly in love, then physical appearance just disappears. You start to think they're the prettiest person in the world.
That might be possible, but I'm not sure whether I believe that.
I believe that if you love someone, you love EVERYTHING about them.
I mean it might be possible, it truly might, but usually when you fall in love you fall in love with everything. Have you ever realized that when you think someone is really cute, then they do something really mean to you they start getting uglier and uglier? Well it can work the other way around too. Like you were originally attracted to the personality, but once you started to really like the person they became prettier and prettier (or cuter and cuter)

So as I said, it could be possible, but I'm not sure.

How do I ask a guy for his number (and/or give him my number) without it sounding like I like him? I want it to sound like I want his number just cuz hes my friend. (But I really do like him.) Sorry if that was confusing! :)

Just sign his year book and right your number in it.

Or what I've done before was I for help on homework. Or I just said if I call you later can you give me the answers. And if he said yeah sure then ask for his number, and be like just in case I lose this here's mine and call me by 8 if I haven't called you.
Or something like that.

Or just be like... summers coming and we should definitley keep in touch. Maybe go swimmin a movie or the mall. Heren't my number, call me sometime. Then if he catches on he'll give you his. If not, well hopefully he'll call you.

Or find someone who has his number, get it from them, and sign his yearbook writing your number, that way you have each others numbers.

i hate being skinny ... is there any way to gain weight faster..i eat like crazy but i have a fast matabolism ( sry i can't spell haha )

Eat things loaded down with calories.
A friend of mine supposedly has some "condition" haha (that's what our health teacher said when she explained why my friend was allowed to eat in class but nobody else) well anyway, she eats and drinks things loaded with calories.
At least she did back like 4-5 weeks ago. She hasn't been doing it as much around me anymore, but I also don't have that many classes with her so she might just eat in the other classes.

But if you excercies you gain muscle which weighs more than fat. Or if you take in foods with a lot of calories. Usually that's what gets you to gain weight.

im goin into highschool next year and im kinda scared... can anyone thats been or has been a freshman help me? i am so afraid of the work... and i dont wanna go just yet. some one help me get over my fears please...! BWLNG FR SP FAN

In my own personal opinion (I'm a freshman... 3 full days and 2 half days left!!!!) I think my freshamn year was a LOT easier (in classes) then my 8th grade year. My biggest problem was finding my classes. But after the first two days I had no problem getting to classes on time. The biggest things I had to adjust to were my classes weren't all on the same hall, I didn't eat lunch with only my grade level, I didn't have classes with only my grade level, and that I didn't use a locker. (we were allowed to, but there's not enough for the whole school, so a LOT of people just carry their bookbags)

I myself LOVE high school. I mean sure I had to leave behind quite a few friends, especially my best friend Heather since we got put in two different high schools. But we still keep in touch, her birthday was Monday and I was still able to wish her a happy birthday and everything.

When I was about to start high school I asked a question on this site and got probably no help, everyone was saying it would be scary, and it would be difficult, but it's not.

High school isn't like the movies though. People don't get to hang out outside until the bell rings, you have to be in class when the bell rings, not you walk to class when the bell rings.

At our school, there's a bell that tells you to leave the class, there's a bell that means you have 2 more minutes, and then there's one more bell and if you're not in the classroom or walking through the door then you're considered late and you have to get a tardy.

The punishments are a lot more fair. Like last semester I was fed up with one of my classes, so I did a stupid thing and I skipped. I of course got caught because I stayed on campus. I got saturday school for it. I had to wake up early and go to the school and do work to make up for the time I didn't go to class. Though I didn't like it, it was fair.

The teachers are a lot easier to talk to. I mean if you have a problem, they really are there to talk anytime you need to. And for if you need to see a guidance councilor, all you do is fill out a form and they see you ASAP. If you need to see the nurse you get a note from your teacher and you can go, or if it's during lunch you can go straight to the nurses office. A lot of times you need a note to go places, but every once in a while you can get away without having one. The only reason they check for notes is because people tend to skip class a lot in high school.

You also get a lot more freedoms. If you're grades are high (a or B honor roll) then you get to leave for lunch 2 minutes early. You can exempt (not take) certain exams as long as they're not given by the state. You can get a few homework passes. You can get into certain sports for free.

Oh and in high school ALL grade levels can participate in sports. And there are trainers and managers (students) that help, and they get to go to away games too. The games are a lot more fun, and anyone can go, not just people that go to your school. Also anyone can go to the dances as long as someone from the school gets them tickets. You don't have to have certain grades to attend dances, it's sooo much fun. If you're on honor roll then you get small parties/receptions.

For dances you only pay to get in, you don't have to pay for food and drinks. In middle school we would pay to get in, pay fr the food, pay for the soda, and so on. Also they have real food, not just pizza and candy. And they don't just have soda, they have punch, and other things too.

High school isn't too hard as long as you try your best. There are a LOT more freedoms, and a LOT more activities. It's somewhat like middle school, but at the same time it's nothing like middle school.

All I can say is good luck, and have a BLAST!!!

If you need anything else drop one in my inbox or e-mail me at Bull_Dawg_Babii@yahoo.com

I have a geometry final exam tomorrow and i have to make an 80 on it to pass the class....does anyone have any tips for me so help remember formulas and any way to help me study because its like i cant stay focused or remember anything! so any tips on remembering and focusing would really help!
Thanks

Well we learn formulas through song.
Like our class says Y=MX+B to the tune of the YMCA, and I can't think what tune it is that we do y-y1=m(x-x1) but I remember it using the tune.
Try and turn formulas into songs that are kiddy songs and easily remembered.
EAT PEANUT BUTTER... somehow it helps your memory work, so I've heard. Try not to let your eyes wander across the class room. Eat a good breakfast, don't make yourself too warm because it'll just make you sleepy.
We don't have finals until next week except for physical education which is all this week.
But I hope what I said helped at least a little bit.

I am 14 and female. I get A's in school, but sometimes I think I have ADD because when I'm not interested I just space out.

Well, at least I WANT to think I have ADD.

You see, my friend told me that ADD medication like Aderol and Ritalin (I can't spell, please help there..) makes your metabolism hella fast and makes you lose weight like crazy. Many of my friends have ADD and I can prove this statement true because they have all lost weight since their diagnosis. Now I'm not the skinniest person but I'm at an ideal weight right now. I would like to lose at least 10 pounds or so. It isn't a lot and it would do me good.

I wonder if this is worth it. Should I go get tested? I know it's like using crystal meth to get skinny like my friend did, because it is a perscription drug, but when I told my mom she almost started crying she was so mad and my friends are worried about me. Is it really that bad? Should I consider that I may have ADD even though my attention span is pretty long for my age and that would just be an excuse to lose weight? Or should I just drop the topic? I know this is really vain, but I need some advice. Thanks.

I strongly doubt you have ADD, you just really want to have it so it makes you think you do. But I'm not doctor so I can't diagnose you.
My brother has ADHD, and the medicine doesn't make your metabolism faster.

Riddalon and a lot of other medications for ADD and ADHD make you not so hungary. I know a lot of people that don't like to eat when on the medication and that's how they lost all the weight. My brothers medicine isn't that bad, but a lot of medications that help with ADD and ADHD just make you not hungary.

If you want to lose weight do it the old fashion way, diet and excercise, not by using drugs (prescription or not)

Ok, I'm 15/f and I was with this guy for 2 months. Well he starting trying to pressure me to have sex with him. And I know this probably sounds stupid but I really wasn't ready to go that far. I know that a lot of other girls have had sex but I just wasn't ready for it yet. So anyway one night we were hanging out and he started to ask me to have sex with him again. I said no and I tried to explain why and make him understand. Well he seemed to understand and I thought that everything was ok. He brought me a drink of water and then I started to feel weird. The next thing I know I'm waking up next to him and now I'm pregnant. My friend said that he probably gave me a drug or something so I would have sex with him. I really don't know and I don't know what to do now. Did he rape me? And what should I do about the pregnancy?

YES he raped you. He drugged you, and when you're drugged then your consent means nothing.
1st.) what you need to do is tell your parents and the cops so you can get that guy put in jail for rape
2nd.) you and your parents need to sit down and talk about what you're going to do.

I'm against abortion unless it's rape, then I'm 50/50. Because having this child means everytime you look at him/her you'll remember what happened (at least your memory isn't an easy one to access whereas others get severe emotional damage... not saying your emotions weren't severly damaged, but I hope you get what I mean)

But if you don't have the kid you'll be severly emotionally damaged because in a way you killed a human being that didn't nothing to you, and you'll defintley suffer some type of mental issue.

It's a HARD decision that only you and your parents can make. But in the end it is up to you. I'm really sorry this happened to you, but in the end everything will be okay. If it's not okay, then it's NOT the end!!!!!!!! I hope all works out well for you, and soon.

I am in 7th grade and I am in level math... Next year I am skipping Pre-Algebra and taking Algebra.. can any1 give me any expectations or any math tips? Thanks a bunch!

Well I took prealgebra and made A+ in that class, and now that I'm taking algebra I'm making an A+ (or whatever a 97 is, maybe just an A)
But I think it was MUCH easier since I took prealgebra. Everyhing in algebra 1a was completely review for me from prealgebra, but algebra 1b, was a little harder. I think it's SOOO easy, but that might just be because I took pre algebra.
Ummm, well I don't really have tips for you. But in my classes we learned lots of songs to help us remember formulas such as Y=MX+B. and y-y1=M(x-x1)... and a lot of other things.

But if you EVER need help on your math homework I will literally completely work it out over the computer but I will NOT go far enough to give you the answer. I'll work it out until the very last step and tell you how to get the answer from there, but won't give you the actual answer because that's technically cheating. But really if you ever need help on algebra ask me and I can give you step by step how to do it. Good luck.
You might want to try and do pre-algebra because it'll make life a whole lot easier, but do whatever you can.

Okay so I met this guy (we are both 16) and we hit it off. spent like 10 hours together he was totally flirting holding hands cuddling and he would just stare at me and would always sit next to me and he tried to kiss me and such.. (it was a church retreat. We were helpers lol for the little kids) so at the end of the night when its time to leave and we are right next to each other in the seat but my friend is between us and he got up and kept looking back at me and then he just left no good bye and didn’t ask for a number or anything! what does that mean? What happened?

Well I can't exactly speak for him, but maybe he used you. I mean for all you know he has a girlfriend back home... which I guess isn't that far from you.
Ummm, maybe somehow you gave off a bad vibe, I mean it's not your fault as to what happened. Maybe he was nervous, you said he looked back at you, but never said goodbye. Maybe he didn't want to say goodbye. Goodbye means forever, you never want to say forever. Maybe somehow he thought you didn't like him.
Sorry I'm not much help, I can usually give pretty good advice on love life and stuff, but this really stumps me. I'm probably as confused as you on this one. Well if you ever see him, ask him what happened. Ask him if he used you, ask him if he had a girlfriend you reminded him of (though it's not an excuse) ask him what happened. He's the only person you can get the real honest to goodness answer from.

Well i think im a lesbian ... ! i went over this girl's house and we eat eachother out sucked eachothers boobs and made out liked 20 times.. now when i go to bed shes all i think about and i stick a battery up my vagina thinking its her licking it !! but i really like this boy too but i think i like girls

HELP !

Well what exactly do you want help on? I can't tell you what you are or what you are not. I mean yeah my first impression is that you're lesbian. But you could also be bisexual. Or you could just be bicurious. Which is when you're curious about both sexes. I mean did you want to know what it was like, or did you actually find her attractive and you wanted to be with her.

Most likely you're bisexual or bicurious.
Talk to your friend, either she was just experimenting with you, or she feels the same way. There's nothing you can do about how you feel, you feel how you feel and noone or no thing can change that.

could someone let me know of a site for cursors.i'm looking for a magenta or bright orange one...please dont say soup-faerie.com because i dont feel like searchin 100 more pages...thanks everyone!

This works for myspace, but I don't know if it works for anything else.
http://www.pimpwebpage.com/cursor.html

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