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Grades
Hi its Lissa...okay i well i got my progress report in the mail today and iim failing 3 classes and passing 3 (those aint that great either) and i told my mom and now shes all pissed like REALLY pissed she calls every 2 minutes n yells at me and she's like 'WHAT THE HELL!' n we have to go to my aunts funeral tomorrow at 11 am and now she's saying i can't go because of my grades, isn't that gay? shes my AUNT! and she's also like your not going into drivers ed and never getting a car EVER if u dont get all good grades and blah blah blah its really pissing me off i even started crying. im doing better now, i turn in most of my work im just not that smart and she expects me to be all smart and shit when im not...she keeps bugging me about it and im so annoyed...and thats just on the phone what the hell am i gonna do when she gets home from work!? she knows my 'situation' or she should cuz when school started i was really depressed and suicidal and everything was messed up, now im on anti depression medicine so im doing better and trying harder in school. my counselor even told me not to be so hard on myself i have a lot goin on and idk what to do about this...sorry this is long but ah..what do i do? thanks so much!!!
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Mom is having a major meltdown for her sister or her siter in law has died. See adults never tell kids hey we are hurting...please ignore us for we are not rational right now. SO she just turns into monster mom and you see the pea soup and her head rotatiing around. She is not herself.
She should let you go to the funeral.That has nothing to do with your grades. But agin adults can be childish too
but I have to ask..why are you failing? Is something going on in your life that you need help with?
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Well... hey you sound like me :) what a cawinkedink! Except i got a bit more going on both my g-maws have cancer and both taking Kimo cept 1 refused and my uncle needs a heart and now his mechanicla heart well his battery is dying and my other uncle needs a kidney and well... thats it for now... hopefully things will get better but just try your hardest im not failing any classes and thank the lord for that.. i dont study... EVER! just really concentrate in school.. i hate school so its hard to do i know take it from me ... and my "bro" just always told me to stick with it cuz its something i must do and if i want a good life keep them grades high!
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Ask your mom how not going to your aunts funeral will change your grades. Because it won't. And you should still be aloud to go!! Explain to her that you try really hard and you think you need extra help so she should let you stay after school or buy you a tutor (*yah...not exactly what you want but she'll think you wanna make some big change and might let you off the hook...and plus it'll be worth getting extra help) and if shes really being mean (*haha my friend did this once...) tell your mom that you're going to tell the consuler @ school that she mentally abuses you (*lOl even if its not true...but it might get you in more trouble)
=) HoPe I HeLpEd!
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try hard to keep your grades up! you can do it if you try! keep your head up! my mom bugs me 2. my parents told me last year that if i hadnt gotten all A's then i would have to go to military school. they also took away seeing my friends outside of school, tv, computer, phone and pretty much everything jus bc i was gettin 2 C's. if you try hard enough you can do it! p.s. no one rlly cares if its rlly long! hope i helped ~steph~ IM -miZZcHeRRyCoKe36-
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your mom expects you to be the best you can be and she may feel that your not . failing 3 classes isn't very good and your mom just wants the best for you . if your realy trying your best in school and you feel you cant do any better you may want to get a tudor or have a friend comeover who is good at whatever subjects you are failing in and have her help you . the reason your mom is saying you can go to the funeral is probably because she's mad right now and will probably let you go . remember if your mom really didnt love you and care about you she wouldnt be mad at your grades cause otherwise she just wouldnt care .
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ur mom isnt really encouraging you to do better it seems like she is downgrading you. and since uhave problems then she should understand that and you should tell her that. but maybe you arent applying ur self as much as you should. try harder at schoo0l and instead of studying the night before the test, bring ur book and study guides to her 2 nights before the test (since ur having diffictulties in school) and take ur counselors adice dont be hard on urself just try to apply urself more better in school and when ur mother gets home todya, dont get an attitude(as much as you want to..bite ur tongue and hold it in no matter how bad she pisses u off) just tell her that you need her help and downgrading you isnt gunna help. im sure she'll understand.. maybe shes just really upset about the death in ur family and she has a lot on her mind and she is just taking it out on u. try not to take it personal and try to work with her through this hard and emotional time. im sure she'll let u go to the funeral so dont get too worried. hope i helped and im sorry about the death in ur family.
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Hey Lissa! There will always be someone in your life who has higher expectations for you, but remember that you should only do what you think is best for you and not what someone else thinks is best for you. Your education determines what the future will hold for you in some ways, so it's very understanding why your mom is upset. She wants you to have a good life, recieve the best education, and have a great job when you get older.
If you want this so bad you need to work your hardest at it. Your mom will be so proud of you, and you will be proud of yourself as well. Push yourself, but not too hard. Take it one step at a time, and it's never too late to change those grades. Becoming organized will help you so much, you'll know what's due and when. You'll have all of your assignments and you will be prepared for test if you look over the material. Don't say that you're not smart, you can be if you wanted it bad enough. Anyone can change that. It takes a lot of work...I can't stress that enough. Usually, if you do the work you know more about what you're learning. And that's the purpose of homework..it only helps you. So keep completing it. And if you are okay with turning in things, but horrible at tets change your study habits. If you study for a little bit during the week it would be so much better than studying the day before, and you won't know it as well. Highlight important information, make sure you keep up with notes, and listen to what your teachers say. ( I know that is so difficult sometimes...so boring but it makes a difference)
Sweetie, prove everyone wrong! You can do this! You can make anything happen if you want it bad enough. Think of how good it will feel to have everyone tell you how smart you are. And the smile on your moms face will be unforgetable. Work at it as hard as you can, do something about this..don't just forget about it. You will have so much confidence in yourself once you accomplish this. Best wishes for you!!! And don't cry..it will be okay. You'll be happy if you start trying to do something about it. =D Never let anyone tell you that you can't do something or that you will never be anything!
Love,
Mandee
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Well its realllly good you are talking to a counselor. I suggest you get a psycologist. May seem wierd but they help. Like how would you like it if your problems between you and your mom (for the most part) were OVER? Done with. You'd really like it. I guarentee if you talk to an experienced psycologist atleast weekly, they can pretty much do so. Tell your mom you want things to work out between you 2 and you wanna have a good relationship with her. She should DEFINETLY, DEFINETLY, DEFINETLY, DEFINETLY, listen. If she doesn't then your going to need to just use your counseler. All I can say is study harder, focus harder, and tell your Mom you wish to meet all her requirements but your working on it and it's not easy. Tell her its only a progress report and you guarentee you can fix up most of the bad grades, after this, do so! Do allll the homeworks, get an agenda to write it down in if you dont have one, do your projects on time, TAKE ALLLLL extra credits...they will help you pass, and most of all listen in class. If it doesn't make sense you gotta make yourself spare some time after school or at lunch to get 1 on 1 attention so that you do understand. You really need to get organized. Even if it means your still getting straight C's, thats a heck of a lot of improvement from an F or a D. You can do it, just set your mind to it!!
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Good Luck!
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I think you should tell your mom everything that has been bothering you and that your under alot of stress becuz your aunt died. Tell her that your turning all your work in and doing all your homework and tell her that you'll try to bring your grades up.If your mom loves you she'll understand.I hope I helped!! <3Juliet<3
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When shes home, she'll get easily mad. So do everything you can(clean your room, bathroom, do all your chores, homework etc.) so she doesnt get mad at you. I'm sure she'll let you go to the funeral, she'll forget about saying you couldent go. And keep turning your work and and study for those tests and try to pass all your classes for your report card. Hope I helped.
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yOur mOm is like mine..the arqument qOes On and On and On! she never shuTsz up!! i Think yOu shOul tell yOur mOm yOu`re qOinq tO try yOu just need her suppOrt and fOr her tO qive yOu positive encouraqement not neqative. I dOnt blame yOu fOr qetting annoyed!!
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