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My student has a crush on me? Is there anything I can do, it's annoying?
I am a high school teacher & I'm teaching summer school this year. there is a student that I've known for a couple of years & I've taught her in the 8th grade also.
She has a crush on me, and it's pretty obvious. She blushes & smiles when I talk to her.
She told her friends who told another friend and so on, now loads of students know. She always finds some way to draw attention to herself, so I have to pay attention to her loads.
She is a good student & she's smart, but she tries to flirt with me, I don't flirt. I don't think she's trying to do anything inappropriate, but she's just always trying to get my attention. I'm nice to her and I treat her like everyone else.. I look at most of my students like they are my own kids and I see her as a daughter.
It's frustrating, is there anything I can do? I don't want to be mean to her or hurt her feelings. I did on accident once and I felt bad. Any ideas?
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Given how easily things can be made to look inappropheriate. I would inform the principal of her crush she has on you. All it takes is for her to say something to someone and ti be taken wrong you will find yourself defending yourself or worse possible out of a job.
In today's world it is not always what you do or what you say that can hurt you. Apperances alone can do more harm than words. It is like a sticks and stones thing if you get my meaning.
By informing your principal allows the principal to be the fall person and take whatever action deemed appropriate and cools the situation for you. It could be just having a conversation with the young lady or calling the young lady's parents and asking them to talk to her. Whichever is done this protects you job which is important to you.
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Just keep doing what you are doing. Treat her like everyone else. If anything, don't worry too much about hurting her feelings - of course we don't want to hurt other people - but she is being rather rude (perhaps without meaning to be, but she is) and it's fair for her to learn that this behavoir isn't helping her goal - it's frustrating and annoying to you.
If her attention-seeking behavoir in class is a problem, talk to her about that. Not about the crush, but about her being deliberately disruptive in class. Let her know that you believe she can behave better if she tries. The crush isn't really the issue there - her behavoir as a student is the issue.
You might also consider talking to your superiors at and letting them know what is going on. They might have some guidance, or a preferred way for you to handle this, and getting them into the loop could help protect you in the future.
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hm u remember me myself.Students love teachers and never flirt specifically if your student is a girl 4 e.g like me .When I moved to a new school.I love my teacher alot because her class Eng and my hobby is the same.So I was considering her lesson as my free time.Then she argued with me because I'm very calm.So I got angry and be rude with her.Then she treated me same & paid her attention at another student .Then we got in cycle (she be good I be rude and the opposite) Then I tried to apologize to her (I apologize to my teacher ).How this sound like .Was I trying to pay her attention again¿The answer is NOoO .I did that because when I was going to my house and have nothing 2 do . I enter Eng websites like this .So I was remembering her and blaming my self about my rudeness.So the point is human may understanding things wrong.Also your're not mind reader 2 know y she keep doing that.Let her doing that as long as her behaviour not hurting you .Good luck sory about m bad Eng
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Just carry on how you are. Treat her like everyone else, and do what you are there for: to provide the children with an education.
If she has a crush on you, then it's her problem. If all the students know, you should carry on as you would if they didn't.
If it becomes uncontrollable, then you have to speak to either the school Councillor, or your superior.
You need to protect yourself, in case she does something inappropriate.
Good luck
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You continue to treat her like the other students. Remember, You as a teacher have the authority over your students. Your job is to be a role model and to give them an education.
If her behavior gets out if hand then you can discuss it with a guidence counselor who can maybe talk to her about it. In the meantime ignore the attention she wants and treat her like a student. Feeding into her behavior can end up costing you your job. Talk to a school counselor about your concerns
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