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friend 'bitching' about me
Recently, me and a friend stopped talking. We're still civil though, but there is tension in the air. A mutual friend is very close to her and to me it looks like he has decided to take her side, despite that fact that 1. She told him that he shouldn't feel the need to, and 2. It simply didn't concern him.
Recently, another mutual friend of ours (who has managed to stay completely neutral in this) was talking to them on the phone. The fellow who decided to takes sides said "I need to know if I can trust you. I need to bitch about Matt" (matt being me).
He also stated that he wasn't planning to invite me to his birthday party, despite the fact that i've known him longer than anyone else.
I'm not sure what has bought this on. I know he's always been head over heels in love with the friend who I stopped talking to, and it's obvious that they talk about it, as he has decided to take sides.
I'm not sure what to do. I can't approach him, as the friend who told me, made me swear that I wouldn't say anything. I've asked him by text, what he is doing for his birthday, but he has just ignored me. He complains that I don't hang out with him often, but he's the one who ignored my messages, even if I message him a friendly "hello, how have you been?" .
I've even done the 'are we cool?' Thing and he just responds with the usual nonsense of 'yeah, sure, why?' . So it's pretty much impossible to do anything. Should I just give up, and be grateful that everything has ended on a civil note? Or approach him?
Any help would be appreciated.
Thanks.
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in all honesty, this is stupid. the kid obviously is going to take her side if he has a thing for her and there is always the chance she might have told him some untrue things maybe even lied and said you said some things you didn't...
why? because she's a girl.
what does that have to do with it? girls are all evil manipulative bitches. lmfao.
sit the guy down alone and talk to him straight up. tell him the whole situation. make sure he knows you never said anything about him and you wish he didn't get caught up in this but also confront him saying that you know he was talking about you and that he has been acting weird because it sounds like he isn't your friend anyway.
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Life is too short for drama. Focus on yourself and your goals and don't let people like that slow you down with petty nonsense. So what if he chose the other friend. You shouldn't be suprised when friends turn out to be enemies because it happens all the time. All you can do is learn from this experience and move on with the rest of your amazing life.
I hope this helped.
~Andrew~
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Dude sometimes it's the influence that brings things on. In this world there just doesn't have to be a valid reason for bullshit.
Either way, It sounds like these "friends" were never really friends in the first place. They were cool with you until they were influenced by other friends. At least you can give it too yourself that you have tried to remain mutual but relationships of any kind just don't work out when the other person doesn't want to grow up. So basically in short terms all you can do is save yourself the hassle and try and move on from it. If they want drama then just forget them and let them make fools of themselves. You know what really bothers people more then anything? When they see someone they dislike moving on with their lives. They are a waste of time and frankly from the sound of what you wrote you sound like a chill laid back sort of guy. It's their loss, There are plenty of people out there that would treat you like a friend never mind a group of fools.
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