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These past 2 years i've been feeling really depressed and its reflecting the way i act towards people now. I feel as if i can't trust anyone, and unpleasant things have been going on. Since 6th grade i've been cutting (im in 8th now). And now, It's like i always want to,and i cant stop, but its gotten to the point to where i dont even know it. I cant concentrate because i've lost most of my friends, and the 2 friends i have now act like they dont even want to be around me. All this anger is built inside of me, and i have no one to talk to about it and so i take it out on myself because i feel like its my fault even though it may not be. Im losing almost everything, and i always feel like my friends talk about me behind my back. I want help, but i want help from people who understand me, and who actually want to listen and care about me, but it seems none of my friends can really fill those needs.
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Aw, I know exactly what you're going through, I cut from 6th grade up to recently around 6 months ago, I felt so terrible and ashamed, I alway had to wear long sleeves and my parents would call me an attention getter, I didn't want to see a professional, all they would do is quote from a book, I mean, really! Not like they went though it to, I was terrible! I was in this constant pool of depression and I couldn't raise to the top, I felt like I was drowning in my own depression, my life feel apart, I went from straight A's to a C D's and I got my first F! Which made me more depressed. But anyhow, I just want you to know, I know ALOT of what you're going through, and I would really appreciate it if you would stay in touch with me, I would enjoy listening to what you would have to say, But anyhow, basically when you feel like self harming yourself you should just use your will power and refuse yo go near your blade... and if you do, don't use it on your skin, get something wooden and run it across the wood, You cant imagine how much stress that leaves out! And I WILL accept you for who you are, You can really talk to me, I'm not shitting you, I HAVE gone through what you have, and I AM here to talk to.
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Obviously, you're going through alot of pain. I bet at some point you think God hates you, well the reason all this pain is to make YOU a stronger person. That might sound gay but it's true. If you cut yourself it's not relieving any pain and it won't help but hurt others around you. And you've probably lost all your friends because they don't want to be around you when you're cutting. And your family isn't caring cause they don't know how to help you and no matter what kind of professional help you get, no one can truly help you but yourself. Seriously think about it. You seem like you are such a bright person and don't throw away your life by cutting yourself! People out there really love you and care about you. Trust me.
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Ok.. u said u dotn want professional help well, im just gonna say its up to u, u dont have any family members to help u out so u need someone! i used to cut myself. its not good for u! haha as if u didnt kno tht. see when i cut myself i never wanted professional help either but my mom found out and made me go. when i got there it wasnt tht bad. it made me feel a lot better. the rubber band is a very good idea. my advice is wear the rubber band while not in school and try to get reaquainted w/ ur old friends, just be really nice even if u dont want to cuz chances r they just didnt kno wht was goign on w/ u. so make new friends and old friends and just talk to ppl if u talk to ur friends abt it then they will kno y u werent being urself ull have friends and a lot of this will go away just by talkign to someone whenever u wanna cut urself or whenever ur upset. and i still think tht u should go to a doctor or do the whole friends thing! good luck :)
<3 Jen
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YOu need to see a doctor. They are meds..that will totally take away your sympotsn and make you stop cutting yourself. Lots of people do what you do.
Talk to your counsel..get a anmeof a doctor.and see them
TYou will feel better...trust me..once you get on the right meds..your life will change..totally.
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man o man! ur life is tough..well if i were u..( i hate to admit) i wuld have alreadii commitd suicide..(im KINDA suicidal..only tried to do it ONCE before! *im not a weird/physco/crazy person eithr!)
one tihng..(evn though evryone seys to go) i really didnt think my counselor helped me..she juss made it worse..evn tho u "tlk bout ur feelings" they keep a record about it..n it suxz
well juss say ne thing if u need ne mre help..
<3 Manda
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Hey,
Well if i'm gunna be honest with ya i'm gunna tell you that you need proffesional help. I personally have a few friends who cut and they have therapists. I'm not saying that yor like out of your mind/crazy, i'm saying that it helps to talk to someone who ACTUALLY understands you. Well I hope you benefited from my "brilliant answer".
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i kind of understand where your coming from. i no its how hard it is. the first thing u must do is try to stop cutting. hurting urself is nto the answer. try anything. maybe like buying a stress ball instead. if u realy want to stop, talk to ur mom about sending u to a group theropy thing. maybe it will help. 2nd of all u have to tell ur friends wat ur feeeling..i told my friends that they were excluding me form a lot of jokes and conversations n it started tro bother me. they understood n started talking with me again. healing takes time...but hey im better!!!
thanks for ur question.....
<3 briana
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knock urself out.
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i hate 2 admit this, but hey i kno wut ur goin through. i cut b4. i kno its not fun and peeps dont understand u at all. wantin 2 get help is so good, im not even brave enough 2 do that. a great thing 2 do is find someone that has cut b4 or something serious like that. they will really kno where ure coming from and u'll get the best answers that u can.
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You need to stop. You need to tell your parents or the person your most close too; You need help. I realize you do it because your stressed, but it's not the answer. I am always here to talk to you, and I think that you should maybe speak to a counsler. I also think a good thing to do is maybe take up a hobby, that your good at or that you love doing. Hopefully this will take your mind off of cutting, and you can meet new people. I really hope you end up okay through all of this. Good luck and I'm always here to talk to you!
Love,
Gabby
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if u ever want to talk u can i/m me at butterflykid223. i will listen to u. but please stop cutting, u may think it does something, but it truelly isnt.
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I know how you feel, if you can't talk to one of your friends is their an adult you can talk to. I know it easier talking to a firend but talking to a guidance counselor, always help!
hope evrything works out!
xoshaneyney3283
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Well i can relate . Im juss the same way im on 12 and in 7th. Yea and ive been doing it awhile but my friends still hang with me. We can talk on aol or yahoo and like give each otha adivce if u wanna. I mean well if u readn what im writn rite now then juss click on ask babiegurl12 a question, ok. Then juss say like shur we can chat ther, and like give me you aol sn. Mine is way2stupid2be. I have like way more pain too. And to stop cutin you should try to carry a livestrong bracelet,ruberband or sumthingyou will strecth on your hand, and juss pull it and flick your self, it will leave a red mosquito kinda lookn bite, but dont worry , yea it hurts, but it works, so hopefully u wont cut as much or at all. . .
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Gosh babe, I'm sorry! I really mean that! You know that you need to stop cutting already, and you already know that you can't let this make you lose everything. So I won't try to sugarcoat the obvious. The problem is not you personally. Or even the fact that you cut. The biggest problem is that the chemicals in your brain are going crazy and they aren't normal. But it's not your fault because you can't control that. Don't get the wrong idea...you are not alone on this, I swear. Teens go through this a lot, but you just take it in a agressive way rather than talking about it. This is normal in everyone. You shouldn't think that everything is your fault. Sometimes friends take things the wrong way. If they know that you cut or see different personalities in you, they might not know what to do. They could be scared and be afraid because they don't know how to help you and because you take things out on other people they might be even more afraid. So let's start out with this..why do you think that you can't trust anyone? I'm just guessing it's because of some event that happened in your past and it broke off all your trust on other people. One thing that I've learned and what to tell you about is that you can't let one thing that went badly in your life change your opinions or what you think in the area. I'll just give you a something that happened to me for an example. One of my boyfriends abused me and for months after we broken up I knew I couldn't trust anyone else again. So I just left it all in my head not saying anything to anyone and one day that backfired. Everything just completely shut down on me to the point where I had a breakdown. It was really bad. But I learned so much for that and I'm actually glad it happened. I say this a lot, but I'm being honest and I mean it. Learning through the mistakes you made or things that happened is the best way to get you to move on. I'm thrilled with my life now, and everything that has happened made me so mcuh stronger than I ever was. And I know that if you just talk to someone, anyone you'll be okay. Don't back out of anything, you need to do thing in order to learn from them and they help you overcome what ever it is you want. Working on self esteem is the best way to go for you. When you get to a high level you'll get your friends back, and you'll be happy. But if you have no one at all to talk to about anything, I can try and help you if you just want to talk. On my advice column there are ways to reach me, so don't be afraid. If I can't help, I'll listen..I promise you. Please take care of yourself hunnie!
Love,
Mandee
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If you know that you're hurting yourself when you cut then don't do it! you need to stop, if not for yourself then for the people who care for you...and i know you can't honestly say that no one cares for you. I know middle school is tough but everyone goes through it and has to experience losing friends and the b*tchy people that go along with it :o/ Look to the future and things will seem brighter :o)
GOod Luck!
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