Age:
28Member Since:
December 1, 2010Answers:
3046Last Update:
December 22, 2014Visitors:
57084Favorite Columnists
Dragonflymagic
solidadvice4teens
rainhorse68
AdviceMistress
adviceman49
Jasmine23
Razhie
NinjaNeer
LaMarionnette
flare
nascarfan1987
more...
about
I am straight to the point, My advice is given based on my opinions of what YOU write. I may not always tell you what you want to hear but I am not here to sugar coat shit.
I am honest, I am blunt, At times an asshole but one thing I can promise, I'll never lie.
advice
I am a high school teacher & I'm teaching summer school this year. there is a student that I've known for a couple of years & I've taught her in the 8th grade also.
She has a crush on me, and it's pretty obvious. She blushes & smiles when I talk to her.
She told her friends who told another friend and so on, now loads of students know. She always finds some way to draw attention to herself, so I have to pay attention to her loads.
She is a good student & she's smart, but she tries to flirt with me, I don't flirt. I don't think she's trying to do anything inappropriate, but she's just always trying to get my attention. I'm nice to her and I treat her like everyone else.. I look at most of my students like they are my own kids and I see her as a daughter.
It's frustrating, is there anything I can do? I don't want to be mean to her or hurt her feelings. I did on accident once and I felt bad. Any ideas?
You continue to treat her like the other students. Remember, You as a teacher have the authority over your students. Your job is to be a role model and to give them an education.
If her behavior gets out if hand then you can discuss it with a guidence counselor who can maybe talk to her about it. In the meantime ignore the attention she wants and treat her like a student. Feeding into her behavior can end up costing you your job. Talk to a school counselor about your concerns
im addicted to this site so ive read many of your advises.
my question is why are you so tense? did something happen in your life that made you so tense?
like when i asked for help cause i wanted to commite suicide you said and i quote 'you think life is hard now, it gets harder and harder while you grow'it gives me all the more reasons to commite suicide.
so why so tense?
Hello there
What I meant when I said that was that life is never easy. Everyone goes through hard times. I did not mean that life gets worse, It's when we get older we have heavier burdens then we do when we are a child. I personally think you have too much to live for to think about giving up on yourself. One day you will be married, have a job maybe children. Life has many good things and sometimes we need to learn from the bad to be able to learn from the good. I think you should just be happy. Spend time with your friends, family and don't worry so much. Everything will be okay
Now to answer the second half of your question...
I am not tensed at all and no, nothing happened to me. I think many user on this site often mistaken or misunderstand my advice I give. I am straight to the point on what I said and sometimes it may sound bitchy but sometimes being honest with a person rather then beating around the bush is how you give better advice.
im a married 31 year old woman who is having problems in my marriage my husband wants to do everything for me not in a good way he wants to think for me tell me how to dress wear my hair what to say and everything your mother and father did when i was a child ive been sleeping on the floor for the last couple of days because i just dont want to be around him my choice he is always talking about he s the head and i understand but u just can t talk the talk u have ti walk the walk to i pay all the bills except the ones he wants to pay cable bill so i feel im the head of the house i need some advice on what to do about this situation because i do love him but i dont want to be doormat when im doing everything he is suppose to do if he wants to be respected by me ive been in controll my whole life my mother couldnt tell me what to do because i had to raise her kids for her i would give him more respect if he acted like a real man please help me i really love him too
He is abusing you mentally and emotionally.
Technically the only way to save a marriage like this is if he actually wants to change and help himself. I would recommend marriage counseling but if he isn't willing to put his share into it then I'm going to have to say maybe it's time to just part ways. Continuing to stay married to man who controls you life is only going to do nothing for you but cause you misery in the long run. Nobody is ever entitled to stay in a marriage they are not happy in. Do you really love him? or do you love the thought of being with him? No man has the right to tell a women dress, act or even say for this matter. Seriously, Do you want to continue to pretend you are happy or do you want to move on and perhaps see what else is out there for you?..
You deserve better
I'm not sure if this is peer pressure but anyway.my boyfriend wants me to have sex with random guys infront of him but I don't want to. He says he will brake up with me if I don't and my friends say they won't be my friends anymore. I turned 12 a few days ago and he is 16. I don't want to be a little slut but what am I going to do without my friends? And I really love my boyfriend. My boyfriend always wanted to have sex with me and to finger me but I always said no and he didn't mind but now he does mind and I don't know what to do!
Break up with him
Threatening to dump you if you do not do as he says is WRONG of him.
He is manipulating you and trying to use you. Also, it is illegal as he is way to old for you.
Dump him and find someone else
girl aged 13
i havnt started my periods yet but i just went to the toilet and there was like this goey red thing on my knickers;it looked like snot and blood mixed together...
was that my first period??!btw ie been having discharges for the past 6 months so i thought id be getting it soon.
im really worried now and its kinnda akward cos we have friends sleeping at our house tonight and tomorrow night..!
If you are bleeding, Yes you've got a period.
The gooey blood stuff could of been you passing a blood clot. This is completely normal during your cycle.
Many things can happen when you have a period. You could experience the following;
Cramping, Bloating, Excessive hunger or loss of appetite, Backaches, headaches, moodiness.
There are a bunch more symptoms which I advise you to read up on.
The only time to really worry is if you are experiencing itching/burning. These could be the result of a UTI or a yeast infection.
Okay, my best friend told me she was lesbian this morning, and I'm attracted to her. I afraid to tell her I'm lesbian, and she's really sexy, and I don't think she likes me like that. She hits on me, and I act disgusted, but I'm really not. I'm afraid she'd turn me down if she knew I was lesbian. What should I do?
If your friend told you she liked girls then what is the problem? I don't think she would turn you down if she knew you were attracted to her. Just go for it
12/f
i know life is short and i shouldnt but am considering it.
my life is horrible, but i have a bf, we have been going out for the past 6 months. its like he is the only person that loves me. i have cought my self fixing to commite suicide and stoped myself thinking of Devin. i feel cruel cause if my dad died i wouldnt cry as much as i did for my dog when she died. the only reason i dont is because of Devin. he makes me happy, we never fight, but if i tell him, this may be the first fight.
i know im to young to even think about it cause i havent even been introduced to the teen years.so please help me i dont know wht to do?
any advise ill be very thankful!!
You are 12, At this age everything seems like it's horrible.
Seriously, You think life is bad for you now? Well life just gets harder and harder as you get older. Also, How do you think your parents will feel to know that their child just committed suicide?
You are young and you are entering your teen years soon. Yes, It's pretty normal to feel like everything sucks. You just need to chill out and take it a day at a time and stop worrying so much about things. If your boyfriend makes you happy then go spend time with him and stop worry about the little things. There is WAY to much to loose in life by seeking a way out.
Okay, well when I was about 10 my brother started playing with me. I mean in my vajaja. Well, as I got older it started to give me more and more pleasure. Well, he told me to get on the floor with him one night and he 69 it. Meaning I had to give him a blow job and he started liking and tounging my vajaja. I think its wrong but don't want my parents to find out and I have to get birthcontrol pills and the doctor looks down there! Please HELP!!!
Your brother is sexually assulting you and that is wrong. Have sex with family members is considered incest which is a crime.
If he is fircing you to do these thing or even have sex with you then technically that is rape. You need to tell someone
Your brother is very wrong
a guy called stacy asked me out he super creepy what do i do????
If he is so creepy then why can't you just tell him that you are not interested?
What are some free dating sites you guys recommend? I've tried Zoosk and Okcupid.. Anything else? Anything better??
There is match.com and eharmony.com
However, I really think facebook is a good way to meet people believe it or not. What about friends of friends?..
can we wear pad when in Wild Wild Wet i got my period on Monday and on Friday i will go to wild wild wet.i was worried about it if i could go wearing a pad while swimming?
Pads are made to absorb only so much fluid, Water will cause a pad to become soggy.
You may want to check out menstrual cups.
http://www.softcup.com/?gclid=CKn6xrTv37ACFYeo4AodSnbM1w
I am not going to recommend using a tampon either as the same thing could very well happen to a tampon as a pad. It could become soggy and uncomfortable
Okay, well I am a 13 year old who is really developed. So I went to a water park and me this guy named Jordan. Well, I didn't even know him before today. So a couple hours after I met him, we started to hold hands. But, Jordan wanted more than holding hands. He wanted to kiss me. Well, he kept trying to talk me into it. He tried touching my boobs to get me to do it. Well, I ended up doing it. He was a good kisser....................... But I want to know if it sounds like he just likes me for my boobs and butt. Or if he really likes me. Please help me figure it out! Thanks a lot! (:
You kissed a guy you barely knew?
Honey, You never jump into things with someone you do not know very well. Despite talking to him for a few hours, You do not know this kid on a personal level.
If he just met you and he was already trying to touch your breast, Then yes he was trying to take advantage of you and use you. A guy that respects you will like you for YOU not your body. If a boy rushes things, Then they are trying to take advantage of you.
23/f
ok i have been dating this man for the past 7 months and i took him to meet my father and he reconized him as his son!
i took him to meet my mom and she didnt reconize at all,but did say he looked alittle like my father.
im not sure i should date him.
any advise would be very thankful!!!
by the way he did not know this.
No,
Dating blood relatives is considered incest and almost anywhere it is illegal.
You're half brother is a blood related relative whether both parents or one parent is related to you or not. That is a huge no no! Incest is a crime which is seriously frowned upon society.
Ok so i rolled our 4 wheeler recently and I was sure I sprained my wirst but after 2 days it isnt hurting as bad...whats the deal?
None of us are doctors, If it doesn't hurt as bad you may still want to get it checked out as you could of fractured it.
My (ex)boyfriend of 4 years called me the other night talking about how every relationship he gets into always reminds him of how much he misses me and our conversations. We talked for at least 4 hours that night about how good we were together and that no other relationship we have will ever compare. I'm not going to lie it made me happy to know he thought about it sometimes too. He asked me on a date this Friday and I said yes. I haven't heard from him since the morning after we talked which is not like him and I'm afraid to know... Did he just use me to make himself feel worthy? I know how it feels to have that moment of weakness and call your ex but our conversation was not like any we've had before. It was so sincere and afterwards it felt like we had just had an intense therapy session. I know I should just talk to him but if it's not the case I don't want my insecurities to ruin any potential we could have. But it sucks because right now I feel so used like he needed someone familiar to make him feel better and then sent me on my way... what do you think?
There are many ques to this questions.
When was the "other" night? How long ago was this?
The main question here is to why he became your ex in the first place. If you feel used then well you may be right. It is really hard to give good advice as I don't really know exactly what happened.
Now from my personal point of view, If an ex becomes an ex I save myself the heart break and move on. As I've been told all too many times if it didn't work once it won't work again.
Recently, me and a friend stopped talking. We're still civil though, but there is tension in the air. A mutual friend is very close to her and to me it looks like he has decided to take her side, despite that fact that 1. She told him that he shouldn't feel the need to, and 2. It simply didn't concern him.
Recently, another mutual friend of ours (who has managed to stay completely neutral in this) was talking to them on the phone. The fellow who decided to takes sides said "I need to know if I can trust you. I need to bitch about Matt" (matt being me).
He also stated that he wasn't planning to invite me to his birthday party, despite the fact that i've known him longer than anyone else.
I'm not sure what has bought this on. I know he's always been head over heels in love with the friend who I stopped talking to, and it's obvious that they talk about it, as he has decided to take sides.
I'm not sure what to do. I can't approach him, as the friend who told me, made me swear that I wouldn't say anything. I've asked him by text, what he is doing for his birthday, but he has just ignored me. He complains that I don't hang out with him often, but he's the one who ignored my messages, even if I message him a friendly "hello, how have you been?" .
I've even done the 'are we cool?' Thing and he just responds with the usual nonsense of 'yeah, sure, why?' . So it's pretty much impossible to do anything. Should I just give up, and be grateful that everything has ended on a civil note? Or approach him?
Any help would be appreciated.
Thanks.
Dude sometimes it's the influence that brings things on. In this world there just doesn't have to be a valid reason for bullshit.
Either way, It sounds like these "friends" were never really friends in the first place. They were cool with you until they were influenced by other friends. At least you can give it too yourself that you have tried to remain mutual but relationships of any kind just don't work out when the other person doesn't want to grow up. So basically in short terms all you can do is save yourself the hassle and try and move on from it. If they want drama then just forget them and let them make fools of themselves. You know what really bothers people more then anything? When they see someone they dislike moving on with their lives. They are a waste of time and frankly from the sound of what you wrote you sound like a chill laid back sort of guy. It's their loss, There are plenty of people out there that would treat you like a friend never mind a group of fools.
14/f
ok i got a bf 5 months ago and i told my mom 4 months ago.well the next day she looks at houses on the internet, i ask her about it and she tells me that we are going to move after school is out.
i told my mom about him before he asked me out, told her i liked him, and she started crying!
anyway, we moved and now she wont let me talk to him!
me and my bf were supposed to ggo to carawinds this july and asked my mom if i could go she said sure and i ask her again ,just to make sure i really could go, yesterday, and she said she made plans to go to florida the 2 week of july and i was going to carawinds the 3 week of july.
and then today she grounded me, yelled at me and sent me to my room without dinner! and she didnt even say good night at 9:00 like she usually does.
she lets my brother do everything and im stuck at home doing chores, she never lets me spend the night at a friends house and my brother does it almost every weekend.all this has led me to cutting 3 months ago and now ive got marks all on my legs.
any advise on what to do will be very thankful!!!
Sounds like your mother may be under some stress, I'm sure it has nothing to do with you or your boyfriend but rather a more personal issue that your mother is dealing with.
Try to sit down and talk to her, There may be more to the issue then you are aware of.
Do you think 29 and 20 is too big of an age difference ?
Depends
A person who is 20 is generally in a different stage in life then someone who is 29 years of age.
If you think you both can over come the difference then I don't see a problem. 20 years old is legally considered an adult
My friend just moved to Texas.. he is struggling with his Borderline Personality disorder but has no insurance to get any help from it.. whether that means meds, therapy, or anything else. He is across the country from me now, but I'd still like to find some way to help him. Are any of you from Texas, or do any of you know anything that would help him.. would he be able to get help from the state or anything until he finds a good paying job over there? He's having a very hard time even finding the motivation to get through the day. Please help.
Yes, Your friend can call around and ask a doctors office if they have a sliding scale. Sliding scale is basically where they allow monthly payments on the bill.
You could recommend to your friend to see if there is a Thundermist in the local area. They are very good at what they do and they work with people who do not have health insurance. If not, Call around and try to find a place that does.
Long Story Short; my mom was 17, my dad was 15 when i was born. they fought, she cheated, he left. She hasn't let him be in my life. AT ALL. since i was 3. I'm going to be 17 in less than 2 months.
so. Yesterday I went with my boyfriend, to meet him. & it was a good experience. My boyfriend says he can tell he loves me, that hes a good guy and that he wants to be there for me. I told my mom today that i met him and she WENT OFF. and told me if i want to see him i have to get out. Is there something I can do about this?
Added onto what Adviceman said
Once you turn 18, You are legally an adult and you have the right to have a relationship with your father. Your mother would no longer have say to whether or whether not you do so.