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rape?
Ok, I'm 15/f and I was with this guy for 2 months. Well he starting trying to pressure me to have sex with him. And I know this probably sounds stupid but I really wasn't ready to go that far. I know that a lot of other girls have had sex but I just wasn't ready for it yet. So anyway one night we were hanging out and he started to ask me to have sex with him again. I said no and I tried to explain why and make him understand. Well he seemed to understand and I thought that everything was ok. He brought me a drink of water and then I started to feel weird. The next thing I know I'm waking up next to him and now I'm pregnant. My friend said that he probably gave me a drug or something so I would have sex with him. I really don't know and I don't know what to do now. Did he rape me? And what should I do about the pregnancy?
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Yes he did rape you need to tell your mom and inform the police. Have the baby please do not get an abortion. If you don’t keep it give it up for adoption. Go to a gynecologist and talk to them and make them check for any STDs. I hope you no you did not sound stupid for saying that you did not want to have sex with him. You sound like a smart girl. I think all girls should wait until they are married. Babe I hope you feel better get back to me ok do all this as soon as possible you sound smart and brave for asking.
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He definetely date raped you, go to the police or a hospital now while you still have physcial evidence to accuse him.
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I'm sorry you were raped but don't get an abortion because of it. Give it up for adoption. There's never an excuse to murder a baby, born or unborn. People give shitty advice.
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wow honey my heart goes out to you b/c im also 16 and a virgin and yes dont play yourself he druged you that sum fucking asshole druged you i would go to the cops exspecially if he's 18 than you can really screw him over honey dont stand for this tell somebody
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omfg !! i would die..ah yeah he raped you but it must be scary tell an adult you trust then see how it goes from there
im out
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wow he sounds like an asshole...for real what kind of jerk does something like that? yes he raped you, and you need to let someone know(hint-your parents) so you can get help...also call the police and see if you can press charges
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yes honey, he raped you. it is known as date rape. he most likely gave you a datre rape drug. you need to consult your parents and le tthem know what happened. you should also call the cops and press charges against him. you need to file a report on him. one thing you should also do is go get tested for the drug he drugged you with. so if you really do go through with pressing charges and you will be able to take this to the courts, then you will have evidence that you had been drugged. also you might want to get checked for std's while your at all of this. who knows what he could of had. as far as what you should do with the baby, that is 100% your decision. sit down and discuss it with your parents and let them know what you want to do. let them know that you need them there to help support your decision. if you are against abortion, and you arent ready to be a mother, give him/her up for adoption. if you still want to have the baby around, but not have the legal custody of the child, then maybe you could talk to your parents about adopting him/her. as the mother of the child, you can have the say as to who you wish to give him/her up to. if you go to an adoption agency and tell them you wish to meet with the people or family that is going to adopt them, then you have that right. (atleast in some places you are granted that right). so you might want to check into that. you can abort the baby, carry him/her through nine months of pregnancy then give him/her up for adoption, or you can carry him/her through nine months of pregnancy and keep him/her, raise him/her, and bring him/her up. if you decide to keep the baby, maybe your parents could help support you and the baby. also try to get child support off of the father and his family. because he is not 18 yet, the court will either rule his parents to pay for him until he is 18, or the will rule him that he has to get a job to support you. if they rule that he will have to get a job, they will give him so much time to find one and start working. if he fails to comply with any rulings the judge makes, he can be locked up for it. it is possible that he will not be locked up for raping you. if this happens he will be sent to sex counseling where he will have to put in so many hours. and yes, this happens. i have seen it before with one of my friends. just thought to let you know ahead of time that this sort of thing could happen. it is a possibilty that it may happen, not a guarentee.
babe, i am sorry you had to be put through all of this. it is a terrible thing to go through. bt it happens to alot of girls. most arent as brave as others. most girls think that it was something they did and that it wasnt that big of a deal. others may be just too afraid to say something. and they end up letting the guy get away with it. just be brave and stay strong for yourself. you can do this. and when you do, will will feel better about this, knowing that you will have done something about it.
becuase this has happened to you, it will have an affect on your life from now on. but just know, that all guys arent as big of assholes as others. and that not all guys disrespect a girl like that. so you may feel uncomfortable around guys for a while and know that it is ok to feel that way and that it is understandable, but also know on that same aspect, that guy most likely isnt an asshole like the other guy. it may be hard for you to open up and get close to any new guy you are trying to or wanting to have a relationship from here on out. but i wish you all the best of luck with this. and i hope that this helps somewhat and in some ways. once again im sorry.
Stay strong, sweetie.
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omg!!! yes he raped you. he gave youa rape drug and then he took advantage of you, what a jerk. you didn't want to put out so he drugged you and took it from you. tell the police. file charges and try to geet his ass locked up. The babay on the other hand. :( i think your gonna have to abort. you got pregnant by rape. not by being irresponsible. you shouldn't have to carry that rappers baby.
I hope everything works out for the best
**PIXIE**
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What you need to do probably is get a drug test to see if any drugs show up in your system, and straight up confront him about it tell him your true feelings and last of all if you do have any "Roofie" type drugs in your system hire a good lawyer!
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Yes dammit! He fucking raped you! What a low life! It's called a date rape. Call the police on him, he shouldn't be allowed to take advantages of othe innocents girls. ALso, inform your parents and his too. If he says that you wanted to have sex with him just keep saying "No I did not!" As far as the pregnancy goes, you should consult with your family. I would press charges against him. What a bum...grr Makes me so angry. I hope it works out well for you.
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Yes, honey you were raped. No question about it. It happens a lot. It is called date rape, and he gave you a date rape drug. A DNA test on the baby will determine if he is the father or not. He is going to say that you consented, but you hold to your story and tell everything that happened just like you did here. YOu have to tell your parents and you have to tell the police. He is going to do this again. If he gets away with this, he will think this is such a great thing he is going to do it to other girls. YOu can stop him from hurting more people. I hope that you have a close family and that they know you and trust you, and know you not to be a liar. Don't wait any longer. YOu must be very upset, you should not have to deal with this alone. I know people will help you if you tell them what happened. I hope they would have not reason to think that you would lie. This boy should not get away with this. Who does he think he is. The law is the law. It is ALWAYS, ALWAYS a woman/girls right to say NO. If you think this is OK< and he should get away with this, what kind of other things are you going to let guys do to you for the rest of your life. STand up for yourself. This is RAPE. You deserve better. All women do. To many boys/men get away with stuff like this because we don't fight for our rights. What he did is against the law and a violation of your person. IT is not OK. Please tell someone who can help you sort this out.
The preganacy, may be up to you what you do, depending on what state you live in. If you want an abortion, most likely you can get one. But they cost money, and you will need your parents help to pay for it. ANd he should pay for it and his parents should know what a jerk he is. I Hope this helps.
Michele
Please tell someone.
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Yes he did rape you honey!! And I swear to you this has happpen to all of my friends before and you need to go to your Mother and Father and then tell them that you want to take this to the police so they can get him stopped!
Advice Giver Spazzy
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Ohs god id die. If you dont remember what happened he for sure druged you bab. This gotta be the scarests part of your life. Not remembering the first time you had sex would really hurt. Does he no your pregnant? Maybe you should talk to someone bout it. Really something needs to be done cause what if he does it to another girl!! Keep the babi whatever you do i dont beleive in all that other stuff atleast try to raise it in a great life. But really tell someone if your not like with him or you no cause now your 15 and have a baby coming in your life hes not the one who has to have this kid you no . Make him pay for the pain your going through babs. Let me no how things go!!
Love,
Sweetie Pie Ashley
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He defenetlly raped you. He druged you into having sex with him. You really need to tell your parents!! Tell the cops and he can go to jail for that!! He is such a jerk!! Whatever you do.. please dont get abortion..! Wow! I hope you feel better tho and please tell someone before its too late! ♥
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yes rape, its called date rape. call the cops and tell your parents, and get tested for STD's. please dont get an abortion. Just because the guy who is a total jerk raped you doesnt mean that you should take a human life. :) this is your baby! you should have her/him and make sure that you love him/her dearly! and make sure that nothing like this happens to him/her. :)
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YES he raped you. He drugged you, and when you're drugged then your consent means nothing.
1st.) what you need to do is tell your parents and the cops so you can get that guy put in jail for rape
2nd.) you and your parents need to sit down and talk about what you're going to do.
I'm against abortion unless it's rape, then I'm 50/50. Because having this child means everytime you look at him/her you'll remember what happened (at least your memory isn't an easy one to access whereas others get severe emotional damage... not saying your emotions weren't severly damaged, but I hope you get what I mean)
But if you don't have the kid you'll be severly emotionally damaged because in a way you killed a human being that didn't nothing to you, and you'll defintley suffer some type of mental issue.
It's a HARD decision that only you and your parents can make. But in the end it is up to you. I'm really sorry this happened to you, but in the end everything will be okay. If it's not okay, then it's NOT the end!!!!!!!! I hope all works out well for you, and soon.
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