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agrivated
i get agrivaTed w/ my friend really easily and i say mean stuff and feel really bad. how do i like get nicer cuz i feel like we dont have a healthy relationship and i just wanna be happy around her cuz shes like my bff and i love her so much i just get agitated
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im like that 2 wat i do is i try 2 explain that it as its happening or i just breathe that helps alot of the time... it mite help u 2
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Whenever you feel aggravated, and before you say anything, slowly count to three. While you're doing this, think about how you would feel if someone said to you the things you are just about to say. And if you still have to say it, at least try and make it sound like you're joking :)
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Try takeing a deep breath and think about what you say before you say it. If that doesnt work always say sorry. It shouldnt be hard not to say mean stuff to your best friend.
Hope I helped!
~Brina~
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you shouldnt take your anger out on her.. good friends dont do that. you need to b nicer to her, cause you could lose a good friend.
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What are some of the things she says or does that makes you feel this way? If the problem is her, I would tell myself that everyone has their faults. Is she shy and quiet? Are you older than her? The reason I'm asking this is because sometimes if she's shy and you're outgoing or if she's younger than you, you feel like you need to lead her in the right direction. Or tell her what you believe thinking you're right. If that's the case you need to treat her as an equal. Maybe it could be because she is annoying sometimes, and you get angry about it. If she does something annoying I would talk to her about it. If you simply can not do that, than it would be best to tell yourself that there will always be some qualities in people that are annoying. You might have to train yourself to think nothing of it.
If the problem is you, meaning that you always feel this way towards everyone else, you might want to consider writing down what kind of things make you easily mad. Relaxation is important. If you learn to love things about people rather than finding the bad things in others, you'll be much better off. But you can really get past this if you try hard enough! Good luck with everything!
Love,
Mandee
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whenever u feel annoyed w/her then try hard 2 hold it back. dont say anything if ur afraid she'll get upset. if ur worried bout ur relationship, then next time u get annoyed, tell her and she'll understand. it can make u 2 closer. hope i helped ya!
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I have the same problem with my friend sometimes. My advice for you is to just try to let things go. Dont take what she does seriously. Laugh it off. Let her know that you dont necessarily mean what you're saying, and try to make sure her feelings aren't hurt. If you REALLY have something to say, try to say it in a constructive way, without attacking her. Like if she's doing something really annoying such as flirting with the guy you like just be like "I like this guy a lot and what you're doing is really hurting me" dont be like "YOU NEED TO STOP FLIRTING WITH THE GUY BECAUSE IT MAKES YOU LOOK LIKE A HO!!!" or anything like that. Just try to avoid conflict...and try not to raise your voice or yell at your friend
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