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Hey, My name is Mandy Marie. I'm an Australian and always will be one. I still own the accent, but I live in the US. I recently just moved from Miami Beach to New York City. I like : Long walks, cars, paintball, hockey, football, painting, drawling, designing, sculptures, sewing, gum, guys, animals, surfing, bungee jumping, sky diving, pizza, fries, movies, I like throwing gum at the walls and laughing so hard it hurts my stomach, I love to sing in the shower, dance on the highway, cuddling, hugging, kissing, talking, I love to run up and down the stairs, get kicked out of stores, to go to a restaurant and bring my own food, I like to make a nice tropical drink, I like to stare at the stars, to hold hands, to just drive around not knowing where I'm going, to take road trips.
I want: to own my own sex shop called "Getting Freaky in the Basement" or just pretend I have one.
I am: really nice, I promise! I will do my best to help you. I've been through murders, deaths, abusive relationships, eating disorders, breakups, losing my family and my friends, giving up something you have your heart set on. Please ask me whatever you want. I will always listen to you and I respect whatever decision you make.
For more about me: A survey. Yessss! (You have got to be so bored by now. Half of you haven't even read this far..)
Basic Questions!!
First name- Mandy
Middle name- Marie
Do you like your name?- Uh, it's okay.
Are you named after anyone?- No, not really.
Who?-
Birthday- March 20th, I will be 20 soon! Yes!
Current age- 19
Where you were born- Sydney, Australia
Where you currently live- New York City, close to Manhattan
Your looks and body!!
Face shape- Oval.
Skin tone- Beige.
Do you have acne?- No.
Hair color- Blonde, currently has black and red streaks in it.
Hair texture- Straight.
Hair style- It's usually down and straight, or in pigtails.
Hair length- Past my shoulders.
Eye color- A dark blueish green color.
Eye shape- Um, regular? Circle? What the hell!?
How big are your eyes?- What?!
Do you wear contacts or glasses?- Neither.
How about braces? Have/had them?- Never had them, no.
Do you have straight teeth?- Yep.
Are they really white?- I would hope so.
Do you have high cheekbones?- Wow.
Long eyelashes?- Yeah.
Do you wear makeup?- Mostly.
What kind of makeup do you use?- MAC or Estee Lauder, Stila, Chanel, Urban Decay, LORAC, Pout. It all varies, I like to play around.
What brand of makeup do you use?- Because I'm such a dipshit I answered it above. *shrugs*
What shoe size do you wear?- 6 ..okay, so I have small feet. Kill me!
Ring size?- 4.
Belt size?- Um...
Pant size?- 4
Shirt size?- small
How tall are you?- 5'6
Happy with it?- I could be taller.
Your weight- 113
Happy with it?- I guess.
Do you exercise a lot?- Sometimes. Probably not enough though.
What kind of exercising do you do?- Well, does dancing count? How about walking?
Are you 'toned'?- Are you a fucking "tard"?
Muscular?- Oh baby! Check out my 8 pack. Kidding, gosh!
Overweight?- Nope.
Are you in shape?- Sure.
You and School!!
What school do you attend?- I go to college now.
What grade are you in?- Sophmore in college.
What classes are you taking?- My major is art.
What's your favorite one?- Art.
Least favorite?- ::::
Favorite teacher- :::::
What class do they teach?- ::::
Least favorite teacher- :::
What class do they teach?- Okay, seriously...
How many schools have you ever attended?- 3.
Are you in any clubs?- Oh.
What ones?- My.
What about school plays?- God.
Musicals?- No.
Do you go to a lot of school dances?- No.
Are you full of school spirit?!?!?- Hahaha, I never was.
Ever got detention?- Never once.
Suspended?- No.
Expelled?- No.
advice
i get depressed like really easly.. like today at school i was really hyper and happy and all that but now im really up set and want to cry over nothing. i just randomly melt down.. is there anyway to stop this or is there a reason im like this?
Well sweetie, you are not alone. There is a lot of people out there with the same problem. And there could be many reasons as to why you are like this, but mainly it has to do with your mind. If you want to go to the doctor and see what's wrong with you and get medication you can do that. But the truth is, I don't know that much about it. I do think, however, that there is a way to tame this on your own. I once read that if you give yourself 30 minutes each day to calm down and think about everything, chances are you won't have so much on your mind. It's probably because you have a lot going on, and tiny things make you cry even though they don't seem like such a big deal. I get stressed out so much, and because I don't have much time to think about things I hide it by smiling that way no one notices. But I don't suggest you do that, that's really unhealthy and all your problems build up inside of you. So you aren't solving anything. Life is so stressful! (lol) But if you take walks or listen to music and just think it will help. There are many ways to calm down. The list goes on for ever. I heard that breathing helps, some massage techniques and so forth. So if you're interested, look it up or maybe they would have a book on it or something. But as I said, I don't know too much about that. You'll be okay though, just try to keep an open mind and don't get yourself worked up. If you have a lot going on for you, try to calm down and relax. Thinking that you're in some place with someone you want to be helps. Much luck, sweetie!
Love,
Mandee
i get agrivaTed w/ my friend really easily and i say mean stuff and feel really bad. how do i like get nicer cuz i feel like we dont have a healthy relationship and i just wanna be happy around her cuz shes like my bff and i love her so much i just get agitated
What are some of the things she says or does that makes you feel this way? If the problem is her, I would tell myself that everyone has their faults. Is she shy and quiet? Are you older than her? The reason I'm asking this is because sometimes if she's shy and you're outgoing or if she's younger than you, you feel like you need to lead her in the right direction. Or tell her what you believe thinking you're right. If that's the case you need to treat her as an equal. Maybe it could be because she is annoying sometimes, and you get angry about it. If she does something annoying I would talk to her about it. If you simply can not do that, than it would be best to tell yourself that there will always be some qualities in people that are annoying. You might have to train yourself to think nothing of it.
If the problem is you, meaning that you always feel this way towards everyone else, you might want to consider writing down what kind of things make you easily mad. Relaxation is important. If you learn to love things about people rather than finding the bad things in others, you'll be much better off. But you can really get past this if you try hard enough! Good luck with everything!
Love,
Mandee
Okay!Well a month ago I broke up with my boyfriend who I am madly in love with. He is in love with me too but it is a long distance relationship, so I thought that he and I being friends would be the best thing for now. Yeah I couldnt see him whenever I wanted but just being able to talk to him made me happy. Our relationship was made up of trust and love. He is so in love with me. I miss him so much. He is now dating a gurl who he loves as a friend not a gf. we havent talked since we broke up bc it is so hard too. I had my friend call him and I grabbed the phone when he picked it up and hung up. Then she called back and talking to him. He wanted to talk to me but i couldnt bc it was too hard. I kno that no matter what he wants to be with me in the future but right now it is to hard. I also kno that no matter what he will never stop loving me. But what I am getting at is that I dont kno what to do without him .I feel so lost and empty. Like he always used to tell me that he loved me before I went to sleep and it was so conforting. I miss that so much. What should I do? he and I have been through so much in the past and its stuff that is unforgettable. Do you think that he and I will be together in the future. BC he said he wants to me and I DO MORE THEN ANYTHING.Its like if u are in love with someone and it is meant to be then it will happpen right? i hope so!
People have different opinions on this question. But here's mine: Yes, I firmly believe that if you are in love with someone and it's meant to be it will happen, and you'll be with this guy again. Keep in mind that it can't be you who only feels you're in love. He has to feel the same way and keep that same love for you his whole life. I know exactly what you're talking about sweetie. My boyfriend of three years and I are in a long distance relationship due to different colleges. But despite the fact that we can't see each other every day it still works out. I don't think that he has to be there for it to work. Just knowing he's out there and thinks about you all of the time is enough to get me through it. But it is so hard not to see him, I just do what I can to move on throughout the day and keep him in my thoughts. But back to you (lol). You need him and probably cry over him because he doesn't say the words that made you feel safe. But if you both keep the love you had and never lose the memories you'll see him again. You probably feel the way I do. I feel incomplete with out my baby when he's not there. And when he is here I feel complete. For now, just do what you can..find new guys just to keep you living. Hang out with your friends, exercise, go to work. Do things to make you feel happy. Even though you aren't together you might not want to find a new guy. But this is your life, and you only get one life so try new things, meet new people. You have that right, and you owe it to yourself. Much luck! It;s okay, you're going to get through this!
Love,
Mandee
Everone says that 'puppy love' is just when younger people say they're in love but 'real' love is proper love. So is it possible for a 13 year old to be in real love?
Well, I have said this before but to me I believe it can happen at any age. If you're in "real love" you would know it, trust me. Puppy love can mean you think that you're really in love with this guy but you don't know if he is, and sometimes you question if you're in love, but tell people any. I think it is possible for a thirteen year old to be in love, but chances are slim.
Love,
Mandee
These past 2 years i've been feeling really depressed and its reflecting the way i act towards people now. I feel as if i can't trust anyone, and unpleasant things have been going on. Since 6th grade i've been cutting (im in 8th now). And now, It's like i always want to,and i cant stop, but its gotten to the point to where i dont even know it. I cant concentrate because i've lost most of my friends, and the 2 friends i have now act like they dont even want to be around me. All this anger is built inside of me, and i have no one to talk to about it and so i take it out on myself because i feel like its my fault even though it may not be. Im losing almost everything, and i always feel like my friends talk about me behind my back. I want help, but i want help from people who understand me, and who actually want to listen and care about me, but it seems none of my friends can really fill those needs.
Gosh babe, I'm sorry! I really mean that! You know that you need to stop cutting already, and you already know that you can't let this make you lose everything. So I won't try to sugarcoat the obvious. The problem is not you personally. Or even the fact that you cut. The biggest problem is that the chemicals in your brain are going crazy and they aren't normal. But it's not your fault because you can't control that. Don't get the wrong idea...you are not alone on this, I swear. Teens go through this a lot, but you just take it in a agressive way rather than talking about it. This is normal in everyone. You shouldn't think that everything is your fault. Sometimes friends take things the wrong way. If they know that you cut or see different personalities in you, they might not know what to do. They could be scared and be afraid because they don't know how to help you and because you take things out on other people they might be even more afraid. So let's start out with this..why do you think that you can't trust anyone? I'm just guessing it's because of some event that happened in your past and it broke off all your trust on other people. One thing that I've learned and what to tell you about is that you can't let one thing that went badly in your life change your opinions or what you think in the area. I'll just give you a something that happened to me for an example. One of my boyfriends abused me and for months after we broken up I knew I couldn't trust anyone else again. So I just left it all in my head not saying anything to anyone and one day that backfired. Everything just completely shut down on me to the point where I had a breakdown. It was really bad. But I learned so much for that and I'm actually glad it happened. I say this a lot, but I'm being honest and I mean it. Learning through the mistakes you made or things that happened is the best way to get you to move on. I'm thrilled with my life now, and everything that has happened made me so mcuh stronger than I ever was. And I know that if you just talk to someone, anyone you'll be okay. Don't back out of anything, you need to do thing in order to learn from them and they help you overcome what ever it is you want. Working on self esteem is the best way to go for you. When you get to a high level you'll get your friends back, and you'll be happy. But if you have no one at all to talk to about anything, I can try and help you if you just want to talk. On my advice column there are ways to reach me, so don't be afraid. If I can't help, I'll listen..I promise you. Please take care of yourself hunnie!
Love,
Mandee
Okay.. i have had a secret that only my really good friends know but im not going to tell what it is. Well, in skool one day this kid chase shouted it out loud and everyone looked at me. I asked him who said it and he said it was my bestfriend! Well she promised she didnt do it so i forgave her and she told me my other friend jade said it.. but now i heard that this girl that i really dont like her name is shelby she told 2 of my friends that didnt know and i didnt even tell shelby about it my other friend shannon did. Today we were in s/s and my other friend amanda told me she said it! Im just so confused! should i be mad at all these people or should i just let it go?? please help!
Wow sweetie, that is a lot of confusement! People are going to tell your secrets, it happens..a lot. So it's really important to know who you can tell and trust to keep secrets with. I'm guilty of that, I'm very open and usually share my secrets with people all time. Then the next day everyone knows. But I know to keep secrets. I understand your problem, because it's happened to me many times. It's difficult to let it go, but I think that's best. You have no idea who said what and how this got started. So instead of getting yourself worked up and blaming people who might be innocent, just take what you did as a reminder not to do it again. If you must tell someone a secret tell someone you really know who will keep it. And whoever started it might or might not confess. It shouldn't matter though. It's been done and you can't stop what happened. It's okay hun, happens to everyone! And you'll be the smart one for not getting upset like most people who do. It just makes everything worse by doing that! Have a great weekend!
Love,
Mandee
Hello, this is selectopaque. I wanted to add something about the problem you've had with your dogs. The hacking sound could possibly be hairballs. It sounds strange for a dog to have hairballs, but I have seen it happen. Even if they aren't actually throwing anything up when it happens, they could still be swallowing a little too much hair when they clean themselves. Shih-Tzu's and Maltese don't shed very much because their fur is actually closer to human hair than dog fur, but Chihuahua's will shed more like a normal dog. Even if you have a short haired Chihuahua he/she could still be hacking up small bits of hair. My childhood dog is 14-15 years old now and has been doing what you described pretty much her whole life. The Vet's have never said anything about it, and she has never had a serious problem with it. I always assumed she ate too fast, drank too fast, or simply had a tickle in her throat.
If it really worrys you then you should definately call a Vet. They would be able to tell you more.
I also wanted to mention another dog to you. I read about this dog last night while at work and they seem very friendly and very easily trained. It's called a Bolognese. They're a small dog related to the Bichon Frise and the Havanese. They are supposed to get along very well with other dogs and be very good with obedience training.
Hey Selectopaque!! Thank you so much!! It's really good to know that my dogs are in normal condition, because it does happen some of the time, but not often. So I don't think I should be as concerned as I was, but if I notice it happening often I will call the vet.
I've never heard of a bolognese, so I looked it up and it's just adorable! I especially like them with shorter hair, that's so cute :D Thanks again . I think I'll get another ofor all of the dogs you've mentionedne around christmas time. Each one of my three dogs has a different personality so it's good to know that adding a new one might not make them jealous. They could be jealous, but i'm sure within time they'll get closer with the dog. Thank you!
Love,
Mandee
are u supposed to brush your teeth after using white strips? thanks
Hey! No, you shouldn't. It's best to wait at least an hour to brush before you put the white strips on. Because if you did brush your teeth right after you would be brushing away the whitening substance. I love Crest White Strips by the way, use them everyday! :)
Love,
Mandee
Ok, i have this friend, lets call her Jane. Jane used to be really friendly last year, and we were REALLY good friends. Now, we're still friends, but shes not very friendly anymore, she lies all the time, she steals away the guys i like, and shes just not the same Jane she used to be. What do i do? Do i tell her?
-Concerned Chick
If you and Jane are still in highschool, you already know that there is tons of cliques. It could be possible that Jane wants to be in a different type of group or has started hanging out with people in a different type of clique. Another reason why she's changed might be because Jane is going through a ton of problems right now. It could be friends, family, boyfriend...etc. The only way you'll know what her reason for acting this way is to confront her. Tell her what you've asked. But please be cautioned about what she might think when you ask her. For instance if you say "I CAN'T STAND YOU ANYMORE!!! WHAT THE HELL IS YOUR PROBLEM...ALL YOU DO IS LIE AND STEAL AND I HATE IT!!!!..etc. you'll come across as being harsh and bitchy. So she may react to that the same way. So it's a lot better to be respectful to her. Ask her firmly but calm if she's going through something and if she wants to talk about it. Go on about how you notice the difference in her personality, also mention everything you listed. (stealing guys you like, lying)
It's always hard to see someone you knew for a long time change within a short period of time. But you need to take care of yourself too...you're an important part of this. I'm not saying that you're the reason for her actions, but that your opinion matters most to you and maybe her if you speak up. Honestly, sometimes people change for unexplained reasons. And with that said she may never return to the way you knew her as. If that happened it would affect your friendship with her. This is a very typical problem...and a lot of people have been through this. Even you're good friends with someone it won't be that way forever. But on a happier note, she may understand what you're trying to tell her. Jane could stop what she's doing that's annoying you and try to go back to who she was before. No matter what...tell her you're there for you. You did this all out of concern. Let her know that. I hope everything turns out okay, let me know how it goes! :D
Love,
Mandee
one of my best friends keeps on ignoring me and hanging out with somoene else not that its a problem or anything, but whenever she hangs out with the girl she acts all b****y to me, am i just jelous of her or has she changed, and if she has changed would there be anyway she wont be as b****y to me if i talk to her
Oh, that sucks...a lot. I think it happens to a lot of people, and the reasons why this happens varies. Some ideas that I think are that: a.) Your best friend feels like this new girl she's hanging out with is more of a role model, and she wants to act like this girl because she feels like she has to. And if she doesn't she might lose this friend. Or she could possibly be scared of her in a way, so she tries to act similar to her. b.) She's changed. Yes, it's possible that she changed her personality. So this could be why she acts bitchy towards you. c.) This might sound harsh or sad but maybe she got tired of being friends. It happens. But not often does it happen. d.) You could be jealous. If you think this is true, it's not her. You need to accept that she's meeting new people. She has that right and so do you.
Talking to her about this is the key. You can't make your friend be as nice and polite about this as you might be. She could come off as a bitch, but you need to make her hear you out. Explain what she's done that makes you think she's changed. Then ask her if she notices any changes in you. Make sure you give her a chance to say what she needs to say too. She might ease up this way, and take it into importance. Let her know you don't want to lose her as a friend, and that she means a lot to you. Sometimes friendships change, and it's one of the hardest things in the world. Everyone goes through that. I have, and I know how much it hurts. So try to save your friendship now before it's too late. Let her know what you think, because if you don't do nothing about this, chances are nothing will get better. Good luck with everything!!! :D
Love,
Mandee
Okay, I know that there have been many questions on the subject, but I looked, and I haven't found any other question/answers that were helpful. Okay, well here goes. I've gotten so addicted to cutting, that lately I've been doing it in class. I even cut my initials into my skin. Well today I got caught, and I was telling a friend about it, and my 4th period teacher heard. Well after the test in that class, she called me into the hall because we were allowed to do anything, and I got out a needle, and when that teacher saw she called me out. Then she was all like you know what you do is dangerous and stuff, and I was like yes... and she said other stuff like I care about you, and want you to stop, and I was like yeah, whatever. Well, now I really want to stop, but I can't it's like I'm addicted. I want to end my life, yet I want to live. And so now, I don't know how to stop. And I would bring it up to one or both of the teachers that know, but I wouldn't know how to bring it up, and I'm afraid that they would tell my parents, and my parents wouldn't sympathize, they would get really mad, trust me I know. So I was wondering, how might I get over this addiction, and if I were to tell the teacher that I need help, then how would I bring it up. What would you do to get help, and if you were to ask a teacher for help, what would you say. And if you were a cutter, but no longer cut, I'd like to hear your stories, no matter how long! Thanks a bunch!
Sorry it's so long, but I'm really worried about how far I might take this.
Okay sweetie, I'm not going to state that you need to stop, you probably already know you need to because you are asking for help. So instead, I will just give you ideas. I never was a cutter so I can't imagine the pain you're going through. Just realize that it doesn't matter if the reasons why you cut are little or big, the problem is the reasons itself. Now I'm sure there are some things you can change, but for others that may be a little harder. There are some easier ways to solve this rather than hurting yourself. I'm sure you have already heard of writing things down or talking to someone. But you know what? That really does help for some people. So I would give it a try.
Talking to adults might seem very stange because they are at a whole other stage in life, so it would be best to find someone around your age that you can share all your problems with. That way you wouldn't be lectured on the things that you'll hear over and over again from adults. (Examples- the yelling, and the screaming that you might get.) Friends are good for the problems, getting help would be more likely something an adult can help you with. Your teacher says she cares, and she probably means that. So take that into consideration and talk to her because she's concerned. If you approach her in a mature manner, she will know that you're serious about keeping this confidential. Ask her if there is a time after school or when she has free time to talk to her about a problem of yours. Once you set up a time then you can ask her what you can do to get help. I'm sure she'll know some places or people that can help you. I think it would be very, very hard to get help without your mother knowing. The fact that you want to get help should be the most concerning area right now. Keep in mind, you can't control your mother's actions. What she says and does is controlled by her. But if she is mad just explain that you know you shouldn't have cut yourself, but you want to break this habit. You're serious about this, and she should be too. And you have your teachers who will still help you.
For being thirteen, you are really smart. You probably know most people don't consider getting the help they need. If you get help and get your problems out of the way you should be fine. And it is a lot harder than it sounds. But I really think sharing stories with other cutters will help you as well. So here is a link to a message board if you ever want someone who you can relate to. http://groups.msn.com/CutItOut/abuse.msnw
* Let me know if that works if you want, if not i'll get others for you :) *
Anyways, you should be proud because you're already on the first step - Admit to having a problem. I seriously hope that you get the help you need, and I wish you the best. If you ever want anything again, let me know. Take care babe!
Love,
Mandee
Hi its Lissa...okay i well i got my progress report in the mail today and iim failing 3 classes and passing 3 (those aint that great either) and i told my mom and now shes all pissed like REALLY pissed she calls every 2 minutes n yells at me and she's like 'WHAT THE HELL!' n we have to go to my aunts funeral tomorrow at 11 am and now she's saying i can't go because of my grades, isn't that gay? shes my AUNT! and she's also like your not going into drivers ed and never getting a car EVER if u dont get all good grades and blah blah blah its really pissing me off i even started crying. im doing better now, i turn in most of my work im just not that smart and she expects me to be all smart and shit when im not...she keeps bugging me about it and im so annoyed...and thats just on the phone what the hell am i gonna do when she gets home from work!? she knows my 'situation' or she should cuz when school started i was really depressed and suicidal and everything was messed up, now im on anti depression medicine so im doing better and trying harder in school. my counselor even told me not to be so hard on myself i have a lot goin on and idk what to do about this...sorry this is long but ah..what do i do? thanks so much!!!
Hey Lissa! There will always be someone in your life who has higher expectations for you, but remember that you should only do what you think is best for you and not what someone else thinks is best for you. Your education determines what the future will hold for you in some ways, so it's very understanding why your mom is upset. She wants you to have a good life, recieve the best education, and have a great job when you get older.
If you want this so bad you need to work your hardest at it. Your mom will be so proud of you, and you will be proud of yourself as well. Push yourself, but not too hard. Take it one step at a time, and it's never too late to change those grades. Becoming organized will help you so much, you'll know what's due and when. You'll have all of your assignments and you will be prepared for test if you look over the material. Don't say that you're not smart, you can be if you wanted it bad enough. Anyone can change that. It takes a lot of work...I can't stress that enough. Usually, if you do the work you know more about what you're learning. And that's the purpose of homework..it only helps you. So keep completing it. And if you are okay with turning in things, but horrible at tets change your study habits. If you study for a little bit during the week it would be so much better than studying the day before, and you won't know it as well. Highlight important information, make sure you keep up with notes, and listen to what your teachers say. ( I know that is so difficult sometimes...so boring but it makes a difference)
Sweetie, prove everyone wrong! You can do this! You can make anything happen if you want it bad enough. Think of how good it will feel to have everyone tell you how smart you are. And the smile on your moms face will be unforgetable. Work at it as hard as you can, do something about this..don't just forget about it. You will have so much confidence in yourself once you accomplish this. Best wishes for you!!! And don't cry..it will be okay. You'll be happy if you start trying to do something about it. =D Never let anyone tell you that you can't do something or that you will never be anything!
Love,
Mandee
a couple of my friends just got mono and i have been soooooo exhausted lately... randomly falling asleep in class, body aches, cold, fever etc.... so be4 i get tested...how do u know if u have mono? (symptoms?!)
thanx
Awww, I'm so sorry. I hope you're okay. I had to research a paper on mono before, so I do know some symptoms. Your muscles and joints will hurt, and you will probably have nausea. Sometimes skin colors may look pale or yellow. Large lymph nodes will appear around the area of your neck. Most people first experince sore throats, fevers, and vomiting. And along with that you'll be very, very tired all of the time. So resting is the best thing for you to do. Keep in mind that if you do have mono and get a lot of rest, sometimes you won't want to eat. Losing weight may occur if that happens. So make sure you do eat and get enough sleep. It may take one or two weeks before you are able to go to school agian, but you probably won't feel like yourself for about a month. Feel better soon! Best of luck, babe! And don't worry...mono is very common for teenagers, so you won't be the only one.
Love,
Mandee
me and my boyfriend...well ex-boyfriend...broke up sunday. he broke up with me, i didn't break up with him. well the first two days after that were really awkward because we were always real good friends. well now he's starting to flirt again and do the same stuff he did right before i found out that he liked me. do you think it's him still having at least a little bit of feelings for me...or flirting to like make me feel bad or something...
It seems like you have his attention, otherwise he wouldn't be flirting with you. I'm not too certain what he's thinking right now. He may have feelings for you again if this is what he started doing before you went out with him. Or he might not realize he's doing it because he was so used to doing those things before that he started thinking it's okay to flirt again...like a habit. If he's flirting to make you feel bad you normally can tell because sometimes guys will start flirting with you and then start saying things to make you jealous. Anyways, if you don't like this let him know. Or if you're confused just ask him because he's the only one who knows the answer! Good luck!
Love,
Mandee
I just started my job about 2 weeks ago.I work with some HOTT guys!But anywayz...there is this guy I work with.Lets just call him "bob".Anywayz...Bob and I dont talk that much.Well...My friend also works with me and she asked bob if he had a g/f?and he said naw and she goes what about her?(talking about me)and he said yeah shes cute.Can I get her #?So...my friend gave it to him and he still hasnt called.That was 2 days ago.Hes really cute but hes the shy type of guy.How do I get to start talkin to him to get to know him better so he will feel more comfortable around me?I really want to get to know him better and he always texts my friends phone lookin for me.I want to flirt with him and stuff because my friend is really trying to hook us up.She asked him if were gonna go on a date and he said i dunno.LOL!She always does stuff like that!but anywayz...What are some good ways to make him open up to me and talk more around me?
Hey Sweetie!! The first thing to remember is that you can't make someone open up to you. Because that's part of their own comfort level. Since he's kind of on the shy side that doesn't help much either. =P Typically shy people tend to need more work when it comes to opening up to people than -lets say- an outgoing person would. He might not feel comfortable starting a conversation, so in this case you should consider being the one to start it. The more and more you talk to him each day, the eaiser it will be for him. He'll get used to you and find out more about you which will probably lead into opening up with you more. I've heard that people begin to get comfortable when they know more about the person. So don't be afraid to let him know what you like and dislike. I'm sure he'll have some things in common as you do and he might share that with you. For example if you mention what your favorite movie is, and it's his favorite movie too...there's one way to invite him somewhere. You can ask if he wants to hang out and watch that movie and your house. Sometimes girls have to make the first move, and that's okay with guys. I bet he will appreciate it too. He already thinks you're a cutie, and he probably likes you very much but he's afraid to say that. And you might be too...but if you probably start conversations he'll respect that. Good luck babe! I'm always here, so if you need anything else let me know!
Love,
Mandee
ok well i sing and im told that im relle good but theres one problem im not to great about writing songs if anyone has ever wrote any good songs feel free to send them to me and i would love to sing them on the radio when i get the chance lol anyways it would be so much help if u did this who evr u are!!! ( i like music liek christina aguilera)
Oh really? That's awesome!! I've been a singer for many years, it's my favorite thing to do. I think I'm exactly like you. I can sing, but when it comes to writing songs...I suck. So I don't think I can help you out there. But if you want to try to make your own lyrics try looking up the songs you like. Just reading over them a couple times, and think of things you like to sing about and put it in your own words. Sort of like writing. But I've never wrote a successful song in my life. (lmao) It would be really awesome if you could have some type of diary and then look back on it, I'm sure it would give you ideas. Christina's songs usually have to do with her life. Boys, pain, family...everything she's been through. I'm pretty sure that's how people get their inspiration from their own experinces. Good luck, and keep in touch!
Love,
Mandee
lot of my freinds think I sould try out modeling I wonder anybody know anyway webistes..
Plus I am 4 foot 5. I hard you have to be 5 foot be a model.
Binca
Hey! I model and I'm 5'5. But sadly, height does matter most of the time in a modeling occupation. http://www.modelingadvice.com/ tells you everything you'll need to know. Requirements and everything else. I hope this helps you out!
Love,
Mandee
When I was 13 I found out that I have a sister that had been put up for adoption. I had grown up thinking that I had two sisters and it was devistating to think that I had another one that I may never know and be able to love. So, I swore that one day I would find her. Back in March I did find her. I had searched for so long that I really felt that I would never find her and when I did I was afraid that since I grea up in a dysfunctional family and we weren't wealthy or anything that we wouldn't be good enough for her. Well, she is wonderful. We went through the DNA testing and when we found out it was just amazing. She came out for a visit in April and since then I have gone to see her twice. We live in seperate states. The two sisters and I that grew up together have the same father but she (2nd to the oldest) has a different father. My father is dead now (long story) but our mother is still living. Mom has a long history of drug abuse and she does not want my Sister to know about it.
This is my question. I think that she is noticing that Mom isn't as close to her as she is our oldest and youngest sisters. They e-mail and Mom calls about once a month or so but she and I talk weekly and on the internet every night. The other two sisters rarely e-mail her and they don't call her. I know that she doesn't feel as connected to the family as she would like to and I feel responsible because I was the one that went looking for her. There are times that she tells me that it really hurts her feelings and I am not sure what to say.
I love her so much, she is just fantastic and had a terrible life growing up. Her adopted Dad wound up in prison and her adopted Mom comitted suicide when she was a teenager. I know that she has abandonment issues because of all of that and now I am scared that meeting her bio family is just adding to those issues because of their distance. I wouldn't take for knowing and having the chance to be in my sister's life and her in mine but sometimes I feel so guilty for causing her even more grief.
Did I do the right thing by finding her or was I just being selfish because I missed her so much being in my life? I am just afraid that my love for her just isn't enough to make up for all of the time that she has done without and now that she has found her bio family that maybe the dream of what they were was better than what we are.
Confusing and long I know but anyone with input would be appreciated.
Sweetie, you were curious about your family and you went out and searched to find the answers. I think that makes you very responsible and very concerned for your family and for your sister. Your family might not feel very close to her because she hasn't been around long and she wasn't there through all of the hard times. They could even be afraid in a way because they aren't used to having another family member around because this whole this is new. You both seem to have a connection...she's been through a lot and so have you. And as an opinion of mine, I really think that as long as you two have each other that is enough to keep you strong. Your family may not accept her as well as you do and that could lead to some problems. But you all need to be willing to work things out or nothing will happen. Talk to your family and your sister and come up with any ideas that can make your family start over and be closer to your sister. It's very important to have a close family. But if you don't that's okay...as I said before if you and her are close that should be enough. You missed her and probably needed her in your life, so maybe right now she needs you. The only thing I can think of is to try as hard as you can to get your family together again. But if they refuse to do that you can't make them. Trying to is the only thing that might help. Anyways, keep in touch with your sister, because it's better to have a least one of her family to talk to instead of none.
Love,
Mandee
hey if you ahd to pic which kinda doq qiould you guys get a a name for it too . a yorkiie toy (toy yorkiie .wtvr lol) or a toy chiwawa apple head (soo cute!)
lol thanx. plz answer
Ariella*
Definitely Yorkiie! Names...hmm probably Peppermint, Carmelle, or Star! Cute question by the way!
Love,
Mandee
How many hours of sleep should a 14 year old girl get each night?
Thanks--
Sleep is so important and everyone should get about eight to nine hours each night. And because you're a teenager getting that much sleep will keep you awake for the day, energized, and focused. It's hard to get that much sleep though! I always have problems falling asleep, but if you try hard enough to keep track of the hours you sleep and keeping it the same amount each day you should be good!
Love,
Mandee