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cutting...
Okay, I know that there have been many questions on the subject, but I looked, and I haven't found any other question/answers that were helpful. Okay, well here goes. I've gotten so addicted to cutting, that lately I've been doing it in class. I even cut my initials into my skin. Well today I got caught, and I was telling a friend about it, and my 4th period teacher heard. Well after the test in that class, she called me into the hall because we were allowed to do anything, and I got out a needle, and when that teacher saw she called me out. Then she was all like you know what you do is dangerous and stuff, and I was like yes... and she said other stuff like I care about you, and want you to stop, and I was like yeah, whatever. Well, now I really want to stop, but I can't it's like I'm addicted. I want to end my life, yet I want to live. And so now, I don't know how to stop. And I would bring it up to one or both of the teachers that know, but I wouldn't know how to bring it up, and I'm afraid that they would tell my parents, and my parents wouldn't sympathize, they would get really mad, trust me I know. So I was wondering, how might I get over this addiction, and if I were to tell the teacher that I need help, then how would I bring it up. What would you do to get help, and if you were to ask a teacher for help, what would you say. And if you were a cutter, but no longer cut, I'd like to hear your stories, no matter how long! Thanks a bunch!
Sorry it's so long, but I'm really worried about how far I might take this.
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wow okay.. this is really long and i don't have a lot of time at the moment but i'll make to time you give you at least some advice.. okay well i've never really been in this situation and i'm sure i have no idea what your going through but some advice**
1.Throw away all your needles or anything that you cut with.
2. Get some rubberbands and wear them on your wrist and when you get mad or upset instead of cutting just pull the rubberbands and snap yourself with them and also when you do that and think of cutting it should hurt so you'll think of cutting as hurting. I saw this stratagie on Degrasssi.. it seemed to work.
3. If the rubberband thing doesn't help.. then go need to go to a colsuler at your school asap!! and you really need to tell your parents, i know you don't want to but you may be surprised how much they wanna help and care for you. If you don't wanna do any of that, just let me know and i will help you or find someone who will help you.
Let me know how it goes.
my sn is: king11591
if you ever want to talk. Good luck babe! <33
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hi.... wow i think u need to just tell ur self u cant cut maybe throw away all ur needles or something u really need to find another way to get ur emotions out!!! i hope i helped!!
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Wow... thats really long haha. But ok so i'm also a cutter at the current moment too. I am really depressed and life sucks yada yada yada i could go into all my stuff but i'm not going to because i'm supposed to be helping you! ( If you wanna talk too you can IM me at VETKRB) My suggestion for you to go to the person you are closest too in your life wheather that be a teacher, friend, sibling, or even the school phycologist ( but if u did that they would probably be obligated to tell your parents) but just talk to SOME1 about it... it will help. also with the addiction part of it, try to figure out why you do it. I think that will give you a lot of answers to your problem. I have also heard that like taking a rubber band and wearing it around your wrist and snapping it can also help whenever you feel the urge to cut. I hope this helped you in some way... remember, i'm free to talk anytime.
~KiKi
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Hi Sweetie,
Yes it happened to me. I'm actually currently still in theraphy for it. ...I had issues and I was really messed up. The differnce was that I didn't have an addiction or obsession... Well looking back I'm glad I was cought because I don't think I could have explained it to my mother myself.
The thing you should do is NOT talk to your teacher (is none of her/his business). Seek the school counsler if you need help talking ot your parents about it. (If you get caught they CALL your parents... oh God all the horrible memories) Then they'll send you to get an evaluation (if they consider you high risk-suicidal you'll have an EMERGENCY evaluation) Eventually you'll end up in therapy. For some its easier talking about it there. They work out all your "why" and "how" issues (why you cut and how you got to that point and stuff).
Hope you get the help you need! Best wishes love. Take care! ~Blessed Be...
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You really need to talk to a counselor. They know what they're talking about!
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Ok i kno exactly how u feel i have the same exact problem. What helps me is a put an elastic band around my wrist before i go to school and then everytime i want to cut i just snap the rubber band against my wrist it helps me stop cutting in school. I also know exactly how u feel with wanting to die but live. You can't think about that. I hope the rubber band works for you!
*~*kris*~*
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Okay sweetie, I'm not going to state that you need to stop, you probably already know you need to because you are asking for help. So instead, I will just give you ideas. I never was a cutter so I can't imagine the pain you're going through. Just realize that it doesn't matter if the reasons why you cut are little or big, the problem is the reasons itself. Now I'm sure there are some things you can change, but for others that may be a little harder. There are some easier ways to solve this rather than hurting yourself. I'm sure you have already heard of writing things down or talking to someone. But you know what? That really does help for some people. So I would give it a try.
Talking to adults might seem very stange because they are at a whole other stage in life, so it would be best to find someone around your age that you can share all your problems with. That way you wouldn't be lectured on the things that you'll hear over and over again from adults. (Examples- the yelling, and the screaming that you might get.) Friends are good for the problems, getting help would be more likely something an adult can help you with. Your teacher says she cares, and she probably means that. So take that into consideration and talk to her because she's concerned. If you approach her in a mature manner, she will know that you're serious about keeping this confidential. Ask her if there is a time after school or when she has free time to talk to her about a problem of yours. Once you set up a time then you can ask her what you can do to get help. I'm sure she'll know some places or people that can help you. I think it would be very, very hard to get help without your mother knowing. The fact that you want to get help should be the most concerning area right now. Keep in mind, you can't control your mother's actions. What she says and does is controlled by her. But if she is mad just explain that you know you shouldn't have cut yourself, but you want to break this habit. You're serious about this, and she should be too. And you have your teachers who will still help you.
For being thirteen, you are really smart. You probably know most people don't consider getting the help they need. If you get help and get your problems out of the way you should be fine. And it is a lot harder than it sounds. But I really think sharing stories with other cutters will help you as well. So here is a link to a message board if you ever want someone who you can relate to. [Link](Mouse over link to see full location)
* Let me know if that works if you want, if not i'll get others for you :) *
Anyways, you should be proud because you're already on the first step - Admit to having a problem. I seriously hope that you get the help you need, and I wish you the best. If you ever want anything again, let me know. Take care babe!
Love,
Mandee
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alright, i'm going to try to organize this as best i can, but most of the time my ideas get all jumbled up so bear with me.
about the teacher: ok, just approach the one you trust the most and say, "alright, well since you already know about my problem (if she/he is uncertain, show them your arm), can you help me get over this with out telling my parents? I just don't think they understand, and i really want to stop, but i don't think i can do it with out your help." Your teacher(s) will be more than happy to help you. They care about you and they want you to get better.
You could even talk to your friend about it. the more you talk about this problem, the easier it gets to deal with. i wasn't a cutter, but i had my addictions and talking about it made it virtually go away.
I understand about your situation with your parentle units. if you weren't so young, i'd say that you could do this without them. however, i think that if your as addicted as you say, you might not be very sucessful with out clinical help. Yeah, i know how much that sucks to hear, but i honestly believe thats the best thing that could happen to you.
About your painfull cut: It might be infected dear. You should really see your doctor. i don't think they can tell your parents about it. I think thats your own private business that your doctor can't release, but i could be wrong.
The only thing that sterilizes stuff is burning it, or in a special kind of solution.
If you need my help so more, or want to talk to someone who won't judge you, i'm here. My sn is Tucanfullofholes and my email is redsoxrockmyworld@yahoo.com. drop one in my inbox if you need to. I want to help you as much as possible.
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please, please, please stop cutting. try some hydrogen peroxide on the one that hurts, you may have to pick open the scab a little. what one of my friends tried is to exercise whenever he got the urge to cut, it got him healthier on the inside and the outside. please, get help from a counselor, anything. please?! i don't want to see a life with potential be ended because a bad habit couldn't be broken. you're strong enough for it, and i really believe you can, afterall, you were willing to admit that you need help. so please find some!
best of luck
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O MY GOSH! im not just saying thins to get you to stop but....you REALLY need to...you might noe realize it now but you are slowly ending your life! Thinka bout all the people around you that you are hurting just by hurting yourself! I dont even know who you are but i love you already! anyone who is asking for help really deserves ALOT of help! Dont think about the bad things that go on in your life...just thikn about the good...and how happy people are when you are with them...one of my friends have been tallking about suicide latly and ive been REALLY scared! and i can only imagine what your friends are thinking! If i were to tell a teacher (or a dance coach or basketball coach or any other adult that you feel comferatable with) about my cutting i would just say like "i really need your help...i have been hurting myself latly because of reasons and i REALLY want your help to stop!" i dunno what else to say but i REALLY REALLY REALLY hope that i helped! please...take my advice! Love ya!!
~Am~
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I can't say too much to help you, but my story is that I used to cut myself when I was a teen, and then I started going out with this boy and he said he would not pursue this relationship with me if I did not stop putting scratches on my body. So I quit cold turkey. What I can tell you is, one day the sunrise will wake you out of it. Good luck and take care of yourself!!
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find a hobby like trappin animals or paintig or something to get your mind off it
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