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sister issues
I am constantly insulted by my sister. Before, she would make fun of me, which I would just shrug off, but lately, its been getting to a point where I just feel like there is no point to anything. I cant even cry when she says things to me, I just shut down, and let her go on and on.
Like tonight, I walked into the living room, and she began to swear at me. She said that I am a psycho, and that she cannot wait for me to leave for school (college in the fall) because I am worthless. I have not even said anything to her at all at this point, I really don't know what I did.
What I really dont understand is how she will talk to me one night insultingly, and then the next day she wants me to go shopping with her.
I really dont understand it-if anyone has any advice I would really appreciate it
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dont get a bad temper with your sister but go and tell your mom and dad what she has been saying dont scream at her because you will be the one guilty if you tell you r mom or dad they can take care of it if you cant tell your mom or dad talk to you sister calmly and let her know that everything she says is hurting your feelings
hope i helped briittany
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tell your sister how you feel. just let out all your anger and like scream it at her lol. tell her that you haven't done anything to her and she's being so mean to you that you just can't stand it. ask her what's going on with the one day she's mean to you and the next day she wants to hang out with you. tell her everything you just told me. do your parents know about this? tell her that it really hurts your feelings. if your parents don't know about it then you should probably tell them. hope everything works out between you and your sis!
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well my sister does that too there are many possible reasons for this she can be jealous,she might be the 1 with troubles in the head, she might just dont want you to go to college 4 some reason, and well then agian almost most sisters do that its sibiling rivary. well i hope i helped you but i think u should just sit down n talk to her but dont be mean about it just act calmly. i hope it works out 4 you!!!
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This seems like my step mom.. a little two faced! so i totally understand how you feel! So how old is your sister? Is she younger than you? if so i wouldn't let her push you around like that! i don't mean to sound harsh or anything... but get back at her. just for once stand up for yourself.. and if she's older, it really depends on how older.. like if she hasn't gone to college yet.. i'd ask her when she plans on moving out and getting a life so that maybe SHE could have a few friends and you wouldn't have to go with her places. STAND UP FOR YOURSELF GIRL!! nobody deserves to be pushed around like that if you're not doing anything wrong towards her... And if you're like me and think you can't stand up for yourself and are very softspoken and doesn't like to be mean to people.. just try to overcome that.. i was once like that.. but then when i was getting pushed around i finally stood up and i didn't even know what to say.. but the words just came out of my mouth! but afterwards i felt SOOO good.. because i didn't have to worry about my step mom embarrassing me in public and saying stuff that weren't true and different things.. my advice is to stick up for yourself.. it may sound hard.. but in the longrun.. it mostly makes things better! Hope i helped! and if you ever need anything just drop one in my inbox!!! =)
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When she says something don't shut down or be quiet, say something back. Most people when they see something is bothering you they will keep doing that, because your showing that your hurt, angry, sad, etc. Stand up for yourself.
Hope I helped!
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Even though it's not the nicest thing, that's exactly how me and my sister are.
We're fighting, making fun of each other, and just biatching, then 2-3 hours later I run upstairs and ask her to go to a movie as if it never happened.
I guess it's not the smartest thing in the world, but a lot of sisters are like that. When I say stuff rudely to anyone for that matter I don't mean it the way it comes out. Either someone is bugging me and I just want them to leave me the heck alone but they won't, I get the worst attitude.
For instance one of my favorite teachers, last semester I gave her so much crap, and once I got my facts straight, and we're all good now, well I felt bad. But though a lot of people say it's harsh, it is normal sister behavior.
I mean you shouldn't sit there and take it, you should walk away and just ignore it. I mean my sister takes some of the stuff I say waaaaaaaaay to seriously. Life if she's being a brat I say something like "shut up you stupid whore" and she'll take it like I mean the actual meaning when I just mean shut up and leave me alone. Then she completely flips and does the whole "how am I a whore if I've never had sex" and so on.
I mean it's not the 80's, half the words that were considered bad aren't really as bad anymore.
I mean yeah you shouldn't take it and I don't want to tell you to do the same thing, so just ignore her and walk away, when she needs a favor (like a ride somewhere or something) tell her no and that she doesn't deserve it.
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That happens alot with me and my sister, and honestly, theres nothing you can really do. I have a trick that usually works, instead of responding to the insult, try and say someting you can both relate to. Like "hey do you think you are going to go see that new Johnny Depp movie this summer" and you just see how that goes.
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sometimes i have the same problem with my brother. lately though, i've found some ways to stop it. make comments! if she has flaws, bring em out. it may not be the nicest way, but they'll be quiet after that. good luck!
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Thats really horrible. Sometimes I get really mad at my little sister, and I say soem things I dont mean, but they are never that bad, and I pretty much always apologize. She shouldnt degrade you or make you feel like your a low person. You should definately either tell her how you feel or just stand up for yourself. The next time she throws some insulting remarks at you, just make a comeback, or tell her that you think its really horrible that she can say those horrible things about you. Its crazy that she wants to be a bitch to you and then go shopping with her the next day. Dont take that anymore. Stand up for yourself and tell her what you think~ I hope I helped!
♥Emily
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It sounds like your sister is have some personaly problems. And yes I know where theres some point to what siblings call you names and tease at you and you just forget about it. But it sounds to me like your sister is have personal problems maybe school work a relationship is bothering her. I don't know if you would want to but you might want to aask her whats going on with her. Also when you do go to collage she will probley miss you some and so i suggjest to just try to be firends and not fight back and spend some time with her this summer. hope every thing works out
Sarah
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Your sister has some personality problems. She only feels good about herself when she can put other people down. you are an easy target. Why don't your parents intervene on your behalf. I have two boys, and when the older one picks on the younger one, I am there to remind the older one,that he used to act, think, behave the same way. Anyway. It is not OK for your sister to talk to you that way. It is disrespecful, and since no one is coming to your aid, then I guess it is up to you. You may have to put up with her because you live in the same house. But you DON'T have to go to the mall with her. You have to be polite (to everyone in life,even those who are not) but you don't have to be nice. Or go out of your way. I finally convinced my youngest son to stop accepting his brother's nice behavior until he started to behave nice all the time towards him. Don't go to the mall with her, don't be her friend and confidant when she can't find anyone else, and don't share with her. Don't be mean, just say "sorry, don't have time, Sorry, have other plans." And don't give her any more info than that. Her attitude will change and by the time you do leave for college, she won't want you to go.
I am mostly concerned about you. If you accept this kind of behavior from people because they are "family" will you also accept it from your boyfriend, husband or lover inthe future. Don't ever let people treat you that way. And you resolve the problem not by getting back at them, but by avoiding them. Because you can't change anyone, they have to change themselves. Just keep yourself out of harms way. And only be friends and intimate with people who treat you with respect. You deserve it.
Michele
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Sounds like typical sister behavior. I didn't get along with mine until I moved away from home.
You didn't mention if she was younger or older, it really doesn't matter though because they are usually the same. She could be jealous of you leaving home though (in the fall). You can either ignore her or give her back as good as you get.
I don't know why the hostility is so easily turned off and on. That's pretty normal too. Maybe your her ride to the shopping? Sister (or brothers) are just a royal pain in the ass...You will notice a difference when you don't see her everyday. :)
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The next time she goes off on a big verbal rant like that, turn around and calmly walk away. You've mentioned that you usually just sit there and take it, well stop doing that, because you don't have to. When you begin to calmly walk away, your sister will probably be cut off from her ranting and will question what you are doing. Then, you can tell her that you refuse to be subjected to her sudden mood changes any longer, and that you are not around simply to be the subject of her ridicule. More than likely she will be confused, because chances are, she doesn't realize what she is doing to you. You can then try to talk to her calmly (it is best not to yell and to say everything to her completely calm, because anything else will really just take the situation out of hand) and tell your sister what you've said in the question - that you are confused because she treats you horrible one night and not the next, and that you are not okay with the way she treats you and her subjecting you to her rollercoaster of emotions. If you feel like you are going to cry while you are telling her this, then cry, because there is no reason why you should have to hold back your emotions when she clearly does not do the same. Hopefully she'll see your point, and the next time she feels the need to suddenly burst out at you, she'll take a second and think about what she is doing to you when she does.
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